FabSwingers.com forum: I am curious to know

By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

Yeah sure.

Plenty of people don't have the ability to express their personality very well via message.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Very open, I've been extremely surprised meeting people at socials who's profiles I wouldn't have looked at twice or some I thought I wouldn't like and it's turned out the total opposite.

Face value is so much different to online.

Mrs

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes. I don't really dislike anyone before I've met them. Even once I have, it's not really dislike. More awareness that they're not my cup of tea.

I try and remember that I have biases that will influence how I view someone and take them as they are in person.

Regardless of what's been said to me before, what I've read etc.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Yes, online doesn’t allow for context, body language or inflection. Messages are easily misconstrued

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes. I don't really dislike anyone before I've met them. Even once I have, it's not really dislike. More awareness that they're not my cup of tea.

I try and remember that I have biases that will influence how I view someone and take them as they are in person.

Regardless of what's been said to me before, what I've read etc."

What Meli said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely - forum personas give a somewhat tiny insight into anybody’s personality. I’m infinitely curious about everything so would welcome the opportunity to find out more, be that ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

The possibilities are always endless on perspective, your perception of someone online is like a character in a book, you build your own profile of said person, but when meeting, of course your view can change as the person proves to you that they are not the person you suspected them to be.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've met anyone in real life that I didn't like based on their forum contributions. I'd speak to them and be civil and if they're easy to talk to, it would change my perception but I'm aware that people can behave very differently in real life compared to online.

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

I’m definitely open, my perception of people have changed after meeting them in both the positive and negative sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not at all I am me online or off line

Treat me bad online it will not make a difference offline damge has been done simple as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, and I’ve experienced it both ways. Plenty can’t really get their personality across in just text, or in person there are other parts to them which are attractive which I never realised.

One or two have been big personalities online but been pretty insignificant in a face to face group.

Of course there are other bits too, sometimes it’s not fair to judge someone in a group if they’re uneasy in that situation, they might still be a diamond one to one.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Nope. In general I don’t like many people until they show me their tits. If they don’t have tits then I won’t like them. If they have tits but don’t show them to me, I won’t like them. If they have tits and have shown me their tits, they are my friend for life.

This is the way

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I would try hard but it would taint the meeting. Nothing I couldn't get over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but it absolutely depends on what's given me a poor opinion of them to start with. There are certain views I'm not going to get over just because you're pleasant to me personally face-to-face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social"

Sure, some people write badly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ain’t never met a soul I didn’t like online that I then liked in person.

But I’m open to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ain’t never met a soul I didn’t like online that I then liked in person.

But I’m open to it

And vice versa?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Yes, I'd be open to that (and vice versa, obviously!), but can't say it's happened often. What people say/how they act online is still "real" and would still play a big part in shaping my opinion of them.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social"

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know people can be entirely different irl to how the are online, but it would depend on why i didn’t like them in the first place. There’s just some people you know you won’t get along with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of people I know I wouldn't get on with, I don't need to meet them to know that. And I wouldn't waste my time in trying to prove it wrong.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social"
Of course most people aren't anything like their internet persona

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By *entlebearMan
over a year ago

Doug

As a man on here it’s not easy to start with but do find it very hard to express my self on here with having dyslexia doesn’t help but a lot of peoples attitudes towards others is not so good

I would always give people the benefit of the doubt my self

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Yes, I'd be open to that (and vice versa, obviously!), but can't say it's happened often. What people say/how they act online is still "real" and would still play a big part in shaping my opinion of them.

Tbh this sums it up for me too

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Definitely. Unless their posts had already marked them out as racist/homophobic/transphobic etc. To misquote Pulp Fiction I wouldn't be changing my mind even they're a charming motherfucking pig.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I know people can be entirely different irl to how the are online, but it would depend on why i didn’t like them in the first place. There’s just some people you know you won’t get along with. "

Yeah, what she said.

Some people are just dicks. Even if they can be charming in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ain’t never met a soul I didn’t like online that I then liked in person.

But I’m open to it

And vice versa? "

What you tryna say Jennie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely. Unless their posts had already marked them out as racist/homophobic/transphobic etc. To misquote Pulp Fiction I wouldn't be changing my mind even they're a charming motherfucking pig.

Oh this is just *chef’s kiss*

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few people here who have said things that I'm never going to be able to overlook.

Other than that, I'm pretty open to what people will be like in person.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social"

Of course, when reading something online it's very subjective and can come across in a different way to how the poster means for it to come across.

It also works the opposite too, they can seem lovely online and then you find them a tool in real life

Tinder x

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social

Of course, when reading something online it's very subjective and can come across in a different way to how the poster means for it to come across.

It also works the opposite too, they can seem lovely online and then you find them a tool in real life

Tinder x

But obviously there are limits if they're openly racist, homo/transphobic, misogynistic thrn nothings gonna change my perception

Tinder

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Open to it, yes.

Very few exceptions. Some people push past the point of no return.

Some things (different for different people) just don't get forgotten, forgiven, or overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what the reason was for the dislike. Some things you just don't come back from.

Others you can easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social"

Possibly yes, but the fear would be I dislike them even more in person

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes, even people I didn’t like in person at first can grow on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope not at all I am me online or off line

Treat me bad online it will not make a difference offline damge has been done simple as "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you open to changing your perception, to someone you dislike online, when meeting them face to face at a social"

No. There are some people on the forums that i really dislike, if i went to a social they are at (which is unlikely) i would avoid them completly. I have most blocked.

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