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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Turn you on though?

If you're flirting with someone and there's a bit of an age gap (say 10+ years) do you get that added 'that would be hot' due to the age gap?

Not a how young or old would you go like the others, but just if that brings out another little kinky side to you is all!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Turn me on? Not exactly.

I'd be lieing if there was not some sort of appeal to it, but I'm not quite sure how to describe it.

Like of course being the older one of having somebody younger find me attractive and want me is a boost. But it's not one I strive for or need.

As for somebody older being appealing, again it's not something I need nore is it the age gap that's the turn on. It's a little less valid these days but I think it stems from being early 20s and an older woman seeing past the "immature" stereotype of youth to find me both attractive and more than just the young immature guy.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Erm sometimes it has in the past. I quite enjoyed playing with that side of things, for reasons I'm not going in to. There's a bit of a thrill surrounding it.

Now I'm more likely to try and avoid it though - I'm past the point of discounting men who are closer to my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been attracted to men my age or older, prefer younger but not sure why. Its deffo not because the age itself is a turn on, it's just how I am.

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By *ecret-64Couple
over a year ago

Wrexham

Thought this was only me...love much older and much much younger!

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By *AM-93Man
over a year ago

scunthorpe

I enjoy playing with younger and older, you get different experiences with that ahah

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that. "

Anddddd it turns you on?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Biggest gap was 13 years in my early 30’s and TBH it was too much like hard work.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Doesn’t push my buttons Brucey. Age is just what it is, not something I have preferences about.

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Doesn’t push my buttons Brucey. Age is just what it is, not something I have preferences about."

Still wrecked holes though?!

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By *orksguy1965Man
over a year ago

Howden

Age is just a number but I wouldn't go with anyone under 30, but I've no upper age limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been attracted to men my age or older, prefer younger but not sure why. Its deffo not because the age itself is a turn on, it's just how I am."
This for me also

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Nah, never really been a thing for me. Next thread, Brucey!

Mrs TMN x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

Anddddd it turns you on? "

not really. Sometimes I wish it did

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that. "

So when you hit 50, 50-70 is a level playing field. Does that work the other way? 30-50? I'm curious, apologies!

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

Anddddd it turns you on?

not really. Sometimes I wish it did "

I can help you with that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

So when you hit 50, 50-70 is a level playing field. Does that work the other way? 30-50? I'm curious, apologies!"

For me it's a level playing field not everyone. In my eyes the gap between 30 and 50 is far wider than the gap between 50 and 70, mentally, physically, culturally etc. Men of 50 sometimes refer to me as an 'older woman ' and of course they're right but I'm perplexed at first because I think if everyone over 50/55 as of a similar age.

I'm not sure I've explained that very well

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

Anddddd it turns you on?

not really. Sometimes I wish it did

I can help you with that "

You're most kind JB.

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

Anddddd it turns you on?

not really. Sometimes I wish it did

I can help you with that

You're most kind JB. "

Thought you meant the other JB...only just realized we have the same initials on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find an age gap hot if the other person is older than me. I’m not really that interested in people younger.

But yeah, older and in shape women and men are a big big turn on.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely adds a bit of kink to the play. Almost feels like having a time machine

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

Anddddd it turns you on?

not really. Sometimes I wish it did

I can help you with that

You're most kind JB.

Thought you meant the other JB...only just realized we have the same initials on fab "

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Definitely adds a bit of kink to the play. Almost feels like having a time machine "

These guys get it!

And hey

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes, definitely. New to me since joining Fab though, it never really appealed before.

I guess I'm that bit older now and it's more fun.

The last guy I met was 25 and that was really hot. He was very sweet and flirty, it makes me feel young again!

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Yes, definitely. New to me since joining Fab though, it never really appealed before.

I guess I'm that bit older now and it's more fun.

The last guy I met was 25 and that was really hot. He was very sweet and flirty, it makes me feel young again! "

Yes Mimi! Even hearing those situations turns me on a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger it was always older, fooled into thinking there were more experienced and better. They were not.

I seem to go for younger guys now, maybe that's just because I'm getting old though. Not too young though, I still have the image of the 17 yr old laying there with his tongue out like a fucking dog.

I wouldn't say it turns me on though. Well it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really find them hot or anything. I used to but now it’s just like, I don’t even notice the age gap.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

No, I try not to notice age, if I like someone then I like them and their age is irrelevant, having had a long term relationship that had a big age gap, you stop noticing the age pretty quickly anyway

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By *ecret-64Couple
over a year ago

Wrexham

Bigger the age gap the more kinky fun for us.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No it's not age, it's the person. I've met mature 30 year olds and immature 50 year olds. It's just a number at the end of the day

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

So when you hit 50, 50-70 is a level playing field. Does that work the other way? 30-50? I'm curious, apologies!

For me it's a level playing field not everyone. In my eyes the gap between 30 and 50 is far wider than the gap between 50 and 70, mentally, physically, culturally etc. Men of 50 sometimes refer to me as an 'older woman ' and of course they're right but I'm perplexed at first because I think if everyone over 50/55 as of a similar age.

I'm not sure I've explained that very well "

Ah thank you! You explained it perfectly - there is a larger gap between thirties and fifties than 50+ in general. Thank you.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's not anymore of a turn on that chatting to someone of my own age.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't think of ten years as an age gap any more. Once I got to 50 it was a level playing field between that and 70 as far as I was concerned. Of course at 20,30 and 40 ten years is a significant gap, I get that.

So when you hit 50, 50-70 is a level playing field. Does that work the other way? 30-50? I'm curious, apologies!

For me it's a level playing field not everyone. In my eyes the gap between 30 and 50 is far wider than the gap between 50 and 70, mentally, physically, culturally etc. Men of 50 sometimes refer to me as an 'older woman ' and of course they're right but I'm perplexed at first because I think if everyone over 50/55 as of a similar age.

I'm not sure I've explained that very well

Ah thank you! You explained it perfectly - there is a larger gap between thirties and fifties than 50+ in general. Thank you. "

And you've said it far more succinctly than I

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don’t really find them hot or anything. I used to but now it’s just like, I don’t even notice the age gap. "

I don't with some people.

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

I fancy people of all ages.

Mr actively likes older women.

I get a lil sad now when we get messages from 20 something's proclaiming their love of an older woman and I think to myself but I'm still a young woman

Then I remember in their eyes I'm really not

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Biggest gap was 13 years in my early 30’s and TBH it was too much like hard work. "

This has prompted me to review my age range for what I’m looking for so thank you Rex

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London

I mean even a year above is an older woman and I may make a joke about it but ultimately I only really mention it if they mention me being the younger guy.

Which I love being obviously if that wasn't clear.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"For me it's a level playing field not everyone. In my eyes the gap between 30 and 50 is far wider than the gap between 50 and 70, mentally, physically, culturally etc. Men of 50 sometimes refer to me as an 'older woman ' and of course they're right but I'm perplexed at first because I think if everyone over 50/55 as of a similar age.

I'm not sure I've explained that very well

Ah thank you! You explained it perfectly - there is a larger gap between thirties and fifties than 50+ in general. Thank you.

And you've said it far more succinctly than I "

Ah I was in editing mode! I'll waffle now it's lunch time.

I do think that there can be more of a gap - I've exclusively dated/had sex with older men (as in minimum ten years) and now I'm no longer doing that I do notice the gap more easily. I'm still going to take things on an individual level - that generational gap really depends on how both people are with each other.

I've experienced cultural/mentality differences with those closer to my age, immaturity from those significantly older, you get the idea.

I'm always going to have a bit of a wide on for the whole silver fox thing but I do think you're right about the differences, as a generalisation.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I have heard that skinny, balding men that grow a beard to compensate for their lack of head hair make amazing lovers. So I thought I’d share that with the group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just the person for me. I've had a few younger guys get hung up on me wanting virile, young cock. I can't really raise much enthusiasm for that idea. Sorry!

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

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No to massive age gaps

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"No to massive age gaps "

What are we saying about, hypothetically I want to clarify, I dunno....let's pick an age here...what about hypothetically to clarify again a 33 year old?

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

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"No to massive age gaps

What are we saying about, hypothetically I want to clarify, I dunno....let's pick an age here...what about hypothetically to clarify again a 33 year old? "

You’re good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Turn you on though?

If you're flirting with someone and there's a bit of an age gap (say 10+ years) do you get that added 'that would be hot' due to the age gap?

Not a how young or old would you go like the others, but just if that brings out another little kinky side to you is all!"

Love it, had a couple of young ladies. One 40 one 25

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

For me on Fab. Age is very restrictive. There are some older than me on here. Most are of course younger.

I look at all profiles that are in age range. 18-99.

Some I do message or wink. Plus I have to really expand my travel distance , due to finding.

I do get replies and yes some are now on friends list.

I have found that it is the person /persons chatting with can make all the difference. One chatting with at moment in thirty's. I actually asked if age was correct, seemed by chat more mature. Seen photos now so know they are.

My thought really is age just number. Depends on what looking for and are all happy .

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