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"I love to wind them up. " My therapist does not approve | |||
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"Can't always avoid it. You are not going to be everyone's cup of tea. I currently am trying to avoid but I am the one missing out as I don't get to see my friends as much by not going to events. " Even with colleagues I don’t like I avoid. Work from home to avoid them where I can | |||
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"Can't always avoid it. You are not going to be everyone's cup of tea. I currently am trying to avoid but I am the one missing out as I don't get to see my friends as much by not going to events. " I must disagree because if your friends are friends they’ll call on you, invite you and still be around although you avoid the one, or more, people | |||
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"In my daily life I just avoid as much as possible. At work it's difficult, have to deal with someone who is an absolute idiot of epic proportions. I have meetings with him with witnesses present, he's not pleasant. " Won't HR do anything about him? | |||
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"Can't always avoid it. You are not going to be everyone's cup of tea. I currently am trying to avoid but I am the one missing out as I don't get to see my friends as much by not going to events. I must disagree because if your friends are friends they’ll call on you, invite you and still be around although you avoid the one, or more, people " There are friends I can see in smaller groups or smaller socials. But I don't get to see those who live hours away but used to travel here for big events | |||
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"In my daily life I just avoid as much as possible. At work it's difficult, have to deal with someone who is an absolute idiot of epic proportions. I have meetings with him with witnesses present, he's not pleasant. Won't HR do anything about him?" Nope, he's too valuable an asset | |||
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"Can't always avoid it. You are not going to be everyone's cup of tea. I currently am trying to avoid but I am the one missing out as I don't get to see my friends as much by not going to events. I must disagree because if your friends are friends they’ll call on you, invite you and still be around although you avoid the one, or more, people There are friends I can see in smaller groups or smaller socials. But I don't get to see those who live hours away but used to travel here for big events " I see I feel, definitely in my life, social circles decrease in time because of all sorts of factors so it’s better to just appreciate those who mean most to you | |||
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"In my daily life I just avoid as much as possible. At work it's difficult, have to deal with someone who is an absolute idiot of epic proportions. I have meetings with him with witnesses present, he's not pleasant. Won't HR do anything about him? Nope, he's too valuable an asset " We have one of those too. | |||
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"In my daily life I just avoid as much as possible. At work it's difficult, have to deal with someone who is an absolute idiot of epic proportions. I have meetings with him with witnesses present, he's not pleasant. Won't HR do anything about him? Nope, he's too valuable an asset We have one of those too. " It absolutely sucks doesn't it? Causes so much stress | |||
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"I won't be around them intentionally but if I have to be I'll be sickly sweet to piss them off Em x" Yep. Kill ’em with kindness. Be so, so, pleasant they don’t know where to look or what to do. | |||
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"In my daily life I just avoid as much as possible. At work it's difficult, have to deal with someone who is an absolute idiot of epic proportions. I have meetings with him with witnesses present, he's not pleasant. Won't HR do anything about him? Nope, he's too valuable an asset We have one of those too. " We three | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? " Some avoid conflict. I actively hunt it down. I'm not aggressive. But I am aggressively polite. I'll talk to them, engage with them and be amenable and sociable. Then we'll say goodbye and part as we met. On terms of my choosing. Because if I avoid them, they have already set terms and impacted me negatively. So I don't allow that. I will control the narrative and decide how I feel on my terms. | |||
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"Trans women not Wigan ffs " Wigan ain't all it's cracked up to be | |||
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"Trans women not Wigan ffs Wigan ain't all it's cracked up to be " Tbh the last time I was in Wigan I got lost driving and ended up there. I thought I was in the bad lands | |||
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"Trans women not Wigan ffs Wigan ain't all it's cracked up to be Tbh the last time I was in Wigan I got lost driving and ended up there. I thought I was in the bad lands " You WERE in the bad lands Also it has a ridiculous one way system | |||
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"Who said Wigan? " Susie did | |||
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"I don't really have to do that any more except at rare family occasions. I try to avoid people I don't like and hope that people who don't like me try to avoid me. " I always avoid usually because a) it makes me uncomfortable and b) it’s better for all of we aren’t in one another’s presence | |||
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"Of course it sucks, but it rarely ever happens to me, and if it does happen, I do mind in the moment but move on very quickly and find other people to spend my time with. If they don't like me, I won't be seeing them again. Why? Do you hang out with people that don't like you?" No but I think that sometimes on fab it’s inevitable in some situations. And I’m work it is too. | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? " Avoid when possible. Tolerate when unavoidable. I can only think of one person who I'd leave a room if they walked in. A | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? " It really depends on how I feel at any given time…… most of the time I can rise above it and be civil….., sometimes in need to avoid them like the plague, other times it amuses me to provoke and agitate them just by being around them | |||
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"I don't like most. So I avoid the. Those I do like are on varied levels. The more I like you, the more annoying I'm likely to be. " Oh yeah annoying someone you like is ok. | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? Avoid when possible. Tolerate when unavoidable. I can only think of one person who I'd leave a room if they walked in. A" It’s possible to avoid. I’m leaning towards that. | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? " Why bother? Unless it is for work or money | |||
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"Sometimes it's unavoidable. I'd much rather give them space to enjoy their time without me causing them drama or stress and I'd like to think the same treatment would be afforded to me. If there's ongoing drama, I'd sometimes avoid it. Otherwise, just acknowledge and not try and bring bad energy to them. I can't think of anyone in my life who deserves that, not when most people are just trying to enjoy life. " I actually think I avoid people sometimes not just for my own peace but for their too. If I’m anxious about seeing them, they could be too and that’s just long. Not good vibes at all | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? " I meditate daily. There’s a beautiful one that talks you through being the ocean, then flying high above like an eagle. Watching your life from above means the waves of annoyances become mere ripples. That is how I now react to such people- ripples that aren’t worthy of a response. | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? I meditate daily. There’s a beautiful one that talks you through being the ocean, then flying high above like an eagle. Watching your life from above means the waves of annoyances become mere ripples. That is how I now react to such people- ripples that aren’t worthy of a response. " If it’s on YouTube could you post a link? | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? " Sometimes it's unavoidable, is those instances it's principles before personalities | |||
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"I'm always polite regardless. No need to cause a scene, or atmosphere to drag other people Into my dislike/their dislike. Not letting them rent space in my head is easiest for me. I do find it hard to recognise whether someone is shy, or avoiding me though and would prefer to be plain old told. Just like your do you like me thread " You’re so wise! And actually that thread was really good for me because I have a clear idea of who doesn’t like me and whose company I should avoid. | |||
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"Sometimes it's unavoidable. I'd much rather give them space to enjoy their time without me causing them drama or stress and I'd like to think the same treatment would be afforded to me. If there's ongoing drama, I'd sometimes avoid it. Otherwise, just acknowledge and not try and bring bad energy to them. I can't think of anyone in my life who deserves that, not when most people are just trying to enjoy life. I actually think I avoid people sometimes not just for my own peace but for their too. If I’m anxious about seeing them, they could be too and that’s just long. Not good vibes at all" No it's not. At all. And yes, it's not so much about my peace as it is also theirs. I don't want to not enjoy things, I don't want other people to not enjoy things. If I'm feeling really anxious at the thought of seeing someone, it's not a good sign. So I either make sure mentally I'm in a strong enough place that I can negate any bad energy or I bow out to avoid adding fuel to the fire. | |||
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"Sometimes it's unavoidable. I'd much rather give them space to enjoy their time without me causing them drama or stress and I'd like to think the same treatment would be afforded to me. If there's ongoing drama, I'd sometimes avoid it. Otherwise, just acknowledge and not try and bring bad energy to them. I can't think of anyone in my life who deserves that, not when most people are just trying to enjoy life. I actually think I avoid people sometimes not just for my own peace but for their too. If I’m anxious about seeing them, they could be too and that’s just long. Not good vibes at all No it's not. At all. And yes, it's not so much about my peace as it is also theirs. I don't want to not enjoy things, I don't want other people to not enjoy things. If I'm feeling really anxious at the thought of seeing someone, it's not a good sign. So I either make sure mentally I'm in a strong enough place that I can negate any bad energy or I bow out to avoid adding fuel to the fire." Another wise one | |||
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"Do you avoid it? Do you mind it? What are the vibes? I meditate daily. There’s a beautiful one that talks you through being the ocean, then flying high above like an eagle. Watching your life from above means the waves of annoyances become mere ripples. That is how I now react to such people- ripples that aren’t worthy of a response. " I guess that’s slightly better but it still feels very rooted in a fixed minded that things are how they are and you can’t change them , but just re-condition your response to them. Which is still 100% reactive-responsive , just like a medicated version of most people | |||
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"Not letting them rent space in my head is easiest for me." This sums it up well. There will always be idiots, letting them pass by is a good coping strategy. | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr " ^^ this | |||
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"I’ve started to avoid it. I only really do things I want to do now rather than forcing myself to do stuff just cos my mates do as well. Like golf for example. I hate golf but I used to play just cos my mates did and I felt left out if I didn’t join in. Now I just let them enjoy it without me and we do stuff together that we all like on another day etc " And I bet you feel so much happier now. Authenticity really is the key | |||
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"Love being around people who don’t like me. I always greet them and smile in their face to show who the adult is. Was taught to always be kind to people. " Some would say showing their dislike IS adult. Don’t you find it a tad draining and a waste of energy focusing on them enough to show you’re more ‘adult’ than they are? | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this " I just wouldn’t respond to you | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you " Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love " So much sexual tension, get a room fellas.... | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love " Oh I knew that wasn’t about me. Just wanted to let you know My narcissism has some bounds x | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love Oh I knew that wasn’t about me. Just wanted to let you know My narcissism has some bounds x" We’ll see | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love So much sexual tension, get a room fellas.... " Wait until we meet in Manchester (aubergine emoji) | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love So much sexual tension, get a room fellas.... Wait until we meet in Manchester (aubergine emoji) " Handbags at MLS | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr " I can’t find enough for this one | |||
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"I don’t actively seek them out, but i come across someone, it makes my day, I go out of my way to be overly polite and nice to them. Sometimes you can hear the piss boiling inside. The mr ^^ this I just wouldn’t respond to you Not everything is about you Steve, difficult concept to understand but you’ll figure it out with time. Much love So much sexual tension, get a room fellas.... Wait until we meet in Manchester (aubergine emoji) Handbags at MLS Can’t wait " Hopefully you will have a beer together and be friends. | |||
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