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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Do you perceive the friend zone to be a curse?

I have found some men and women to not be able to accept this well in life

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

The friendzone is simply people holding on to hope despite knowing the other person is not interested. No need to stay in a platonic relationship with someone who is not interested. Best to move on I’d say.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

I find it creepy, imagine thinking you have a friend, an actual friend when in reality they’re only waiting for the opportunity of sex

That’s not friendship at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if I see it as a curse or an excuse.

Have had friends who I expressed feeling for and they wanted to just stay friends. Fine.

Have had friends wanted to explore kink with and they said they were worried it would affect the friendship, but I would not have wanted to explore those things if we were not friends first.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

The freindzone isn't really a place you want to be.

It means you've wanted someone and they like you enough not to tell you to fuck off but not enough to actually be with you.

You open yourself up to a lot of heartache watching them go off and meet other people that offer them something you could not.

There's not a lot of point in hanging on to someone that doesn't want to be with you.

if the two of you happen to have a great friendship with each other and are comfortable with each seeing other people, then you're no longer in the freindzone... you are simply friends.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't feel cursed if someone I'd like to be in a romantic relationship with wants to be my platonic friend. Some people do though and that's their prerogative

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Some men can’t distinguish between a women being friendly and being a friend and a women who is being nice because she fancies him, signals get scrambled wire get crossed.

The mrs found out this the hard way when about 3/4 of her male friends tried it on when we have a short break up in the early days.

The mr

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I don't feel cursed if someone I'd like to be in a romantic relationship with wants to be my platonic friend. Some people do though and that's their prerogative "

I don't mean wanting to be in a relationship with but I understand your point you made

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

If I’m told the other person is not interested sex wise, I’m happy to walk away and leave it there. I’d not hold out any hope of the “one day” it is what it is, I would never get nasty or ignore because they didn’t want to have sex with me. But again I wouldn’t go chasing in the vain hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, in fact, my (Mr) closest and longest term friends are women, and with no history beyond friendship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't feel cursed if someone I'd like to be in a romantic relationship with wants to be my platonic friend. Some people do though and that's their prerogative

I don't mean wanting to be in a relationship with but I understand your point you made "

Oh sorry I misunderstood .

I could probably be friends with someone I fancied who didn't fancy me but I mostly have no inclination to fuck any of my friends men or women and I think the feeling is mutual

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Nope, one person in particular I became pretty good friends with, we flirted and such and we both admitted we found each other attractive, but circumstances just made it easier to be friends and I'm grateful for that.

Tinder x

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I don't feel cursed if someone I'd like to be in a romantic relationship with wants to be my platonic friend. Some people do though and that's their prerogative

I don't mean wanting to be in a relationship with but I understand your point you made

Oh sorry I misunderstood .

I could probably be friends with someone I fancied who didn't fancy me but I mostly have no inclination to fuck any of my friends men or women and I think the feeling is mutual "

Yeah I could definately do the same

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Do I consider the friendzone to be a curse?

No, absolutely not. They’re not interested in me and that’s ok! I cannot understand people who get so worked up by someone not showing interest in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The friend zone should be a privilege

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I friendzone everyone...first.

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Do I consider the friendzone to be a curse?

No, absolutely not. They’re not interested in me and that’s ok! I cannot understand people who get so worked up by someone not showing interest in them. "

Likewise makes no sense to me

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"The friend zone should be a privilege "

Absolutely its better than nothing at all

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"The friend zone should be a privilege "

How so?

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"The friend zone should be a privilege

How so?"

I would have an answer to why I agree but I will let the person who made the comment say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The freindzone isn't really a place you want to be.

It means you've wanted someone and they like you enough not to tell you to fuck off but not enough to actually be with you.

You open yourself up to a lot of heartache watching them go off and meet other people that offer them something you could not.

There's not a lot of point in hanging on to someone that doesn't want to be with you.

if the two of you happen to have a great friendship with each other and are comfortable with each seeing other people, then you're no longer in the freindzone... you are simply friends. "

I like this description! I also wish I'd taken this advice too! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only zone I plan to be in is the end zone.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Don't have a problem with it in general. Thought did have one situation where I genuinely thought she was interested in more than just friendship (as did our mutual friends) so I was a little taken aback when I suggested a date, only to be knocked back.

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By *ensualplay69Man
over a year ago

slough

I think it depends on if the friend loves you or just wants to fuck, if he or she loves you then its not their fault, they cant helo it but if they just want to have sex with you its probably because of the stories you tell them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know about the friend zone but I'm like the foster home zone.

I usually attract them, show them some love and they vanish off to their forever homes.

Its a bit shit.

I'd rather just be a friend

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Don't have a problem with it in general. Thought did have one situation where I genuinely thought she was interested in more than just friendship (as did our mutual friends) so I was a little taken aback when I suggested a date, only to be knocked back.

"

Oh

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I think it depends on if the friend loves you or just wants to fuck, if he or she loves you then its not their fault, they cant helo it but if they just want to have sex with you its probably because of the stories you tell them lol "

But then why tell a person things that could entice them when you know your not into them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The friendzone is simply people holding on to hope despite knowing the other person is not interested. No need to stay in a platonic relationship with someone who is not interested. Best to move on I’d say. "

hope is trivial.

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By *andycandy88 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I don't know about the friend zone but I'm like the foster home zone.

I usually attract them, show them some love and they vanish off to their forever homes.

Its a bit shit.

I'd rather just be a friend "

Yeah the ones that come with hidden agendas are not right

Should just be honest xx

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

I've always been in the Friends Zone with very few friends I've got. . . . . .

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I have loads of female friends and we respect each other I understand that it can be extremely difficult for a woman to actually find a decent guy who'll accept this bond of friendship but it's awesome to have and hold

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