FabSwingers.com forum: What kind of partner do you think your parents wanted for you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And do you think they are happy or would be happy with who you’ve ended up with?

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Eh my parents are low class narcissists, they don't ever cared about anything. Never introduced one girlfriend, never even dropped names. They don't ask, I don't tell.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

They are definitely happy with who I ended up with. If my mum had chosen my partner I think I would have been very unhappy. It would probably have been someone religious, very traditional and from what she considered a 'good family'. I suspect she would have aimed for money too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ my dad would have gone along with what my mum said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First marriage they despised him. Second one he is treated like one of their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wanted a "nice" man for me. I failed.

They are delusional that'll I'll eventually settle down with a "nice" man. I'm gonna fail.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"They are definitely happy with who I ended up with. If my mum had chosen my partner I think I would have been very unhappy. It would probably have been someone religious, very traditional and from what she considered a 'good family'. I suspect she would have aimed for money too. "

If I had a daughter, I would make her marry someone rich, too, who has to suck up to me and shower me in expensive gifts so I allow their marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Ive ended up with just me, and my mum likes me, so all good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Eh my parents are low class narcissists, they don't ever cared about anything. Never introduced one girlfriend, never even dropped names. They don't ask, I don't tell."

Dang that really sucks

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

My dad was always a tits man but I'm more of a booty guy. But I guess sometimes you just have to put on those big boy shoes and say fuck you dad, I'll like what I like!

I'm thinking of turning that story into a children's book one day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"^^ my dad would have gone along with what my mum said"

It’s our duty as dads to do so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They wanted a "nice" man for me. I failed.

They are delusional that'll I'll eventually settle down with a "nice" man. I'm gonna fail.

There aren’t many left. Hopefully There’s a liquidation sale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who made me happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Dad probably would've liked someone from the Upper Class, but I have me an original peasant instead

My mother? I wouldn't even care to think about her. I'd waste brain cells.

Dad seems to like Mr KC very much indeed. Most important in my mind, my Grandad liked Mr KC very much. His views did matter to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever introduced them to one girlfriend (one benefit of living in different country) and don't think they were impressed.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

They wanted a college educated,suit and tie type ,with no baggage.

I met a school drop out ,single father,who works outdoors and comes home dirty....

They forced me to go to counseling

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Don't think they gave a shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They wanted a college educated,suit and tie type ,with no baggage.

I met a school drop out ,single father,who works outdoors and comes home dirty....

They forced me to go to counseling "

Only to find out it’s probably their fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And do you think they are happy or would be happy with who you’ve ended up with? "

My parents threw a party when I left my husband so I guess they didn’t want him as my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!

My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"They wanted a college educated,suit and tie type ,with no baggage.

I met a school drop out ,single father,who works outdoors and comes home dirty....

They forced me to go to counseling

Only to find out it’s probably their fault

They paid good money for that news too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They definitely wanted/want me to marry a Jatt, Sikh girl. They don't have to be overly religious, but need to come from that background/culture. It's a bit stifling and would like them to just be happy with me finding someone without those permutations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Had and lost

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If I had a daughter, I would make her marry someone rich, too, who has to suck up to me and shower me in expensive gifts so I allow their marriage

. Quite right too.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

My parents would never ever have considered giving me their thoughts on that… they knew if they did they would’ve got the round of fucks I would give to anyone else. It’s no one else’s business.

I can fuck it up on my own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They definitely wanted/want me to marry a Jatt, Sikh girl. They don't have to be overly religious, but need to come from that background/culture. It's a bit stifling and would like them to just be happy with me finding someone without those permutations"

Culture should be with culture is a difficult thing to navigate and I’m sorry man that feels like it’s long.

I hope you find or have found someone that makes you happy and am sure ultimately that’ll make them happy

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

Now I have wedding role play in my head

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

If I had a daughter, I would make her marry someone rich, too, who has to suck up to me and shower me in expensive gifts so I allow their marriage

Reverse dowry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

Now I have wedding role play in my head

Ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Culture should be with culture is a difficult thing to navigate and I’m sorry man that feels like it’s long.

I hope you find or have found someone that makes you happy and am sure ultimately that’ll make them happy "

Yeah, it's not great, especially when there's only a small pool of "suitable" women to begin with. I appreciate that though man

I still hold out hope that there's someone out there

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

Now I have wedding role play in my head

Ffs

It's just a party shiv!

(You still have the dress right?)

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

Now I have wedding role play in my head

Ffs

It's just a party shiv!

(You still have the dress right?) "

Omg… Brucey. Have you seen THAT porn movie? It’s awesome

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"And do you think they are happy or would be happy with who you’ve ended up with? "

One that I’m happy with. Same as my kids, if they are happy that suits me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents done care as long as they're financially responsible and make me happy

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

They quite liked the 1st one but noticed they were changing, tried to warn me & I ignored them. Then I found out they cheated on me so now they want to poke needles in their eye & wish them a slow & painful death. But are polite to their face.

They adore T as he respects me, makes me so happy & brings out the best in me. He’s also the best fuck I’ve ever had

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

Now I have wedding role play in my head

Ffs

It's just a party shiv!

(You still have the dress right?)

Omg… Brucey. Have you seen THAT porn movie? It’s awesome

How many wedding porn movies u seen? Ha ha

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Not the one I chose.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.

My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok

Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life

We’ve been married nearly 4 years

it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it

Now I have wedding role play in my head

Ffs

It's just a party shiv!

(You still have the dress right?)

Omg… Brucey. Have you seen THAT porn movie? It’s awesome

How many wedding porn movies u seen? Ha ha "

My second favourite porn movie of all time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not the one I chose.

Was he a ganja farmer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My parents love my partner but I know they definitely wish she was Black

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

No woman is good enough in my mums eyes and my old man is happy for me to plough whoever I want

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No woman is good enough in my mums eyes and my old man is happy for me to plough whoever I want "

Mums of boys are all the same

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"No woman is good enough in my mums eyes and my old man is happy for me to plough whoever I want

Mums of boys are all the same"

Many of my friends mums love their partners so I can't fully agree with that but I know what your saying.. think mums who have raised their sons by themselves are more protective

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!

My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable"

Pickle my parents are just like the comment above

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!

My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable

Pickle my parents are just like the comment above "

Mine ?

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!

My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable

Pickle my parents are just like the comment above

Mine ?"

Huh

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I think they think I’ve done fairly well!

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!

My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable

Pickle my parents are just like the comment above

Mine ?

Huh

You said pickle my parents are just like the comment above .. my comment was above

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

I don't think my parents ever intended for me to have a partner. My bath toys were an iron and a toaster...

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"I don't think my parents ever intended for me to have a partner. My bath toys were an iron and a toaster... "

Guessing they forgot to plug them in

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

Guessing they forgot to plug them in "

It was the 80's, strike-induced power cuts and all that.

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By *tretchyou69Man
over a year ago

You Deep in you

Basically someone who makes you happy has a good sense of humour and a naughty side

And loves to travel……..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!

My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable

Pickle my parents are just like the comment above

Mine ?

Huh

You said pickle my parents are just like the comment above .. my comment was above "

I think she meant the comment she quoted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mother moved us out of London so I would have brown babies

make of that what you will…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mother moved us out of London so I would have brown babies

make of that what you will…"

So you would or so you wouldn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They just want someone who would make me happy so instead of that I chose F

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

My dad thought I needed a "proper black man" to keep me in line.

Yep. Grim.

My mum? She thought I'd never love/find anyone.

Sometimes I'm very, very grateful that my fiancé came up to me in that dungeon.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't think they cared enough to want anyone specific for me, they just like to be opinionated when I ever introduce someone.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've ended up with a one cat.

The expectation that I'd get married slowly faded and my dad spent the wedding fund on booze and women.

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By *aving_great_funMan
over a year ago

London

"They wanted a "nice" man for me. I failed.

They are delusional that'll I'll eventually settle down with a "nice" man. I'm gonna fail.

If you met me, you would settle down.

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By *coobyABCMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Just someone to take me so I'd stop living at home

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I think all that any good parent wants is for their child to be happy .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was thinking about this laying in bed this morning.

My mum used to attend a women's prayer meeting at someone's house. We were some weird branch of Quaker. The husband led the group because women weren't allowed to speak in church or lead prayers or important man stuff

. They had two kids, no telly and it was all very Victorian middle class. The kids were dressed like something out of Enid Blyton and were very quiet and according to my mum, playing snap until 7 pm when you'd hear them go upstairs, the tap running and then presumably these paragons of virtue went to bed. A very far cry from our noisy home full of children, some of the church members referred openly to us as a 'tribe'. That is the kind of life and husband my mum would have wanted for me in an ideal world.

The thing that made me laugh a lot was that the boy of that family attended the boys school next to mine and smoked, drank, swore and really rebelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum didn't care or have any opinion. She was too self centred in the end.

My dad hated my ex husband for many very valid reasons but ultimately he wanted me to be happy.

I think he would have liked whoever it was to be someone he could get on with and who was a good partner and father to my boys.

Equally I know he was proud of me going it alone.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Rich business woman type .. what they got was me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one I ended up with. They love her more than they love me.

Her dad died when she was in her early 20s and she and my dad kind of adopted each other

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A good Christian man, probably an accountant.

Excuse me as I go run screaming into the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mother moved us out of London so I would have brown babies

make of that what you will…

So you would or so you wouldn’t

Oh, wouldn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents liked my ex-wife. The feeling wasn't particularly mutual though. A non-issue now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A good Christian man, probably an accountant.

Excuse me as I go run screaming into the night."

I’m not an accountant but I once was a good Christian man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mother moved us out of London so I would have brown babies

make of that what you will…

So you would or so you wouldn’t

Oh, wouldn’t

Bloody saaaf lundan

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Mum a traditional wife, mother and home maker (she lokely assomed i would be loaded by now.

Father. a woman that is a slut for me but doesnt throw it around, attractive polite and well spoken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And do you think they are happy or would be happy with who you’ve ended up with? "

I got the partner I wanted and my dad was jealous

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