FabSwingers.com forum: When you look at a profile...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think you know how many people they have slept with?

Even if they display verifications and/or their summary, they could have more they choose not to display. A summary can include people that they just met socially and didn't sleep with. People could have left the site or been blocked and so on.

Would you assume a less tasteful profile has slept with more than a more tasteful profile? Or vice versa?

Would you think a hot profile had their pick and was shagging everyone? Or being so picky they didn't sleep with anyone?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I look at the photos, read the bio, I am either interested in what I see or I'm not. I don't really think much beyond that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no way to tell

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

If they've got quite a few vids or pictures of them shagging very different looking penises I imagine they've got some stories to tell for sure.

But it doesn't bother me anyway. It's a penis rubbing into a vagina. Feels great, not life-changing. Fair play to them!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I was going to say cheerfully it doesn't bother me, and I don't think it does really...BUT I do sometimes, ridiculously, have a kind of immediate flinch when someone has masses of detailed sex verifications. Then I am a little disgusted with myself, because, you know, good for them. But it is there, momentarily.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"I look at the photos, read the bio, I am either interested in what I see or I'm not. I don't really think much beyond that."

Pretty much this for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don’t think like that at all

It’s none off my business how meny people they sleep with

I am single they are single or they a couple with open relationships they free to do what they like

It’s not a put off for me even when it comes to relationships it’s not a put off at the end off the day

It doesn’t change who a person is just because they sleep with xxxx amount off people or bl bl or who they sleep with in fact I am happy they been free and sexual libertied and not been confined to traditional sens

Even if they numbers are low it doesn’t bother me at all that’s there choices

Also it would be very hipcrital off me off all people to sit and judge someone

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s impossible to tell and it really doesn’t bother me. I’ve had fantastic sex when I’ve been their second or third, and when I’ve been their hundredth.

Let’s be honest, I could have been a rocket scientist for 20 years, doesn’t mean I’d be any good at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more inclined to chat to a guy with veris, it's no guarantee, but if they are displayed to read, at least you can assume they are a meeter and not a chatter!

Also a few meet veris could indicate an experienced swinger who knows how this all works, and is less hassle. Again it's all assumption

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Don't really over think it. Don't rely on verifications to tell us much, prefer to judge for ourselves. Only really use verifications to see if someone's genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to care about that sort of thing when I was about 20. Now I'm less judgey. We all have a history of sexual partners. I'm hoping they may have learnt a thing or 2 in the process is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant say it has even crossed my mind but I guess that's because I dont care.

I have enough trouble trying to keep tabs of how many I've had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest even a newbie could have slept with hundreds of people before joining the site, you can never tell, and many profiles with stacks of veris are often club meets just verifying the person is genuine and good company.

For me it's not the verifications that are the biggest issue, it's seeing a bunch of photos and/or videos of the various people they were with engaging in sex acts. Not for me thanks

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"I look at the photos, read the bio, I am either interested in what I see or I'm not. I don't really think much beyond that."

Yes I agree if we like the pics and right up and it's a good conversation .although I like to read the veri

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I was going to say, not for the first time, that this would make me more of a woman. Then I realized that saying that would indirectly make me a man. So now I'm lost.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

i read the bio pictures and the combination of both see anything catches my eye.

But I have to say a nice sense of sarcasm is a good start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I was going to say, not for the first time, that this would make me more of a woman. Then I realized that saying that would indirectly make me a man. So now I'm lost. "

Aren't we all.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

OP, I just assume everyone's having loads of meets, unless they actively say they're not on Shag's "dry month" threads...

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

Am I a virgin again?!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Personally I sometimes have my own litle comments, but I don't judge anyone for sleeping with many people. Bit of a weird thought for fabs, which is swinging, where open relationships and casual sex are literally the center of the lifestyle. If you obsess about previous partners, you are wrong here.

Anyway. For myself I think it's best if a girl has experience, the more she slept with, the more experience she has and the less of a prude she is. I don't care about cheating or anything, not going to marry anyone from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really make assumptions on how many meets people get by the quality of their profile. Some people can have shit profiles but go to clubs and be really successful and others can have a great profile and not have many meets because they just use Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

Am I a virgin again?!

Miracles do happen

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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't think totals matter and it doesn't bother me and I learned early on that verifications do not a good meet make

One of the worst meets I had back in the day when I did meet was with someone with 19 fabulous verifications.

One of my recent fave moments was with someone who I met for a social only and despite the fact they were there in front of me and had obviously agreed to meet me, they made a snidey comment about me having loads of verifications. Righty ho Mr MetMeAnyway who's too lazy to comprehend or read they're all socials

Anyone who is judging you at all, but especially without checking facts, is a red flag and the only thing they deserve is a block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I show everything, why am I not getting more sex Coyote?!

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

Am I a virgin again?!

Miracles do happen"

Can't wait to have cumdrops take my virginity again

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

"I look at the photos, read the bio, I am either interested in what I see or I'm not. I don't really think much beyond that."

Exactly this,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I show everything, why am I not getting more sex Coyote?! "

I've just realised I put of instead of off.

Anyway, Joe, you've had more sex than me. Quit whining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is pretty easy to spot if you are intelligent like me. I have no verifications because I am total virgin. But usually if they have more than one verification it means they've dipped their dick in at least seven women.

But on a serious note yes it's pretty easy to tell who is getting bonked on the regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I show everything, why am I not getting more sex Coyote?!

I've just realised I put of instead of off.

Anyway, Joe, you've had more sex than me. Quit whining.

Wanna change that?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It’s impossible to tell really ..If people go to clubs they could have 20 people in one session and not even know their names never Mind have a veri from it..

It don’t bother me anyway it’s none of my business ..

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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s impossible to tell really ..If people go to clubs they could have 20 people in one session and not even know their names never Mind have a veri from it..

It don’t bother me anyway it’s none of my business .."

Great point, well made

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I show everything, why am I not getting more sex Coyote?!

I've just realised I put of instead of off.

Anyway, Joe, you've had more sex than me. Quit whining.

Wanna change that?

If you are trying to up her number *in relation* to yours, you might have to be creative.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I have no idea how many people they’ve slept with OP and I’m pretty sure most people will have had “the sex” before they joined fab too. I know I certainly did

It’s really up to them and would never be any of my business or have any influence on whether I wanted to meet them or not

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

I don't want to cause offence,just a viewpoint. As another recent thread - to many verifications is an off-put, i know some maybe from things like socials, why do they need to be displayed. Really you only need need to display a couple:- you are genuine. You look like your photo hopefully not a psycho.

I know guys like to display them as badges of honor or achievement. Lots guys, couples, women may display them as symbols of popularity.

As said for me its an off-put or really just another filter.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

That's partly why I don't display my summary, I think it would give people the wrong idea (that I'm more fun than I actually am) 90% of my veris are socials I've never seen again.

I think it's hard to tell, some of the gorgeous guys I've met, have had very few meets (from here) cut one reason or another.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"It’s impossible to tell and it really doesn’t bother me. I’ve had fantastic sex when I’ve been their second or third, and when I’ve been their hundredth.

Let’s be honest, I could have been a rocket scientist for 20 years, doesn’t mean I’d be any good at it.

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A vanilla rocket scientist has a ring to it

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

A lot of our veri’s are social ones.

Some of our veri’s might be people we’ve met more than once.

Some people we haven’t got veri’s from.

Veri’s don’t give you any indication of how active you are sexually. They give people a flavour of what other people think of them.

The only time veri’s affect our thinking is if they are very graphic.

If our veri’s put people off then it’s likely they weren’t going to be the type we’d be interested in anyway…

We don’t ask how many people anyone has slept with - wouldn’t make a difference if they said 5 or 50…unless it was the same night

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I don't assume anything. Except that they probably wouldn't fancy me

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

"I look at the photos, read the bio, I am either interested in what I see or I'm not. I don't really think much beyond that."

^This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys profile - what they show is probably pretty accurate as they like to show of.

Womens profile - add on at least 5-10 more.

I show everything, why am I not getting more sex Coyote?!

I've just realised I put of instead of off.

Anyway, Joe, you've had more sex than me. Quit whining.

Wanna change that?

If you are trying to up her number *in relation* to yours, you might have to be creative. "

More of a mutual upping I would say

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Oh wow, yes, the veris. Haha.

My pet peeve? “Ladies, don’t pass this one by.”

I absolutely don’t think you can tell what people are really doing from anything that’s on a profile. Even the most explicit verifications could be fantastical fiction. Gotta get to know people for yourself, there’s no shortcut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the fanny looks like the number of veris then I'm out

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Don't really over think it. Don't rely on verifications to tell us much, prefer to judge for ourselves. Only really use verifications to see if someone's genuine."

What if a single bloke hasn't been lucky enough to have a meet verification,despite trying ..?

Are we deemed as "time wasters " ?

After all everyone started on here with zero verifications, and if people don't see us with zero meet verifications as genuine ,then we have no chance of getting established on here .

Yes ,I admit I have had zero meet verifications in over a year of being on Fab but it's mot through the lack of effort ,and time put into my profile and photos .

But if people only talk and meet with "meet verified "members ,then how are us non meet verified guys ever able to get started on here .?

Yes ,I accept as a couple ,like yourselves ,it's a lot easier on here but not all of us unverified single blokes are wasters .it's just some people won't give us a second glance because we are unverified .

I'm sure you remember when you were unverified .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't really over think it. Don't rely on verifications to tell us much, prefer to judge for ourselves. Only really use verifications to see if someone's genuine.

What if a single bloke hasn't been lucky enough to have a meet verification,despite trying ..?

Are we deemed as "time wasters " ?

After all everyone started on here with zero verifications, and if people don't see us with zero meet verifications as genuine ,then we have no chance of getting established on here .

Yes ,I admit I have had zero meet verifications in over a year of being on Fab but it's mot through the lack of effort ,and time put into my profile and photos .

But if people only talk and meet with "meet verified "members ,then how are us non meet verified guys ever able to get started on here .?

I'm sure you remember when you were unverified .

Do you really think that one meet veri will open the floodgates to pussy?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Do you think you know how many people they have slept with?

Would you assume a less tasteful profile has slept with more than a more tasteful profile? Or vice versa?

Would you think a hot profile had their pick and was shagging everyone? Or being so picky they didn't sleep with anyone?

No. To all of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles and verifications are utterly irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's there business how many people they have been with no point in judging others if it bothers you then is fab for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take verifications with a pinch of salt...

How I judge people is on how they either start or respond to messages, also I judge a profile on a number of things. How demanding the profile is, photos and verifications would be at the bottom of the list.

Remember a verification is only as good as the person writing it! One they leave a very good veri so that the other people do the same.. also one person's idea of great sex or meet would be rubbish or bland to another.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

there shouldn't be any such thing as a 'good' veri or a 'bad' veri .....

A verification should be no more than a simple 'this person was as their profile describes' ....

We shouldn't be getting a blow by blow account of what went on.

Most veris are just complimentary descritpives of bodies and blow jobs.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I only rely on verifications as a way of seeing who someone has met rather than how many.

I use them as a filter to avoid certain individuals or circles.

Beyond that, I chat for quite a while before meeting socially and find out all I need to know about the person behind the profile.

I've never been interested in shagging a nice pic on a website and only find attraction in person.

In 7 years and 4 different profiles I have had 70+ verifications and yet less than 10 percent of those have gone beyond the social stage.

I haven't met anyone new in 3 years and am not currently talking to anyone on here. Zero messages in months.

That has been by choice.

Just because I am reasonable active on the forums people seem very surprised that I am not more active with messages and meets and I've been told by some that they have been put off contacting me because they had assumed I would be too busy to respond.

That proves my point about not taking profiles for granted about how active they may or may not be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely wouldn’t have a clue

reading veris is helpful, some of them are so graphic you feel like you were there watching

others tell you they mainly meet socially. I’ve yet to sleep with anyone on fab and I’ve no idea if anyone thinks I do the sex or not

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't really think about it, we've quite a few verifications from socials the actual sex ones I think there's only 3 I'm very picky

Mrs

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If a person's body count mattered you wouldn't be on here would you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think you know how many people they have slept with?

Would you assume a less tasteful profile has slept with more than a more tasteful profile? Or vice versa?

Would you think a hot profile had their pick and was shagging everyone? Or being so picky they didn't sleep with anyone?

More interested in their personality frankly.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'd never know unless they were honest with me. Creating new profiles to wipe out a veri trail is quite common, like when the numbers get too high

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By *inojCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We prefer more veris to give us an indicator of character and reliability.

You asked the question OP but what is your opinion?

Judge our profile..too much, too little or just right?

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By *aving_great_funMan
over a year ago

London

I am interested to know what would you assume from my profile given that I have no verifications ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I'm not bothered.

Like I stated originally the summary or verifications shown aren't a true reflection. People move on, leave, block, don't display all and it's never what you see in my opinion.

I asked as someone had been surprised at mine and thought I would have a higher number. Which surprised me and prompted the post as I'd not really thought about it.

My summary for example reflects a number that includes what's listed above and one person verified me more than once.

But, like someone else said above we have all had sex before fab and away from fab so it's nothing to go on anyway.

It's just surprised me that someone thought mine would be higher.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We prefer more veris to give us an indicator of character and reliability.

You asked the question OP but what is your opinion?

Judge our profile..too much, too little or just right?"

Sorry I forgot to hit reply and quote somehow.

I wouldn't judge your profile at all.

And also if a profile states they have been on fab for over a year there's no way of telling what time span the verifications cover. Could be years, could be just over one. So a pointless exercise trying to judge anyway.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don’t judge anyone for the number of veris they have - if someone has been on the site for years then you can build a lot of veris through just a few meets a year.

Lack of veris is a concern as are veris that are inconsistent with one another.

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By *tretchyou69Man
over a year ago

You Deep in you

"Do you think you know how many people they have slept with?

Would you assume a less tasteful profile has slept with more than a more tasteful profile? Or vice versa?

Would you think a hot profile had their pick and was shagging everyone? Or being so picky they didn't sleep with anyone?

Maybe to be honest

But as long as there’s connection within in the profile and messaging

But to be honest I am questioning myself now lol

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By *tretchyou69Man
over a year ago

You Deep in you

"We prefer more veris to give us an indicator of character and reliability.

You asked the question OP but what is your opinion?

Judge our profile..too much, too little or just right?

Sorry I forgot to hit reply and quote somehow.

I wouldn't judge your profile at all.

I agree

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Nope, I don't.

I also don't give veris too much weight. Mainly because I know that not everyone I've had a dalliance with has veried me. I don't display any vaguely sexual ones.

And yet I'm still having sex with different people. Heck, I've had one night stands before.

Shocking I know because I give off the impression that I rarely have sex. People are going to assume what they want and that doesn't bother me.

As far as "tasteful" goes? It's very subjective. One of my friends has a very "tasteful" profile. He's one of the biggest man tarts I've ever met.

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By *inojCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"We prefer more veris to give us an indicator of character and reliability.

You asked the question OP but what is your opinion?

Judge our profile..too much, too little or just right?

Sorry I forgot to hit reply and quote somehow.

I wouldn't judge your profile at all.

Thanks for the response, was just after your opinion, as you asked the question

And thanks for not judging

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I look at the photos, read the bio, I am either interested in what I see or I'm not. I don't really think much beyond that."

I do the same. I’m not interested in their past exploits.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t really think about it. I prefer to keep mine private & genuinely not interested in who or what someone has done before me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I really think about too much. Verifications are handy for figuring out the barebackers though, that's probably all I use it for

Who they sleep with is their business, it's a sex site™ after all

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Don't really think about it at all.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"there shouldn't be any such thing as a 'good' veri or a 'bad' veri .....

A verification should be no more than a simple 'this person was as their profile describes' ....

We shouldn't be getting a blow by blow account of what went on.

Most veris are just complimentary descritpives of bodies and blow jobs. "

Amen to this.

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