FabSwingers.com forum: Shallow??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do you all _iew as shallow? You will read many posts of people calling others "shallow" for not wanting to meet someone because of their size, age looks or disabilities etc. I personally disagree that not wanting to meet someone for any or all of those reasons doesn't make someone shallow.

If that's the case aren't we all shallow? Otherwise we'd all be shagging anything that moved

I think there are a lot of people that label someone shallow just because they have different opinions of what's attractive or unattractive.

To me that's just personal choice and preferance and doesn't make them shallow. Some people like fat people, others like skinny and so on.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always smile at the shallow jibes and the "its personality that counts" and in the back of my mind wonder what people are on here for if looks and aesthetic appeal are not priorities. I am pretty sure not everyone has low standards but I do sometimes wonder about motivation of people shouting shallow are championing personality.

Personalty looks matter to me and I don't see it as shallow just the first part of being attracted to someone to think about potential play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I agree. Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will always have likes & dislikes. It's called personal preferences not shallow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wiktionary says:

shallow (comparative shallower, superlative shallowest)

Having little depth; significantly less deep than wide, for example, this crater is relatively shallow and saute the onions in a shallow pan

Extending not far downward; The water is shallow here

Concerned mainly with superficial matters ie it was a glamorous but shallow lifestyle and there is lacking interest or substance.

The acting is good, but the characters are shallow.

Realistically when it used on here, its really about those where looks i.e. a face soley matters but I do think its sometimes used when not necessary.

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

"OP I agree. Good point!"

+ nice,well written profile OP

(susie)

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Great body pwwwooooaaaarrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think shallow is thrown out far too often,specially on a site like this.

It is all about an initial attraction,the main of us are looking for sex,and if we are to have sex then there has to be the mutual attraction.

Yes a personality has something to do with it,but for the intention of a meet there would have to hold some appeal.

It is all about personal preference.

To me i _iew someone as shallow if they are the sort of person who would refuse to even speak to a person who in their _iew isnt perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a site used mainly for no strings sex.

No strings by it's very nature doesn't require much depth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

Yes - there has to be attraction - but if all you're looking for is the perfect arse/tits/cock etc with no concern as to whether that person can hold a decent conversation or is in fact a total twunt - then to me that comes across as extremely shallow.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

If only playing with people I fancy is shallow, then I am shallow

I do get the whole " we need to get on before we play" as it wouldn't matter how gorgeous someone is , if they couldn't hold a conversation for inbetween the fun....then we wouldn't be meeting them.

For us the initial contact will get me looking at what they look like and wether I fancy the pants of them or not and at that time I am not thinking " I bet he has a great personality"

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't really care much for the word shallow in terms of this place

Its only thrown about when someone has been told no thanks to make themselves feel a little better because they've been rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really care much for the word shallow in terms of this place

Its only thrown about when someone has been told no thanks to make themselves feel a little better because they've been rejected"

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I have hidden shallows...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun."

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really care much for the word shallow in terms of this place

Its only thrown about when someone has been told no thanks to make themselves feel a little better because they've been rejected"

Wise words

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

Well I apply the same kind of thing myself, so I get it. It's nothing to do with trying to be cool.

Yes, there has to be some level of physical attraction, but the personality is a very big part of the equasion to me as well.

Give me a genuine 'average' or 'plain' lady over some gorgeous but horrible 'goddess' any day.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh torbayfella you certainly are hillarious

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I come on here to chat away with people on a level that is neither shallow nor deep....

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By *asperthedogCouple
over a year ago

midlands

need to hold a conversation is a bit of a myth, that means you only play with people who speak the same language that you do. If you have a physical attraction going on between you, I'm sure you can find a way to communicate

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Not another unexpected anal insertion Ruggers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

Yep - spot on! Because I really need a profile boost right now!!

And yes I do fuck a personality - bouncing up and down on a total stunner who's lieing like a corpse wondering if her hair is out of place is just what I look for in a meet!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"need to hold a conversation is a bit of a myth, that means you only play with people who speak the same language that you do. If you have a physical attraction going on between you, I'm sure you can find a way to communicate

lol this is probably true.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

Haha brilliant. Especially if she hadn't shaved

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

Yep - spot on! Because I really need a profile boost right now!!

And yes I do fuck a personality - bouncing up and down on a total stunner who's lieing like a corpse wondering if her hair is out of place is just what I look for in a meet! "

Have you gone of Rhianna?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what I like and yes looks do count....to a degree, you can be the most gorgeous guy in the world, but if you can't string a sentence together or act like a complete twonk, I don't want to meet you, I like someone who can stimulate my mind too, if that makes me shallow...who cares, it's my choice and my preference, I'll live with the name calling

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

I think if all we guys were honest we would admit to shagging anything if we are horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

Well I apply the same kind of thing myself, so I get it. It's nothing to do with trying to be cool.

Yes, there has to be some level of physical attraction, but the personality is a very big part of the equasion to me as well.

Give me a genuine 'average' or 'plain' lady over some gorgeous but horrible 'goddess' any day. "

Woo hoo! Does that mean I have a chance then

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

When receiving a gammy,I've never thought about the femme's personality.

So I'm taking the shallow root every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal preference is important, but in my _iew a shallow person is someone who wont even chat to anyone unless they look like a god/goddess, surely when chatting looks are not as important as personality. Can understand if its about meeting but not all contact on here is about meeting alot of people just chat so in that instance does it matter how one looks?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Personally I _iew shallow as when 'the be all and end all' is the body beautiful - something seen in various profiles I've come across.

We all have our imperfections and to me personality still goes a long way in my decisions on who I meet - for both socials and fun.

you're only saying that because you want people yo think you're cool and not shallow.

Lets face it........if you met someone with an amazing personality but had a face like a ball bag you just wouldn't shag it.

You don't Fuck a personality!

Well I apply the same kind of thing myself, so I get it. It's nothing to do with trying to be cool.

Yes, there has to be some level of physical attraction, but the personality is a very big part of the equasion to me as well.

Give me a genuine 'average' or 'plain' lady over some gorgeous but horrible 'goddess' any day.

Woo hoo! Does that mean I have a chance then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think everyone can be a little shallow,but not always intentionally..we all have our types that we go for and not everyone fits the bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what i think is shallow, Is when one starts talking , then ask for pics etc. Dont like what they see, even when the person is very intelligent etc, and then says no thanks you dont look the part. Personality is what counts, and what is inside the person. Not all people are perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if all we guys were honest we would admit to shagging anything if we are horny. "

Erm......nope!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I think if all we guys were honest we would admit to shagging anything if we are horny.

Erm......nope!

I agree with Obi. Erm.....double nope!

I'd sooner have a wank to be honest.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"what i think is shallow, Is when one starts talking , then ask for pics etc. Dont like what they see, even when the person is very intelligent etc, and then says no thanks you dont look the part. Personality is what counts, and what is inside the person. Not all people are perfect "
Its not about whats inside that counts....im not interested if you have a PHD in politics, are nice to ya mum and have a neurotic ex....looks are first...but "a good personality" isnt essential, whatever one of them is.......for me anyway.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if all we guys were honest we would admit to shagging anything if we are horny.

Erm......nope!

I agree with Obi. Erm.....double nope!

I'd sooner have a wank to be honest. "

I'd rather a guy didn't want to put a paper bag over my head just to have sex with me, why would anyone male or female be that desperate for an orgasm, I'd rather do it myself tbh

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Lol love the way single guys always say what the women on here like to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol love the way single guys always say what the women on here like to hear."

As opposed to just posting their honest opinions you mean?

Whatever I - and I'd assume previous 'single guy' posters have stated could just be the truth you know! As for what the women want to hear? Couldn't care less tbh! Those that know me, we'll, know me. Those that don't? It won't change the way I approach Fab one bit!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

these shallow/standards threads are some of the best reading on here.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if all we guys were honest we would admit to shagging anything if we are horny. "

Erm, nope from me as well!

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

For me, looks are initially important - I have to be attracted to someone to want to play with them, and certainly in clubs or at parties looks are the initial attraction and can be the make or break when it comes to playing. However, once I start communicating with someone with the intention of arranging a meet, then personality really does mean a lot to me. I'm not one for arranging "quickie" meets and if I'm going to spend several hours with someone there does have to be more than just physical attraction.

Also, there have been quite a few times where I have got to know someone socially over a period of time and although they have not been physically attractive to me initially, the more I've got to know them the more attractive they have become, so there can be times when looks don't really matter at all to me.... but it always comes down to personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, looks are initially important - I have to be attracted to someone to want to play with them, and certainly in clubs or at parties looks are the initial attraction and can be the make or break when it comes to playing. However, once I start communicating with someone with the intention of arranging a meet, then personality really does mean a lot to me. I'm not one for arranging "quickie" meets and if I'm going to spend several hours with someone there does have to be more than just physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are shallow in this world I find and its expected.. as after all... its not about finding a life partner.

I have found on a few recent group play sessions that I am centre of attention until someone younger or slimmer wants to play. I actually got abandoned mid play by 5 guys the other week.. Which I have to say even for my thick skin was a bit denting...

However, I do the same So cannot really expect double standards.. However I did refuse the ones that came back after being refused by the other woman.

But its not really shallow.. its just that some people want the best they can personally have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can the term shallow be used when it comes to casual sex? This isn't about making friends or the way u treat people, this is about attraction and giving ur intimacy to people.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Personal preference is important, but in my _iew a shallow person is someone who wont even chat to anyone unless they look like a god/goddess, surely when chatting looks are not as important as personality. Can understand if its about meeting but not all contact on here is about meeting alot of people just chat so in that instance does it matter how one looks?"

If people are on here just to chat then no it doesn't matter what anyone looks like.

Most people are looking to have sex though, so then it does matter to a lot of us what people look like

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"these shallow/standards threads are some of the best reading on here....."

...sure amuses me...along with the do you like bis/bbws...hours of entertainment

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Ok time for me to come out of the closet.

I'm shallow, and proud!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really care much for the word shallow in terms of this place

Its only thrown about when someone has been told no thanks to make themselves feel a little better because they've been rejected"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lol love the way single guys always say what the women on here like to hear."

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By *lassic1Man
over a year ago

bellshill

"Ok time for me to come out of the closet.

I think its only polite to swallow..............oops............this thread gone on too long maybe.......loosing its meaning ...!!

I'm shallow, and proud!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you all _iew as shallow? You will read many posts of people calling others "shallow" for not wanting to meet someone because of their size, age looks or disabilities etc. I personally disagree that not wanting to meet someone for any or all of those reasons doesn't make someone shallow.

If that's the case aren't we all shallow? Otherwise we'd all be shagging anything that moved

I think there are a lot of people that label someone shallow just because they have different opinions of what's attractive or unattractive.

To me that's just personal choice and preferance and doesn't make them shallow. Some people like fat people, others like skinny and so on.

Thoughts? "

I totally agree but have called people shallow so must be a hypocrite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admit I'm shallow on here, I pick and choose the ones I find attractive to look at before getting to know them.

However, once met they can be unattractive and those who are not my ideal physically can turn out to be the best shags.

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