FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosters, no shows

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’ll let you know if I do it to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

If I say I'm meeting I'm always turning up. Not sure what the deal is with some guys. I guess they may be intimidated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont give it much thought tbh.

Been talking to someone recently, loose arrangement to meet socially on sunday, boom he goes MIA.

I dont know what's going on in his life do I so I just pass on it.

Not worth getting upset over it.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

It's not just guys, its all about talking the talk and not walking walk.

Not looking for guys - been there done that

but

For guys its often the chase they are after, not the outcome, want to feel they still can pull. Some may just be nerves and lack of confidence.

Guys brag a lot on sites like this - usually all big talk. So in the end some guys may feel they have a lot to live upto, if they meet they may disappoint end up being named and shamed. Others have other reasons - many other threads on that subject.

Women - my area of interest its often more about the fantasy often just want that. Others just doing it for their partner and not really into it if partner can't join in. Have organised girly meets in the past and only one or two if any would turn up, not that I'm complaining

. One once turned up with partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

Love a strong woman with a great body.......and will always turn up when agreed, in fact I like to be early ......

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By *r P1957Man
over a year ago

Shoeburyness

It's so rude to arrange a meet then not show up, after all the effort the other person has gone through for you

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Never done it and never been the victim of it either in all my time here.

It's not really ghosting if you haven't met the person though and/or been in some form of relationship with them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Only agreeing to meet in clubs means if they don't show up you might not even notice

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Some people get off, on stringing people along, male and female do it, and there's little you can do to protect yourself against it

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I could be construed as being a bit flakey.

I have issues I am getting better at addressing.

Although I am totally honest about them and don’t give bullshit excuses

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

Errrm. Women do this as well.

And yes - it's fucking annoying

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Caspers

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

They think about it, have a wank and then can't be bothered.

They're not free to meet (wife or gf)

Complete fantasists.

Just a dickhead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

Ghosters...oh boy

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I don't meet anyone I haven't heard from that day. That helps. If the plans are loose then they often don't happen but I'm just as bad about forgetting. I never put all my eggs in one basket.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Happens to us fellas too. Disappointing

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I dont ghost women when a arrangeing a meet. I always show up.

There was a woman I arrange to meet at a hotel and when the day came not only didnt she show up but also ignored my phone calls and messages. Very annoyed that I reported her on the site

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I believe a lot of the guys on here live in their own little fantasy world. They brag in messages about their size, stamina, conquests etc. But they know that after all this they'll never be able to meet because the reality is a stark contradiction.

For example:

"I have ten throbbing inches and I can fuck for hours/days/weeks nonstop culminating in a cum eruption so huge and fierce it'll fill a water bed in the blinking of an eye"

Translates into:

"I have a mini twiglet and on an exemplary day I could possibly last two maybe even three minutes finishing with a slight dribble that wouldn't be enough to rehydrate one of those tiny chunks of carrot you find in Pot Noodles".

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I don’t do no shows or time waste

But I think some just bottle it when it comes to meets, it’s just a thrill of the chase for them. which obviously does not fair really well for the rest of us. (bloody twats or dickheads)

I would suggest keep it within 10 miles, so at the very least, if anything changes or happens you still can do things or even arrange another social

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

Woundnt know, as I've never done it...FAF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't imagine doing that to someone.

Don't worry ladies, Ghosting isn't rejection, it's protection. Protection against who they really are.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

I don't know either, and I don't understand it. Men here are by far and wide desperate alone to the fact that they outnumber the women and couples. So they finally DO get a date, and then don't show? It makes no sense.

My best guess is: They hold you as an option, but when the time comes, they aren't ready to take up on it because they were never that attracted in the first place.

Men don't generally play ego games the way women do by just seeing if someone is interested. Men play ego games by banging as many as possible (it is just different for men and women).

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By *akequeen90Couple
over a year ago

Sydney

I'd say the probability of actual showing up is 20%

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Oh 100% been the victim of this, very recently too. A simple, no this isn't going to work for me text would have been fine, I'd have bid them happy swinging.. but no arrange something for THAT day (after two previous meets!) and then... gone nothing.. Read my messages no response.. hey ho.. life goes on, read their profile a few days later and they were moaning about something..

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Oh 100% been the victim of this, very recently too. A simple, no this isn't going to work for me text would have been fine, I'd have bid them happy swinging.. but no arrange something for THAT day (after two previous meets!) and then... gone nothing.. Read my messages no response.. hey ho.. life goes on, read their profile a few days later and they were moaning about something..

Worse is when they string you along and pretend like they're just late but on their way

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

Worse is when they string you along and pretend like they're just late but on their way"

I've experienced that, but with ladies/couples. However, I then assume the profile was an elaborate fake.... and possibly not a female/couple at all, which makes me feel even more embarrassed

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Who ya gunna call……….

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Who ya gunna call………."

Fab-busters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100% agree

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By *aving_great_funMan
over a year ago

London

I was ghosted last night.

Supposed to meet at 9pm.

Received a message at midnight that she was seeing a friend and wants to go to a comedy club next week...

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

They finished their wank

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Never ghosted anyone but had it happen to me after after chatting for ages, having a social and arranging a play meet at HER suggestion. Didn't cancel - just didn't answer messages on the day and then blocked me few hours before. This lady described herself a strong but polite with good manners or words to that effect. Still on here saying how she respects honesty and manners. A few months later noticed she had unblocked me so asked her what happened. She said "I just got a better offer" and anyway "you are ugly, smelly and a disgusting person". I had done nothing to provoke that - guess I got off lightly as my veri might not have been great

Some people male and female are just cockwombles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

I've been ghosted by a woman. So not always the men.

And if a man doesn't show up and ghosts...he's more than likely attached!

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

This may be controversial but I actually feel for women who are stood up more than men. I actually think it's super shitty to do if they have started to get ready because we all know women put in GRAFT before a meet whereas all a man does is put cologne on his pubes.

Wait is that just me?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"It's not just guys, its all about talking the talk and not walking walk.

Not looking for guys - been there done that

but

For guys its often the chase they are after, not the outcome, want to feel they still can pull. Some may just be nerves and lack of confidence.

. One once turned up with partner

This is all spot on however it doesn't justify men actually arranging a date and not turning up or giving notice beforehand to cancel. The empathy in those situations from the man is a grand total of 0 and my advice would be to never deal with them again.

It's also why I could never say I'll fuck you alllllll night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This may be controversial but I actually feel for women who are stood up more than men. I actually think it's super shitty to do if they have started to get ready because we all know women put in GRAFT before a meet whereas all a man does is put cologne on his pubes.

Wait is that just me? "

Not all women brucey.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I had 2 potential meets do this a few weeks ago and it really properly pissed me off as I have so much going on at the moment - I needed the downtime and the distraction- one wven came back with an outrageous excuse and thought I’d say ohhh really and give them a 2nd bite at wasting my time.

Its people with no respect for others that do this - so most likely be a crap shag too

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Wait is that just me? "

I resent that remark. I shave mine meticulously as well, pluck my eyebrows and wash my pants and best shirt

Oh and go out a buy new box of condoms.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

Wait is that just me?

Not all women brucey.

You could turn up in a string vest reeking if sherry and i still would!! Wait a minute… have we already met???

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I couldn't imagine doing that to someone.

Don't worry ladies, Ghosting isn't rejection, it's protection. Protection against who they really are. "

That sounds so ominous and creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a mini twiglet and ... Pot Noodles".

Oh I love both, could live off Pot Noodles (had them nearly every day for a year for my lunch once) and as for twiglets, it must be the marmitey taste combined with a nice resounding crack as you bite into the stick.

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Happened to me twice in a a row..

They ignore and not even read the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the movie ghost and ghostbusters.. Nothing wrong with ghost movies.

Never come here with expectations, hopes, dreams or beliefs that fab can be full of honesty with you. Honesty runs rife in many but small amount are not.

My system, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn't imagine doing that to someone.

Don't worry ladies, Ghosting isn't rejection, it's protection. Protection against who they really are.

That sounds so ominous and creepy."

That's why it's protection. If they ghost you , It's a clear insight into who they probably are as a person, so as a woman you've probably dodged a bullet.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

I remember years ago...my first meet ghosted me...the Fuc*er!!!felt like an idiot

all that excitement and... nothing...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some people just want to engage whilst pulling one out. Hearing the voice saying the word 'coffee' got the job done. They weren't thirsty to drink any such thing with you.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Happened to me twice in a a row..

They ignore and not even read the messages.

Oh they read the messages, they just don't open them.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

They've had a wank, and the other half's just got home from work

LvM

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

The world is full of time wasting pond life unfortunately

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

Mcr

It's somewhat bizarre to me that men are doing this, given how hard it is in general for single men to stand out and how outnumbered we are, seems insane.

My experience is it's women who ghost, often after a few messages, or a week. Between those it's usually promising.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I never get the reason why men would ghost a woman if they werent interested after arranging a date. So if you're one of those men right here at this moment that do it, tell us why you do it

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By *aving_great_funMan
over a year ago

London

there are more ghosts on this website than a haunted village...

better get the ghostbusters in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are more ghosts on this website than a haunted village...

better get the ghostbusters in."

Did you not do a study on this??

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

In business, it’s often said that you haven’t closed a deal until the money is actually wired into the account.

I kind of take the same approach when it comes to online dating: I just assume that a meeting is *not* going to happen until I see the person turn up in the flesh. Sad state of affairs but one has to protect their mental well being.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It never happened to me & I’d never do this. It must be people that are not really able to meet, they are best avoided. It does seem primarily men that do this.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

No idea hey nice anus

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"In business, it’s often said that you haven’t closed a deal until the money is actually wired into the account.

So you don't shower or clean up your place?

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"In business, it’s often said that you haven’t closed a deal until the money is actually wired into the account.

So you don't shower or clean up your place?"

This only represents a low, extra effort - considering how I try to maintain my place and myself clean at all times, regardless of my dating opportunities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????

You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"

I thought nobody meets here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the best way to survive this place is to stop trying to understand people, it's a headache. Think less and use the block button more.

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By *hloe577Woman
over a year ago

fort william

I totally agree! I'm pretty new on here, why bother wasting someone's time? As girls we have generally a lot of choice, so if we make the effort to meet and get stood up, the few are ruining it! I have arranged 7 meets and two were no shows?!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I totally agree! I'm pretty new on here, why bother wasting someone's time? As girls we have generally a lot of choice, so if we make the effort to meet and get stood up, the few are ruining it! I have arranged 7 meets and two were no shows?! "

Maybe you need to refine how you go about things

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By *hloe577Woman
over a year ago

fort william

Hey, how do you manage to suss out the non genuine? Last night the guy text me until about half hr before? I'm assuming its just the chase they r after? Just frustrating as I have very limited free time

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Hey, how do you manage to suss out the non genuine? Last night the guy text me until about half hr before? I'm assuming its just the chase they r after? Just frustrating as I have very limited free time "

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