FabSwingers.com forum: It was good but...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.

But you've decided you don't want to see them again.

What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

They said ......... Did you like it ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

They sang excerpts from The Marriage of Figaro during and encouraged me to join in. I don't know the words and it's embarrassing when you get them wrong

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I wouldn't say anything, I'd stay as friends and if they brought up meeting for sex, then I'd enter the conversation with them. Sometimes the moment is wrong but the person is right and next time is awesome. If I had a bad time twice, then I'd friendzone him due to sexual incompatibility

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I found out that an almost 2 hour drive killed spontaneity a bit

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘Yeah….I’m so sorry I won’t be able to meet you ever again as I’ve just been called up by the SAS to go on a top secret mission in Bhutan with an extremely low chance of survival.

Thanks for the sex though.’

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"‘Yeah….I’m so sorry I won’t be able to meet you ever again as I’ve just been called up by the SAS to go on a top secret mission in Bhutan with an extremely low chance of survival.

Thanks for the sex though.’ "

Ahhhh…..balls. I didn’t read the question quite correctly did I?

Ok; Take two: I’d likely not wish a repeat if we didn’t ‘gel’ personality wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually have this problem as they do it for me.

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By *anderingArtistMan
over a year ago

an abstract world

I'm guessing we get on well enough, hence why we had the sex in the first place, so bad hygiene would be a big one for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mid sex would make me not want to see them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality of sex is important,first time might be might not. I never expect anything. Maybe our expectation bar is too high thinking all sex is going to be out of this world.

Only time sex is not good is when you are both d*unk.

Women never tell what their sex life is

If you told them you are honest let him or her or them know gently. Stringing them along is not right. Just tell them. Honesty remember is a policy in all matters of communication.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think you all know when it’s been good so I don’t think it’s a problem.

We’ve just not talked about meeting again if it’s not felt right.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Terrible laugh.

Terrible chat.

Grim feet.

Smelly.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Them talking about us as a couple.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?"

Sometimes the sex happens quite early in a friendship. We’ve chatted on here. We get along. We meet up for drinks. We end up in bed.

But what if then, after the sex, we chat about something and *really* disagree? What if they’re a bit racist? Or a bit Tory? What if I my attraction to them shrivels up and dies because of it?

I reckon that’s totally possible. That could make me walk away from even pretty mind blowing sex and say ‘not again thanks’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they started telling me about other people they fucked.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.

But you've decided you don't want to see them again.

What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?

If they friend follow you on Fab, they might be getting the message from this post…

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd be honest and say sorry it wasn't for me, we aren't compatible.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it polite and respectful without putting the other person down. I'd tell them that I enjoyed their company and it was at least fun but I don't feel that we're sexually compatible. They would understand what I mean as sexual compatibility is something I would explain is important to me prior to meeting

Saying "no" to someone is never easy no matter how polite you can be about it, rejection sensitivity can be a bitch but there are ways to say no without putting someone down

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I wonder if sometimes the no-thank-you situation kicks in naturally. There's often an 'epilogue' period after the "middling" sex. The lead up which began with a raging flame of conversation, excitement and anticipation is eventually replaced with the dwindling embers of intermittent conversation with little or no indication on what to do next... ...the prevailing silence speaks for itself.

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

I'd go and have a quickie with them they not ask again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if sometimes the no-thank-you situation kicks in naturally. There's often an 'epilogue' period after the "middling" sex. The lead up which began with a raging flame of conversation, excitement and anticipation is eventually replaced with the dwindling embers of intermittent conversation with little or no indication on what to do next... ...the prevailing silence speaks for itself."

Good description Nero!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I quite like a comfortable silence, no need for pointless waffle, just chill out in peace until whoever needs to leave has the energy to get dressed.

I don't think I've ever told someone directly that I absolutely did not enjoy the sex and would not like to do that again with them. Well, unless they harangued and whined afterwards because I told them no thanks on doing it again when asked repeatedly.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I don't think I've ever told someone directly that I absolutely did not enjoy the sex and would not like to do that again with them. Well, unless they harangued and whined afterwards because I told them no thanks on doing it again when asked repeatedly."

Oh, that wasn't the question.

To the actual question, I probably just say thanks and that I don't think we're compatible enough to keep seeing each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.

But you've decided you don't want to see them again.

What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?

If he was a cold fish (I've said no twice because of this)

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I quite like a comfortable silence, no need for pointless waffle, just chill out in peace until whoever needs to leave has the energy to get dressed.

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No, I totally get this and agree. Comfortable silences are wonderful. My point was more around the ever-decreasing 'engagement' of conversation and connection days or weeks after the coital encounter.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

Going to the past have to say that had many disappointments. Depends very much on the circumstances I guess. If was due to lack of experience or nerves then I might if appropriate try to encourage them.

Its worse when some guy disappointment is next in forums/chat/mates bragging about how he ruined me etc etc. etc.

I'm quite hard bitch when I have to be, probably just tell them straight, maybe their ego might be a little battered/destryed but might make them bit more ...

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I found out that an almost 2 hour drive killed spontaneity a bit

Oh Adam.

Yes, if they're too far you can't really organise a good fuck. Distance can be a bugger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.

But you've decided you don't want to see them again.

What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?

If he was a cold fish (I've said no twice because of this)"

Like a cold fish after the event?

Most only get in touch when they're horny. FWB my arse.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.

But you've decided you don't want to see them again.

What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?

If they friend follow you on Fab, they might be getting the message from this post…"

Oh it wasn't about me! Or anyone I've met from Fab. I've had some great socials/dates/dalliances recently. Plus this would be a really cruel way to tell someone.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Everyone can have a bad day and we aren't machines, if they were able to go again would be tempted to have a second round.

If it doesn't work out, polite thank you and no.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I enjoyed your company, but I don't think we're compatible/I don't wish to pursue things any further/I don't want a repeat performance/I'm just not feeling it.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.

But you've decided you don't want to see them again.

What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?

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No personality, bad breath, not a great kisser

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"They sang excerpts from The Marriage of Figaro during and encouraged me to join in. I don't know the words and it's embarrassing when you get them wrong"

Note to self always carry a song sheet. With me .

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I've had this and I just kept refusing any future visits. We still keep in touch as he's a nice guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- a general lack of synergy

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"- a general lack of synergy "

That’s how I’d expect to be told by some management consultants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"- a general lack of synergy

That’s how I’d expect to be told by some management consultants

When you go to a gangbang and find out it's a team building exercise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with them and just say look it was a one time deal

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Lack of sexual fireworks, due to lack of mutual passion.

If you’re not clamouring to get on their cock then it’s not really going to work. You need that urgency, that spark!

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