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Someone please describe vanilla sex

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By *TG3 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

To me because for the life of me how do you tell what ' vanilla' sex is if you are good at the art of sex you're good at the art of sex, if sex was good before you came here or after you came here whats the difference, is it just a label that had no meaning, well is it?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Vanilla cheesecake is very nice. I don't see why vanilla sex can't be too. I think it's more an indication of style. It doesn't have to be derogatory.

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales

Ice cream….. am partial to a scoop or two of vanilla ice cream….. don’t know if that helps you though?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Only Robert Matthew Van Winkle can answer this truthfully.

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By *TG3 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I love cheesecake but lemon

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales

Seriously though……. One person’s kink is another’s vanilla so I think it would mean different things to different people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would equate vanilla sex with monogamy. Certainly no partner swapping or additions. Probably less kinkyness too. Kissing, oral and penetration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Lemon drizzle now that is something else iykyk

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not a vanilla sexer...

No, I am, yanking a pigtail there.

I think in terms of kink it can be used to describe the differences in style of sex.

I also think it can be used as a derogatory, this is so dull and I'm the first person to ever have kinky sex and orgasms kind of way. Superiority nonsense.

Vanilla can be great. So can a neopolitan sex life.

I don't always want all the bells and whistles during sex, you know? Sometimes I want lots of deep kissing, penetration and someone's fingers entwined in mine as they coax orgasm after orgasm out of me.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

The only thing that springs to mind would be no kink stuff; watersports, rope, BDSM etc..

"Vanilla" sex gets a bad rap

LvM

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I class vanilla sex as non kinky. No spanky, bondage, wax, shibari, etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard military position, soley pussy fucking sex.

...No anal, no piss-play, no spanking, no roleplay, no name-calling, hair-pulling, foot-fetish, rimming, crossdressing etc.

...She just lies their like a sack of tatties and you go in and out, in and out... in and (yawnnnn) out...

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Is it just missionary and you pull her nightie back down when you are finished?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One kiss, one lick,one suck.

In,out,in,out and ends in 2 pumps.

Was it good for you babe?

That's it I think

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think it's a term the jaded use

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"One kiss, one lick,one suck.

In,out,in,out and ends in 2 pumps.

Was it good for you babe?

That's it I think "

To be fair i was tired

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Is it just missionary and you pull her nightie back down when you are finished? "

Are you my ex husband by any chance?

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Is it just missionary and you pull her nightie back down when you are finished?

Are you my ex husband by any chance? "

ive gave the game away now

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"One kiss, one lick,one suck.

In,out,in,out and ends in 2 pumps.

Was it good for you babe?

That's it I think

To be fair i was tired "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

For me, it's oral vaginal and anal. But some would consider anal kink. So I think it changes from person to person. That's why communication is soooo important.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Is it just missionary and you pull her nightie back down when you are finished?

Are you my ex husband by any chance?

ive gave the game away now "

I knew it!

The dog is doing well btw.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Is it just missionary and you pull her nightie back down when you are finished?

Are you my ex husband by any chance?

ive gave the game away now

I knew it!

The dog is doing well btw. "

You broke my heart.....taking the dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One kiss, one lick,one suck.

In,out,in,out and ends in 2 pumps.

Was it good for you babe?

That's it I think

To be fair i was tired "

You best get your sleep in this week then as you're not getting any once I arrive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me vanilla is where I just put on some nice and we have lots of kisses and cuddles and the sex is slow and gentle. A very enjoyable time just like I had last night.

Where it's not vanilla is where the toys come out and it's all hard and rough. Like last week when the gag, rope and hook among other things where used.

It is subjective though and it does depend on a person bace line as to what is vanilla.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Vanilla sex is just your every day run of the mill sex.

I had a boat yesterday and one side was rhubarb and custard and the other was blackcurrant ripple the change from vanilla was nice although I still like vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Role on, role off

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Role on, role off "

Surely thats car ferry sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When she says , pull the nightdress down when your finished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Role on, role off

Surely thats car ferry sex "

Exactly!

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells


"Standard military position, soley pussy fucking sex.

...No anal, no piss-play, no spanking, no roleplay, no name-calling, hair-pulling, foot-fetish, rimming, crossdressing etc.

...She just lies their like a sack of tatties and you go in and out, in and out... in and (yawnnnn) out...

"

That sounds like I haven't had vanilla sex in a long time.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

I prefer Salted Caramel

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

To me vanilla sex, is more a ritual than a loving act. People have sex because they feel they should etc. The beginning, middle and end is the same thing every time.

A little fiddle around on the pussy to see if its wet, if not gets lube from the drawer, maybe a bit of a quick pull on the cock to make sure its hard. If you're really lucky a bit of oral then finished off with a few pumps and then its all over as the bloke has cum. Female having an orgasm is unlikely.

Gosh, that sounds like a past experience!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The world of kink would like to present itself as open-minded and liberal, but far too often I witness a snobbery and self-awarded levels of superiority which lends itself to criticising and putting down others that aren't as kinky or experienced.

In that sense, vanilla is more often used as a tool to express a superior level.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What ever kind of sex you have or what you call it .as long as you get the most pleasure out it and its mutually enjoyed its all good .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think fluffy handcuffs are kinky others see it as vanilla. It all depends on the persons point of view. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I have sex with be it men woman or couples or tv/ts starts out what I would consider vanilla

Just normal sex no banned word no smacking no bdsm or tied up or anything no water sports or no invite freands or that

Just plane Jane kissing or none kissing oral and sex

Trust has to be established though time if you want to movie in to kinker things

Ones there the skys the limit when it comes to that

Want to share me with friends or maybe some you meet online I am down but got to eran my trust that I know I can trust the person your bring isn’t going to a be a dick

And if they are that you have my interest at hart and say think it’s time for them to leave

If you want to spank banned word and tie me up restrain me then got to ern that right that I no in a comprised state that I am going to be safe that you aren’t going to push to far

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre


"The world of kink would like to present itself as open-minded and liberal, but far too often I witness a snobbery and self-awarded levels of superiority which lends itself to criticising and putting down others that aren't as kinky or experienced.

In that sense, vanilla is more often used as a tool to express a superior level. "

Yes, this was my understanding of how the word vanilla is used.

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