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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I do , not always but I do....

On emptying my purse one day(silver and copper ) the bloke said to me .... Keep it! What do you think I am a dog ? I'm trying to get a bed for the night!

So I did keep my money and walked on.

Saturday a bloke asked and I said I think i've only got just over a pound. Hold on ..... I opened my purse and found 2 quid and handed it over. He looked at what I gave him and said ... he said .... " I'm a pound short. Can you give me some more......

My eyes went and I said I've given you what i've got and I walked off.

Today I am looking forward to seeing the bloke I call 'the lovely man'. He sits in a liverpool street and each time I quietly drop him something he exchanges pleasantries with a massive smile and wishes me a lovely day and me to him....

Life is a funny old dance. Don't you think?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not the giving kind, granny

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I don't think its best to give money.

Food or even a cigarette if unable to buy them food but its wasting money to put it in their hands in my perspective

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I rarely carry change as I pay by card everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not that funny. It’s alright though

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Occasionally.

I must admit, I’m very selective though.

If they have expensive coffee brand cups obviously in their little area I’ll ignore. Same with fast food wrappers.

Walking through Manchester once a beggar asked us for change and I was intent on walking by until he commented that I was flying low. I zipped up and then dropped every coin from my pocket into his collection.

…And Yes, I had washed my hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’ve got it they can have it

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't give money, no. We fundraise at work for a local homeless charity, I feel that's a better use of my energies.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I don't think its best to give money.

Food or even a cigarette if unable to buy them food but its wasting money to put it in their hands in my perspective "

I think there's only so many greggs sausage rolls a person could stomach in one day

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never give money, do give a hot drink and food though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i will, sometimes i won’t. I’ll offer to buy food or a drink. I did get shouted at once for not giving change, that one pissed me off as i was in deep thought about how i was going to gather the money to pay an unexpected bill. I did retort to the person shouting at me. Not my proudest moment

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I do not give

*Story time!*

A lad at my work left for the train everyday,

everyday he would get a coffee and a toasty for a fella who was down on his luck that he passed every morning

One day he was stood in the queue waiting for the lads coffee and toasty only to find him in front of him in a suit holding a briefcase

No faith in humanity me

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Many of them are professional beggars,earning more from begging than working,and they aren't homeless.Nothing new,the Sherlock Holmes story "The man with the twisted lip",a journalist who dressed as a beggar to mix with and do a story on beggars,he quickly found he could earn more from begging than his journalists salary.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Now see what you've done granny

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nope. I give to the charities that support them instead. It's way too hard to tell who's really in need, or who is out cruising for cash. So I'd rather leave that decision to the charities who give out bedding and hot food etc

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No, I rarely go into a Town these days if I can help it. I usually bought a Big Issue instead of giving money.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Once my mum got heckled for giving a chap a hot drink without any sugar what's the phrase?....it's on the tip of my tongue....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I either give or don't give. I don't care what people do with the money or if I've given it to someone who doesn't need it. I don't give with conditions attached and once the money's left my hands I don't really think about it again

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Now see what you've done granny "

. It's a tale as old as time. The deserving and the undeserving poor

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way. "

What the actual fuck ?!! They carry card readers now... jeez... it is like an enterprise these days... .. I do on occasion give a bit of change if I have it.... they get short shrift from me if they're rude though

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I don't think its best to give money.

Food or even a cigarette if unable to buy them food but its wasting money to put it in their hands in my perspective

I think there's only so many greggs sausage rolls a person could stomach in one day "

That's true LOOOL but can spread the sausage rolls out evenly xx

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I never carry cash, so it's a moot point. I do occasionally use my card to buy a sandwich and just hand it over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give (usually around £3-£4) every time and very happy to do so. They thank me profusely and that makes me feel good. They can put it towards whatever they like

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Once my mum got heckled for giving a chap a hot drink without any sugar what's the phrase?....it's on the tip of my tongue...."

Ungrateful sod? Lol

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Occasionally.

I must admit, I’m very selective though.

If they have expensive coffee brand cups obviously in their little area I’ll ignore. Same with fast food wrappers.

Walking through Manchester once a beggar asked us for change and I was intent on walking by until he commented that I was flying low. I zipped up and then dropped every coin from my pocket into his collection.

…And Yes, I had washed my hands."

How do you know whether they bought the coffee or someone gave it to them?

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money "

They weren't hungry they wanted alcohol or drugs

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Once my mum got heckled for giving a chap a hot drink without any sugar what's the phrase?....it's on the tip of my tongue....

Ungrateful sod? Lol"

I hope he got the drink he wanted eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our local drug addict/beggers (seen then shooting up) have started to up their game, instead of asking for spare change they now ask for £2 or £5. I never give money to them but they still ask.

In general I don't give people on the street money but I never walk past British legion poppy appeal volunteers without putting money in their buckets.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I do if I see the person is in real need. Which is almost never the case here in the UK. But back home it is heart wrenching seeing elderly people having to beg, and many don’t they sell sweets or little things… I usually buy the whole lot and tell them to keep it.

With buskers, if I really enjoy their act I am quite generous in giving.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money "

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way.

What the actual fuck ?!! They carry card readers now... jeez... it is like an enterprise these days... .. I do on occasion give a bit of change if I have it.... they get short shrift from me if they're rude though"

Yes, lots seem too these days.

And funnily enough as you watch them walk further up the road. They always seem to get in their car and drive away!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

At times it may be money other times a wee snack drink and food

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Occasionally.

I must admit, I’m very selective though.

If they have expensive coffee brand cups obviously in their little area I’ll ignore. Same with fast food wrappers.

Walking through Manchester once a beggar asked us for change and I was intent on walking by until he commented that I was flying low. I zipped up and then dropped every coin from my pocket into his collection.

…And Yes, I had washed my hands.

How do you know whether they bought the coffee or someone gave it to them?

"

Good point well made.

It is my money though and I’ll continue to use my personal selection methods as to who I might give charity too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are a lot of homeless people in Hastings and their numbers increase in the summer. I can genuinely say I have never see one homeless person in new trainers, getting in a car, wearing new clothes etc.

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3

Having been involved in homelessness for a time, I would say give your cash to a homeless charity who will use the money to house the homeless and lobby on their behalf.

Many homeless who beg have hostel accommodation and have had their benefits monitored by staff to avoid sanctions.

So I would say 2 in 10 beggars are actually street homeless and will not entertain a hostel for their own reasons.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Nope I never give to anyone begging.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"There are a lot of homeless people in Hastings and their numbers increase in the summer. I can genuinely say I have never see one homeless person in new trainers, getting in a car, wearing new clothes etc. "

I think some of them are trafficked and it's others who are making money from them

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over a year ago


"There are a lot of homeless people in Hastings and their numbers increase in the summer. I can genuinely say I have never see one homeless person in new trainers, getting in a car, wearing new clothes etc.

I think some of them are trafficked and it's others who are making money from them "
Yep

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

They weren't hungry they wanted alcohol or drugs"

Yes i know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are a lot of homeless people in Hastings and their numbers increase in the summer. I can genuinely say I have never see one homeless person in new trainers, getting in a car, wearing new clothes etc.

I think some of them are trafficked and it's others who are making money from them "

It's quite possible.

There's a very active charity in this area who are excellent at taking care of our homeless population. Which is more than o can say for the council who spent thousands on making sure it was impossible to sleep on public benches

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way. "

I actually remember that haha

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience. "

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I rather waste a pound than worry whether I am doing the right thing by supporting someone who I think is in need. Yes hard to tell but I go with my instinct. Though generally I have a couple of small charities I give to a small sum regularly. Last couple of years, anything extra at home, I also take to local foodbank and a few things to local charity shop. We all need to do our bit if we can. It's like when people go on about those claiming benefits and cite the worst cases they read on their tabloid newspapers. I am not interested in those few, I am interested in the people who struggle to make ends meet, the disadvantaged, the disabled ... I rather have empathy for the needy than deep seated hatred for the few that might work the system. That's just me of course and I am sure others will think and do differently. Each to their own.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful "

It was very nice of them. How do you think I felt knowing that they thought I couldn't be trusted with money? The saying 'as cold as charity' holds some weight

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"There are a lot of homeless people in Hastings and their numbers increase in the summer. I can genuinely say I have never see one homeless person in new trainers, getting in a car, wearing new clothes etc.

I think some of them are trafficked and it's others who are making money from them

It's quite possible.

There's a very active charity in this area who are excellent at taking care of our homeless population. Which is more than o can say for the council who spent thousands on making sure it was impossible to sleep on public benches "

Anti homeless architecture...can't have these people sullying the good name of a town

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

They weren't hungry they wanted alcohol or drugs

Yes i know "

oh loool

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ oh and I didn't ask for anything and was suitably grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few months back the wife witnessed a old lady go to the cash machine at Asda of which a begger was sitting close, when she got her money the begger asked her for some she said she didn't have any spare, he started having a go at her saying he just seen her get it out the machine and he wanted £5 the old lady was scared but stuck to her guns and said no, security then came and removed the begger.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience. "

I get that, from my experience its quite easy to see the ones who are at it.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Having been involved in homelessness for a time, I would say give your cash to a homeless charity who will use the money to house the homeless and lobby on their behalf.

Many homeless who beg have hostel accommodation and have had their benefits monitored by staff to avoid sanctions.

So I would say 2 in 10 beggars are actually street homeless and will not entertain a hostel for their own reasons."

This

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are a lot of homeless people in Hastings and their numbers increase in the summer. I can genuinely say I have never see one homeless person in new trainers, getting in a car, wearing new clothes etc.

I think some of them are trafficked and it's others who are making money from them

It's quite possible.

There's a very active charity in this area who are excellent at taking care of our homeless population. Which is more than o can say for the council who spent thousands on making sure it was impossible to sleep on public benches

Anti homeless architecture...can't have these people sullying the good name of a town "

No of course not! Let's dump shit in the sea but don't let the holiday makers see someone asleep on a bench

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way.

I actually remember that haha "

Every social night she appears without fail

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful

It was very nice of them. How do you think I felt knowing that they thought I couldn't be trusted with money? The saying 'as cold as charity' holds some weight"

Your a stranger to them, I wouldn't expect a person to give me money if I was on the street. If I can ask for what I want and be given it that's good enough for me

A thief liar murderer don't have set descriptions so we can't blame a person for being cautious

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful

It was very nice of them. How do you think I felt knowing that they thought I couldn't be trusted with money? The saying 'as cold as charity' holds some weight

Your a stranger to them, I wouldn't expect a person to give me money if I was on the street. If I can ask for what I want and be given it that's good enough for me

A thief liar murderer don't have set descriptions so we can't blame a person for being cautious "

I wasn't a stranger to this person. I'm trying to explain why some people might prefer to be able to spend money themselves rather than have choice removed from them and how it feels from the other side of the transaction. It is a transaction very few give just for the benefit of the person they're giving to.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

I would consider myself as a very generous person but don't always carry a lot of cash. If I have spare change I will generally drop some in to those who I perceive as being genuine.

It is pretty well documented about those who collect, then wrap it for the day, get their phones out and enjoy their evening in their comfortable homes.

Pretty sophisticated stings nowadays, particularly from Eastern Europe.

I tend to stick to those who have teeth like a recce patrol, piss stains like a map of Africa and unbranded polystyrene cups.

I don't. But you get the gist.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'll give money if I have it.

I've given a pound, I've given ten pounds.

I've given a fresh cup of hot chocolate to a very grateful woman in London at Christmas.

If I didn't have my freezing cold grandson with me I'd have stayed to chat a little.

A few metres down the road from her I'd come across a man sleeping-covered head to toe in his covers.

As we got near a slightly inebriated middle aged man ran up to him and squatted-smiling at his group of friends-and shouted something, followed by get a job! My hackles went right up and I shouted some obscenities at him, then said to the laughing woman he was talking to, you should be ashamed of a son like that.

I don't think he was her son, going by the look on her face.

Then I tucked the little bit of change I had into his covers and heard a thank you grunted from somewhere under them.

I fucking hate people sometimes.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful

It was very nice of them. How do you think I felt knowing that they thought I couldn't be trusted with money? The saying 'as cold as charity' holds some weight

Your a stranger to them, I wouldn't expect a person to give me money if I was on the street. If I can ask for what I want and be given it that's good enough for me

A thief liar murderer don't have set descriptions so we can't blame a person for being cautious "

No,but we can blame them for making assumptions and treating everyone as a criminal.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'll give money if I have it.

I've given a pound, I've given ten pounds.

I've given a fresh cup of hot chocolate to a very grateful woman in London at Christmas.

If I didn't have my freezing cold grandson with me I'd have stayed to chat a little.

A few metres down the road from her I'd come across a man sleeping-covered head to toe in his covers.

As we got near a slightly inebriated middle aged man ran up to him and squatted-smiling at his group of friends-and shouted something, followed by get a job! My hackles went right up and I shouted some obscenities at him, then said to the laughing woman he was talking to, you should be ashamed of a son like that.

I don't think he was her son, going by the look on her face.

Then I tucked the little bit of change I had into his covers and heard a thank you grunted from somewhere under them.

I fucking hate people sometimes.

"

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way. "

A card reader??? Stop it lol

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


" I do , not always but I do....

On emptying my purse one day(silver and copper ) the bloke said to me .... Keep it! What do you think I am a dog ? I'm trying to get a bed for the night!

So I did keep my money and walked on.

Saturday a bloke asked and I said I think i've only got just over a pound. Hold on ..... I opened my purse and found 2 quid and handed it over. He looked at what I gave him and said ... he said .... " I'm a pound short. Can you give me some more......

My eyes went and I said I've given you what i've got and I walked off.

Today I am looking forward to seeing the bloke I call 'the lovely man'. He sits in a liverpool street and each time I quietly drop him something he exchanges pleasantries with a massive smile and wishes me a lovely day and me to him....

Life is a funny old dance. Don't you think? "

Looking good today Granny....

I give if I have it, if me giving a few quid over helps improve their day. I also take the time yo stop amd chat with ppl, which I find is sometimes more valuable to ppl than the cash that I've given them.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"The ones in London I've found are the worst ones for being rude, especially if you tell them you haven't got any actual cash,they produce a card reader machine in front of you and when you say no to that you get abuse thrown your way.

A card reader??? Stop it lol "

It's very true!

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By *miableRogueMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes. When I have change, I always give… and a couple of cigarettes… and a hot pie if I am near a sayers or greggs… and have a little laugh and joke with them… it’s only human to be nice

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"Yes. When I have change, I always give… and a couple of cigarettes… and a hot pie if I am near a sayers or greggs… and have a little laugh and joke with them… it’s only human to be nice "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work in charity shop voluntary that is my donation.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful

It was very nice of them. How do you think I felt knowing that they thought I couldn't be trusted with money? The saying 'as cold as charity' holds some weight

Your a stranger to them, I wouldn't expect a person to give me money if I was on the street. If I can ask for what I want and be given it that's good enough for me

A thief liar murderer don't have set descriptions so we can't blame a person for being cautious

I wasn't a stranger to this person. I'm trying to explain why some people might prefer to be able to spend money themselves rather than have choice removed from them and how it feels from the other side of the transaction. It is a transaction very few give just for the benefit of the person they're giving to."

Oh ok now I know that the person knew you that's different apologies.

Time is more valuable than money but yes most people only give if it will benefit them too sadly

Hate that mentality

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though"

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I never give money, offered to buy someone food after they asked for money for food but they said they would rather have the money

If I was at my lowest and all I had left was pride I'd appreciate the option to walk into a shop and buy my own choice of food.

Years ago when we were very down on our luck someone very generously offered to take me shopping and to foot the bill. They accompanied me round the supermarket and paid at the checkout. I have never felt as humiliated before or since so I suppose my opinion is influenced by that experience.

That was nice of them, people like to see where their money is going and not everyone can be trusted.

I did that for a lady a couple of months ago and all she did was hide the bags and continue begging for money

She said she had 6 children and I offered to buy her some food shopping told her go inside keep warm she nodded said God bless you to then do that

That's more humiliating a person who has taken time out for another that's then abused it. It's just ungrateful

It was very nice of them. How do you think I felt knowing that they thought I couldn't be trusted with money? The saying 'as cold as charity' holds some weight

Your a stranger to them, I wouldn't expect a person to give me money if I was on the street. If I can ask for what I want and be given it that's good enough for me

A thief liar murderer don't have set descriptions so we can't blame a person for being cautious

No,but we can blame them for making assumptions and treating everyone as a criminal. "

Better to be safe than sorry

Criminals don't get given food of their choice or cigarettes so that's hardly treating a person as a criminal

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I ask what they need a drink or something to eat then i go into wherever and pay forward so they can get the coffee or sandwich ir whatever when they want it but can’t just have cash - i dont care what they do with their bodies- drink drugs whatever - but I won’t help them do it

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


" I do , not always but I do....

On emptying my purse one day(silver and copper ) the bloke said to me .... Keep it! What do you think I am a dog ? I'm trying to get a bed for the night!

So I did keep my money and walked on.

Saturday a bloke asked and I said I think i've only got just over a pound. Hold on ..... I opened my purse and found 2 quid and handed it over. He looked at what I gave him and said ... he said .... " I'm a pound short. Can you give me some more......

My eyes went and I said I've given you what i've got and I walked off.

Today I am looking forward to seeing the bloke I call 'the lovely man'. He sits in a liverpool street and each time I quietly drop him something he exchanges pleasantries with a massive smile and wishes me a lovely day and me to him....

Life is a funny old dance. Don't you think? "
definitely i saw an older woman she looked a bit like the feed the birds woman from the film home alone, she was sat outside a station exit and i was going in the pub i thought I'm gonna spend a whole load of money in these pub and gave her £20 hopefully she did something useful with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I work in charity shop voluntary that is my donation.

"

We have a lovely charity shop near where we live, all are volunteers, recently one of the old ladies passed and we contributed to flowers for her funeral as it was the least we could do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On occasion I do, but I tend to instead donate to the local charities and report rough sleepers to the outreach one. So they might get some targeted help.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits. "

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits. "
I know who you mean !

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z."

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong."

Who's the vulnerable one in this scenario?

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits. "

I don't doubt it's all true but it is not really affecting my life so I would rather be a giving and considerate person even if I happen to mistakenly give to someone who does not deserve it rather than miss someone very desperate in need. No offence to anyone thinkinh differently but that's what I prefer

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong."

It is wrong and prevention is better than any cure.

It's ridiculous people expect others to put money in the hands of a stranger that's just nuts

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I used to but I'm a bit cynical with it now as I know addicts who get taxis to and from bus stations or supermarkets only to arrive back talking about the £70 made that morning. I've bought food for people for them to refuse it which is in line with them not being homeless but needing money for other purposes.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong."

Shoplifters,distraction thieves,pickpockets,sex workers.If they are no good at any of those they are forced to be beggars.It is not unknown for the Roma to break the legs of children to make them a more pitiable sight when begging.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Now see what you've done granny "

Yes but it's nothing that wasn't expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong.

Shoplifters,distraction thieves,pickpockets,sex workers.If they are no good at any of those they are forced to be beggars.It is not unknown for the Roma to break the legs of children to make them a more pitiable sight when begging."
- from my own lived experiences of Roma, I believe this.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


" I do , not always but I do....

On emptying my purse one day(silver and copper ) the bloke said to me .... Keep it! What do you think I am a dog ? I'm trying to get a bed for the night!

So I did keep my money and walked on.

Saturday a bloke asked and I said I think i've only got just over a pound. Hold on ..... I opened my purse and found 2 quid and handed it over. He looked at what I gave him and said ... he said .... " I'm a pound short. Can you give me some more......

My eyes went and I said I've given you what i've got and I walked off.

Today I am looking forward to seeing the bloke I call 'the lovely man'. He sits in a liverpool street and each time I quietly drop him something he exchanges pleasantries with a massive smile and wishes me a lovely day and me to him....

Life is a funny old dance. Don't you think?

Looking good today Granny....

I give if I have it, if me giving a few quid over helps improve their day. I also take the time yo stop amd chat with ppl, which I find is sometimes more valuable to ppl than the cash that I've given them."

Thanks G but I do know that

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong.

Shoplifters,distraction thieves,pickpockets,sex workers.If they are no good at any of those they are forced to be beggars.It is not unknown for the Roma to break the legs of children to make them a more pitiable sight when begging. - from my own lived experiences of Roma, I believe this. "

^ that's only the tip of the iceberg.I had experience of them abroad before they were widely known here.They also sell their kids to other Roma,a good pickpocket wil be sold to another Roma family that run pickpocket gangs for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong.

Shoplifters,distraction thieves,pickpockets,sex workers.If they are no good at any of those they are forced to be beggars.It is not unknown for the Roma to break the legs of children to make them a more pitiable sight when begging. - from my own lived experiences of Roma, I believe this. "
- have to add, I’ll always give benefit of the doubt until I know otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I never buy a Big Issue though

The big issue lady in my town in the uk is Roma and actually lives in a much nicer area with her family. Each day her boyfriend drops her off in a Mercedes then picks her up. He looks like a typical Roma enforcer/pimp.

She dresses like a homeless person - work clothes. There was a lot on social media h telling people not to give her money and makes around 300 a day and claims benefits.

Then there's a few here saying don't make assumptions x y and z.

I get that you shouldn’t make assumptions, but you also shouldn’t allow people to fleece the vulnerable. I know Roma well, they have different values, they see their women as income generating assets and they believe it’s ok to take from others. Partly because of how they are marginalised everywhere in the world it’s become a way of life but it’s still wrong.

Shoplifters,distraction thieves,pickpockets,sex workers.If they are no good at any of those they are forced to be beggars.It is not unknown for the Roma to break the legs of children to make them a more pitiable sight when begging. - from my own lived experiences of Roma, I believe this.

^ that's only the tip of the iceberg.I had experience of them abroad before they were widely known here.They also sell their kids to other Roma,a good pickpocket wil be sold to another Roma family that run pickpocket gangs for example."
*nods*

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I generally get the local man a coffee when it's cold although he actually told me to stop & said that the locals used to have a tab going for him so he could go into the local cafe whenever he wanted for a warm meal and drinks, he'd worked up quite the tab.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes i will, sometimes i won’t. I’ll offer to buy food or a drink. I did get shouted at once for not giving change, that one pissed me off as i was in deep thought about how i was going to gather the money to pay an unexpected bill. I did retort to the person shouting at me. Not my proudest moment "

Don't feel bad.

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