FabSwingers.com forum: Unicorns and BBC

By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Excellent, you've fallen into my trap. Now let's get started.

Quick question: Is the term "Unicorn" to women, what "BBC" is to black men?

What I mean is a term that many of the people it refers to find derogatory, while others embrace it and revel in it. Similarly, those searching for said people see no issues in banding the term around, while other outsiders find it distasteful.

Just a Monday musing...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they may well be similar in the sense some hate It and others don’t mind it but I’d definitely argue that it’s unlikely that unicorn is offensive to some women in the same way BBC is to some Black men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Any thread to do with race*

Steve: https://youtu.be/Dcwun-ecmAA

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

What is BBC to black men, I know the acronym but what do you perceive the perception?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No, unicorn just expresses the rarity. BBC is a whole different kettle of fish that has been discussed at length. Some people HATE the term BBC so for this reason alone people should just stop using it. Simples really.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We have never and would never use either term and find them both very kind of, well, childish for want of a better description.

In our experiences, the people that describe themselves in those terms are not the kind of people we find ourselves compatible with.

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By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I think they may well be similar in the sense some hate It and others don’t mind it but I’d definitely argue that it’s unlikely that unicorn is offensive to some women in the same way BBC is to some Black men. "

Fair point. I'm not trying to draw exact parallels. I think it's more a person's immediate reaction to having the terms used about them I was interested in.

LvM

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

"No, unicorn just expresses the rarity. BBC is a whole different kettle of fish that has been discussed at length. Some people HATE the term BBC so for this reason alone people should just stop using it. Simples really."

There would be no language left if we dropped terms because some dislike it.

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By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

There's also plenty of women who loath the the unicorn moniker, so using that same logic, shouldn't it also stop being used?

LvM

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No.

Exotic is closer. Exotic. Grim. Even then it's not got quite the same connotation to it.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Dislike the term unicorn, but the term I loathe on here is being referred to as a snowbunny. Being reduced to one trait makes me feel crap and I won't engage with the message. Though I do appreciate some love it, it's certainly not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excellent, you've fallen into my trap. Now let's get started.

Quick question: Is the term "Unicorn" to women, what "BBC" is to black men?

Just a Monday musing...

LvM"

Whqt is a Unicorn??

Bbc we most know from being in here.

And our payed Licence fee to the ",BBC "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There would be no language left if we dropped terms because some dislike it. "

I don’t think it’s about not using it because some don’t mind it but I think people can use it when it is understood to be ok with the person rather than just assuming people will be ok with it. Same with the C word or calling someone a b*tch or slut etc. I would always make sure there was understanding that the person didn’t mind being called that before using it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dislike the term unicorn, but the term I loathe on here is being referred to as a snowbunny. Being reduced to one trait makes me feel crap and I won't engage with the message. Though I do appreciate some love it, it's certainly not for me"

Wait wait wait wait wait, you like Black men (eyes emoji)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some dislike it, everyone should stop using it? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fall under either so not sure how much my opinion would count on this, but I'd hate to reduce anyone to one trait and wouldn't want to sell myself to meet anyone based on a specific trait I have so I'm not a fan of the labels. But it's also not my place to tell people who do revel in it to stop even if it does continue to push any existing narratives.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

There's also plenty of women who loath the the unicorn moniker, so using that same logic, shouldn't it also stop being used?

LvM"

Technically yes, but unicorn can be applied to anyone that is "rare" in their combination of appealing traits.

I'd want to know what are their actual reasons for loathing it?

Because while they are valid in their feelings and it can be considered objectification (well it is), it still can't really compete with the racial fetishisation that is connected with the BBC label.

Either way the problem is some people loath it and find it offensive having that label attached to them in that way, and some embrace it and use it to their advantage while also encouraging it's use by others.

So long as the latter happens it doesn't really matter what the former want, other than having the label not be used for them after informing others they don't like it applied to them.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

There's also plenty of women who loath the the unicorn moniker, so using that same logic, shouldn't it also stop being used?

LvM"

Yes absolutely though there isn't the same history behind it. We have dropped many words that are seen as offensive and look we still have a language left. Tada.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's also plenty of women who loath the the unicorn moniker, so using that same logic, shouldn't it also stop being used?

LvM"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

There's also plenty of women who loath the the unicorn moniker, so using that same logic, shouldn't it also stop being used?

LvM

Yes absolutely though there isn't the same history behind it. We have dropped many words that are seen as offensive and look we still have a language left. Tada. "

But in the same point some women love the term and use it proudly as their username, it's not a term for me but I accept some like it some don't.

Mrs

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Perhaps PAWG would be more of an equivalent...

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

Yes? No? I don't know, I haven't had enough coffee yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans "

Life is too far gone to just see everyone as human. When people see me I want them to acknowledge and consider how my race may impact me and how words might offend me. And I treat other minoritised groups that way too.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

But people on here always reduce themselves to one or a few traits.

Are you looking for a BBC for your snowbunny? (Common message we get)

BBW, redhead heck even what accent you have threads.

The ones where that's all they care about is their 6 pack.

I think we all intentionally and unintentionally try and emphasise our unique selling point on here, so I guess it's to be expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t a uncorn that magical horse with the horn

And inst BBC a tv channel

I am a Angel

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans

Pickle as the Gambians say

'I've got, a rat, a cat, and a dog in the backyard and they are all playing nicely together'...all I'm saying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans

Pickle as the Gambians say

'I've got, a rat, a cat, and a dog in the backyard and they are all playing nicely together'...all I'm saying... "

And as they say in Jamaica, out of many, one people. Doesn’t mean that pretending the things people face discrimination and persecution for can just be forgotten because we’re all human unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans

Pickle as the Gambians say

'I've got, a rat, a cat, and a dog in the backyard and they are all playing nicely together'...all I'm saying... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps PAWG would be more of an equivalent..."

Yeah I really don't like that one.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans

Pickle as the Gambians say

'I've got, a rat, a cat, and a dog in the backyard and they are all playing nicely together'...all I'm saying...

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans

Pickle as the Gambians say

'I've got, a rat, a cat, and a dog in the backyard and they are all playing nicely together'...all I'm saying... "
Beautifully & succinctly put #embrace & rejoice in our ‘differences’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people have to be labelled as anything other than humans.....let them be humans, do labels not objectify, constrain amd limit us as people, as humans "

Its here amongst us created for a reason and its at full play.

We are humans ,what are we,whom are we,what is our Daily purpose?

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not. "

And that in itself is a privilege

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Unicorns and cannonballs

Palace and piers

Trumpets,towers. nd tenements

Wide oceans full of tears

Flags rags ferryboats

Scimatars and scarves

Every precious dream and vision

Underneath the stars .

How about a unicorn with a bbc

Now that s. Rare

Perhaps our TV friends

But May know better and have found one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not.

And that in itself is a privilege "

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not.

And that in itself is a privilege "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not.

And that in itself is a privilege

Fr "

What does Fr mean? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not.

And that in itself is a privilege

What does Fr mean? x"

For real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pickle aint getting into this with ya, as your so emotionally invested in this stuff and I'm not.

And that in itself is a privilege

What does Fr mean? x

For real"

Now I see it. Thanks x

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

"Unicorns and cannonballs

Palace and piers

Trumpets,towers. nd tenements

Wide oceans full of tears

Flags rags ferryboats

Scimatars and scarves

Every precious dream and vision

Underneath the stars .

How about a unicorn with a bbc

Now that s. Rare

Perhaps our TV friends

But May know better and have found one."

You climbed on the ladder

With the wind in your sails

You came like a comet

Blazing your trail

Too high

Too far

Too soon

Top song, fittingly about understanding the world in a wider context and not just in our self-defined spheres of experience

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Unicorns and cannonballs

Palace and piers

Trumpets,towers. nd tenements

Wide oceans full of tears

Flags rags ferryboats

Scimatars and scarves

Every precious dream and vision

Underneath the stars .

How about a unicorn with a bbc

Now that s. Rare

Perhaps our TV friends

But May know better and have found one.

You climbed on the ladder

With the wind in your sails

You came like a comet

Blazing your trail

Too high

Too far

Too soon

Top song, fittingly about understanding the world in a wider context and not just in our self-defined spheres of experience

Indeed

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Languages?..and people possibly taking offense...I wonder how Canarians cope with the word unicorn as they whistle their messages across the valleys, the land on their island..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair point. I'm not trying to draw exact parallels. I think it's more a person's immediate reaction to having the terms used about them I was interested in.

LvM"

Some love the words and some hate them. I'll never be a BBC so can't feel anything about that. Unicorn makes me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have never and would never use either term and find them both very kind of, well, childish for want of a better description.

In our experiences, the people that describe themselves in those terms are not the kind of people we find ourselves compatible with.

This.

Fyi I'm more a knackered mule than a unicorn

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I was thinking about this earlier on, funny that.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

Cruel to unicorns.

Stop the hate.

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