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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Yesterday I was thinking about friendship, specifically on/from here.

Have you found friends on here? What's important to you in a friendship? Is it something you avoid or embrace on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found two amazing friends on here who I talk to on the daily definitely didn’t come here for friendship but some people are just so fucking delightful you can’t help adding them to your collection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I'm very lucky to have made some amazing friends here. Friends for life.

I think that you need to have the right mindset to make friends here. If you join with the expectation of hooking up, you are not likely to find friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found a friend on her, we used to play but she's in a relationship now however we still chat often and catch up often over coffee about family, friends, work and life in general

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I'm definitely lucky to have made and meet some friends on here.. having so much things in common and similar sense of humour definitely helps lol

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Yes I have met some lovely people on here. Some are friends and my life has been greatly enhanced as a result. I like the quotation " to have a friend you have to be a friend " and try to live by that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm definitely lucky to have made and meet some friends on here.. having so much things in common and similar sense of humour definitely helps lol"

Same, there are normal friends for chat about normal things then there are fab friends you can in a way be more open with

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

we have made a few good friends on here

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yes. Fair few. Some from years back and some more recent.

They've been great support of late even though I've never physically met a couple of them, but the fact I can pick up the phone to someone I've only really interacted with on here or Facey with much over the last few years and talk as if it was only last week that we had a beer is awesome.

Not everyone you encounter on here is just someone you want to get naked with. There are some really good people on Fab.

A

*some twunts too of course, but.....

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Yes and No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a friend on her, we used to play but she's in a relationship now however we still chat often and catch up often over coffee about family, friends, work and life in general"

Would she do the same? If you had met someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Would she do the same? If you had met someone. "

Yes

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I’ve found two amazing friends on here who I talk to on the daily definitely didn’t come here for friendship but some people are just so fucking delightful you can’t help adding them to your collection "

Oh that's adorable! I think you can find your people anywhere - even on a "sex site". Those you add to your collection are the best.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Friendship with no strings attached? Friendship for friendship’s sake? No, not on here.

Don’t get me wrong, I chat to (and have met) some lovely folk on here, but it’s not my friendship they are after, ultimately it’s the sex.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

You’ve got a friend in me

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Yes I have, but not the kind I visit or do stuff with.

They're more than acquaintances but not besties.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"I’ve found two amazing friends on here who I talk to on the daily definitely didn’t come here for friendship but some people are just so fucking delightful you can’t help adding them to your collection "

We have this too. The first time thing they saiid, we knew they were our kind of people and that we’d be friends regardless of whether we played…and apart from a kiss or three, we still haven’t played. But we have a friendship far more important to us than we’d ever expected to find in the lifestyle

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

That depends!

Every person sort of defines "friend" different. What somebody values as a friend may be considered as insulting and offensive to somebody else.

I don't really have many friends away from fab anymore. Again not in the same way others have friends. On top of thst I am extremely picky and selective in whom I let close to me.

When it comes to fab, there are people I value their interaction. I chat to away from here. I enjoy chatting with them, they make me laugh, I talk to them about stuff I would not talk about to just anyone on fab. They are in the area of being friends under the circumstances.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

There are people I'm friendly with, but don't really consider them friends. I'm not here for that

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By *D - CharlieMan
over a year ago

wirral

Met some great people and have a few people I regularly interact with.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes. Loads of social friends on here, and a couple that are now real life friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve made a couple of friends that I chat to on a daily basis, both amazing and very special individuals, I’m also just getting to know somebody else who I get on really well with but I’m hoping that develops into a more fun exciting kind of friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab to me is a chat,connection, more chat, phone call, social and maybe another social before I meet.

I am not attracted to making friends. If I was I would join a friendship group OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve made great friendships on here.

I value people that love me for me, that make me feel valid, that love me for talking on the things that are important and that most of all are patient with me.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I thought maybe I had but in reality no. Think lockdowns etc made me spend more time online and I had more time to chat. But life has resumed and many of these acquaintanceships have frizzled out. I'm not adverse to making friends on here but I'm also limited in time and by location.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have a very small circle of friends in general and always have done but some of my closest friends are people I've met through fab.

Most of those are no longer on the site for various reasons.

I have one very close friend through here and we speak every day without fail and place as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as we do on the benefits.

I've always found the fab friendship term misleading though.

Of the 10 people on my friends list I know absolutely nothing about 9 of them including their name and I have only met 3 of them.

I've had people use my fab friendship as a stepping stone to network and literally walked all over me to get to others.

I've had fab friends I've supported through difficult times and was always there for them throughout covid lockdowns who have repaid that by passing my personal details to others and telling them to have nothing to do with me simply because I said I had no interest in the drama they were creating.

I value friendship for what it is and not what I can use it for.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes I have met some lovely people on here. Some are friends and my life has been greatly enhanced as a result. I like the quotation " to have a friend you have to be a friend " and try to live by that. "

Oh that's a lovely quote! Thank you for sharing it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I’ve made great friendships on here.

I value people that love me for me, that make me feel valid, that love me for talking on the things that are important and that most of all are patient with me. "

I think this sums up friendships on fab.

I think the neediness of so many makes it unrealistic that ‘real’ friendships form , it’s just people needing stuff - sex , attention, validation etc. I prefer friendships that challenge and hold me to account and force he to sacrifice something of myself & I deep down know they will be there forever , not just while it suits.

1 or 2 in 10 years here

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood


"Yes I have met some lovely people on here. Some are friends and my life has been greatly enhanced as a result. I like the quotation " to have a friend you have to be a friend " and try to live by that.

Oh that's a lovely quote! Thank you for sharing it. "

Do friends squish their boobs in other friends faces?? Because Meli - I definitely want to be your friend!!

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart


"Yesterday I was thinking about friendship, specifically on/from here.

Have you found friends on here? What's important to you in a friendship? Is it something you avoid or embrace on here? "

Friendship is always a good thing no matter where you find it

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I've met some amazing friends on fab...

As the saying goes ' people are a reason, a season or a lifetime'

I believe I've experienced all 3 of these with people I've met through fab

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm not a good friend as I rarely speak to anyone who is on my friend list, but then again they never chat to me

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

As usual an interesting question you pose.

Yes it's terribly important to me that my lovers are also friends. Going to bed with someone is a very intimate and vulnerable act. I therefore need to trust and like the person. I also only seek ongoing so a friendship is inevitable.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes. Fair few. Some from years back and some more recent.

They've been great support of late even though I've never physically met a couple of them, but the fact I can pick up the phone to someone I've only really interacted with on here or Facey with much over the last few years and talk as if it was only last week that we had a beer is awesome.

Not everyone you encounter on here is just someone you want to get naked with. There are some really good people on Fab.

A

*some twunts too of course, but....."

Yeah, let's gloss over the twunts part. :D

I don't think you have to have met someone to make their friendship more valid or real - it can exist without physical contact. Or daily.

People really can be wonderful in terms of support can't they? I've struggled in the past with opening up to people fully, in part because I dislike the vulnerability that comes with it, in part because you don't know if they're open to it. Lately though? I don't know.

It's really nice to be seen for all of me. I have a close friend who I sort of brushed off when he asked how I was really doing. And then a few minutes later I could speak honestly with him. So I did. It meant a lot to me.

People aren't bad, not really. And when you let them in? You find your little village.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Yes I have. I didn't expect to but definitely. They are fairly new friendships - we've not been here that long but I can imagine them lasting.

J

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Yesterday I was thinking about friendship, specifically on/from here.

Have you found friends on here? What's important to you in a friendship? Is it something you avoid or embrace on here? "

Yes definitely and also no.

Let me explain!

I have met many people who became close friends, some who were my freinds and some who wanted only to be aquantences.

I used to be part of a KIK group where we did loads of vanilla things as well and fab things. Organise birthday meals, go to the theatre. Professional photos etc.

Some were even content enough to befriend each other on a certain blue and white social networking site and had each other private numbers.

Alas the group no longer really talk to each other anymore over 1/2 group have left the scene. And 1 member who's still on fab has made it subtly clear she no longer wants to associate with the group.

So as not to give too much away. I not against freinships from fab, and it's not something I would avoid. You have a mutal interest (or two). But there are people who are sceptical and want only the sex to spice up their marriage etc. friendships need working on like any relationship and some are better at it than other ls just like vannila life.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I am still in touch with people I have met years ago - only last night i got a few whatsapps from a lady i havent seen in person for over 5 years but we are regularly in touch - and one day we will recreate the meeting we often talk about. We talk about all sorts and not just swinging… just everything! There are others too… and some just want what they want and no attachment as such - thats also ok.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

Have made a few friends on here certainly, to varying degrees ....chat to some every day.. others a but more infrequently...but still chat more than 'meet 'as it were .

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"You’ve got a friend in me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There people I talk to every day on here and some even off here who I live speaking to and find genuinely delightful and even though we may not meet up often (or even met at all) I'd like to think they were my friends

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"That depends!

Every person sort of defines "friend" different. What somebody values as a friend may be considered as insulting and offensive to somebody else.

I don't really have many friends away from fab anymore. Again not in the same way others have friends. On top of thst I am extremely picky and selective in whom I let close to me.

When it comes to fab, there are people I value their interaction. I chat to away from here. I enjoy chatting with them, they make me laugh, I talk to them about stuff I would not talk about to just anyone on fab. They are in the area of being friends under the circumstances."

Yes, that's true. It's very much an individual term. I sometimes try and differentiate by using the term hibye friends - you know the sort you'd say 'oh yes, let's definitely do coffee soon' to when you see them randomly? Yep.

I think good friendships transcend Fab. The sort of people you can see leaving an imprint on you, even long after conversation has stopped. Ideally it wouldn't but life happens. Those people you can talk to about a myriad of topics are to be treasured. Not put on a pedestal though.:D

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By *ibi_curiousCouple
over a year ago

Shepperton

Mary and I found each other on fabswingers 4yrs ago come November. We never intended to become friends, but now we are more then friends xx

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I've got a number of friends here

That I've not met in person yet

Some I never will but still we been friends for years .

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"There are people I'm friendly with, but don't really consider them friends. I'm not here for that "

Ah that's fair enough! It's good to get different viewpoints. I know a few people who keep things very much like that - friendly but on Fab for sex.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford


"There are people I'm friendly with, but don't really consider them friends. I'm not here for that "

I’d lean towards this. There are people I look forward to seeing but not necessarily people I would call in a time if need or destress.

There are also people I look out for if I spot or feel like they’re having a rough time but like Nanna said, more than acquaintances, less than friends….. so maybe ‘mates’

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

For me this is not really the place for serious friendships. I know some have done. Think sites like these, there are too many adverse motivations to develop serious friendships but there are a few who have no doubt.

Interests play a big part as commonality helps.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We have couples who we count as fab friends but its strictly fab only. We would never let anyone into our real lives or even close to it. Guys who are over friendly hit the 'white knight' alarm bell so we avoid those.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Yesterday I was thinking about friendship, specifically on/from here.

Have you found friends on here? What's important to you in a friendship? Is it something you avoid or embrace on here? "

I didn't mind it but on the whole I'd avoid it as I'm fairly cautious about my personal life. I've definitely reached out less though, largely due to health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people I'm friendly with, but don't really consider them friends. I'm not here for that

Ah that's fair enough! It's good to get different viewpoints. I know a few people who keep things very much like that - friendly but on Fab for sex."

I've always thought of swinging as making friends with sexually like minded people and if sex occurs then even better but i know thats likely not how others see swinging and more as NSA sex a bit like tinder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met a couple on here that I know I could mail if I needed a chat

The only real life friends on here are those I knew before the site

Scary to say but I would not be alive if it wasn't for friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have met a couple on here that I know I could mail if I needed a chat

The only real life friends on here are those I knew before the site

Scary to say but I would not be alive if it wasn't for friends"

It's good to know that you made friends on here that were there to help you through tough times

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