FabSwingers.com forum: Photos Vs the mirror

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a photo of me the other day and thought wow this man needs some work

I also take a selfie and think do I really look like that.

The feeling of a fairground hall of mirrors comes to mind

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs "

No the mirrors I have are evil bastards….

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I like my photos because I dissociate from them - they don't have my face in so aren't me type thing.

The mirror I avoid at all costs

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I much prefer the me I see in the mirror rather than pics

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

We all criticise ourselves too much but hopefully that’s what’s drives us… sadly I keep parking at the biscuit barrel….

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It depends on the photo but a bad photo is worse than the mirror.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think a lot of us have the wrong impression of our bodies. I'm frequently surprised by my photos and every season I'm surprised that last year's clothes fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admit I'm no photographer, so angles and kind lighting are witchcraft to me! But God I look terrible in most pics! I don't recognise my own face now! It's slightly worrying that I can look in the mirror sometimes and think...oh not too bad today then!

So I've no idea if the pics or the mirror is the true likeness any more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope your not the only one I think I look better in pictures than in the mirror

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I look back at pictures of myself I struggle to believe that I actually look like that sometimes. In my head I look bigger than I actually am, I hate my side profile in the mirror but in pictures it looks completely different. One of them is lying to me!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs "

A lot of what we see in the mirror is through the filter of our emotions. Its prejudged. Either that or youve got one of those circus mirrors that squidges you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life hack… only ever look at yourself in gym mirrors. I swear they’re magical.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I hate to generalise, but mirrors are evil bastards. All of them.

They lie often, but always seem to know which bits of ourselves we like the least and magnify those.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs "

I'm sure you already know this....but angles, light, body position etc. And any filters used.

I took some new ones last night as haven't in a bloody long time. I was worried as I've lost about a stone and a half in the last month.

But I'm happy with them.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I was having this conversation with a friend yesterday as i dont like pics of myself and she was talking about angles, i have no idea about them.

What i do l need though is one of those circus mirrors now after indulging a little too much on holiday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone can look good in well staged photos. It's a bit harder to hide when you're looking in the mirror.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I find it's very much linked to state of mind. The times I catch myself in the mirror slouching and getting out of bed and what have you aren't my sexiest angles, but they're also jot my sexiest moods, so my perception of myself is lower.

Usually, when I'm looking at deliberate photos, they're usually taken in a positive state of mind so looking at them immediately after is a more positive mindset rather than one that focuses on all the flaws.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I like my photos because I dissociate from them - they don't have my face in so aren't me type thing.

The mirror I avoid at all costs

I think this is me too, my photos don't feel like me, more an alter ego maybe

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"When I look back at pictures of myself I struggle to believe that I actually look like that sometimes. In my head I look bigger than I actually am, I hate my side profile in the mirror but in pictures it looks completely different. One of them is lying to me! "

I'm the same, I look back at photos and think wow that was me, but then I see the mirror and I'm sure I think I'm larger than I really am too

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Anyone can look good in well staged photos. It's a bit harder to hide when you're looking in the mirror. "

Yeah I get that, these aren't staged photos though just got it on and clicked away

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took some new ones last night as haven't in a bloody long time. I was worried as I've lost about a stone and a half in the last month.

But I'm happy with them.

Hey ya pineapple is the wrong way round! FAF!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It goes back and forth for me.

Some of my pics are better than reality

Some of my reality is better than the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone can look good in well staged photos. It's a bit harder to hide when you're looking in the mirror.

Yeah I get that, these aren't staged photos though just got it on and clicked away

Mrs "

Holy fuckballs I’ve just looked through your pics! They’re amazing!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's weird but the colour of the clothing and design of the garmet change how we look at the appearance. Mind trickery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone can look good in well staged photos. It's a bit harder to hide when you're looking in the mirror.

Yeah I get that, these aren't staged photos though just got it on and clicked away

Mrs "

Then it's all in your head. Too much pressure for people to look perfect. I stopped worrying about it. I expect to look like I'm fat and 50 because that's what I am, so the mirror doesn't surprise me anymore. It's all about accepting who you are and that what you look like doesn't determine that. Pictures only capture a snapshot and can be either flattering or they can go the other way. How often has someone taken a picture that you weren't ready for and you see it and think "eeek I look awful in that picture"?!

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sligo

Nothing worse than those weird mirrors in Changing rooms where you can see yourself at every angle and you think f**k is that what I look like from the side or behind.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs "

You're not comparing like with like. There's a few things to tease apart. Cameras are 2D, our eyes are 3D. The way they process images is very different. We can alter what a camera sees but the human eye is not as easily manipulated, it's still possible but there's a more limited range.

Then there's mirrors, are we seeing a true image of ourselves in a mirror.

Finally there's how we see ourselves. Taking pictures can be difficult, taking hot pictures can be really really difficult.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I like my photos because I dissociate from them - they don't have my face in so aren't me type thing.

The mirror I avoid at all costs

I’m the same.

I only have one mirror and it’s as per my teenage daughter’s request.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

I always find myslef different in a photo and mirrors.

It can go either way, sometimes photo is good and sometimes mirror is good.. sometimes lighting and angle changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I've noticed a lot in my face recently. I hate selfies as a whole but went on an activity with friends last week where we took photos and was horrified with how fat my face looked and hated it, especially when I didn't think it was that bad in a mirror.

It seems the opposite of my body though where I notice the flaws more in the mirror than I do in photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's something I've noticed a lot in my face recently. I hate selfies as a whole but went on an activity with friends last week where we took photos and was horrified with how fat my face looked and hated it, especially when I didn't think it was that bad in a mirror.

It seems the opposite of my body though where I notice the flaws more in the mirror than I do in photos."

That’s exactly how I feel. I quite like my face in the mirror but feel I look awkward on selfies.

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By *utspanCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs "

Hello Mrs,

This is Mrs replying you x

In my opinion your pics reveal sensuality… and you are definitely not a weird one on here, as I am feeling exactly the same.. I am older than you as well, so let’s be honest… my “glorious & young “ body’s time had may have passed by now, however experiencing these new adventures on the swing side made me realising how lucky I am still, as the sensuality of an encounter could give you more than what mirrors can ever “say”

Enjoy it!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

It seems the opposite of my body though where I notice the flaws more in the mirror than I do in photos.

That’s exactly how I feel. I quite like my face in the mirror but feel I look awkward on selfies. "

Phone cameras have a tighter focal range, especially the front facing ones are not wide enough for selfies to be flattering. They distort us close up.

It is better to take a selfie at a distance and either sometimes zoom in or crop the image after - results vary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems the opposite of my body though where I notice the flaws more in the mirror than I do in photos.

That’s exactly how I feel. I quite like my face in the mirror but feel I look awkward on selfies.

Phone cameras have a tighter focal range, especially the front facing ones are not wide enough for selfies to be flattering. They distort us close up.

It is better to take a selfie at a distance and either sometimes zoom in or crop the image after - results vary."

That’ll explain why I think I look better when someone else takes the picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems the opposite of my body though where I notice the flaws more in the mirror than I do in photos.

That’s exactly how I feel. I quite like my face in the mirror but feel I look awkward on selfies.

Phone cameras have a tighter focal range, especially the front facing ones are not wide enough for selfies to be flattering. They distort us close up.

It is better to take a selfie at a distance and either sometimes zoom in or crop the image after - results vary."

Oh that's quite interesting, and something I'll probably end up looking at practicing and playing with my phone camera for the next hour

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

It seems the opposite of my body though where I notice the flaws more in the mirror than I do in photos.

That’s exactly how I feel. I quite like my face in the mirror but feel I look awkward on selfies.

Phone cameras have a tighter focal range, especially the front facing ones are not wide enough for selfies to be flattering. They distort us close up.

It is better to take a selfie at a distance and either sometimes zoom in or crop the image after - results vary."

Modern phones do so much image processing that I don't think the front facing camera in particular is a good representation of your actual appearance. What you're seeing is what the phone optimises from the image it captures

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Anyone can look good in well staged photos. It's a bit harder to hide when you're looking in the mirror.

Yeah I get that, these aren't staged photos though just got it on and clicked away

Mrs

Holy fuckballs I’ve just looked through your pics! They’re amazing! "

Thank you that's really kind the Mr is good with his camera x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"So we did some sexy pics last night, after putting on some weight I'm at the point of looking in the mirror and going urgh.... Doesn't look like me I see all the flaws.

But.... The pics I actually look good, no where near as big as envisaged myself through the mirror.

Anyway why is it I can look so different, maybe it's the lingere? Does anyone else find themselves liking there photos more than the mirror or vice versa?

Or am I just a weirdo (well I know I am but still)

Mrs

Hello Mrs,

This is Mrs replying you x

Enjoy it!

Thank you, I think that's part of why I love the pics, the intimacy and sensuality of them.

Mrs

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Vice Versa.

If I look in the mirror with correct lighting and good make up and hair ....... I have that 'smug' sort of reaction that says ...... not a day over 40 and still got it! ( that's nowt below the shoulders though )

Taking a selfie of other body parts ( medical reasons ) yesterday I accidentally caught some of my face. I looked like a grimacing walnut that was busy having the last drop of life sucked out of it and as if i'd kill anything that so much as smiled an hello .......

I'm sticking to the mirror post getting ready to go out.

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