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Rate my profile and tips on first messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey Danvers looking for some criticism on the profile and advise on the type of first message that should be sent to people you are interested in?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Thr best message is one that appeals to them, from someone they find attractive and likely compatible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thr best message is one that appeals to them, from someone they find attractive and likely compatible "

Should it be about me or about what I like about them. How explicit should the message be

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Thr best message is one that appeals to them, from someone they find attractive and likely compatible

Should it be about me or about what I like about them. How explicit should the message be "

If it's only about you it's easy to read it as a band copy paste that's sent out to every viable orifice.

If it's about them, make sure it's about them and what theyve shown and said, and not whatever you're fantasising about and want to slot them in to.

How explicit it should be will vary wildly depending in what they say on their profile. I say I don't want wank fodder in my inbox, so don't send me explicit shit. I have friends who ask men to tell them exactly what they want to do to them on their profile, so sending them the smut is the right choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thr best message is one that appeals to them, from someone they find attractive and likely compatible

Should it be about me or about what I like about them. How explicit should the message be

If it's only about you it's easy to read it as a band copy paste that's sent out to every viable orifice.

If it's about them, make sure it's about them and what theyve shown and said, and not whatever you're fantasising about and want to slot them in to.

How explicit it should be will vary wildly depending in what they say on their profile. I say I don't want wank fodder in my inbox, so don't send me explicit shit. I have friends who ask men to tell them exactly what they want to do to them on their profile, so sending them the smut is the right choice."

Thank you kindly, any criticism on the profile

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Thank you kindly, any criticism on the profile "

Not especially. To me it kind of reads like an AI wrote it rather than an actual person, and there seems a lot of fluff for not much actual content, but that's probably just my brain being odd. What appeals to me isn't necessarily what appeals to the people you want to appeal to.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Hey ChatGPT, write me an introduction message on a dating profile"

You don't have to go crazy, just be authentic. Not everyone will like the real you, but someone will and if you try to change yourself to fit what you think they like, they will smell it a mile away.

(Mr)

Personally I'm a huge goofball with a daft sense of humour and a massive dollop of self-deprecation. I'm not above sending pictures of my cock with googly-eyes stuck to it, but I only ever did that once for someone special.

Find something about yourself that is real, unique so it stands out and don't be an Everyman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t seen jumpers with belts on the outside and new(ish) combats

Thought the woolly pully was long gone.

Everyday is a school day

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're not your target audience so this might not be useful.

For us a first message just needs to be an introduction and to briefly show you've read our profile.

If your profile is working for you and you feel it represents you it's the right one.

Good luck

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