FabSwingers.com forum: Eating out alone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you comfortable doing so?

I've done it a fair bit, but usually when I'm in other countries. If I do here it's usually just lunch.

I'm planning on taking myself out for dinner tonight... Might try and get myself a bit tipsy so I can take advantage of the situation.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"Are you comfortable doing so?

I've done it a fair bit, but usually when I'm in other countries. If I do here it's usually just lunch.

I'm planning on taking myself out for dinner tonight... Might try and get myself a bit tipsy so I can take advantage of the situation."

Good on you.

Hope it turns in to an adventure for you mate

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yep. I have done working away or on a solo trip somewhere. I really enjoy it! I can order exactly what I want (normally some sort of cheese and a garlicky dish) without feeling sorry for the poor sap sitting across from me. It's great for people watching.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, far from it actually. It's nice to have that time to me. And I love food (evidently).

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

I fucking hate doing anything alone but have done work work many times.

It's not so bad with phones to be fair but I still wonder if that couple over there thinks I've been stood up

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No not very

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep. I have done working away or on a solo trip somewhere. I really enjoy it! I can order exactly what I want (normally some sort of cheese and a garlicky dish) without feeling sorry for the poor sap sitting across from me. It's great for people watching.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, far from it actually. It's nice to have that time to me. And I love food (evidently)."

The good thing about eating with someone though is you get to order loads and then try everything.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, far from it actually. It's nice to have that time to me. And I love food (evidently).

The good thing about eating with someone though is you get to order loads and then try everything."

So you're not meant to do that alone? Fuck, this is an epiphany and a half.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, far from it actually. It's nice to have that time to me. And I love food (evidently).

The good thing about eating with someone though is you get to order loads and then try everything.

So you're not meant to do that alone? Fuck, this is an epiphany and a half."

Haha! I like your style.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes often! X

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Are you comfortable doing so?

I've done it a fair bit, but usually when I'm in other countries. If I do here it's usually just lunch.

I'm planning on taking myself out for dinner tonight... Might try and get myself a bit tipsy so I can take advantage of the situation."
i eat out alone a lot i enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a massive fan of it but don't mind it for say breakfast or at a café. People watching can be fun but do get a bit of FOMO seeing others laughing, joking and living life in all its rich tapestry with each other

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

When I was cabin crew I did it all the time. As long as I had a book to read I really enjoyed it. It seems a bit indulgent to do nowadays as it would mean leaving B and the kids at home.

Some restaurants are more suited to it than others. Nothing too romantic or aimed at big groups of friends, that feels a little odd.

Hope you have a lovely meal and treat yourself to a pudding!

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

After my marriage failed and I moved out I spent a lot of time eating in pubs alone feeling sorry for myself but then I discovered sex clubs and all was well in the world again

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

I’ve done it with work loads. It’s a nice experience as I don’t want to sat in my room alone for hours. Sometimes in restaurants with other solo diners you can strike up a nice convo.

The good restaurants will know to pace well because it’s different pacing when you don’t have a someone with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After my marriage failed and I moved out I spent a lot of time eating in pubs alone feeling sorry for myself but then I discovered sex clubs and all was well in the world again

Do they serve meals there?

I might actually consider going then.

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

Working away from home occasionally I do this and have no issue with it at all

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I'm afraid I'm not. I really wish I was but I've never had the confidence to eat alone, especially when I've had to stay in a hotel for work; I end up dining in my room.

It's the same for Fab socials: I'm not good with the 'Billy no mates' scenario and will usually hang around outside until I see someone familiar with whom to enter the bar with, or just turn up with a friend.

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

As a travelling gent with work I’m often dining alone.

I take a book and often end up chatting with staff and fellow clientele. I’ve never had an issue with my own company but do find that these spontaneous conversations are often joyous.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I tend to prefer eating with someone else, but mostly because I like getting multiple nibbly bits rather than a main course and we can get way more variety if there's more people to feed.

I've eaten out alone a few times, it's nice to have peace and just people watch sometimes. But it's not something I do often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kids trying to steal my food, getting to eat while it’s still hot! Sounds like heaven.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refuse to let being on my own again stop me doing nice things. So yep taking myself out for dinner, cocktails! Why not!

I've even taken myself on holiday

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to prefer eating with someone else, but mostly because I like getting multiple nibbly bits rather than a main course and we can get way more variety if there's more people to feed."

Yeah, this is a huge downside.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I refuse to let being on my own again stop me doing nice things. So yep taking myself out for dinner, cocktails! Why not!

I've even taken myself on holiday "

I do. I'm quite comfortable doing things on my own - I usually travel alone too.

Just wondering about others as a lot of people I know wouldn't.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I was actually just wondering where to take myself for dinner tonight... So, yeah, I am fine with it

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By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole

Impressive flexibility!!

I tried a few years ago, couldn’t get close : (

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Not in a proper restaurant. Mainly because I can't be bothered to get dressed to go out on my own; I'd rather stay in and eat chocolate.

I've had a meal in a Beefeater on my own when I had a few hours break on a hospital appointment. I'd only eat out alone if I were already out and fancied something nice.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"After my marriage failed and I moved out I spent a lot of time eating in pubs alone feeling sorry for myself but then I discovered sex clubs and all was well in the world again

Do they serve meals there?

I might actually consider going then."

Finger food

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Yes, I'm comfortable doing that...I'm taking myself on a date to the cinema next week, and now you've mentioned it I think I might treat myself to dinner too!

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I quite often have lunch out alone if I'm out and about. Doesn't bother me. Not sure I would do the same for dinner though, don't know why bit it feels different. B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to various reasons I am in no way a foodie and my tastes are standard. Hence I have no issue eating alone as most friends have different tastes.

My main meal is usually lunch time as when I prefer to have it and often in the pub alone, often with a paper or book.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No, I'm terrible at this. Happy in a coffee shop, but I don't eat alone anywhere that feels more restaurant-y. I know this is a failing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely yes, I'm generally happy in my own company

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, far from it actually. It's nice to have that time to me. And I love food (evidently)."

Pretty similar for me, I am happy doing anything by myself and wouldn't let a lack of company stop me. Dinner, concerts, events etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, luv it...

As well as in good company, but sometimes a quiet lonesome meal in nice surroundings can be just as delightful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I'm terrible at this. Happy in a coffee shop, but I don't eat alone anywhere that feels more restaurant-y. I know this is a failing."

Not a failing at all - don't see it that way.

If you want to just try it a few times.

If you don't want to or are not bothered it doesn't matter anyway.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I go on holiday alone so eat out alone and it really doesn't bother me. Feels a bit more awkward at home but I still do it.

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By *ayzDreamingMan
over a year ago

Shipton bellinger

I have no issues eating alone, I'm quite happy in my own company, gives me time to think. Plus I'm a Mexican food freak, so I'm sure people would get bored of the same thing hehe

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm happy in my own company and happy to eat out alone. Done so many times in the past when single and/or traveling. I enjoy nice food, drink and service and see no shame or embarrassment about earing out alone.

I remember being away on a works course in London about 15 years. I was going out for dinner when the male colleague who was attending with me asked if he could come. We were on rates for food and supplementary expenses. So we left the hotel to find a nice restaurant. We asked for a table for two and they placed in a beautiful part of the restaurant. They came over a put a candle on the table (no one else had a candle). They were smiling a lot at us and insinuating things (in a lovely way). It was clear they had got the wrong impression about the nature of our being out together. I believe they thought we were on a first date. To be fair 15 years ago that was a fairly progressive attitude and quite sweet how they tried to make it romantic. I didn't say anything but the other guy was a traditional Protestant Northern Irish lad and when he clocked made sure the waiter knew the score (or maybe the lady doth protest too much). The waiter was very apologetic and we got a free drink out of it. Anyway that was a totally umessecerary cut away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no issues eating alone, I'm quite happy in my own company, gives me time to think. Plus I'm a Mexican food freak, so I'm sure people would get bored of the same thing hehe"

You live near me - there isn't any decent Mexican restaurants local (or any at all really).

Absolutely fuming about it tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm happy in my own company and happy to eat out alone. Done so many times in the past when single and/or traveling. I enjoy nice food, drink and service and see no shame or embarrassment about earing out alone.

Mr"

That's cute and funny.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Nope...im too stingy. Lol

I cook for myself instead

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I (Mr) have done it quite a lot when away with work. If you've been in meetings all day, and dealing with "challenging" colleagues and clients, it can be nice to have a bit of space where you can decompress on your own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope...im too stingy. Lol

I cook for myself instead

I usually do but today I cba and need a treat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't mind if it was a fast food place. I wouldn't enjoy myself alone in a nice restaurant

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you comfortable doing so?

I've done it a fair bit, but usually when I'm in other countries. If I do here it's usually just lunch.

I'm planning on taking myself out for dinner tonight... Might try and get myself a bit tipsy so I can take advantage of the situation."

100%. More power to you. It's amazing how many people are not comfortable in their own company.

Learn to love yourself and others will see that in you. Have a splendid evening.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I have eaten out alone a few times and have actually really enjoyed the experience.

There’s no pressure to talk or have the other person ask you a question at the most inconvenient moment I.e when you’re busy chewing(!) I blooming well hate it when someone waits for you to load a glorious gob full into your mouth before then firing off an invariably bloody daft question!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I blooming well hate it when someone waits for you to load a glorious gob full into your mouth before then firing off an invariably bloody daft question!

I do that when I eat out with female friends tbh.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I have eaten out alone a few times and have actually really enjoyed the experience.

‘Are you enjoying that?’ - Well I would be if you’d bloody well allow me to!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I blooming well hate it when someone waits for you to load a glorious gob full into your mouth before then firing off an invariably bloody daft question!

I do that when I eat out with female friends tbh.

It’s surely a form of psychological torture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to but I wish I could make myself

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Nope...im too stingy. Lol

I cook for myself instead

I usually do but today I cba and need a treat."

Go for it so!!!and give yourself some love afterwards

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

We both often eat out alone as our work takes us all over the place, and we don't work together. Sometimes get chatting to strangers, sometimes can't be bothered and just enjoy the meal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope...im too stingy. Lol

I cook for myself instead

I usually do but today I cba and need a treat.

Go for it so!!!and give yourself some love afterwards

Gonna ask for candles and woo myself.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Yes, I'm comfortable doing that...I'm taking myself on a date to the cinema next week, and now you've mentioned it I think I might treat myself to dinner too! "

Oohhh what ya watching?? I am talking myself for Korean food and the new Turtles movie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ate out alone last week. Twice I was questioned if I was waiting for someone to join me.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Oooooh yes I like it

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Are you comfortable doing so?

I've done it a fair bit, but usually when I'm in other countries. If I do here it's usually just lunch.

I'm planning on taking myself out for dinner tonight... Might try and get myself a bit tipsy so I can take advantage of the situation."

I'm happy going to the pub or for a meal on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time , for breakfast or lunch, for dinner in a nice restaurant I find people can be a bit judgy or curious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I did fish and chips by the river (which is disappointing as it's low) with a bottle of wine.

Not quite eating out but would recommend.

Still want squid and lamb from that restaurant though.

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By *addad99Man
over a year ago

Rotherham /newquay

Funnily enough I've just booked a table for Saturday at local Indian not been out in ages around here I'm ok eating out on my own but always better with company be it a friend or a date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After years of working away and alone, it's fine

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I contemplated it tonight, but when I looked it the window it was full of couples and made me feel

So home and a ready meal for one instead

Tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm pretty comfortable doing so. I have never been for dinner by myself though. I'm going away soon on my own and will try to make it a goal of mine.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Do proper restaurants charge extra for one person seated?

I read somewhere the posh ones do.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Just make sure you know your boundaries, don’t get yourself too d*unk and end up scaring yourself away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do proper restaurants charge extra for one person seated?

I read somewhere the posh ones do."

I would not know about that.

I tip generously with cash though so a server isn't getting screwed.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Do proper restaurants charge extra for one person seated?

I read somewhere the posh ones do.

I would not know about that.

I tip generously with cash though so a server isn't getting screwed."

We always tip with cash.

I rarely carry cash but get some out if we're going for food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been to restrants, pubs, and currantly sat in scotland on my own watch the bttc touring cars, its not the best feeling but least you wont upset or piss anyone off on your table hahaha

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I used to do it a lot and strange at first but ok after the first few times. I don't though now. Enjoy

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

I couldn’t think of anything worse than dinning on my own… the conversation would be so boring to say the least…

like someone else said I’d feel people would think I’ve been stood up and all eyes would be on me.

But on the good side (and in a nice way) reading some people’s responses to this who come across as super confident but would find it a struggle shows I’m not alone…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I couldn’t think of anything worse than dinning on my own… the conversation would be so boring to say the least…

like someone else said I’d feel people would think I’ve been stood up and all eyes would be on me.

But on the good side (and in a nice way) reading some people’s responses to this who come across as super confident but would find it a struggle shows I’m not alone…"

Yeah, I mean... it's a pretty personal thing anyway and it interests me with the people I know in real life - doesn't always reflect what you'd think.

Bon appetite.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

I'll probably do it this weekend.. I like people watching and eating out

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By *rtic explorerMan
over a year ago

ring road bristol

Do it often with work.

Some one recently showed me the way to improve it. Ask fellow solo diners if they want to share a table and have a random conversation and not stare at their phone for an hour or two. It often leads to a better dining experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do it often with work.

I mostly dine alone because I want to.

I can see that being fun though!

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