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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you spice a sex life up in a marriage.

We use to have an amasing sex life, whereas now its the same old, even starts the same way, and very rarely happens. I really want it to reignite as i have a high sex drive, im finding im losing stamina as well now its not a regular occurance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you spice a sex life up in a marriage.

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Oh wow. Where do I start??

Be careful what you wish for op. (My story is full of woeful regrets and heartache)

Talk, talk and talk to them. And when you think you’ve spoke to them enough. Ask them to talk and listen. *just my opinion and I am not a relationship councillor.

Good luck.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"How do you spice a sex life up in a marriage.

We use to have an amasing sex life, whereas now its the same old, even starts the same way, and very rarely happens. I really want it to reignite as i have a high sex drive, im finding im losing stamina as well now its not a regular occurance "
if youve been married for years and years and years and you have a good communicative interaction you could start by saying I've joined fabswingers to spice up our sex life nothing too strenuous mind

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

OP I think this don’t go well for you. Woody B’s advice is spot on.

I’d venture to say if you genuinely want to sort things, having a profile on here may not be ideal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re on here without her knowledge I would say you’re off to a crap start

Surely it’s better to try and address it with her than coming on to a swinging site looking to meet others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile, that'll set things alight, one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show her your profile, that'll set things alight, one way or another. "

Kaboom

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I'm going to go serious on this one.

The people saying talk to her have it exactly right. But you have to do it right so she doesn't feel defensive.

Is it because she's tired when you've got the horn? Consider making a move on a morning on a day you've both got time. Why is she tired - are you doing your fair share of admin and house shit?

Are you browsing this site when you should actually be telling her how much you fancy and desire her?

Have you both stopped making any effort to touch each other in a non-sexual way? If a cuddle always then leads to let's fuck then she'll just feel used.

Some things to ponder.

J

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

And if you're losing stamina see your doctor. And let her know. Because 100% she'll think it's her fault - either that she's doing something wrong or that you don't find her attractive.

J

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Are you not meeting regularly on here, your verification says different...

Talk to your wife and be honest with your needs and listen to hers, you may be mismatched now, as people change and menopause especially can make sex painful for her

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I highly recommend going to a proper relationship counsellor or sex therapist with your other half.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Do things outside of the bedroom and the rest should follow. Enjoy time together...maybe out of town. Walks, picnics etc.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Perhaps your wife has a sense you’re cheating on her and discussing your marriage with strangers on a swinging site. That would dry me right up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do things outside of the bedroom and the rest should follow. Enjoy time together...maybe out of town. Walks, picnics etc."

……

You’d think wouldn’t you.

But not always.

We can all give our opinions on this stuff. But I can tell you one thing. The advice we all give is one’s we think would/would have worked for ourselves.

And we all sound wise, but sometimes it doesn’t work because we are reliant on the othe party to have the same feelings and desires.

Another one is knowing yourself how important it is over how much you want to stay together. Becky can tear a relationship apart. But, I hope for you op that it grows you both closer than you’ve ever been.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Unlos already. Blimey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you spice a sex life up in a marriage.

We use to have an amasing sex life, whereas now its the same old, even starts the same way, and very rarely happens. I really want it to reignite as i have a high sex drive, im finding im losing stamina as well now its not a regular occurance "

You posted and went UNLOS????

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