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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I got a job offer but have turned it down when receiving the phone call.

She was annoyed but ended the call amicably.. after apologies.

I told her the reason was it was a long way for me to travel. But didn't mention I had doubts about the responsibility of the the job and the pressure I'd be under.

After checking, she advertises a few jobs for local government jobs so I might have spoilt my chances with those future job advertisements.

Is it a bad idea to email her explaining the job felt beyond me due to the high responsibility and would look forward to applying for jobs of a lesser grade?

Or am I digging myself a deeper hole by doing that?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

If you don't ask the question the answer will always be no.

You have nothing to lose by being honesty to her, and perhaps everything to gain.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Did you feel happy about the job when you applied ?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

She was annoyed? Sounds like you dodged a bullet there pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you feel happy about the job when you applied ?"

Yes, but 2nd thought crept in.

I've been in a similar level of responsibility and pressure and anxiety of what if I mess up anxiety crept in. I don't really want to go there again really.. I push myself but too hard I think

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"I got a job offer but have turned it down when receiving the phone call.

She was annoyed but ended the call amicably.. after apologies.

I told her the reason was it was a long way for me to travel. But didn't mention I had doubts about the responsibility of the the job and the pressure I'd be under.

After checking, she advertises a few jobs for local government jobs so I might have spoilt my chances with those future job advertisements.

Is it a bad idea to email her explaining the job felt beyond me due to the high responsibility and would look forward to applying for jobs of a lesser grade?

Or am I digging myself a deeper hole by doing that?"

Put it out of your head and congratulate yourself on your self awareness. It's the old promotion to incompetence stuff. Start looking for the job you want instead. Local Government. I assume it's some kind of locum work. There will be plenty of those jobs and the recruiter will soon forget all about you. Oh, and people are often not as mean spirited as we fear. Good luck and relax.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She was annoyed? Sounds like you dodged a bullet there pal. "

Yeah.. I hopefully defused the thing.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"She was annoyed? Sounds like you dodged a bullet there pal.

Yeah.. I hopefully defused the thing.

"

There was nothing for you to defuse. It’s your career and not hers. I would’ve made her fully aware of that the moment she started being arsey with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't ask the question the answer will always be no.

You have nothing to lose by being honesty to her, and perhaps everything to gain."

Only way forwards really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She was annoyed? Sounds like you dodged a bullet there pal. "
So much this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sent an email...

Nothing to loose so did it.

She advertises a fair amount of jobs for the area I apply for so thought I'd try n clear the air

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Remember that she needs to find people to fill those other roles so I'm sure she would be professional enough not to hold your refusal against you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She was annoyed? Sounds like you dodged a bullet there pal. So much this "

After I turned the job down she advised it via lots of agencies and cut the salary too.. I think she's struggling to get someone to do the job

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Remember that she needs to find people to fill those other roles so I'm sure she would be professional enough not to hold your refusal against you. "

Fingers x'd..

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"She was annoyed? Sounds like you dodged a bullet there pal.

Yeah.. I hopefully defused the thing.

"

Nothing to defuse, your well within your rights to turn a job offer down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t have to justify why the job isn’t or wasn’t for you.

If there name appears on many of the job adverts it’s more likely a job role they perform rather than filtering the applicants

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I got a job offer but have turned it down when receiving the phone call.

She was annoyed but ended the call amicably.. after apologies.

I told her the reason was it was a long way for me to travel. But didn't mention I had doubts about the responsibility of the the job and the pressure I'd be under.

After checking, she advertises a few jobs for local government jobs so I might have spoilt my chances with those future job advertisements.

Is it a bad idea to email her explaining the job felt beyond me due to the high responsibility and would look forward to applying for jobs of a lesser grade?

Or am I digging myself a deeper hole by doing that?

"
yes i would explain otherwise no future job offers will arrive

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

But make it a short statement not a long winded one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think turning down a job offer is well within your rights. However, I would consider using a different form of words for the reason of doing so eg "on contemplation the job was not offering me the challenges I require" or "I rethought the career path and believe they were not matching my expectations or my 5 year plan."

This way you are highlighting your own caabilities and ambitions but more importantly, despite saying No, you are actually challenging them to find you a better option. Thus, keeping the door well and truly open should a similar situation arise for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But make it a short statement not a long winded one "

Done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just got a reply..

'No Jack, this will not go against you."

Phew.. I know people like a challenging job just not for me at the moment..

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

Im a bit late, but an interview is a two way street, you are selling yourself, but also they are selling the job to you. You could ace the interview, but if they haven't sold you the job, then they haven't passed your interview!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just got a reply..

'No Jack, this will not go against you."

Phew.. I know people like a challenging job just not for me at the moment.. "
you’re definitely on her ‘revenge’ list! Only kidding

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just got a reply..

'No Jack, this will not go against you."

Phew.. I know people like a challenging job just not for me at the moment.. you’re definitely on her ‘revenge’ list! Only kidding "

Lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I wouldn’t bother emailing, you said no, sounds like maybe you messed her around a bit, if she has another job to fill and she likely won’t hold it against you, unless you’re repeat offender.

I’m surprised you’re worried about pressure in local government, public sectors is doddle, you’re more likely to die of boredom and near impossible to get fired

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Did you feel happy about the job when you applied ?

Yes, but 2nd thought crept in.

I've been in a similar level of responsibility and pressure and anxiety of what if I mess up anxiety crept in. I don't really want to go there again really.. I push myself but too hard I think"

OP I would go back to her and tell her the real reason. She may well be a lot more understanding than you think.

If they want you then it would not be unreasonable for them to change the role to fit in with what you need/want.

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