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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll stop sending dicks, tits and fanny pictures to you then

F

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'll stop sending dicks, tits and fanny pictures to you then

F"

You're allowed, it's a sex site after all

Keep the tits coming please

Mrs

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance.

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Mrs "

It is different here because this is a sex site.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Agreed!!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance."

Yes it means something different to me too, it's the comments in the forums of "it's a sex site what do you expect" that gets me.

It's a swingers site & even if it was a sex site why does that alter morals?

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Mrs

It is different here because this is a sex site.

"

It's a swingers site, why is it different though?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I'm desensitised to dick pics so they don't even register with me anymore.

Though a guy on here, a horny guy, sees profiles of half naked/naked ladies and they are on a site people primarily come on for sex, I can kinda see why they would send a dick pic. Men are simple creatures.

Plus some have pretty dicks. Most don't, but some do.

On the flip side would you walk into a pub dressed like one of your pics? If you do ping me the location, I'll have a rum.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

Those are the ignorant ones who have not been told and disregard that everyone has preferences and boundaries.

They treat swinging as a 1 sided one way street when it's not

Life in itself isn't always a one way street but the ignorant ones totally selfish people would see life and swinging from a different perspective and all they will do is continue their assumptions and then continue to whinge and complain that they can't get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I'm desensitised to dick pics so they don't even register with me anymore.

Though a guy on here, a horny guy, sees profiles of half naked/naked ladies and they are on a site people primarily come on for sex, I can kinda see why they would send a dick pic. Men are simple creatures.

Plus some have pretty dicks. Most don't, but some do.

On the flip side would you walk into a pub dressed like one of your pics? If you do ping me the location, I'll have a rum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh I totally get you. When I receive a cock pic in a first message and they ask me to get on my knees and suck it, I always ask them if they would go up to a woman in a bar and ask her the same thing.

It's all about manners, respect, and speaking to people as you would face to face.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"I'll stop sending dicks, tits and fanny pictures to you then

F

You're allowed, it's a sex site after all

Keep the tits coming please

Mrs "

agree...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Honestly, I'm desensitised to dick pics so they don't even register with me anymore.

Though a guy on here, a horny guy, sees profiles of half naked/naked ladies and they are on a site people primarily come on for sex, I can kinda see why they would send a dick pic. Men are simple creatures.

Plus some have pretty dicks. Most don't, but some do.

On the flip side would you walk into a pub dressed like one of your pics? If you do ping me the location, I'll have a rum. "

I have actually several times been to the pub in my undies

I've no shame.

I wouldn't however greet anyone with my vagina.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "
unruly,no bounries,piss takers, a pure chancers galore. Oh deep down in the Brain its a Dysfunction,and many are not willing to correct.

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford

Well

Said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhh I totally get you. When I receive a cock pic in a first message and they ask me to get on my knees and suck it, I always ask them if they would go up to a woman in a bar and ask her the same thing.

It's all about manners, respect, and speaking to people as you would face to face."

Would you get your boobs out in the bar though?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"

On the flip side would you walk into a pub dressed like one of your pics? If you do ping me the location, I'll have a rum. "

D.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I agree with the O.P.

The discussion of undeniably gross acts in the forum is excused by ........ It's a sex site or a swingers site and that includes acts that are little more than abuse. A similar cry is ... Well it's the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance."
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Never will,free for all,the flood gates are open.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

From most of the messages we receive it's clear that swinging isn't really understood and many are just looking for a free shag so a cock pic and hi is all they need to send.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently some random decided to tribute one of my profile pics and send me the result. It was completely unwanted, I'd never interacted with this person and I actually felt quite violated.

Sadly people hide behind a screen and do what they want.

The only way to avoid is to use the filters

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I agree with the O.P.

The discussion of undeniably gross acts in the forum is excused by ........ It's a sex site or a swingers site and that includes acts that are little more than abuse. A similar cry is ... Well it's the internet."

I've had several replies this week with "it's a sex site" used to excuse shitty behaviour, absolutely baffles me.

Mrs

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "
I completely agree with you, its actually a meeting point, a hub and the thought that guys lead with an erection is not good especially in forums or indeed send erections as a way of attracting their prey

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance.

Yes it means something different to me too, it's the comments in the forums of "it's a sex site what do you expect" that gets me.

It's a swingers site & even if it was a sex site why does that alter morals?

Mrs "

I am guessing it is because the senders think that swinging is just about showing your genitals gratuitously and that sexy talk is being crude and crass?

If they understood that swinging is about the sex but it is also about the dynamic of the relationship then maybe they would have more luck?

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance.

Yes it means something different to me too, it's the comments in the forums of "it's a sex site what do you expect" that gets me.

It's a swingers site & even if it was a sex site why does that alter morals?

Mrs "

This!! Yes we are all here for the same reasons but let’s be honest manners are a turn on especially when first engaging with people

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Recently some random decided to tribute one of my profile pics and send me the result. It was completely unwanted, I'd never interacted with this person and I actually felt quite violated.

Sadly people hide behind a screen and do what they want.

The only way to avoid is to use the filters "

Sorry you felt that way it's not a nice position to be in, I absolutely detest these too, people can do what they like over the pics but I don't want to see the evidence.

Mrs

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

Most don’t have any boundaries and use it as a way of just sending what they want, they see nakedness throughout and just think it’s ok to send without having regards to what the receiver actually wants

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Manners maketh man

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

It’s being able to understand that this is a sex site and not everyone wants my sex is what’s missing with some people

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance."

Genuine question. What's the subtle difference?

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm


"Ohhh I totally get you. When I receive a cock pic in a first message and they ask me to get on my knees and suck it, I always ask them if they would go up to a woman in a bar and ask her the same thing.

It's all about manners, respect, and speaking to people as you would face to face."

Absolutely this.

A common misconception is that people (more specifically female members) on a "sex site" are to put it crudely, gagging for it.

Some may well be, but considering that there are probably 20 or more suitors, all of whom have a penis available, those female members can well afford to be selective.

Sending "Hi, wanna suck it bitch? " add nasty fap snap messages somehow strikes me as unlikely to move me to the top of the list.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Honestly, I'm desensitised to dick pics so they don't even register with me anymore.

Though a guy on here, a horny guy, sees profiles of half naked/naked ladies and they are on a site people primarily come on for sex, I can kinda see why they would send a dick pic. Men are simple creatures.

Plus some have pretty dicks. Most don't, but some do.

On the flip side would you walk into a pub dressed like one of your pics? If you do ping me the location, I'll have a rum. "

In one

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s being able to understand that this is a sex site and not everyone wants my sex is what’s missing with some people "

If everyone did want sex how does that change anything?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idear why people do it

It’s one thing you really never seen from me in vulgar or rude messages

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

The guy saying hi and popping his cock out in the street has happened but also does get attention and arrested

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Mrs

It is different here because this is a sex site.

It's a swingers site, why is it different though?

Mrs "

I was being facetious and using your original example that all is excused by the response of * its a sex site*.

But -to play devils advocate for a moment- getting your dick out on the street would be an offense (I think) but on here I imagine its more acceptable (not to me -Im not really a fan but I tolerate dick pics unless they are unsolicited in my inbox then I see them as the perfect filter)

Ultimately, I think some people just need to get their genitals out for the admiration, the acknowledgement.. the sense of freedom, because they can, because they associate genitals with their sense of worth, because they associate genitals with sex and this is a sex site....

If you cant get your genitals out here - on a sex site - where can you?

I dont actually believe that this is a sex site - i dont really know what a sex site is.. I might google it. I dont think sex is guaranteed anywhere but those who believe it is perhaps use that description to make their expectation clear....?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"The guy saying hi and popping his cock out in the street has happened but also does get attention and arrested "

It's also illegal online.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is only one cock pic I send and that was requested.

I don't see the point of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It will happen until users can set preferences restrictions on message pic content type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care if some people see it as a sex site. I do care if they treat people in an entitled and dehumanising way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood?? "

It's not me.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

It's fab and a lot of people think that because of its nature, that excuses them to behave in a certain manner, it justifys this behaviour to themselves, making it acceptable. When they woundn't behave in this manner in any other arena of their lives. Its a sad realty of fab. In essence what I'm saying is some people have such lose boundaries. And are basically c£%ts because they can be...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Mrs

It is different here because this is a sex site.

It's a swingers site, why is it different though?

Mrs

I was being facetious and using your original example that all is excused by the response of * its a sex site*.

But -to play devils advocate for a moment- getting your dick out on the street would be an offense (I think) but on here I imagine its more acceptable (not to me -Im not really a fan but I tolerate dick pics unless they are unsolicited in my inbox then I see them as the perfect filter)

Ultimately, I think some people just need to get their genitals out for the admiration, the acknowledgement.. the sense of freedom, because they can, because they associate genitals with their sense of worth, because they associate genitals with sex and this is a sex site....

If you cant get your genitals out here - on a sex site - where can you?

I dont actually believe that this is a sex site - i dont really know what a sex site is.. I might google it. I dont think sex is guaranteed anywhere but those who believe it is perhaps use that description to make their expectation clear....?

"

Totally agree with the getting them out on a sex site, I'm more talking about sending them unwanted to people and the excuse of "it's a sex site" being used for it.

If there's pics on people's profile and I choose to look that's fine I chose to, if it's flashed at me in my inbox or some gross message I haven't chosen that it's been pushed on me, that's not ok & the excuse is a little pathetic, we'd never greet people in real life this way why is their inbox different?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

It's not me."

Your cleared ,for now.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Because being in fab is like being in a club, cocks, tits and vag everywhere, in different positions states and offerings. Looking on the cams and hotpics shows us all that. The forums only represent a tiny portion of the people on here, (even smaller in the lounge) as for the majority of people on fab. It's a sex site. And people are happily fucking away

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood?? "

Still if you were to message said woman I'm sure a hi and a little chat to see if she even likes you before popping your cock in there if things progressed would be appropriate?

Mrs

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance.

Yes it means something different to me too, it's the comments in the forums of "it's a sex site what do you expect" that gets me.

It's a swingers site & even if it was a sex site why does that alter morals?

Mrs

I am guessing it is because the senders think that swinging is just about showing your genitals gratuitously and that sexy talk is being crude and crass?

If they understood that swinging is about the sex but it is also about the dynamic of the relationship then maybe they would have more luck?"

Its not just one way though is it? You get mails saying face pic body pic cock pic.... There are many things about this environment that are questionable but whether its a sex or a subtly different swinging site... Not sure that naked cock / pussy pics is top of the difficulty to understand list.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"There is only one cock pic I send and that was requested.

I don't see the point of it "

You are a good man Wonko

Mrs

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

I've had this excuse in my inbox so many times I've lost count. Apparently being here means we are all just ready and waiting to have sex with anyone who needs to drain their balls .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is only one cock pic I send and that was requested.

I don't see the point of it

You are a good man Wonko

Mrs "

I'm not I just look at things differently to 99% of men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is only one cock pic I send and that was requested.

I don't see the point of it

You are a good man Wonko

Mrs

I'm not I just look at things differently to 99% of men "

If they want it they will ask for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

Still if you were to message said woman I'm sure a hi and a little chat to see if she even likes you before popping your cock in there if things progressed would be appropriate?

Mrs "

I hear your point loud and clear! I agree.

Some or most have enough Savvy to write and come across how we would like to engage so!

A cock pic! A tit pic,a vag pic a pic of a foot toes etc.

Something very deeply unbalanced is shows no confidence in who you are.

Heh ho the show will go on. Only wed.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"The guy saying hi and popping his cock out in the street has happened but also does get attention and arrested

It's also illegal online.

Mrs "

Very true

Sending obscene images via electronic means. Causing anxiety and stress

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance.

Yes it means something different to me too, it's the comments in the forums of "it's a sex site what do you expect" that gets me.

It's a swingers site & even if it was a sex site why does that alter morals?

Mrs

I am guessing it is because the senders think that swinging is just about showing your genitals gratuitously and that sexy talk is being crude and crass?

If they understood that swinging is about the sex but it is also about the dynamic of the relationship then maybe they would have more luck?

It’s not just one way though is it? You get mails saying face pic body pic cock pic.... There are many things about this environment that are questionable but whether its a sex or a subtly different swinging site... Not sure that naked cock / pussy pics is top of the difficulty to understand list. "

If someone has asked for pix then you send them.

I don’t think it is about sending dick pics in a message - I think it is more about the tone of the message. If the tone is right then the pics will support that. I do actually send full body pics which show me but, I believe, my messaging is not gratuitous and people see the correct intent.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

Yes but there's loads of people on the site and it works as a great filter. Although sometimes a little disheartening and annoying I'd rather people show their true colours from the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had this excuse in my inbox so many times I've lost count. Apparently being here means we are all just ready and waiting to have sex with anyone who needs to drain their balls ."

And the same goes on the other hand,if you aint 10" over 6ft,drive a bently etc etc. Where does it all end!

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I don’t mind the cock pics as much. I’m not interested in them, never bother looking at them but I see it as them showing their wares, the part they think is most important to show. For me it’s the actual messages I most often have an issue with.

“I want to………. I’m going to………..”

It’s purely led by the genitals. Feels aggressive in the way it’s singleminded. I want to, I’m going to, and I don’t really care what you think or want

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I've had this excuse in my inbox so many times I've lost count. Apparently being here means we are all just ready and waiting to have sex with anyone who needs to drain their balls .

And the same goes on the other hand,if you aint 10" over 6ft,drive a bently etc etc. Where does it all end! "

My Bentley usually ends up at the end of my very long drive parked alongside my collection of super cars

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"I'll stop sending dicks, tits and fanny pictures to you then

F

You're allowed, it's a sex site after all

Keep the tits coming please

Mrs

agree..."
I also agree keep the tit pic's coming

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I agree with the O.P.

The discussion of undeniably gross acts in the forum is excused by ........ It's a sex site or a swingers site and that includes acts that are little more than abuse. A similar cry is ... Well it's the internet."

We're all adults here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had this excuse in my inbox so many times I've lost count. Apparently being here means we are all just ready and waiting to have sex with anyone who needs to drain their balls .

And the same goes on the other hand,if you aint 10" over 6ft,drive a bently etc etc. Where does it all end!

My Bentley usually ends up at the end of my very long drive parked alongside my collection of super cars "

Same here! I dont drive mine. I collect,for value reason's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome. "

Block me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t mind the cock pics as much. I’m not interested in them, never bother looking at them but I see it as them showing their wares, the part they think is most important to show. For me it’s the actual messages I most often have an issue with.

“I want to………. I’m going to………..”

It’s purely led by the genitals. Feels aggressive in the way it’s singleminded. I want to, I’m going to, and I don’t really care what you think or want"

What are the opposite driven by on the very same note.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me "

You're a man? You're blocked already.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head


"I don’t mind the cock pics as much. I’m not interested in them, never bother looking at them but I see it as them showing their wares, the part they think is most important to show. For me it’s the actual messages I most often have an issue with.

“I want to………. I’m going to………..”

It’s purely led by the genitals. Feels aggressive in the way it’s singleminded. I want to, I’m going to, and I don’t really care what you think or want"

Oh those messages are vile. I never understood why anyone thinks they are a good idea as an opening message. I usually just block and delete but occasionally I replying laughing, that confuses them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me

You're a man? You're blocked already. "

No individually though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me

You're a man? You're blocked already.

No individually though "

Too much effort and treating everyone as individuals. I prefer to lump all men in the same category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me

You're a man? You're blocked already.

No individually though

Too much effort and treating everyone as individuals. I prefer to lump all men in the same category.

"

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me

You're a man? You're blocked already.

No individually though

Too much effort and treating everyone as individuals. I prefer to lump all men in the same category.

"

It’s the only way to be sure right

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

As much as I understand the sentiment behind this, sadly these very people (who need to) are the least likely to see this.

For the record, I’m in total agreement with the entirety of the above.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me

You're a man? You're blocked already.

No individually though

Too much effort and treating everyone as individuals. I prefer to lump all men in the same category.

"

Zero discrimination within her discrimination. Dedication right there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me

You're a man? You're blocked already.

No individually though

Too much effort and treating everyone as individuals. I prefer to lump all men in the same category.

"

Keep going itl help the cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

Block me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it with a passion.

I don't want to see your penis, you fucking other people or anything like that within a first message. It's an instant turn off to me.

I find it incredibly disrespectful and some of the messages are just revolting. Then they throw their toys out if the pram because I won't even give them a chance (their words) haha.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance.

Yes it means something different to me too, it's the comments in the forums of "it's a sex site what do you expect" that gets me.

It's a swingers site & even if it was a sex site why does that alter morals?

Mrs

I am guessing it is because the senders think that swinging is just about showing your genitals gratuitously and that sexy talk is being crude and crass?

If they understood that swinging is about the sex but it is also about the dynamic of the relationship then maybe they would have more luck?

It’s not just one way though is it? You get mails saying face pic body pic cock pic.... There are many things about this environment that are questionable but whether its a sex or a subtly different swinging site... Not sure that naked cock / pussy pics is top of the difficulty to understand list.

If someone has asked for pix then you send them.

I don’t think it is about sending dick pics in a message - I think it is more about the tone of the message. If the tone is right then the pics will support that. I do actually send full body pics which show me but, I believe, my messaging is not gratuitous and people see the correct intent."

True. There are some pretty questionable messages. Sad but true

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,


"I don’t mind the cock pics as much. I’m not interested in them, never bother looking at them but I see it as them showing their wares, the part they think is most important to show. For me it’s the actual messages I most often have an issue with.

“I want to………. I’m going to………..”

It’s purely led by the genitals. Feels aggressive in the way it’s singleminded. I want to, I’m going to, and I don’t really care what you think or want

What are the opposite driven by on the very same note. "

I’m not sure what you’re asking me there.

If you’re asking surely those who message politely are motivated by sexual desire, I’m sure they are. But they don’t allow their genitals to take over all their thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome. "

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters "

This is not your first rodeo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters

This is not your first rodeo "

Dick pics aren’t as offensive from a couples profile. It is a sex site after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters

This is not your first rodeo

Dick pics aren’t as offensive from a couples profile. It is a sex site after all "

I'll show you mine if you show me yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get sent dick pic's so I can't comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters

This is not your first rodeo

Dick pics aren’t as offensive from a couples profile. It is a sex site after all

I'll show you mine if you show me yours?"

I’ve seen yours. It’s a lot more impressive than mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never get sent dick pic's so I can't comment "

Incoming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters

This is not your first rodeo

Dick pics aren’t as offensive from a couples profile. It is a sex site after all

I'll show you mine if you show me yours?

I’ve seen yours. It’s a lot more impressive than mine."

True

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Ohhh I totally get you. When I receive a cock pic in a first message and they ask me to get on my knees and suck it, I always ask them if they would go up to a woman in a bar and ask her the same thing.

It's all about manners, respect, and speaking to people as you would face to face."

This - fully agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I highly recommend blocking all men if it bothers you, it's awesome.

I just set up a couples profile to get around filters

This is not your first rodeo

Dick pics aren’t as offensive from a couples profile. It is a sex site after all

I'll show you mine if you show me yours?

I’ve seen yours. It’s a lot more impressive than mine.

True "

Hey! It’s ok for me to say it. It hurts when you say it

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood?? "

You can't gag on a photo.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

You can't gag on a photo.

"

I have seen a few gaping ones that have made me gag.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

He has got a sore bum... But I thought you lined it up the ass. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

You can't gag on a photo.

"
gahh away. Anything is possiblecon here,as seen clearly.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

You can't gag on a photo.

I have seen a few gaping ones that have made me gag."

I was going to say that

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Theres one right here right now.

On the status = GAGGING FOR COCK "

And its a woman. How should that be read and taken,understood??

You can't gag on a photo.

gahh away. Anything is possiblecon here,as seen clearly. "

A photo making me gag isn't the same as a cock down my throat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is not a sex site. It is a swinging site. That means something subtly different to me but I am guessing a lot of the picture senders don’t understand the nuance."

Spot on

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I don’t mind the cock pics as much. I’m not interested in them, never bother looking at them but I see it as them showing their wares, the part they think is most important to show. For me it’s the actual messages I most often have an issue with.

“I want to………. I’m going to………..”

It’s purely led by the genitals. Feels aggressive in the way it’s singleminded. I want to, I’m going to, and I don’t really care what you think or want"

Also known as the logged in because I’m horny and need wank material brigade.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

While no it's not pacific a sex site! It's a whatever u want it to be! But the explicit pics I think are to be expected here! My thoughts anyway x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You pay your £5 (or not) and it’s whatever you want it to be that’s within the rules , unless I missed the part in the T&C’s that says otherwise. There’s a clue in the name , swinging is about group sex, partner swapping and sharing.

Sharing is caring

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"While no it's not pacific a sex site! It's a whatever u want it to be! But the explicit pics I think are to be expected here! My thoughts anyway x"

I expect them here too, that's not my point.

I don't expect them in my inbox with some gross message and then for it to be excused by the " it's a sex site " excuse.

If I look at a profile I choose to view their pics and bio, in my inbox it's forced and it's not the way to great someone.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if someone else has mentioned it, but I think you may be annoyed with the action rather than the accompanied phrase. If someone you fancied said they wanted to wine and dine you and treat you like a queen in a 5* hotel room because it's a sex site, the phrase might not be so annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, its everywhere and not just sites like this.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can't help smiling at the absurdity of this thread ......

Whilst I agree with the O.P. in sentiment it's pretty hilarious reading all the objections from people full mooning , cock flapping or semi naked in general ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help smiling at the absurdity of this thread ......

Whilst I agree with the O.P. in sentiment it's pretty hilarious reading all the objections from people full mooning , cock flapping or semi naked in general .... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

….

Mrs "

It doesn’t excuse it. But it should prepare you for it.

I’m never surprised with anything in here after this long. It is a sex themes site. It IS a sex site (some of the people here do look to meet others for sex, and it’s certainly not a car enthusiasts site)

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

….

Mrs

It doesn’t excuse it. But it should prepare you for it.

I’m never surprised with anything in here after this long. It is a sex themes site. It IS a sex site (some of the people here do look to meet others for sex, and it’s certainly not a car enthusiasts site) "

That's disgusting Woody. Whipped is far superior to squirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

….

Mrs

It doesn’t excuse it. But it should prepare you for it.

I’m never surprised with anything in here after this long. It is a sex themes site. It IS a sex site (some of the people here do look to meet others for sex, and it’s certainly not a car enthusiasts site)

That's disgusting Woody. Whipped is far superior to squirty."

But nobody want me to whip it!

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall


"Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

"

No, but then this isn’t a public park or street.

Go to a swingers club and yes you will get cocks in your face, wanking dead following you, inappropriate and un consensual touches etc.

People feel safe to act that way because they either get away with it, or they feel its how they are meant to act in sex positive spaces.

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By *icknockMan
over a year ago

Northumberland /Borders

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

I agree with you OP.

Chat may lead to a meet and sex may happen. However, those who have a brutal approach in their communication aren't so likely to get that far xx

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"[Dick pic Removed by poster at 09/08/23 10:50:35]"

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Not sure if someone else has mentioned it, but I think you may be annoyed with the action rather than the accompanied phrase. If someone you fancied said they wanted to wine and dine you and treat you like a queen in a 5* hotel room because it's a sex site, the phrase might not be so annoying "

Those two things don't correlate though.

If they said wine, dine, 5 star hotel because it's a dating/swinging site, they would.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Here's me cock *sends pic* have sex with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we all just accept that this is a swingers site NOT a sex site. The fact that most members are obsessed with having sex with multiple people is purely co-incidental.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Probably confused with fishing.Throw out a bait(cock pic) and a fish (female) will jump on it.Thats how a lot of people think Kik works.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I really wish we could block explicit photos... I'm so tired of getting dick pics and even worse... Videos

It's stated numerous times in my profile, in capitals, yet I still get them!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Recently some random decided to tribute one of my profile pics and send me the result. It was completely unwanted, I'd never interacted with this person and I actually felt quite violated.

Sadly people hide behind a screen and do what they want.

The only way to avoid is to use the filters "

That's the ultimate in grimness.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Can we all just accept that this is a swingers site NOT a sex site. The fact that most members are obsessed with having sex with multiple people is purely co-incidental. "

What's the difference? Im genuinely interested to understand firstly the difference and secondly why some people feel the need to tell others what they are doing and put their label on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

If someone contacts me I expect to see a representation of them. I’d expect full nudity and a cock pic to be among them.

This is a swinging site and nudity and sexual images are part and parcel of it.

Shitty messages and bad manners on the other hand have no part here and are treated accordingly by us. The block button solves the problem.

Personally, I think that a lot of people who use dating sites or even use fab as a dating site expect it to be like a dating site.

There is an abundance of singles who use fab for hook ups or dating. That’s fine, the site is there to use however suits you best.

But let’s not get away from the fact that the site is a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with u OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dictionary definition of swinger:

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

Ergo this IS a sex site

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Dictionary definition of swinger:

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

Ergo this IS a sex site "

Swinging is a subset of sex. Just because you have sex doesn’t make you a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone contacts me I expect to see a representation of them. I’d expect full nudity and a cock pic to be among them.

This is a swinging site and nudity and sexual images are part and parcel of it.

Shitty messages and bad manners on the other hand have no part here and are treated accordingly by us. The block button solves the problem.

Personally, I think that a lot of people who use dating sites or even use fab as a dating site expect it to be like a dating site.

There is an abundance of singles who use fab for hook ups or dating. That’s fine, the site is there to use however suits you best.

But let’s not get away from the fact that the site is a swingers site.

"

Maybe this info from the lady. Will be swallowed fully and dijested whole.

It is what it is,if any of us see it otherwise that is a personal view and standpoint.

Diff colour jacket,team, the very same sport at the end of the day!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

It doesn’t excuse bad behaviour but one has to face reality. Call the site what you will, but to vast numbers of people it is seen as being an anonymous hook up site and will be treated as such.

Maybe some people need to think about whether this site is really for them.

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Apparently I’m too sensitive to be on the site simply because I don’t like crude messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dictionary definition of swinger:

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

Ergo this IS a sex site

Swinging is a subset of sex. Just because you have sex doesn’t make you a swinger. "

Maybe it could be how you get there? Swing from the chandaler's or ear lobes but swing low sweet chariot.

Humans always need to put the foot in. We cant leave anything alone ever. Seldom solveing! But always createing issue,s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs

It doesn’t excuse bad behaviour but one has to face reality. Call the site what you will, but to vast numbers of people it is seen as being an anonymous hook up site and will be treated as such.

Maybe some people need to think about whether this site is really for them. "

I think people can do the site any way they want to. To lots of people it's a hookup site, to some people it's not. They could easily co-exist.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If you ‘really’ don’t want cock in your inbox then there’s an easy solution to it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"If you ‘really’ don’t want cock in your inbox then there’s an easy solution to it."

There is but the question is why do it in the 1st place to someone obviously not interested?

The post isn't about cocks in the box it's about the whole "it's a sex site excuse for certain behaviours"

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's me cock *sends pic* have sex with it "

That's how the site works!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on other hookup sites. Fab is far worse in terms of degrading, dehumanising messages and cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

It's a certain type of person - usually men- who use that excuse for very questionable behaviours.

Swingers fuck so they must want to see, do, eat, breathe fucking.

Sex pics, sex menus and sex reviews "this one sucks great highly recommended, try them out!" all add to that assumption.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've had this excuse in my inbox so many times I've lost count. Apparently being here means we are all just ready and waiting to have sex with anyone who needs to drain their balls ."

Hate that phrase, also with what? A giant needle, a garlic press, lemon juicer If I didn't think it would break fab rules somehow the last few unsolicited dic pics we had nearly got a picture of dick dastardly back. If they can send one so can I lol. B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs "

My reply related to all these types of behaviours.

Cock pics are a very tiny aspect. Literally tiny.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Oh no its not, its a lifestyle a social event

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs

My reply related to all these types of behaviours.

Cock pics are a very tiny aspect. Literally tiny. "

You did and thank you.

They really are it was just one tiny example I could come up with,they always seem put out when I respond to their pic with a rating out of 10, given my dislike of them they don't generally get good marks however I am through length /10 girth /10 bush neatness /10 photo quality /10.

Mrs

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"If you ‘really’ don’t want cock in your inbox then there’s an easy solution to it.

There is but the question is why do it in the 1st place to someone obviously not interested?

The post isn't about cocks in the box it's about the whole "it's a sex site excuse for certain behaviours"

Mrs "

Cause ultimately whatever way you look at it this is a sex site site. Unfortunately for some this means it’s a green light to send their bits in a message with no ramifications for doing so.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"If you ‘really’ don’t want cock in your inbox then there’s an easy solution to it.

There is but the question is why do it in the 1st place to someone obviously not interested?

The post isn't about cocks in the box it's about the whole "it's a sex site excuse for certain behaviours"

Mrs

Cause ultimately whatever way you look at it this is a sex site site. Unfortunately for some this means it’s a green light to send their bits in a message with no ramifications for doing so. "

Ah so it's I want sex, here's cock, sit on, done.

God I love humanity

Mrs

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs "

Seems that people appear more bothered by a cock pic rather than actual bad behaviour and unacceptable messages.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"If you ‘really’ don’t want cock in your inbox then there’s an easy solution to it.

There is but the question is why do it in the 1st place to someone obviously not interested?

The post isn't about cocks in the box it's about the whole "it's a sex site excuse for certain behaviours"

Mrs

Cause ultimately whatever way you look at it this is a sex site site. Unfortunately for some this means it’s a green light to send their bits in a message with no ramifications for doing so.

Ah so it's I want sex, here's cock, sit on, done.

God I love humanity

Mrs "

Exactly, you don’t even need to do the work, us blokes will do it for you.

#allmen

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"If you ‘really’ don’t want cock in your inbox then there’s an easy solution to it.

There is but the question is why do it in the 1st place to someone obviously not interested?

The post isn't about cocks in the box it's about the whole "it's a sex site excuse for certain behaviours"

Mrs

Cause ultimately whatever way you look at it this is a sex site site. Unfortunately for some this means it’s a green light to send their bits in a message with no ramifications for doing so.

Ah so it's I want sex, here's cock, sit on, done.

God I love humanity

Mrs

Exactly, you don’t even need to do the work, us blokes will do it for you.

#allmen "

Wow if I knew it was that easy I'd have been popping my vag in all the in_oxes.

Vag, here, eat.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs

My reply related to all these types of behaviours.

Cock pics are a very tiny aspect. Literally tiny.

You did and thank you.

They really are it was just one tiny example I could come up with,they always seem put out when I respond to their pic with a rating out of 10, given my dislike of them they don't generally get good marks however I am through length /10 girth /10 bush neatness /10 photo quality /10.

Mrs "

Brilliant!

I often reply to a cock profile pic:

OMG A TALKING COCK!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks op. I read the lot. Hilarious….

So who wants a cock pic?

*manners and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a sex site, I no longer consider this to be swinging dominated.

The hot pics/vids are popular, many solo men here stand very little chance of a meet, for several reasons and therefore leads many to use this as a porn style site, a more exciting kind, with the fact the pictures/videos here are of 'real people' that are contactable right here, the high hopes of a meet is maybe a little out of reach for so many and so some exciting talk of sex and possibly more pictures is what may drive those that simply do not understand how to work the site (or the members of this site).

We are all adults, and though I agree there's better ways to catch attention, and to add that we rarely have this issue, I still feel it's inevitable, especially if our profiles show sexually explicit/posed pictures.

To the many, this site is no more than real life porn or a site for hook ups, no matter what the site is named.

It's not comparable to a bar/pub, for comparison, try a swingers club.

I don't see how it will change, this is not the first time the subject has been raised in the forum, much like the price costs of swingers clubs.

An idea for a site upgrade though, if we could select to not accept pictures/videos through messages unless we tick a little box to allow an individual, maybe after having a picture free conversation.

Unfortunately, with the amount of explicit pictures/videos this site contains, dick pics will happen. (Shrugs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a sex site, I no longer consider this to be swinging dominated.

The hot pics/vids are popular, many solo men here stand very little chance of a meet, for several reasons and therefore leads many to use this as a porn style site, a more exciting kind, with the fact the pictures/videos here are of 'real people' that are contactable right here, the high hopes of a meet is maybe a little out of reach for so many and so some exciting talk of sex and possibly more pictures is what may drive those that simply do not understand how to work the site (or the members of this site).

We are all adults, and though I agree there's better ways to catch attention, and to add that we rarely have this issue, I still feel it's inevitable, especially if our profiles show sexually explicit/posed pictures.

To the many, this site is no more than real life porn or a site for hook ups, no matter what the site is named.

It's not comparable to a bar/pub, for comparison, try a swingers club.

I don't see how it will change, this is not the first time the subject has been raised in the forum, much like the price costs of swingers clubs.

An idea for a site upgrade though, if we could select to not accept pictures/videos through messages unless we tick a little box to allow an individual, maybe after having a picture free conversation.

Unfortunately, with the amount of explicit pictures/videos this site contains, dick pics will happen. (Shrugs)

"

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By *rLordMan
over a year ago

Swadlincote

I always thought an initial introduction should be one of a easy approach. Not hard you want to fuck style. I'm sure when things progress you can get to that stage

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If this approach never works why is it continued?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always thought an initial introduction should be one of a easy approach. Not hard you want to fuck style. I'm sure when things progress you can get to that stage "

Am introduction? Something like - “Hi?”

*don’t open that box.

Because I tell you, that is worse than a sick pick for some, and that’s considered bad manners or disrespectful for risk of being boring.

You can’t win in here for how to aproach everyone. I’ve been very very lucky in the majority where I’ve always been approached individually, or I’ve been lucky to talk to those I e liked enough to get in touch with.

I don’t send dick pics, I wouldn’t. And I’ve never had the equivalent (or dicks) sent through to me.

But I still reckon 1/100 would work. And thats all a they need, and it will continue.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I've been on other hookup sites. Fab is far worse in terms of degrading, dehumanising messages and cock pics"

You pay peanuts..

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I want to see dicks before I meet. As well as other pics.

No dick pic = no meet up.

I don’t want abusive or disgusting messages though.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs "

Well its a good point you make and similar to the "mustnt kink shame someone" as everyones free to do their thing and if you dont like it youre judgy mcjudge face

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I love how the whole tread has turned into a cock pics post

Sex site Vs swingers site discussion.

I used the cock inbox as 1 example

No I'm not say crying over a cock in the inbox I'm merely asking why it and other behaviours (objectifying, messages bordering on abusive, forum discussions on stuff again borderline abusive then the just plain gross and disrespectful) why is this all ok "because it's a sex site"

Mrs

Well its a good point you make and similar to the "mustnt kink shame someone" as everyones free to do their thing and if you dont like it youre judgy mcjudge face"

I'll be a judge Mcjudhe face then abusive messages, gross shite I'll never consider ok and such a lame excuse too

Mrs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It does feel par for the course that we seemingly have to accept that a lot think it is a sex site and therefore feel it’s ok to send vulgar messages/pics of dicks straight off.

But it’s just a filter for us - I do wonder if it’s worked once and therefore they keep trying it!

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on other hookup sites. Fab is far worse in terms of degrading, dehumanising messages and cock pics

You pay peanuts.. "

They were free...

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Perverts and Creeps lol Actual swingers are actually pretty normal

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

No, it's social media where some people meet stop mistaking it for anything else.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

When I was a single gal I used to get unsolicited cock pics all the time on Facebook, bumble etc

Not unique to fab sadly

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

All I know is it's the only one I can get my old sailor out on.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"When I was a single gal I used to get unsolicited cock pics all the time on Facebook, bumble etc

Not unique to fab sadly"

It’s a bit out of order on Facebook & bumble.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Perverts and Creeps lol Actual swingers are actually pretty normal "
It is normal to be infatuated by sex

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM"

And here's me thinking you'd sent us your REAL dick pic. I did wonder what the green bits were....

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

And here's me thinking you'd sent us your REAL dick pic. I did wonder what the green bits were...."

Those bits did look extra chewy, thought you'd enjoy them

LvM

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

And here's me thinking you'd sent us your REAL dick pic. I did wonder what the green bits were...."
ewwww gorgonzola

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM"

That's why you insisted on taking multiple photos of Mr's cock at different angles! Although I can presume it will be used when wanting to lure people in?

F

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

That's why you insisted on taking multiple photos of Mr's cock at different angles! Although I can presume it will be used when wanting to lure people in?

F"

Of course! They'll be sorely disappointed when they whip mine out instead but I'm hoping they'll just go for it as they're there anyway

LvM

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

And here's me thinking you'd sent us your REAL dick pic. I did wonder what the green bits were....

Those bits did look extra chewy, thought you'd enjoy them

LvM"

I enjoyed, with a nice Chianti

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

That's why you insisted on taking multiple photos of Mr's cock at different angles! Although I can presume it will be used when wanting to lure people in?

F

Of course! They'll be sorely disappointed when they whip mine out instead but I'm hoping they'll just go for it as they're there anyway

LvM"

I sympathise. I was disappointed when you whipped yours out too

F

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I get so sick of hearing this in reference to anything, unwanted cock pics - it's ok it's a sex site.

Messages that are just gross - what do you expect it's a sex site.

Why does this being a "swingers" site excuse everything?

Would a guy walk upto you in the street and say hi by popping his cock out, no?! Why is it different here?

Don't want cocks in your box then you must be a prude

I think the very nature of being here says people are far from prudish.

Anyway apologies for my little rant but curious to know why people think being on a "swingers site" excuses certain behaviours?

Mrs "

Wow you just given me an ides a knob picture Blocker filter it detects a knob and block it .

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

From my experience this behaviour continues on to other platforms beyond fab.

As fab is almost akin to an interactive porn site for many people, it just increases the sheer volume and intensity of these messages/pics

I must admit though (and this is personal to me), I just don't mind it on here.

What I can't stand are the mindless messages like "hi" and "Meet now"... it's because of these that I blocked men from messaging me.

Send my filth, that's fine... at least it shows some level of effort has been made, and who knows I might just like it.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

That's why you insisted on taking multiple photos of Mr's cock at different angles! Although I can presume it will be used when wanting to lure people in?

F

Of course! They'll be sorely disappointed when they whip mine out instead but I'm hoping they'll just go for it as they're there anyway

LvM

I sympathise. I was disappointed when you whipped yours out too

F"

You're a trooper for not saying anything though

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just start saving them in a folder, the more horrible the better. Then when you get sent an unwanted one, send one back from your archives, and ask "Thanks, what do you think of mine?"

LvM

That's why you insisted on taking multiple photos of Mr's cock at different angles! Although I can presume it will be used when wanting to lure people in?

F

Of course! They'll be sorely disappointed when they whip mine out instead but I'm hoping they'll just go for it as they're there anyway

LvM

I sympathise. I was disappointed when you whipped yours out too

F

You're a trooper for not saying anything though

LvM"

I couldn't say anything, you had me tied up with tape over my mouth. Not sure how you thought windmilling would turn me on but hey ho

F

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Good sex site thread

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

^^ this

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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