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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok i'm feeling sorry for myself and im having a bit of a moan

I feel like fooking shit and i don't know what to do with myself

Just after xmas i joined fat camp (slimming world) to shed the extra pounds and to be honest doing quite well even if i do say so msyelf, ive lost 2 stone 1 pound in 6 weeks but last week for some fooking stupid reason i decided to quit smoking

its been 7 days now and i havnt touched a fag, never realised how hard dieting and stopping smoking together would be, ive tried so hard to not pick at food to keep my hands busy and ive resisted any temptation to have a fag but ive got to be honest its really bloody getting to me now, im hungry, i want a fag and what pisses me off the most is this is all self inflected and right now im sat here wondering why the hell im doing this to myself

and im seriously tossing up what im going to give in on first, the jaffa cakes that are screaming my name or the shop over the road with the fag counter

Im trying to work out what to do for the best, right now i think going to bed for a week would be the ideal plan before i take someones head off

Ok rant over, as you were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its easy to stop smoking ive done it loads of times lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never diet as such but replace naughty with nice fruit. Quell hunger pains with natural yoghurt mixed with semi milk, add a tiny bit of honey if you have a sweet tooth. Works.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

One thing at a time.

Both goals are going to be hard. Both at once are going to be very hard.

Much as I abhor smoking - get the weight to the level you want, get it stabilised and start on the fags.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok i'm feeling sorry for myself and im having a bit of a moan

I feel like fooking shit and i don't know what to do with myself

and im seriously tossing up what im going to give in on first, the jaffa cakes that are screaming my name or the shop over the road with the fag counter

Im trying to work out what to do for the best, right now i think going to bed for a week would be the ideal plan before i take someones head off

Ok rant over, as you were

Firstly, well done on both counts *he says in a non patronising manner*. It does sound like your doing awesome.

Doing both things at once is going to be much more difficult. But if you can do it this way, the rewards are bigger. Just think about when you reach your goals, you've done it the hard way, and there's no reason to go back because you've beat it.

Keep up the good work!

Have you got a smart phone btw? there are some handy quit smoking apps on there, every little helps

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

"Ok i'm feeling sorry for myself and im having a bit of a moan

I feel like fooking shit and i don't know what to do with myself

and im seriously tossing up what im going to give in on first, the jaffa cakes that are screaming my name or the shop over the road with the fag counter

Im trying to work out what to do for the best, right now i think going to bed for a week would be the ideal plan before i take someones head off

Ok rant over, as you were

I've got to admire you. However, no matter how hard the craving, do NOT give in to it. In the end you will feel much better for it.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

2 stone 1 - fecking amazing! I know what you mean about wanting to eat...when I originally packed in, I'd fight my way past acres of free foods to find a chocolate! Make yourself a huge fruit salad (that'll keep your hands occupied for a while chopping all the fruit up) and dig into that when you want something sweet topped with a choccie muller...If you smoked 20 fags a day then you've already saved best part of £50 - treat yourself to a manicure or massage - and bloody well done!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its easy to stop smoking ive done it loads of times lol"

haha thanks that made me laugh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink soft drinks that will fill you up ....... make some soup veg soup with tined tomatoes and onions carrots and season and put in a blender will fill you up and give you things to do with hands chopping up veg ... love soups very low cal and filling and help make you feel good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ive been drinking loads of fizzy pop to try and blote me and fill me up, think it ive d*unk to much when i burpt it comes down my nose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up smoking for ten months and it made me miserable and ill. so i started again.

I've drastically cut down this year. I smoked 200 last month as opposed to 200 a week before.I would like to stop completely but I'm not gonna beat myself up over it. If i want a fag I'll have one. Its better than being cranky in my case. Not very helpful I know but well done with the diet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am stopping smoking at the mo and fully understand where you are coming from on the fag front! I have stopped for two whole weeks today!! woohoo lol

I was using the patches but they were making me feel ill so just using the gum at the mo... this second week has been easier than the first week.

Use all available support to help you also get plenty of rest and keep your brain occupied and avoid smokers and alchol like the plague, will keep my fingers crossed for you oh well here comes week 3!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mints too when you feel like a smoke get the mints out same with cakes and sweets get the Polo's out .. helps me and mint gum ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no need to feel hungry on SW in fact the more you eat the more weight you lose.

I gave up smoking 40 a day and dieted at the same time and yes its hard but we both knew it was going to be hard but trust me it is worth it.

Your skin will look better within 3 days, you will start to breath easier almost straight away etc so right now have a large glass of cold water as it helps the cravings and the hunger

Good luck, you CAN do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure your dizzy pop is low calorie (Teaching granny to suck eggs I am sure) but they do put a lot of sugar in some drinks.

Mainly though WELL DONE it may be hard now but it will be worth it.

Keep the will power going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" mints too when you feel like a smoke get the mints out same with cakes and sweets get the Polo's out .. helps me and mint gum ,"

This helps with smoking & sweet tooth cravings. Brushing ya teeth works best cos it takes your mind off it for a couple of minutes, and keeps your hands busy. And nothing is going to taste nice after you've just brushed your teeth.

Make some fruit juice ice cubes with pieces of chopped fruit in them, keep em in the freezer for when either craving strikes, and crunch away!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I gave up smoking for ten months and it made me miserable and ill. so i started again.

see thats how im feeling right now, is there any point to dieting and stopping smoking if its just going to make me feel down and cranky?

I have a meet friday and im seriously thinking of canceling as we are meeting in a pub for a drink and i really dont think i can face going for a drink when i cant have a fag for me the two go hand in hand plus he smokes and im not sure im really to put msyelf in that situation just yet

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Thinking that you are depriving yourself and missing out is all part of the nicotine addiction effects. Easier said than done I know, but in your mind just put off thinking about it and do something physical like ride your bike or something. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Good luck, keep strong

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I gave up smoking for ten months and it made me miserable and ill. so i started again.

see thats how im feeling right now, is there any point to dieting and stopping smoking if its just going to make me feel down and cranky?

The feeling doesn't last. It's all in your head. I agree it is probably better to remove yourself from a situation where you may be tempted though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought they reckoned that sex is the best way to lose weight?? So why ain't we all thin???!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up smoking for ten months and it made me miserable and ill. so i started again.

see thats how im feeling right now, is there any point to dieting and stopping smoking if its just going to make me feel down and cranky?

This sounds like alarm bells should be ringing and the triggers are there that you associate with smoking.

However, you have broke away from the fags, don't let them rule the rest of your life. Tell yourself your free from them. This is how its going to be now! No drinking & smoking together, you will have to do it some time, think how great your gonna feel if you go out and refrain, its the next step! You could also explain the situation and ask your meet to be respectful or shock horror even refrain

Get yourself to the meet, it sounds like you deserve a reward & treat for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about one of then fake fags you could hold in your hand puff on .. I know may not be your thing but could help when out for a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2st is bloody brilliant, well done!! Could you maybe just cut down on smoking till you've finished the diet? Just concentrate on getting through one day at a time. Works for me. One day on a diet isn't so bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy an electronic cigarette it makes u feel like your havin a smoke not as hard then your bound to feel better yeah its hard dont give up xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U have done amazing and I think ur just trying to reason with urself why to stop now

Don't.. U did it yesterday, u can do it today and u will again tomorrow.

One day at a time

U know if u give in now u will feel a million times worse after

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thinking that you are depriving yourself and missing out is all part of the nicotine addiction effects. Easier said than done I know, but in your mind just put off thinking about it and do something physical like ride your bike or something. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Good luck, keep strong

im on call till 5 so im stuck in the office, i find this is the hardest part of the day, im ok when im out and about with work and busy but sometimes i have to go on call which means im just sat in the office waiting for the phone to ring its quite boring and when your mind starts wondering

Im doing my usual calls tomorrow so will be all over the place and busy all day, its not so bad then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody well done on both fronts!

e-cigs seem to be very popular with people so maybe make enquiries into getting one of these. I find if I need a chocolate fix or crave something sweet, an options drink helps sate the craving and no guilt as they are only a few calories each.

Do keep at it I'm sure you will be very proud of yourself, I know I'm proud of you. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and have you thought of knitting to keep your hands busy when you're not working? It's all the rage now. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy a shit load of value carrots and make them into batons, then just pick at them when necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Buy a shit load of value carrots and make them into batons, then just pick at them when necessary. "

Good advice! Along with peppers and celery

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" think how great your gonna feel if you go out and refrain"

thing is i know i wont go out and refrain, i know full well if i go to the pub after a few drinks i'll be pinching his fags lol

im actually starting to worry about this now, is paranoia part of quitting? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh and have you thought of knitting to keep your hands busy when you're not working? It's all the rage now. xx

haha i can actually knitt, dont tell anyone but i used to do all my kids cardies etc when they was babys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and have you thought of knitting to keep your hands busy when you're not working? It's all the rage now. xx

haha i can actually knitt, dont tell anyone but i used to do all my kids cardies etc when they was babys

My mum still knits hats and mittens and ickle cardi's, she hands them into charity shops ...... do something like that and feel three times good about yourself.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Oh and have you thought of knitting to keep your hands busy when you're not working? It's all the rage now. xx

haha i can actually knitt, dont tell anyone but i used to do all my kids cardies etc when they was babys

No need for embarassment. Knitting's become trendy (again?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh and have you thought of knitting to keep your hands busy when you're not working? It's all the rage now. xx

haha i can actually knitt, dont tell anyone but i used to do all my kids cardies etc when they was babys

No need for embarassment. Knitting's become trendy (again?)"

im getting to that age where its acceptable to knit anyway lol

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Well done on the weight loose... I have not lost any and trying so hard.... So 2 st is bloody brill... I always said I'll stop smoking once I have lost the weight....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are going to be Grandparents in June and the knitting needles are out again .

I haven't got a clue how she understands knitting patterns but the results are impressive .

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Buy a shit load of value carrots and make them into batons, then just pick at them when necessary.

Good advice! Along with peppers and celery"

And to make this a damn site more appetizing, get some natural yoghurt, mix in a small crushed clove of garlic, black pepper & salt (you can add chives too if you have them), place on a couple of sheets of kitchen roll, in a sieve which has been placed over a bowl. Scrunch up the kitchen roll and place a jar of something on top to weight down. Leave overnight and hey presto - syn free cream cheese (tastes like boursion)

Also nice with jacket potato & baked beans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry. "

I'm not sure how SW works, but I know Naughtynymphos does around 30 miles a day on here bike (don't groan Naughty, I'm trying to help here). But that amount of exercise will burn a good few calories, has all that been taken into consideration with calorific defecit/intake etc? It could be a valid reason why your hungry, if most people don't suffer from hunger pangs doing the SW method

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Oh and have you thought of knitting to keep your hands busy when you're not working? It's all the rage now. xx

haha i can actually knitt, dont tell anyone but i used to do all my kids cardies etc when they was babys

No need for embarassment. Knitting's become trendy (again?)

im getting to that age where its acceptable to knit anyway lol"

When my mother died she left a couple of boxfiles full of patterns, some going back to the 60s and loads of pins.

I've seldom been as popular as when I asked 'does anyone want some knitting stuff?'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry. "

because i dont fill up on free foods between meals, i just eat my meals and i dont snack between, i have my breakfast at about 6am and its usually 2pm till i get lunch and i dont eat anything between that time and by 2 im starving, i know you can if you want but i want to loose the weight as fast as possible so i dont, i know they are free on the SW diet but they arnt free calorie wise so you will loose weight faster if you dont eat them, i do follow the diet but i eat the minimum allowed, i did say on my opening post it was self inflicted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry.

Another bit of advice on this.

When we refrain from eating, especially for long durations, our bodies go into starvation mode. What happens is that the body then prepares itself for oncoming fasting. The way it does this is by storing body fat.

Your actually best grazing on around six meals per day divided by the amount of calories you are recommended to consume daily in accordance with your weight loss plan.

I'm sure you'd find it more beneficial to have those healthy small meals in that way. And of course you'd be less hungry as an added bonus

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry.

This is damaging to the way SW works. You're told in the very beginning to give up the way you think about how diets work when you start SW as the science works even though it shouldn't.

Doing what you're doing is a recipe for failure. Part of the reason it works is you're not actually depriving yourself of anything.

If you don't even eat your free food, do you eat any syns? You should aim to have at least 10 syns a day - it's actively encouraged so you don't fall off the wagon (as it looks like you're about to).

If you're not going to follow the diet properly, it won't work is all I can say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry.

Mid morning snack consisting of a pint of water and a chew on a twig then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand why you're hungry on Slimming World. There's absolutely no need for it. There's so much free food that you can fill up on, i've never eaten so much in my life as I am right now!

If something was going to give tho, I'd make it the jaffa cakes - they're less likely to kill you

Welldone on where you've got so far, but you really do need to look at what you're doing wrong on SW if you're hungry.

This is damaging to the way SW works. You're told in the very beginning to give up the way you think about how diets work when you start SW as the science works even though it shouldn't.

Doing what you're doing is a recipe for failure. Part of the reason it works is you're not actually depriving yourself of anything.

If you don't even eat your free food, do you eat any syns? You should aim to have at least 10 syns a day - it's actively encouraged so you don't fall off the wagon (as it looks like you're about to).

If you're not going to follow the diet properly, it won't work is all I can say. "

why am i not following the diet properly?

theres nothing in the diet that says you have to eat free foods between meals its just an option thats there if you need it??

All that they say is you must eat at least 3 meals a day a third of which must be from each food group and between 10 and 15 syns which i do so how am i not following the diet properly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck OP, and see you on the smokers deck with a ciggie in hand on Sun.

I am no good at cutting down on food myself. However, my mum nags me about my weight ever since I was a child, and visiting her in Nov this year gives me the motivation to trim down a little. Otherwise it will be hell for a week when I am with her!

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