FabSwingers.com forum: When Harry Met Sally

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah. My favourite film.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The end when she says ‘you make it impossible to hate you. And I hate you, Harry. I hate you’ gets me everytime

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost always, one of them wants that little bit more.

Though there are times of magic. But its rare xJ

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Ah. My favourite film. "

It’s a corker.

Answer the question, Pickles. I’d be interested in your analysis.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"The end when she says ‘you make it impossible to hate you. And I hate you, Harry. I hate you’ gets me everytime"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Ah. My favourite film. "

Stands back in amazement

Mr pickle

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do. "

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

Yes they can.

It’s perfectly possible for men and women to be friends and have sex, and still be friends.

The belief that sex precludes friendship is an inherently monogamous thought process

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think... it depends on how the relationship starts.

If there are clear boundaries from the beginning and you enjoy each other's company and thoughts, then yes.

If things get a little murkier, then... well most possibly not.

I think if a woman you're dating ever asks you that question you're probably fucked.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah. My favourite film.

Stands back in amazement

Mr pickle "

lol I don’t know what perception you have of me but your responses to finding out things about me make me laugh

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

Yes they can.

It’s perfectly possible for men and women to be friends and have sex, and still be friends.

The belief that sex precludes friendship is an inherently monogamous thought process "

Ah, sorry let me clarify - for the premise of this question I am talking about platonic friendship.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?"

If you just want to have sex with someone that doesn’t get in the way of friendship. If you secretly wish they were your partner, I think that gets in the way.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Yes of course they can. I have quite a few male friends (that I haven't shagged) & I love the bones of them. Platonically x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?

If you just want to have sex with someone that doesn’t get in the way of friendship. If you secretly wish they were your partner, I think that gets in the way. "

Oh I get ya.

I’m not even really asking if it’s going to screw the friendship up or not - just more simply dya think there’s make/female platonic friendships out there where neither party would even want to - or dies someone always want to have more than the platonic?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

Can I be your friend Estella and we can find out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Yes of course they can. I have quite a few male friends (that I haven't shagged) & I love the bones of them. Platonically x"

Ahh, but what do they think? You’re only one side of the equation!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

Yes they can.

It’s perfectly possible for men and women to be friends and have sex, and still be friends.

The belief that sex precludes friendship is an inherently monogamous thought process

Ah, sorry let me clarify - for the premise of this question I am talking about platonic friendship. "

Yes, I have several close and fulfilling friendships with women.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Can I be your friend Estella and we can find out

Of course.

Are you secretly wanting more tho?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

Yes they can.

It’s perfectly possible for men and women to be friends and have sex, and still be friends.

The belief that sex precludes friendship is an inherently monogamous thought process

Ah, sorry let me clarify - for the premise of this question I am talking about platonic friendship.

Yes, I have several close and fulfilling friendships with women.

But do they want more from you?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"Can I be your friend Estella and we can find out

Of course.

Are you secretly wanting more tho?"

Only one way to find out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Just realised I've never watched

When Harry met Sally!

But to answer your question OP, I do have male friends that are just platonic friends, been friends for years with them and thats all its ever been friendship.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Ah. My favourite film.

Stands back in amazement

Mr pickle

lol I don’t know what perception you have of me but your responses to finding out things about me make me laugh"

I can only go by the things you say

Often you go on about race then you talk about famose black people i never hear you speak about a famose white person for you to pick when Harry ment sally as your favorite film was a revelation

A nice one .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?

If you just want to have sex with someone that doesn’t get in the way of friendship. If you secretly wish they were your partner, I think that gets in the way.

Oh I get ya.

I guess so yes ofc you can be friends with any gender. But I think like in WHMS, you can be platonic friends for years and then one day suddenly want more.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Yes of course they can. I have quite a few male friends (that I haven't shagged) & I love the bones of them. Platonically x

Ahh, but what do they think? You’re only one side of the equation!

Well they don't want to shag me, if that's what you mean

A couple are in relationships, so we are just genuine friends.

I could remain close to someone if they were carrying a torch for me, as I think that'd be cruel. Xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?

If you just want to have sex with someone that doesn’t get in the way of friendship. If you secretly wish they were your partner, I think that gets in the way.

Oh I get ya.

I guess so yes ofc you can be friends with any gender. But I think like in WHMS, you can be platonic friends for years and then one day suddenly want more. "

Cant see it been a one day thing

Its would be hidden feeling for years

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?

If you just want to have sex with someone that doesn’t get in the way of friendship. If you secretly wish they were your partner, I think that gets in the way.

Oh I get ya.

I guess so yes ofc you can be friends with any gender. But I think like in WHMS, you can be platonic friends for years and then one day suddenly want more.

Cant see it been a one day thing

Its would be hidden feeling for years "

Perhaps. Or only a moment that makes you see someone differently.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"To answer the op, I think there’s truth in that men tend to be friends with women that they find attractive. The sex doesn’t get in the way but I think feelings do.

Explain to me more what you mean by your last sentence?

If you just want to have sex with someone that doesn’t get in the way of friendship. If you secretly wish they were your partner, I think that gets in the way.

Oh I get ya.

I guess so yes ofc you can be friends with any gender. But I think like in WHMS, you can be platonic friends for years and then one day suddenly want more.

Cant see it been a one day thing

Its would be hidden feeling for years

Perhaps. Or only a moment that makes you see someone differently. "

OK Mr pickle I can conseed that

Each persons feeling are there own

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they can

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Hello little star, it's good to read your threads again.

Yes, I think so. Actually, I know it's very possible - I have two male friends I've known since my first bright eyed, bushy day in halls. We've never entertained the thought of more, never wanted more. I love them to bits.

Maybe I'm a bit naive but I don't think my male friends on here or elsewhere want "more" from me. I'm happy with the friendship as is.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

OK I'm going to throw something strange into the mix and I don't know if only me .but i know some increadable sex women here who I'm friends who would have sex with me as they can detach and have sex with .but I can't have sex with them because I see the as amazing sexy women and love seeing them naked .but I can't bring myself to have sex with them .through out my life I've turned down sex with women who have offered it to me .yet I can have sex with other women no problem if I've made a connection with and they want me to teach them.its just these other women that I see as friends that I can't .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I m friend with all my lovers as its a prerequisite for me. I also have male friends I've never fucked but yes sex always rewards is had at some point. You can get through that with good communication.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I m friend with all my lovers as its a prerequisite for me. I also have male friends I've never fucked but yes sex always rewards is had at some point. You can get through that with good communication."

Indeed I'm friends with woman I have sex with too as you say its a must I have to get know you and then have sex.

But its just the few women I can't .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

Yes they can.

It’s perfectly possible for men and women to be friends and have sex, and still be friends.

The belief that sex precludes friendship is an inherently monogamous thought process

Ah, sorry let me clarify - for the premise of this question I am talking about platonic friendship.

Yes, I have several close and fulfilling friendships with women.

But do they want more from you?

I very much doubt it. It’s hard enough getting my actual partners to want to have sex with me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Sure

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"The end when she says ‘you make it impossible to hate you. And I hate you, Harry. I hate you’ gets me everytime"

Erm, spoilers

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have have ladies who are real friends. Often they were the wives of male friends who are, as a consequence, off limits for sex but there is a mutual liking there. I also have ex-lovers who are, after very many years, still friends, so it is possible.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

It's a shit movie

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never seen it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Never seen it"

It’s honestly a good movie. I mean, it’s no Coyote Ugly, but it’s not bad.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never seen it

It’s honestly a good movie. I mean, it’s no Coyote Ugly, but it’s not bad."

Lacks death and violence. Not for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Yes and its ok to fancy your friends also dont mean wedding bells follow

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I watched it at the weekend for the first time. I very nearly didn't because the first half an hour is dire.

Yes men and women can be friends without one wanting more

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I watched it at the weekend for the first time. I very nearly didn't because the first half an hour is dire.

Yes men and women can be friends without one wanting more"

It’s my favourite film. Hi. Wanna be friends?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I watched it at the weekend for the first time. I very nearly didn't because the first half an hour is dire.

Yes men and women can be friends without one wanting more"

Love to be friends with you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I think I’ve more female friends than male, most of my favourite people are women. Also badasses

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Ah. My favourite film. "

Mine too! How have I missed this thread???

And, OP - the answer is yes, in my experience anyway. Some of my best friends are women and all that...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I would say yes, and I have female friends (often through work).

I would also say that a lot of men like to try it on with anything that moves, which can complicate matters. If nothing more than being annoying.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

I don’t know but I can do a very realistic fake orgasm in a restaurant

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

I don’t know but I can do a very realistic fake orgasm in a restaurant

^I'll have what's she's having.

Unless it's penis.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

I don’t know but I can do a very realistic fake orgasm in a restaurant

^I'll have what's she's having.

Unless it's penis."

I want penis Rex

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Reminds me of my favourite place to eat in New York.

As for being friends i dont know sorreee

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

I don’t know but I can do a very realistic fake orgasm in a restaurant

^I'll have what's she's having.

Unless it's penis.

I want penis Rex

Do I look like Rex?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can men and women just be friends?

Or does one of them always want a little more?

I don’t know but I can do a very realistic fake orgasm in a restaurant

^I'll have what's she's having.

Unless it's penis.

I want penis Rex

Do I look like Rex?"

Oh that’s weird it auto carroted ricky to Rex

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread