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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.. you’re feeling sad?

Recently been feeling more overwhelmed, panicky, self conscious and overthinking things. Can’t seem to pull myself out of it

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

Talk it over with a trusted friend, or speak to your GP.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Take myself to the coast. Sit near the waters edge and have a good cry. The sound if the sea always seems to calm and settle me x

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Play with the dog

Go for long walk with the dog

Go and train

Do something constructive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gym take all that sadness out off me

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Make myself stupid busy to distract myself

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Have a nap, wallow in it, it passes x

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle


".. you’re feeling sad?

Recently been feeling more overwhelmed, panicky, self conscious and overthinking things. Can’t seem to pull myself out of it "

Maybe try getting out for a walk that always helps clear my head, if your up to it walk up a big hill that you think you’d find hard, it’ll help give a sense of achievement and the exercise is always good for releasing the endorphins.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"Gym take all that sadness out off me "

Definitely, Good gym session is legit like magic

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have a three stage process when I'm going through a difficult time.

Step one (skip/minimise if funk is minor): wallow. Bath, chocolate, cry, sleep. Catharsis and indulging yourself. Mental health shit is exhausting. Deal with your primal needs.

Step two: do things that are healthy and make you feel good. Sing, exercise, reach out to people, other things that motivate you

Step three: the hard one. Dealing with your shit. (yeah I know, it sucks. But steps one and two mean you've nurtured yourself to prepare for it)

Mental health first aid: meditation is helpful. Grounding techniques (identify X number of things you can see, smell, touch - reminding yourself that you're connected to the present moment). I find journalling/writing therapeutic. Talk to a friend. Spend time with a pet (yours or someone else's). Spend time in nature

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take myself to the coast. Sit near the waters edge and have a good cry. The sound if the sea always seems to calm and settle me x"

Oh I grew up in a small seaside town, I completely get what you mean! I miss sitting on the beach listening to the waves, especially late at night

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Take myself to the coast. Sit near the waters edge and have a good cry. The sound if the sea always seems to calm and settle me x

Oh I grew up in a small seaside town, I completely get what you mean! I miss sitting on the beach listening to the waves, especially late at night "

Would a YouTube video of similar help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to friends, comfort food and sometimes cut myself off and be alone

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Does talking things through with your partner help?

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

It can be a bit of a circle that increases as you panick you get more anxious and overwhelmed

Try reassure yourself all is ok relax if can or fixate on something else like breathing there’s coping strategies that experts can teach you

Im no expert so suggest speaking with them I also have found personally and we’re all individual s if you can analyse what makes you panic or start the circle to take steps to avoid the scenario get help and talk your not alone even thou at time it bloody feels like it good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes things in life just get on top of me, I’ve never really known what to do.

The latest thing I’ve been trying is the gym, and it’s helping.

I find that it’s a place that none of any other part of my life is.

I don’t really care who is there, I just train and it’s a place to go for how ever long a need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be so hard but well done for posting this.

One of the things I've seen be really effective for people are grounding techniques the 54321 senses one is a good one to look at ,EFT (tapping) can also be helpful,mindfulness, various breathing exercises - the five finger breathing technique or belly breathing can be great ones to try.

Some GPs have wellbeing services which are amazing resources.

Be kind to yourself first and foremost.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


".. you’re feeling sad?

Recently been feeling more overwhelmed, panicky, self conscious and overthinking things. Can’t seem to pull myself out of it "

Could tickle you if you'd like

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Lots of good advice here. Might try some myself. I think the most important one is to talk to someone.

We have very fixed views of ourselves and it sometimes helps to get another perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to upbeat music

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Listen to upbeat music"

That's exactly what I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey it might be the weather, seasonal depression is real but besides that probs talk to someone you feel is safe about anything that’s bothering you daily walks during the day helps too??

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Sit on my own and just try to call and put my head right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had pangs of this earlier.

I just try and rationalise it all - it's just biochemistry and the reasons I feel sad doesn't really change anything in the here and now.

Failing that a bit of distraction.

Be good to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message some outrageous aging transvestite.

They may be gobshites, but they are wise and good to talk to.

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That goes for any of you that want a chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gym take all that sadness out off me

Definitely, Good gym session is legit like magic "

Yip it is that

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