FabSwingers.com forum: So I heard...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Let's keep this free of digs at others on the forums. I'm interested in you. You only.

Are you partial to a bit of gossiping? Will you talk to people to find out the latest bit of exciting news? Do you ever find yourself saying "oh so and so said /did this"?

It doesn't have to be related to Fab - work can be a hotbed for it (well I guess that depends where you work!).

Do you find yourself forming opinions of others based on what you've heard? Ever? Or are you always impartial?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I heard there's a PSL battle brewing

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Love a gossip, although can also be trusted with a secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very much a gossip, but being part of management at work means I know when I need to keep my mouth shut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I heard there's a PSL battle brewing

I am Switzerland in this battle btw...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's keep this free of digs at others on the forums. I'm interested in you. You only.

Are you partial to a bit of gossiping? Will you talk to people to find out the latest bit of exciting news? Do you ever find yourself saying "oh so and so said /did this"?

It doesn't have to be related to Fab - work can be a hotbed for it (well I guess that depends where you work!).

Do you find yourself forming opinions of others based on what you've heard? Ever? Or are you always impartial?"

It depends what it is. If it's just vacuous, inane crap I'm not interested, but if it's something juicy that sheds light on something I luke to know.

Prefer to hear rather than spread. I don't really gossip. I don't mind a little shit talk now and then, though.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think to some degree or another everyone does, despite protests saying they don't.

We're social animals, we've all stood to listen about gossip and some point or another. I think it's what we do with that info that's important. Is gossip necessarily a bad thing? If I heard enough bad things about a person say in work, I'm going to be more cautious until I've made my own mind up for example.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm a listener. I listen to gossip and people feel the need to tell me other people's business, especially my staff, but I rarely then go on to share it with anyone else.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I stay out of such things i generally dont care enough about all that

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I heard there's a PSL battle brewing

Oh I'll win. Come September 1st it'll be a substitution for a personality.

You're very familiar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t stand gossiping

I always think how would I feel if people were talking crap behind my back without the balls to say it to my face.

I would hope that someone who knew me would be able to tell me what others were saying.

I have seen gossip, especially malicious gossip, cause serious damage to people mentally and professionally.

I mostly have found people who start gossip use it as a deflection on themselves or to create trouble

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I try not to. And I don't with things on here definitely. At work, I might listen and "gossip" to Mr KC (we are also colleagues) but genuinely try to keep out of it all.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"I'm a listener. I listen to gossip and people feel the need to tell me other people's business, especially my staff, but I rarely then go on to share it with anyone else. "

Compliment incoming from one straight woman to another- you look absolutely amazing!!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Love a gossip, although can also be trusted with a secret

Oh I like the honesty! Yes, it's possible to be both. I always think there's varying levels to conversation. Like, oh Bob had an extra shot in his latte today, compared to Bob is going through something serious.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Gossip no. But if I need to vent a few frustrations or have somebody vent to me the I'll do so, be it gossip related or not.

I don't need to know the ins and out, or goings on of things but if it releases pent up feelings/frustrations or the "gossip" impacts me or the person in any way, then "gossip" will be shared.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Let's keep this free of digs at others on the forums. I'm interested in you. You only.

Are you partial to a bit of gossiping? Will you talk to people to find out the latest bit of exciting news? Do you ever find yourself saying "oh so and so said /did this"?

It doesn't have to be related to Fab - work can be a hotbed for it (well I guess that depends where you work!).

Do you find yourself forming opinions of others based on what you've heard? Ever? Or are you always impartial?"

I don't do gossip. If i ever find myself in a conversation like that i excuse and extract myself. Id be a liar if i said i dont ever let it influence me and my thoughts of others. But i try really hard to ensure it doesnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I heard there's a PSL battle brewing

Oh I'll win. Come September 1st it'll be a substitution for a personality.

You're very familiar.

Over-familiar?

I don't drink coffee so I am neutral!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I am very much a gossip, but being part of management at work means I know when I need to keep my mouth shut

Ha, yes it's different when you're in management isn't it? There's a certain responsibility. Ethics surrounding it.

In part that's what has inspired this thread - someone from an old site when I lived down South messaged to say "oh, so and so has flown in, want me to say hi from you?". I know exactly what they were trying to do. I'm pretending I've not read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly just listen and nod my head in the hope they’ll stop talking about it, unless it’s with my close friends then I like a gossip

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Gossip no. But if I need to vent a few frustrations or have somebody vent to me the I'll do so, be it gossip related or not.

I don't need to know the ins and out, or goings on of things but if it releases pent up feelings/frustrations or the "gossip" impacts me or the person in any way, then "gossip" will be shared. "

Yep. This.

Sometimes it's unavoidable.

Other times easy to steer clear of.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I am very much a gossip, but being part of management at work means I know when I need to keep my mouth shut

Ha, yes it's different when you're in management isn't it? There's a certain responsibility. Ethics surrounding it.

Dont ethics apply to everyone though? Not just managers... And those from Billericay

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Allways gossip on our work group chat(no managers on it ) just 6 women! I tend to stay impartial but have to admit some of it is Juicy at times x

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Let's keep this free of digs at others on the forums. I'm interested in you. You only.

Are you partial to a bit of gossiping? Will you talk to people to find out the latest bit of exciting news? Do you ever find yourself saying "oh so and so said /did this"?

It doesn't have to be related to Fab - work can be a hotbed for it (well I guess that depends where you work!).

Do you find yourself forming opinions of others based on what you've heard? Ever? Or are you always impartial?"

Gossiping is toxic, full of drama unnecessary and shitty behaviour.

If I find my self gossiping then i ask myself.

why am I?

what am i getting out of it?.

I'd rather not be part of the problem but the solution.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I think to some degree or another everyone does, despite protests saying they don't.

I don't think it always is.

Everyone does to varying degrees, yes. I think it's the connotation of the word - gossip suggests nefarious, almost playground antics. Maybe using another word to describe it would be better. Or term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to gossip about people as it's not my place or my business to do so and I'll always try to form my own opinion of someone based on my interactions with them. That being said, I am an absolute whore for hearing a bit of gossip about someone I don't like

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I think to some degree or another everyone does, despite protests saying they don't.

I don't think it always is.

True, but it's sometimes difficult to know if it's gossip or not. And if it is gossip depends on the person's perspective I think. Definitely need a term for listening about unevidenced facts about someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I barely have the energy.

Though if someone wants to tell me anything I'm very good with secrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to hear a little Fab insider gossip, I will avow. I don't miss it about working with other people though, so there's none in my life really.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I think to some degree or another everyone does, despite protests saying they don't.

I don't think it always is.

I just ask myself if that person was listening in , would this conversation still be taking place just like this? Or would that person immediately stop talking & feel bad.

The words are fine - there is gossip and there is news/updates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why, what do you know?

*woody opens Dms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one for gossip at all as most off the time it’s far from the truth and normally people add they own bits in to it from the own imagination or take bits out depending on if they like sed person or not

so I tend to forum my own opinions

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think gossip can have a positive social value.

It doesn't always mean that someone is badmouthing another

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Can’t stand gossiping

I always think how would I feel if people were talking crap behind my back without the balls to say it to my face.

I would hope that someone who knew me would be able to tell me what others were saying.

I have seen gossip, especially malicious gossip, cause serious damage to people mentally and professionally.

I mostly have found people who start gossip use it as a deflection on themselves or to create trouble "

I think there's a difference between talking about experiences, deliberately gossiping, and just being a twonk.

Malicious gossip is incredibly cruel and it's really not something I have time or energy for. I do think sometimes about if a person would say those things directly to me. To anyone. Share exactly what was said. I guess in my mind that helps differentiate it some what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, no, not really.

I don't mind a bit of harmless gossip. But as soon as it turns nasty I'm out. It's very easy to spot a bitch and I've had enough of people acting like that, especially grown adults. I think it says so much about a person. You're a bully, plain and simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just can't believe she done it

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I'm a listener. I listen to gossip and people feel the need to tell me other people's business, especially my staff, but I rarely then go on to share it with anyone else. "

This for me too!! I’m just sat there minding my own business and people just tell me stuff, whether I like it or not.

I don’t share it with anyone.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I tend to forget it very quickly so I'm a useless gossip as it's Thingy did it with thingy.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't talk to enough people on here for gossip to have any effect.

I've been told tales by people about profiles I've never spoken to and in some cases never even heard of but the person telling me is surprised that I'm not in that loop or have no interest in hearing what they have to say.

Others have started conversations at socials or via messages by saying "I know you don't do gossip, but......"

It's difficult to be influenced by people that you know use private information as currency and even more difficult to form an opinion about someone you've never heard of based on random stories.

I prefer to judge people based on personal experience with them and while I've spoken on here before about my experiences with other people sharing pics and info I've never once named names or given even the slightest hint as to who these people are, not even when asked privately.

To do so would just make me as bad as them.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Honestly, no, not really.

Yes; I think that's the difference isn't it? When it becomes bullying. When it's nasty and spiteful and more based on bias than actual fact. I think we all exchange information to varying degrees but when it becomes mindless sharing, starts affecting other people. That's when it's nasty and gossiping in its common definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more a listener and people watcher in general

To taking part in gossip.

I can gather my intel and make my opinions based on my own thoughts then.

On here it’s quiet obvious sometimes in who’s fancying each other. I miss the subtle hints aimed at me though generally

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

First hand and/or relevant gossip maybe isn't so bad and like many have said we all do it and to be fair, it can be eye opening or in turn mean you can be there for someone... but speculative, rumour mongering gossip is awful. It's not something I partake in, nor would give the light of day.

My mother does it and as carer for her, it tests that relationship... frequently having to ask her if it's relevant, how she would feel if a similar occurrence had befit her.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yes, when I meet up with fourumites, the topics always leads back to the forums, as this is our common interest. Generally most of which is said, can be found on a thread somewhere in the forums. Remembering historical fourumites and the amusing things they used to get up to, and hopefully keeping alive those that have seem to be forgotten on here

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I listen.

But if it isn't my story and the information isn't freely available (such as posted on the interweb), I won't share it.

I'm sick to the back teeth of people digging for information to share with others. I hated school the first time around and I don't need it again.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Gossipmongers aren't the problem. It's those people who are beguiled and then allow themselves to be leeched of any information. Then they spread that insidious gossip and become gossipmongers. Gossipmongers aren't the problem. It's those people who are begui... ...

Just do what I do: don't divulge anything. Instead, spread false and benign information to everyone. But keep this to yourself....

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Gossipmongers aren't the problem. It's those people who are beguiled and then allow themselves to be leeched of any information. Then they spread that insidious gossip and become gossipmongers. Gossipmongers aren't the problem. It's those people who are begui... ...

Just do what I do: don't divulge anything. Instead, spread false and benign information to everyone. But keep this to yourself....

Did you hear about that woman at number 22?

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm a listener. I listen to gossip and people feel the need to tell me other people's business, especially my staff, but I rarely then go on to share it with anyone else.

Compliment incoming from one straight woman to another- you look absolutely amazing!! "

Lol thank you, as do you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loose lips and all that... Quite fitting for Fab sometimes I guess

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