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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

At what stage of chatting do you, or would you like to arrange a meet?

Are you a chat for a while then meet if comfortable or a fuck it let’s meet and assess any chemistry

TIA

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Yes, one of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as possible. I don’t want a penpal.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Varies wildly. I've met people the day after we started chatting on here, I've met people for the first time over a year after we started chatting on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need at least 1000messages and a handful of video calls first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I need at least 1000messages and a handful of video calls first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to chat for a while first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If local normal after the first 5 message or I get bored and move on.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It really depends. Sometimes happy to chat other times especially when we are looking for a meet and people start chatting we want to get to the details quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vibe check for a bit and then just ask them if they want to meet for drink/food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be a social meet first, to assess chemistry, after a few messages

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Depends on so many things.

I met my partner 2 weeks after we started talking (he booked the flight and hotel after about 36 hours of messages

And one of my other favourite people... it took 5 years for us to actually meet.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I have to chat for a while first.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We like to chat for a bit,then have a social .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on."

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"At what stage of chatting do you, or would you like to arrange a meet?

Are you a chat for a while then meet if comfortable or a fuck it let’s meet and assess any chemistry

TIA

Chat for 97 days continually on messages, then 15 hours of phone conversations. Then maybe just maybe I'll get myself blocked....solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly. "

Thanks.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

Like to chat...however on chatting to this woman we agreed on the night it would be straight down to business with no talking at all.....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It varies a lot. During my slut stage? A few messages and I was good to go. No messages after, in fact I actually blocked people so there was no chance of repeats.

In the past couple of years it's been anything from a couple of weeks to months. No, wait. One week. He's the exception though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three month point is a good time to think about maybe discussing meeting.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It varies. When things seem right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At what stage of chatting do you, or would you like to arrange a meet?

Are you a chat for a while then meet if comfortable or a fuck it let’s meet and assess any chemistry

TIA

Chat for 97 days continually on messages, then 15 hours of phone conversations. Then maybe just maybe I'll get myself blocked....solution "

You can get blocked without doing all that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Thanks."

You're welcome

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"At what stage of chatting do you, or would you like to arrange a meet?

Are you a chat for a while then meet if comfortable or a fuck it let’s meet and assess any chemistry

TIA

I'm chat for a long time establish a meeting of minds get to know them then when you meet its more likely you have better time .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a Chinwag first, then a social (or 2) .. I never plan for Fun so if it does happen it's a bonus ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly. "

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

It all depends on how the conversation goes. You can usually tell fairly quickly who you're likely to get on well with and who you're not xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit? "

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We’ll happily chat for weeks until our diary’s free to meet or the chat looses momentum.

Our problem is how flirty to be and when talking dirty becomes acceptable lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex."

Obsessed they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex."

Not all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex."

Where are these men!?

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Well it’s obvious what we’re here for, so if we get on why waste time on messages. Just get on with the business.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do "

This is getting a bit panto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto."

Oh no it isnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it’s obvious what we’re here for, so if we get on why waste time on messages. Just get on with the business."

Why not hire a sex worker if that's how you feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?"

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Oh no it isnt"

Booooo hissssss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses"

That hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses

That hurt "

Don’t cry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses

That hurt

Don’t cry.

Always more of a bon Jovi fan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses

That hurt

Don’t cry.

Have to Slash that one of the Jokes list

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

I like chatting. Could we have a cam-free chatroom, free from textspeak, uncomfortable looking pants and insertions?

Maybe with a cake sub-forum? And no expectation to ever meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto."

Psst...he's behind you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses

That hurt

Don’t cry.

Always more of a bon Jovi fan"

You always disappoint me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Psst...he's behind you"

A bit creepy mate.

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We don’t like a lot of chat

That’s why we prefer to meet for the first time at a club

Sexting bores us as very often all talk and disappointing with the actual action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Psst...he's behind you

A bit creepy mate."

Have you never actually been to a panto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like chatting. Could we have a cam-free chatroom, free from textspeak, uncomfortable looking pants and insertions?

Maybe with a cake sub-forum? And no expectation to ever meet? "

I thought the Lounge was a cake sub-forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Psst...he's behind you

A bit creepy mate.

Have you never actually been to a panto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Where are these men!?

They mustn’t like women who look like they play guitar for Guns N’ Roses

That hurt

Don’t cry.

Always more of a bon Jovi fan

You always disappoint me.

I know.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

As soon as practically possible.

More talk usually leads to it fizzling out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Psst...he's behind you

A bit creepy mate.

Have you never actually been to a panto

Apologies,it wasn't meant to be creepy ,it's one that usually chanted at a panto when the witch or other dastardly type appears in the background

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Psst...he's behind you

A bit creepy mate.

Have you never actually been to a panto

Apologies,it wasn't meant to be creepy ,it's one that usually chanted at a panto when the witch or other dastardly type appears in the background "

I’m joking mate

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"We don’t like a lot of chat

That’s why we prefer to meet for the first time at a club

Sexting bores us as very often all talk and disappointing with the actual action

Lol, we’re similar and only meet new people at clubs really. Eyes, smiles, drinks laughing and dancing all really help the chemistry …”here’s my boobs/knob” over WhatsApp leave us stone-cold-bored tbh.

A little sexy chat as flirting is almost essential

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think there’s any set time… when it feels like it’s progressing past usual chat to more flirting then I would probably ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty quickly. As the male half of a couple, talking to men gets boring very early on.

Talking to men always gets boring quickly.

Don't you just don't about football n shit?

I wish. Men on here always want to talk about sex.

Not all of us

Of course we do

This is getting a bit panto.

Psst...he's behind you

A bit creepy mate.

Have you never actually been to a panto

Apologies,it wasn't meant to be creepy ,it's one that usually chanted at a panto when the witch or other dastardly type appears in the background

I’m joking mate

Yeah, doesn't really come across in text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit fair enough ,no worries

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Well. I'm shy, so it takes a while.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like to meet fairly quickly I get bored of small talk quite quick, if the chat goes on too long I find myself friend zoning them.

Mrs

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"We don’t like a lot of chat

That’s why we prefer to meet for the first time at a club

Sexting bores us as very often all talk and disappointing with the actual action

A little sexy chat as flirting is almost essential"

100%

And I hate all the ‘what I’m going to do to you’ talk

Yawn haha

I’m much more a face to face person

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"We don’t like a lot of chat

That’s why we prefer to meet for the first time at a club

Sexting bores us as very often all talk and disappointing with the actual action

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

If we survive the first two day fade, I'll arrange a meet, but generally that will be in a month's time, thanks to my busy calendar, so that gives us more time to get to know each other

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I chat with appropriate momentum for weeks or even months. With a little coaxing I leave it to the woman's discretion for when she is ready to meet. Arrangements to meet are usually expedited if we've moved to WhatsApp or Telegram.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If we survive the first two day fade, I'll arrange a meet, but generally that will be in a month's time, thanks to my busy calendar, so that gives us more time to get to know each other

Calendars deffo make things difficult

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Can't say each person is different usually couple of months

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

In a pigs eye

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

Varies depending on the type of chat in messages

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"As soon as possible. I don’t want a penpal."

Dear Rex,

I wrote to you but you still ain't calling.

I left my cell, my pager, and my home phone at the bottom.

I sent two letters back in autumn, you must not've got 'em.

Loadsa love,

Mrs KC

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Well it’s obvious what we’re here for, so if we get on why waste time on messages. Just get on with the business.

Why not hire a sex worker if that's how you feel? "

Not everyone needs to spend a long time chatting or a connection ( whatever that means) before deciding they want to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it’s obvious what we’re here for, so if we get on why waste time on messages. Just get on with the business.

Why not hire a sex worker if that's how you feel?

Not everyone needs to spend a long time chatting or a connection ( whatever that means) before deciding they want to meet someone.

I didn't suggest they did

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Well it’s obvious what we’re here for, so if we get on why waste time on messages. Just get on with the business.

Why not hire a sex worker if that's how you feel?

Not everyone needs to spend a long time chatting or a connection ( whatever that means) before deciding they want to meet someone.

I didn't suggest they did"

It doesn't mean they should be paying for it either

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't really like to chat for for than a couple of weeks before arranging a social, I never really know if I'm going to like someone until I've met them in real life. But always a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it’s obvious what we’re here for, so if we get on why waste time on messages. Just get on with the business.

Why not hire a sex worker if that's how you feel?

Not everyone needs to spend a long time chatting or a connection ( whatever that means) before deciding they want to meet someone.

I didn't suggest they did

It doesn't mean they should be paying for it either "

His language provoked my response. Same attutude I see across Fab. Men treating women like sex dispensers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love chatting and getting to know someone but I do like a social meeting if logistics allow quite quickly. I hate to have someone chat with me for ages then meet me and be disappointed and feel they wasted their time.

Obviously that's not always going to be possible. I guess that's why I find the idea of people further away traveling to see me as too much pressure.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"At what stage of chatting do you, or would you like to arrange a meet?

Are you a chat for a while then meet if comfortable or a fuck it let’s meet and assess any chemistry

TIA

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i chat then meet thats the whole point, you can't like or even fancy everyone you meet but thats the only part of this process thats real

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Varies, we've people the same day and others we've talked to for a couple of weeks but have found if it goes on too long before we meet, it just becomes message tennis lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social within 2 weeks of first chatting or we will never meet.

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