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By *rovski OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

What's everyone's advice on how to go about giving a woman a orgarsm from stimulating the clit? Is everyone different?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Yes everyone is different

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Some can some can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes everyone is different "

This.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Ask her to show you.

Watch her hands & fingers.

Don't rush her.

Listen to her.

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

helps if you spell it ….. all joking aside, each woman is different as what stimulates one woman may not stimulate another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All women are different. You could ask the lady to show you what she enjoys. Try different techniques and be guided by how her body is responding.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Best advice is to learn each woman as an individual. Ask her to show you how she gets herself off, or if she's not into that, try a few different things and see how she reacts, use her reactions to refine and find what works for her.

And when you get to the next one, Start over, because we're all very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass her the wand and let her do it herself. Easier all round.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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Every woman is different - different pressures and speeds. Ask her what feels good while you are down there and if she’s tells you ‘just like that, don’t stop’ then don’t stop lol. If she’s not being responsive or looking bored, chances are it’s not doing it for her. But definitely communication is key

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Find out if that's what she wants.

Yes, everyone is different.

If she's shy of showing or telling you how she likes things try various speeds, pressures and movements and guage her reactions. Try fingers, tongue or vibrator according to her preference.

Hope you both enjoy finding out

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands


"Every woman is different - different pressures and speeds. Ask her what feels good while you are down there and if she’s tells you ‘just like that, don’t stop’ then don’t stop lol. If she’s not being responsive or looking bored, chances are it’s not doing it for her. But definitely communication is key "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its easy.

Just lick for hours and hours and hours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women reach climax in different ways but just have a chat about what she likes/prefers and go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with what everyone else has already said. Asking her to show you is probably the best option. Taking a real interest in finding out how you can make your partner have an orgasm is better than not saying anything at all, even if you don’t get it right the first time.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Get the Dyson Hair wrap and blast it all over for 13 seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it's better to test the waters with oral too rather than with your hand.

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By *rovski OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Thanks for the comments everyone. I have listened and ask what I need to do but don't seem to be able to master it. Feel like I am wasting my time. As I have been pretty confident until now

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Different strokes for different women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the comments everyone. I have listened and ask what I need to do but don't seem to be able to master it. Feel like I am wasting my time. As I have been pretty confident until now"

You won’t get anywhere by quitting (shrug)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the comments everyone. I have listened and ask what I need to do but don't seem to be able to master it. Feel like I am wasting my time. As I have been pretty confident until now"

Possibly take the pressure off both of you and stop trying. I know that sounds counter productive but personally if I thought a guy felt he was wasting his time I'd struggle

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Thanks for the comments everyone. I have listened and ask what I need to do but don't seem to be able to master it. Feel like I am wasting my time. As I have been pretty confident until now"

It's a learning curve how you do what you do to another Will never be the same as anyone else doing it... As someone might be good someone might be great then someone might be fantastic each woman likes it different so if you've mastered this as an understanding you're halfway through

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"Thanks for the comments everyone. I have listened and ask what I need to do but don't seem to be able to master it. Feel like I am wasting my time. As I have been pretty confident until now

Possibly take the pressure off both of you and stop trying. I know that sounds counter productive but personally if I thought a guy felt he was wasting his time I'd struggle "

Yep I agree with this too. Some women struggle to orgasm from fingers, oral or penetration (or all of the above) and if she feels pressured to cum because she knows your trying your best then it’s likely that will put her off even more. If she seems a bit nervous or self conscious then just take the pressure off, relax, maybes have a glass of wine, light some candles, spend a lot of time kissing etc and let things flow.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"Thanks for the comments everyone. I have listened and ask what I need to do but don't seem to be able to master it. Feel like I am wasting my time. As I have been pretty confident until now

Possibly take the pressure off both of you and stop trying. I know that sounds counter productive but personally if I thought a guy felt he was wasting his time I'd struggle

Yep I agree with this too. Some women struggle to orgasm from fingers, oral or penetration (or all of the above) and if she feels pressured to cum because she knows your trying your best then it’s likely that will put her off even more. If she seems a bit nervous or self conscious then just take the pressure off, relax, maybes have a glass of wine, light some candles, spend a lot of time kissing etc and let things flow. "

*you’re

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask her to show you.

Watch her hands & fingers.

Don't rush her.

Listen to her."

Totally. I was taught by women early on but still ask what they like, what works for them. It’s part of the fun..

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By *rovski OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Well I am not giving up I will have to take everyone advice on board ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick your tongue up the hole, nod your head so your nose rubs the clit and put a finger in her bum.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

If you feel it's a waste of time that'll be obvious to whoever you play with....Mr Fox is the only person to have made me cum completely by himself simply because of how unrushed and genuine things are

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Its easy.

Just lick for hours and hours and hours!

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"

Jennie knows. Schedule at least 8 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask her to show you.

Watch her hands & fingers.

Don't rush her.

Listen to her.

Totally. I was taught by women early on but still ask what they like, what works for them. It’s part of the fun.."

I know you should ask and stuff but my god this really irritates me. And probably why I'm not a huge fan, if I have to explain to a guy I quickly lose all interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes everyone is different "

Totally agree with this..

Just go into it (bad phrasing sorry) and listen to her moans,breathing (or shock-horror, ask her if you can do anything better - it does work sometimes), feel her thighs tremble and obviously you can taste if You're "hitting" the spot.. I wish You luck

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"What's everyone's advice on how to go about giving a woman a orgarsm from stimulating the clit? Is everyone different?"

Rub vigorously then rub some more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let her do it herself and lay your hand very gently over hers so you can feel the pressure,speed and types of movements. Feel her reactions. You'll get an idea of what she likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let her do it herself and lay your hand very gently over hers so you can feel the pressure,speed and types of movements. Feel her reactions. You'll get an idea of what she likes. "

Taking notes, but I’m pretty good with my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let her do it herself and lay your hand very gently over hers so you can feel the pressure,speed and types of movements. Feel her reactions. You'll get an idea of what she likes.

Taking notes, but I’m pretty good with my hands "

Good. Your notes will be helpful for the practical test

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