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"What does your daughter want? If you and your wife can't agree then if it does go to court then the child has an influence these days." Age dependent How old is your child OP? | |||
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"What does your daughter want? If you and your wife can't agree then if it does go to court then the child has an influence these days." my daughter will be happy with a 50/50 split, i think!! she is only 7! will she have an influence ? | |||
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"What does your daughter want? If you and your wife can't agree then if it does go to court then the child has an influence these days. Age dependent How old is your child OP?" I knew that but didn't want to ask a personal question. | |||
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"What does your daughter want? If you and your wife can't agree then if it does go to court then the child has an influence these days. Age dependent How old is your child OP?" she is 7! | |||
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"Consider mediation. It doesn't involve solicitors, its simply someone who helps your discussions remain calm, thoughtful and proactive." And doesn't have ounce of legal clarity...I went thru mediation with my ex for my solicitor to tell me nothing we agree on stands up in a court of law...so to me a complete waste of my time and money... | |||
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"I went through what you are going through 11 years ago and my ex/w and I lived under the same roof for two years while we sorted out the finances. My solicitor told me not to leave as she could drag it out for years, so hopefully you won't be going through that particularly messy aspect of splitting up. With regards to our daughter (she was 4 at the time), she was in no position to voice her opinion on the matter and it was decided that I would have her Fri - Sun every other weekend, and then every Wednesday evening. It meant I had to go from seeing her every day of her life to every other weekend and once per midweek, but she needed the stability of that and it meant our time together was always quality time. It wasn't ideal but it worked. Sooner or later you will meet someone else and you'll have to build a new relationship between you and your new partner at the same time that she has to form a relationship with your daughter. Having your daughter there every time your new partner visits may feel overwhelming and she could back out, plus your daughter may resent having another woman entering your life. You need time alone to develop a life of your own and fit the pieces in around it as and when they present themselves. You will always be your daughter's father until you choose not to be and then she'll simply transfer her paternal feelings onto someone else. Be there for her even when she's not with you, make it known that you are always only a phone call away and you can ring her on the days you don't see her. Would her mum be ok with that? Good luck, you could have a rocky road ahead of you or a nice smooth ride, it all depends on whether either of you dig your heels in instead of compromising." thanks for that. to be perfectly honest i have no intention what so ever of starting a serious relationship now or in the future! i want to focus my all on my daughter , she is my heart beat and always will be my priority ! as for the phone call every day, i don't think the ex will allow it! | |||
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"I went through what you are going through 11 years ago and my ex/w and I lived under the same roof for two years while we sorted out the finances. My solicitor told me not to leave as she could drag it out for years, so hopefully you won't be going through that particularly messy aspect of splitting up. With regards to our daughter (she was 4 at the time), she was in no position to voice her opinion on the matter and it was decided that I would have her Fri - Sun every other weekend, and then every Wednesday evening. It meant I had to go from seeing her every day of her life to every other weekend and once per midweek, but she needed the stability of that and it meant our time together was always quality time. It wasn't ideal but it worked. Sooner or later you will meet someone else and you'll have to build a new relationship between you and your new partner at the same time that she has to form a relationship with your daughter. Having your daughter there every time your new partner visits may feel overwhelming and she could back out, plus your daughter may resent having another woman entering your life. You need time alone to develop a life of your own and fit the pieces in around it as and when they present themselves. You will always be your daughter's father until you choose not to be and then she'll simply transfer her paternal feelings onto someone else. Be there for her even when she's not with you, make it known that you are always only a phone call away and you can ring her on the days you don't see her. Would her mum be ok with that? Good luck, you could have a rocky road ahead of you or a nice smooth ride, it all depends on whether either of you dig your heels in instead of compromising." was the decision on your daughter made just between u and ur ex? only my friend went through a custody battle when her son was 3.. and he was very much involved in the decision! there are ways on finding out things on how the child feels about each parent. he was taken to a nice play area, where a nice lady just had a friendly chat with him.. but he was asked questions in an age approprate way.. | |||
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"Thought you lived in the same house??" we do, but house is now on the market! | |||
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"update...... not cast in stone yet but wife has verbally agreed to a 50/ 50 split!! very happy " If only all Dads cared as much as you do. Good luck to you x | |||
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"update...... not cast in stone yet but wife has verbally agreed to a 50/ 50 split!! very happy If only all Dads cared as much as you do. Good luck to you x" thanks xx | |||
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