FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the ladies..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...do you ask to meet men or wait for them to ask you?

I mean, not on fab, outside of on an actual date.

What's your success rate?

Do you think times are changing where men aren't always the ones to make the first move..like with kissing/touch..if the guy doesn't make a move do you?

And men, do you hold back? If so why? Just not that interested or cba

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"...And men, do you hold back? If so why? Just not that interested or cba"

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Yes, sometimes, because it's refreshing to feel desired and coveted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I ask sometimes. I don't think I'd like it if I had to ask every time.

Usually I'm fairly successful. Sometimes life gets in the way or I've misread a situation. But most times it works our for me.

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By * B SWoman
over a year ago

Bargoed

I struggle to make the first move on or off fab….. lack of confidence probably main reason

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Got quite a good success rate on & off Fab, if I do fancy the person will just ask if they say no off to the next lol keep it moving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I ask... Tend to do okay from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet? "

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me."

No they were the sane ones!!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!"

There are sane ones?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!"

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Apart from work, I don’t think I'm ever really in situations conducive to meeting men. And all of my male colleagues are married

When I'm out with friends, I'm there to enjoy their company and not out 'on the pull'.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

There are some that, I like, that don't like me.

They are either too polite or afraid to say they don't see me that way.

Which is kinda annoying!

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

I NEVER make the first move. Maybe once we have chatted I'll suggest a date/meeting. The 99% rejection if I make first move is tiresome. Rather she make first contact then at least I know the rest is up to me to keep the interest. Maybe not the best approach but it might explain my success rate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

There are sane ones?

A couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed "

You may struggle to piss....

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss...."

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss....

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!"

So, like next year?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No I don't. The whole being engaged/poly thing makes it a tad difficult. I have done in the past, men and women, if I'm interested in them enough.

As far as kissing goes, I generally prefer the other person to make a move. Only because I'm kind of rubbish at reading if someone is interested in me in that way.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss....

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!"

You really think they are not dentures already?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss....

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!

You really think they are not dentures already? "

Sssshhhhh

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss....

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!

So, like next year? "

Sounds a plan!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss....

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!

So, like next year?

Sounds a plan! "

Cock tease

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't speak to guys outside of fab.

On fab I have done numerous times, they usually fob me off and never seem particularly interested.

OK so, could you take a guess and quantify the percentage of how many guys you've asked to meet that you do actually meet?

In the last 12 months, I've asked 3 guys outright if they wanna meet. Met none. I mean one I did piss off a bit so that was maybe my fault.

Which is insanity to me.

No they were the sane ones!!

If I meet you and come back without a body part I'll be really pissed

You may struggle to piss....

It's cool by the time I meet you you'll be wearing dentures which I'll take out anyway. Gimme those gums!

So, like next year?

Sounds a plan!

Cock tease"

Is it cock teasing for you? Wait, you have teeth and a cock? Damn it Lilith you catfish!

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

No one has asked me on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...do you ask to meet men or wait for them to ask you?

I mean, not on fab, outside of on an actual date.

What's your success rate?

Do you think times are changing where men aren't always the ones to make the first move..like with kissing/touch..if the guy doesn't make a move do you?

And men, do you hold back? If so why? Just not that interested or cba"

I ask and have a high success rate because clearly I'm a sure thing. I've also been asked too, same reason.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't ever make the move, unless I know for certain that someone likes me. And I'm talking notarised and signed in triplicate kind of certainty.

And that doesn't happen out there in the world. I don't get guys interested in me. On here, however, it happens. And if I want to ask someone to meet me I will. However... I don't expect them to say yes. Which is handy, as they usually avoid the question or abandon the conversation instantly.

If I have all the appropriate paperwork and a blood oath that they like me... I'll go for a kiss, or whatever, in person. Very tentatively. And if it doesn't seem like they're into it, I'll turn that into some kind of distraction... like "look over there, a 3 headed monkey!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a lady to take the lead, sometimes I might miss they actually like me.

I had a great message today off the I actually do fancy you thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside. An Actual Date. *shudders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loooove making the first move (not on fab), but I have a very poor success rate

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By *NGthe2ndWoman
over a year ago

Here and there

I used to when I was young. I was slim and attractive and felt pretty confident then.

Now - yeah I lurk in the hope some poor fool notices

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

It's how I met Paul...I approached him in a coffee shop.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes

I love pulling men, the seduction and sensual flirting makes for incredible sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab, We chat and then I ask x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean kissing/touching them the first time? Yes I've reached out first.

I'm very loath to ask anyone to meet at present unless as a friendly social, but I have asked first before now. When I had some confidence and courage!

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I'm really old fashioned and not very forward with men I find attractive.

I have been single over 10 years and not dated.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

CBA most of the time

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