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Do your friends become lovers or your lovers become friends?

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you look back 5-10 years , mostly sexually liberated people fall into one not both category

Is being friends when starting a sexual relationship more or less important than staying friends when one ends ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only stayed friends with two lovers. Once that line has been crossed it’s hard to go back to being friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not friends with anyone I've had sex with.

Maybe this says more about me than them

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um, they can go either way for me.

It's rare I particularly want to fuck someone that I don't also want to spend time with as a friend.

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I'm not friends with anyone I've had sex with.

Maybe this says more about me than them

..."

That doesn’t surprise me

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Well I couldn't have sex with someone unless they were a friend now. Tried it before, I managed to stay uncomfortably dry.

Most of my lovers become friends because... just because I don't want to have sex with them it doesn't mean I no longer enjoy their company or having them in my life.

It depends though. If they've done certain things that I really can't stand, I'll either leave it or need time to remember why I valued their friendship.

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By *oursweetCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

My lover became my friend and now my partner.

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Um, they can go either way for me.

It's rare I particularly want to fuck someone that I don't also want to spend time with as a friend. "

Yeah they can but if you do a count most people don’t, not if you consider true friends anyway.

I’m not talking someone you fuck and still message occasionally , I’m thinking of people who maybe started as a ONS but became a life long friend , vs the mindset that generally has to have a strong friendship and connection before sex , but then things can end quite negatively and you lose contact with each other

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Well I couldn't have sex with someone unless they were a friend now. Tried it before, I managed to stay uncomfortably dry.

Most of my lovers become friends because... just because I don't want to have sex with them it doesn't mean I no longer enjoy their company or having them in my life.

It depends though. If they've done certain things that I really can't stand, I'll either leave it or need time to remember why I valued their friendship."

You’re not trying to sit on the fence as usual for a difficult question are you

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Um, they can go either way for me.

It's rare I particularly want to fuck someone that I don't also want to spend time with as a friend.

Yeah they can but if you do a count most people don’t, not if you consider true friends anyway.

I’m not talking someone you fuck and still message occasionally , I’m thinking of people who maybe started as a ONS but became a life long friend , vs the mindset that generally has to have a strong friendship and connection before sex , but then things can end quite negatively and you lose contact with each other "

I'm friendly with most of my exes. Some just distantly but a few I'm still close to over a decade after we broke up. Someone who was important to me when we were fucking doesn't become less important just because we don't do that part any more.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I couldn't have sex with someone unless they were a friend now. Tried it before, I managed to stay uncomfortably dry.

Most of my lovers become friends because... just because I don't want to have sex with them it doesn't mean I no longer enjoy their company or having them in my life.

It depends though. If they've done certain things that I really can't stand, I'll either leave it or need time to remember why I valued their friendship.

You’re not trying to sit on the fence as usual for a difficult question are you "

Ha! Maybe.

What do you think OP? What's more important to you?

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Well I couldn't have sex with someone unless they were a friend now. Tried it before, I managed to stay uncomfortably dry.

Most of my lovers become friends because... just because I don't want to have sex with them it doesn't mean I no longer enjoy their company or having them in my life.

It depends though. If they've done certain things that I really can't stand, I'll either leave it or need time to remember why I valued their friendship.

You’re not trying to sit on the fence as usual for a difficult question are you

Ha! Maybe.

What do you think OP? What's more important to you? "

I think you know!

Starts are sometimes important, not always , but finishing is what matters most

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I do both, but less so with pull on the night sexual encounters in a different town/country.

Over the years pulling in a pub/club down here, they have become friends and lovers, and I'm friends with all my previous open relationships/fwb that I no longer have sex with. I guess because none of them ended in a negative way, we are able to keep the friendship alive, albeit mostly online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither, friends are friends , lovers are lovers ..I never blur the lines

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I’ve only stayed friends with two lovers. Once that line has been crossed it’s hard to go back to being friends "

Generally I'd agree. There's a couple of notable exceptions I can still chat to.

And one that I hope continues to be a close friend.

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