FabSwingers.com forum: HELP

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, im looking gor help... what am i supposed to do ?

I've been married 25 years and love my wife wholeheartedly, she's hot, fun, the thing is I want to have a laugh, excitement and yes that does involve crossing over from normal life into a different world, a world where it gets the blood simmering, new experiences an erotica excitement.. experiences together.. but alas she has not interested in it, I feel trapped and would never go behind her back and attend without her... its just I feel frustrated that I can't experiences anything like this... we are compatible in daily life and she's vibrant in bed but doesn't want to experience anything further.. we would be voyeurs thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you not already going behind her back by being on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you not already going behind her back by being on here

By which I mean declaring your issues to the internet instead of having a conversation about it with her

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Hi all, im looking gor help... what am i supposed to do ?

Does she know that she is part of a couples profile on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes she does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I don't understand, you have a couples profile on here, and there are pics of a fem (I assumed your wife?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes she does, that's not in / or the question here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To clarify ....To clubs and event

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes she does, that's not in / or the question here "

So what is the question?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"OP I don't understand, you have a couples profile on here, and there are pics of a fem (I assumed your wife?)"

I'm confused also, and surely she can read this post and see what you are thinking??

Does she even know about the pictures and profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

??? This post makes no sense op your a couple here dose that mean your wife doesn’t know she’s on the internet ???

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Yes she does "

So, you need to be talking to her about this. If she's not interested & you're serious about not doing anything behind her back then you're just gonna have to suck it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get it

You have a couples profile, female pics, so is it not your wife on here with you ? But if it is then wouldn’t she she this post ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To clarify ....To clubs and event "

If she doesn’t want to go then there’s nothing you can do about it. What do you feel you’re missing out on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Yes she does "

OP, use the reply+quote button so we know who you're replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice OP is, if you already have a great marriage with a woman you adore, don't put it in jeopardy by being greedy! Discuss with her, come to sort sort of compromise together! After all that's what being married is supposed to be about. We selfishly go after our needs when we're single!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

You have been together for 25 years

you know the answer to this question far better than some randoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need to accept that she doesnt want to go further and stop with this 'I feel trapped' nonsense. Define your priorities, you seem to have a happy life as it is, is that worth losing for a daft night at a club where you'll likely be ignored anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To clarify ....To clubs and event

If she doesn’t want to go then there’s nothing you can do about it. What do you feel you’re missing out on?"

Hi thanks for reply, socialising with like minded people, pushing our boundaries, see whst it's all about.. having fun

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

op.. i dont think this going well

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"To clarify ....To clubs and event

If she doesn’t want to go then there’s nothing you can do about it. What do you feel you’re missing out on?

Hi thanks for reply, socialising with like minded people, pushing our boundaries, see whst it's all about.. having fun "

It won't be fun if she doesn't want to be there.

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By *uga40Man
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Just sit down and talk to her tell her how you feel and what you want to do about it but tell her you love her

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"To clarify ....To clubs and event

If she doesn’t want to go then there’s nothing you can do about it. What do you feel you’re missing out on?

Hi thanks for reply, socialising with like minded people, pushing our boundaries, see whst it's all about.. having fun "

Try going to group socials instead.

You can start by just chatting with like minded people in a neutral environment with no play pressure.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

You’ve been married 25 years but one of you is 39 years old. You married when 14 years old ?

Sounds strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by your veries it seems she’s more comfortable just being on cam…… you need to talk to HER

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To clarify ....To clubs and event "

Ok op if the wife only wants to be here and not go to clubs and events respect her wishes don’t be pushy please

But also explain you would like to and as if she would mind you going on your own if she says no then respect that also

And you have a choice to make ither respect her wishes and keep the relationship and marriage alive or leave and find someone else who will

As no doubt the marriage will fall apart anyway if you keep pushing the subject or she will reluctantly go along and secretly hate you for ever

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Hi all, im looking gor help... what am i supposed to do ?

You sound pathetic to me if she virbtant in bed then your lucky

I'd be interested in hearing her thoughts .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To clarify ....To clubs and event

If she doesn’t want to go then there’s nothing you can do about it. What do you feel you’re missing out on?

Hi thanks for reply, socialising with like minded people, pushing our boundaries, see whst it's all about.. having fun "

You could ask her to post on the forums and ask for advice. Women usually get better responses than men in here but if she is flat out refusing to even consider going to a club then you need to respect her decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve been married 25 years but one of you is 39 years old. You married when 14 years old ?

Sounds strange. "

Well spotted mind you I didn’t look at profile inside just the post

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"You’ve been married 25 years but one of you is 39 years old. You married when 14 years old ?

Sounds strange. "

Good spot

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Surely she must have a little idea as you have a couples profile so some sort of conversation must have taken place.

Strangers on the internet who do not know your wife or your marriage are not going to be able to give you the advice your after.

If my husband choose to ask people online about our relationship instead of talking to me I’d probably have to have a good hard look at our marriage ..

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"You’ve been married 25 years but one of you is 39 years old. You married when 14 years old ?

Sounds strange. "

No shit sherlock on the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All very confusing

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"You’ve been married 25 years but one of you is 39 years old. You married when 14 years old ?

Sounds strange.

Good spot

The OP is from Wales so it occurred that maybe that’s common in Wales.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm afraid you can't have everything in life. You have what sounds like a great marriage so keep the other stuff to fantasy and delete your account here. Keep an open dialogue with your wife and maybe you can explore fantasies together.

Safeguard your marriage.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'm confused. Lots of things here don't really add up.

Presumably prior to creating this couples profile you had a discussion about what you were both looking for on here. I'd also assume that there was further discussion before having sex in front of strangers on cam (as per your verifications), and yet now you're asking strangers on the internet what you should do to take things further rather than talking about it with your wife?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, thanks so just to clarify, we are a couple here and Interact on cam happily,it's just I want to go to a club for the excitement as social and voyeurs nothing else, she's isn't keen, I was just hoping on some advice on how to approach it..

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"Hi, thanks so just to clarify, we are a couple here and Interact on cam happily,it's just I want to go to a club for the excitement as social and voyeurs nothing else, she's isn't keen, I was just hoping on some advice on how to approach it..

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48"

Approach it in exactly the same way as the conversations where you agreed to join the site and go on cam?

It doesn't sound like you really want advice on how to approach it, more like you are asking for advice on how to persuade her to do something she has already made clear she doesn't want to do.

Be grateful for what you have OP, many guys on here would kill for that!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

So many things don't add up here. Profile says no piercings. But there are definitely piercings on the photos. There are screenshots which always make me wary. You're not photo verified as a couple which makes me worry that your wife was unaware that she was on cam and maybe just thought you were filming for fun. The age thing is odd but loadsof people seem to take 5 years off their age so it's plausible.

Ignoring all that and just answering your question. Is FOMO really worth throwing away an otherwise excellent marriage for? Really? Because if she's not interested then you have to decide what means more to you. Your marriage or being in the lifestyle, most likely as a single male at that stage. If you go behind her back, and she finds out, the repair work for that breach of trust is huge. Or the end of your marriage.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48"

You go on your own .

or get her to come on give us her thoughts

Then we hear both side

the forum can give advise

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"To clarify ....To clubs and event

If she doesn’t want to go then there’s nothing you can do about it. What do you feel you’re missing out on?

Hi thanks for reply, socialising with like minded people, pushing our boundaries, see whst it's all about.. having fun "

Maybe try the organised social events rather than jump straight into clubs, it's just a bunch of like-minded people in a pub, no pressure then.

If she's not into clubs you can't force her to like them, surely it's not enjoyable knowing one half isn't into it.....

If her boundaries are set at no clubs etc you need to respect that.

Mrs

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48"

Ages update automatically every year on here so I don't see how yours hasn't.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48"

They auto update you don’t have to do the update - also says no piercings and there are piercings in the pics

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48

Ages update automatically every year on here so I don't see how yours hasn't.

It’s like royalty. You have a real birthday and an official birthday. Think of it as a Fab age and real age. Everyone has one.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48

They auto update you don’t have to do the update - also says no piercings and there are piercings in the pics

And profile only nine months old but “hasnt updated ‘for years’” too many anomalies.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Go for it dude, she’ll understand

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48

They auto update you don’t have to do the update - also says no piercings and there are piercings in the pics

And profile only nine months old but “hasnt updated ‘for years’” too many anomalies. "

Yup. Lots of things just don't add up.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Our profile ages haven't updated on fab for years should read 43 and 48

They auto update you don’t have to do the update - also says no piercings and there are piercings in the pics

And profile only nine months old but “hasnt updated ‘for years’” too many anomalies. "

Oh yes - very peculiar

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By *ssex-coupleCouple
over a year ago

clacton on sea

I’d say if she’s not up for it then leave it at that. Might be a confidence issues so you could suggest finding one clothes on with no play pressure but if she really don’t want to do it then that’s her personal boundary reached… we all have them and that’s hers. Not worth the risk in marriage breakdown

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