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"Worse still are the replies in text speak, especially from people who are old enough to know better. Is everyone in such a hurry now? " Ys m8 | |||
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"I was always under the impression that when you message someone with a nice introduction and a few questions you would usually get the same in return. However very often we find that talking to a lot of people here is like talking to a brick wall. A 200 word paragraph with 3 questions is quite often reciprocated with a short sentence or even a few words barely even addressing what we said. This happens more with young people. Obviously if someone puts that little effort into a conversation we just leave it and don't bother replying but quite often we are then met with messages such as "Okay then i won't even bother" Or "Fine, blocked". Etc Has anyone else encountered this? Are we the odd ones out here and it's actually customary to just send a few words at a time?" I wouldn't even read a 200 word message!! | |||
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"I was always under the impression that when you message someone with a nice introduction and a few questions you would usually get the same in return. However very often we find that talking to a lot of people here is like talking to a brick wall. A 200 word paragraph with 3 questions is quite often reciprocated with a short sentence or even a few words barely even addressing what we said. This happens more with young people. Obviously if someone puts that little effort into a conversation we just leave it and don't bother replying but quite often we are then met with messages such as "Okay then i won't even bother" Or "Fine, blocked". Etc Has anyone else encountered this? Are we the odd ones out here and it's actually customary to just send a few words at a time?" Is that a first message or during the course of conversation ? Sometimes I feel you can say more using fewer words and not diluting the message. Also if someone is online it's nice to have that quick live exchange rather than waiting for their essay back and answering s | |||
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"So we are wrong if we don't reply and wrong if we do?" Have spoken to this fine lady today. It's all about the approach and expectation  | |||
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"So we are wrong if we don't reply and wrong if we do? Have spoken to this fine lady today. It's all about the approach and expectation "Yes you didn't get one word answers because you are interesting. | |||
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"It’s common. Age isn’t a factor. Most likely struggle beyond a few words yet expecting maximum results with very dull responses " Then stop bothering. They aren't interested. | |||
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"I was always under the impression that when you message someone with a nice introduction and a few questions you would usually get the same in return. However very often we find that talking to a lot of people here is like talking to a brick wall. A 200 word paragraph with 3 questions is quite often reciprocated with a short sentence or even a few words barely even addressing what we said. This happens more with young people. Obviously if someone puts that little effort into a conversation we just leave it and don't bother replying but quite often we are then met with messages such as "Okay then i won't even bother" Or "Fine, blocked". Etc Has anyone else encountered this? Are we the odd ones out here and it's actually customary to just send a few words at a time? I wouldn't even read a 200 word message!!" Really? You just read and replied to 150. 200 words was an estimate but it's not as much text as you might think. | |||
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"I was always under the impression that when you message someone with a nice introduction and a few questions you would usually get the same in return. However very often we find that talking to a lot of people here is like talking to a brick wall. A 200 word paragraph with 3 questions is quite often reciprocated with a short sentence or even a few words barely even addressing what we said. This happens more with young people. Obviously if someone puts that little effort into a conversation we just leave it and don't bother replying but quite often we are then met with messages such as "Okay then i won't even bother" Or "Fine, blocked". Etc Has anyone else encountered this? Are we the odd ones out here and it's actually customary to just send a few words at a time? Is that a first message or during the course of conversation ? Sometimes I feel you can say more using fewer words and not diluting the message. Also if someone is online it's nice to have that quick live exchange rather than waiting for their essay back and answering s" Both to be honest!. I see myself as a good communicator so if a question only required a short answer I wouldn't question it. I'll give you an example. Recently we messaged someone, told them what we're looking for, asked them a few questions about themselves and the last paragraph was literally: "Hope you've had a great day! Xx" The reply we got was: "Yeah my day was not bad thanks." That's it. None of our questions answered or any info provided acknowledged. A day later we get a message saying "Cool..." And the thread gets deleted. You couldn't make this shit up haha | |||
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"I was always under the impression that when you message someone with a nice introduction and a few questions you would usually get the same in return. However very often we find that talking to a lot of people here is like talking to a brick wall. A 200 word paragraph with 3 questions is quite often reciprocated with a short sentence or even a few words barely even addressing what we said. This happens more with young people. Obviously if someone puts that little effort into a conversation we just leave it and don't bother replying but quite often we are then met with messages such as "Okay then i won't even bother" Or "Fine, blocked". Etc Has anyone else encountered this? Are we the odd ones out here and it's actually customary to just send a few words at a time?" No | |||
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"So we are wrong if we don't reply and wrong if we do?" I am not sure what you mean. Who is we? I didn't generalise any specific group. We also don't mind not getting a reply. We're not everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely great because the world would be boring if everyone was into the same things. | |||
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"It’s common. Age isn’t a factor. Most likely struggle beyond a few words yet expecting maximum results with very dull responses Then stop bothering. They aren't interested. " I haven’t bothered anyone. Maybe worry what’s going on with yourself and not attempting to hijack a forum | |||
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"It depends if someone writes a closed question its hard to reply to that lol " • Closed responses are the signs of a dwindling conversation and eventual closure. | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies peeps. The general consensus seems what I thought initially. If the conversation seems forced and doesn't flow, then the meet probably won't flow too well either." It’s a good indicator, but don’t take it as the be all and end all. Some people just aren’t writers/texters. Some people you need to meet in person. | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies peeps. The general consensus seems what I thought initially. If the conversation seems forced and doesn't flow, then the meet probably won't flow too well either. It’s a good indicator, but don’t take it as the be all and end all. Some people just aren’t writers/texters. Some people you need to meet in person." Exactly this. I am like that and I have recently said that on Nero’s post regarding similar situation. | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies peeps. The general consensus seems what I thought initially. If the conversation seems forced and doesn't flow, then the meet probably won't flow too well either." I offer a phone chat as a ‘next step’……I give them my number, so they can choose to call me number withheld, that way I cannot become a phone pest if the call doesn’t work out. It’s a good ‘ice breaker, hearing someone’s voice, and also a good indicator of how the conversation will flow face to face. It also shows that each person is genuine (for me I’m happy to hear a female voice lol), and if they can make time for a phonecall, the chances are they can make time for an actual meet | |||
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"I enjoy the bland chat, the one word conversations excite me. I get a buzz out of annoying people, I can't lie
When they block me it's like I've advanced to the next level! "Loooooooool | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies peeps. The general consensus seems what I thought initially. If the conversation seems forced and doesn't flow, then the meet probably won't flow too well either. · It’s a good indicator, but don’t take it as the be all and end all. Some people just aren’t writers/texters. Some people you need to meet in person." • I challenge that vehemently. People have their own methods that work for them, granted, but where does the impetus to "meet in person" come from?? There has to be an evolution of messaging and chatting to serve as that impetus. Each to their own of course but I won't meet anyone whose skills in handling a cock are far greater than handling a conversation. | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies peeps. The general consensus seems what I thought initially. If the conversation seems forced and doesn't flow, then the meet probably won't flow too well either. · It’s a good indicator, but don’t take it as the be all and end all. Some people just aren’t writers/texters. Some people you need to meet in person. • I challenge that vehemently. People have their own methods that work for them, granted, but where does the impetus to "meet in person" come from?? There has to be an evolution of messaging and chatting to serve as that impetus. Each to their own of course but I won't meet anyone whose skills in handling a cock are far greater than handling a conversation." I'm with Nero on this. I've seen lots of people say here and on dating apps that they aren't texters etc. Nor do they suggest phone calls. Am I expected to decide whether to meet them based on "hi" and a cock pic? | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies peeps. The general consensus seems what I thought initially. If the conversation seems forced and doesn't flow, then the meet probably won't flow too well either. · It’s a good indicator, but don’t take it as the be all and end all. Some people just aren’t writers/texters. Some people you need to meet in person. • I challenge that vehemently. People have their own methods that work for them, granted, but where does the impetus to "meet in person" come from?? There has to be an evolution of messaging and chatting to serve as that impetus. Each to their own of course but I won't meet anyone whose skills in handling a cock are far greater than handling a conversation. I'm with Nero on this. I've seen lots of people say here and on dating apps that they aren't texters etc. Nor do they suggest phone calls. Am I expected to decide whether to meet them based on "hi" and a cock pic? " All of the above are interesting views. Because of where we live people usually travel a pretty long distance to meet us. 200+ miles in some cases. In light of this we can't just meet up for a drink to see how it goes. Out meets are usually weekend long, hardcore BDSM parties. For this reason clear communication is absolutely crucial beforehand and we make this apparent from the get go. Sometimes a contract also needs to be signed. | |||
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