FabSwingers.com forum: How attractive…

By *ack688 OP Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

..does someone need to be to you before you would consider getting physical in some way with them? So if we use a 1-10 scale, would you only see people you consider a 9 or 10? Or a 6? Or 4? What’s your cut off?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Hopefully around a 3 so I stand a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10.

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and yet

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

They have to be at least a nine in my eyes for me to want to have sex with them. It's not just about physicality when I'm thinking about attractiveness but yes. I want full lust, to want to kiss every part of them and enjoy whatever unfolds.

It's all really rather arbitrary giving a person a number like that. Basically, I have to be in to them to want them in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters. "

They have to be attractive to *me*.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters.

They have to be attractive to *me*.

Not like Holly Willoughby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters.

They have to be attractive to *me*.

Not like Holly Willoughby"

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Urgh.. I hate scales..

Attractiveness is subjective

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

...I just don't have the brain for a 1-10 scale, just the concept makes my brain itch.

Just make it a 1-2 scale, anything more is just... like, imagine finding out you slept with someone that viewed you as as 6, just in the pass mark but they could have done better, you'd be doing a two-bag shop in the Londis within the hour

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The only scale for attractiveness I need is this.

Yes or no, to the question of whether I find them attractive or not. It's usually black and white.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"The only scale for attractiveness I need is this.

Yes or no, to the question of whether I find them attractive or not. It's usually black and white.

That's the ticket.

Rating people is absolutely awful in my view.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

7 at lowest x

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Detest attaching a number to a person there’s so many things I find attractive about people it’s subjective x

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

They have to be smarter than my goldfish

hahaha

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I don’t use a scale at all OP. If I find them attractive and they find me attractive then that’s all that matters. Ratings and scales of stuff like that are pretty grim tbh

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

sexual attraction has to be a 10 out of 10 for me im just not interested otherwise ... i / we swing for pleasure with others whom we think are hot we dont swing to feel like im we are just a hole for others ....10 out of 10 everytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only scale for attractiveness I need is this.

Yes or no, to the question of whether I find them attractive or not. It's usually black and white.

That's the ticket.

Rating people is absolutely awful in my view."

My feelings on this OP.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

tho i do agree theres not a number or % to this you either attract or you dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything with a pulse?

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

What is attractive, though?

For example, the ideal of male beauty is generally men looking like Jason Momoa or Chris Hemworth- broad, muscular, beards. Tattoos, probably? I can appreciate the beauty but I am not attracted at that kind of looks *at all*.

For me, tall, even a bit lanky, why not, clean-shaven, geeky/nerdy kind of men make my heart beat faster. So for a guy to get my attention they’d have to have this physical appearance. Anyone else would have to be REALLY witty and make great convo/opening message for me to reply to their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The power of attractiveness for me is not the lusting over a body, we have bodies, we have body parts, attractiveness for me lies in his eyes and his mind and his ears.

Whether or not his eyes tell me to seduce him his mind because I am interested in knowing him not just his body and lastly his ears to know that we are on the same level of understanding and listening. To me thats the power and art and law of attraction.

For me there needs to be a true connection

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Scales/ratings are pointless. One person's 10 might be another person's 1 x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.

0% 100%

50%

Rating 0, 5, 10......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.

0% 100%

50%

Rating 0, 5, 10......"

You don’t know me! You don’t know my thoughts!!

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

As everyone’s criteria is different, then surely a given number is null?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- 8 upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My cut off is when I don’t find them attractive.

I don’t like the idea of rating other peoples looks.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.

0% 100%

50%

Rating 0, 5, 10......"

Yeah, there’s always the 3,4,5,6 pint scale some guys use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's not how attractive the person is, as attractions is subjective, it's how attractive I personally find the person

Would say about 7 upwards

But that being said a 7 to me may be a 1 to someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's not how attractive the person is, as attractions is subjective, it's how attractive I personally find the person

Would say about 7 upwards

But that being said a 7 to me may be a 1 to someone else "

Personality also plays a big part in it

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I dont think a scale comes into it, you're either attracted to someone or you're not, and attraction can be because of many things, looks, personality, confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using this 1-10 scale method it would have to be a 7 minimum

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"What is attractive, though?

attraction is down to each individual its human nature that the eyes attract first then everything else follows so you may say i dont look for visual attraction but we all do its how our brain processes stuff eyesight is away first then sounds smells ie how they put themselves across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's not how attractive the person is, as attractions is subjective, it's how attractive I personally find the person

Would say about 7 upwards

But that being said a 7 to me may be a 1 to someone else "

So I’m definitely a 10 for at least a few supermodels out there

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By *ack688 OP Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

The idea of a number scale wasn’t to imagine that your perception of someone’s attractiveness level is ever going to be the same as anyone else’s, so your definition of 7 for example isn’t going to necessarily coincide with other peoples. It was more of an idea of just how attractive you feel you need to find someone, and I hear that a lot of people say that either they find someone attractive or they don’t, but there will always be people you find more attractive than others, so I guess the question was more one of, will you only go for utterly gorgeous (whether that be in a physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual way), or is ‘hmm good enough’ good enough? Or some point between the two

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

No such thing as an attractive scale for a person.

You either do or you don't.

The ones you see that rate themselves on here in bio as 10 and 10 plus and absolutely perfect are usually the ones with piss poor attitudes on the negative scales so you'd avoid them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The idea of a number scale wasn’t to imagine that your perception of someone’s attractiveness level is ever going to be the same as anyone else’s, so your definition of 7 for example isn’t going to necessarily coincide with other peoples. It was more of an idea of just how attractive you feel you need to find someone, and I hear that a lot of people say that either they find someone attractive or they don’t, but there will always be people you find more attractive than others, so I guess the question was more one of, will you only go for utterly gorgeous (whether that be in a physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual way), or is ‘hmm good enough’ good enough? Or some point between the two"

I understood your op

And I go for utterly gorgeous (to me!) utterly gorgeous spiritually/physically

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It made perfect sense to me OP. I've heard tales from friends of not particularly lusting after a person but having sex with them anyway because it's fun and they're good enough.

I couldn't do that.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Solid 5/7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.

0% 100%

50%

Rating 0, 5, 10......

Yeah, there’s always the 3,4,5,6 pint scale some guys use."

I'm a 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the ugly ones, so I feel pretty by comparison.

Thats why I am so friendly with Oxon Davina!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I prefer the ugly ones, so I feel pretty by comparison.

Thats why I am so friendly with Oxon Davina!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got no issue with a scale. One persons 1/10 is another's 10/10. It's all down to the individual. We all have different tastes.

There's lots of other factors that alter someone's attractiveness such as humour, personality, intelligence and even the way someome moves.

We do find that most single guys that message us on Fab are very low on our personal scale of physical attractiveness. We use traditional dating sites to find single guys and on these we find that there are many more that are for us. We also find on Fab that when we chat to couples that often we find the woman attractive but the guy isn't, which can be frustrating. We've found clubs to be exactly the same, so have given up with these.

We go to smaller private parties and these tend to have more people we are attracted to both male and female and play with people at nearly every event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The power of attractiveness for me is not the lusting over a body, we have bodies, we have body parts, attractiveness for me lies in his eyes and his mind and his ears.

For me there needs to be a true connection "

^^^^^this for me ^^^^

Also make me laugh

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

What I think is a 10 someone else will think is a 1.

But I need to be attracted to a face to kiss it and need some attraction to a body to want to touch that, but the thing that impacts it the most is their personality, I could see a photo and think nope but chat to them and think there amazing and become instantly more attractive.

Mrs

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"They have to be at least a nine in my eyes for me to want to have sex with them. It's not just about physicality when I'm thinking about attractiveness but yes. I want full lust, to want to kiss every part of them and enjoy whatever unfolds.

It's all really rather arbitrary giving a person a number like that. Basically, I have to be in to them to want them in me."

Said it better than I could. And I think rating people’s appearance on that scale is extremely reductive at best.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

10. I generally am not going to fuck people, who I find only partially attractive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's relatively simple, you either like them or you don't. Chemistry is a good indicator...

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over a year ago

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

BOBFOC all the way for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only ever meet what I would consider at least a 9 for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would only ever meet what I would consider at least a 9 for sex. "

That’ll be me

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By *ainsb1Man
over a year ago

North Lincs/S.Yorks

Attractive is more than looks. It's a spark. But, if attractive to you personally then that is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have to get to 10 on my sex-o-meter before I will open my legs.

My sex-o-meter can take months to get to 10, even years! Or it can boing from 0-10 in mere minutes. Quite disconcerting when that happens.

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

Probably like 9 minimum for us two however who's 9 for us might be a 3 for someone else as we all have different taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

….. "

Attractive to me is the whole package

10 face/body/personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

…..

Attractive to me is the whole package

10 face/body/personality.

There you are. ^ she knows.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I’ll leave it up y’all to decide I think I’m about 7

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

I wouldn’t rate attraction on a scale as it’s fluid based on many different factors. It’d be high though if a scale was used.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Women 10 Men any number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I don’t rate people. There’s enough body shaming going on here.

(I’d say 5 and over

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"They have to be smarter than my goldfish

hahaha"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is serious to seriously funny or dead pan oops bed pan not funny. I call that wavelength. Others call it hiting your humoursese bone. Laughter is the feed that lightens our brain. Life is fun,ideally. Life with a fab should be dib dab absolutely fab in the comedy skills. He needs to make me feel safe in his arms of silliness, giggles and make me wet with tears.. Of course

Law of attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

….. "

Don't care. This is fab for me not dating world.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

…..

Don't care. This is fab for me not dating world."

Oh they have to be 100

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't choose people on the basis of Just because she'll do. It's a 10 never a maybe the thought of...

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I’m not gonna be bothered if nobody finds me attractive

If there’s someone they’ll holla at me xxxxxx

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

The only scales I use is kitchen scales

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"The only scales I use is kitchen scales

What about you weight or do you jump in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different. You can have a physically attractive person but their personality could be unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

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If they have zero personality they're not an 8.

If I know that a 10 fucked a 2 I won't go near the 10.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a silly idea. If I find you attractive scales are irrelevant..

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It's binary

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?

Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2?

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Why would anyone care about the attractiveness of their past lovers? What an odd concept. They found them attractive.

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