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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Besides my day job, I'm training to be a coach - both business and personal.

I love finding out more about people and helping them become more aware of their potential and any negative behaviours or beliefs that are getting in their way.

I often think how things would pan out if this was done naked. On one hand, there's pure fantasy there. On the other hand, perhaps there may be a genuine case for openess, honesty and vulnerability when naked?

Just my general thought for the day.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Can’t imagine anything worse, I’m sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lost me when you mentioned it as a fantasy.

Men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just being honest... about it being a fantasy. This isn't something I'd offer as I know it'd blatantly blur the lines of ethics (as I'm conscious it would be a fantasy).

But at the same time, I'm also genuinely curious about how impactful a coaching session would be if, with the clients permission and comfort, this would be part of the process.

Also exploring natural walk and talks for the same reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the real reason Big Sam got the boot from England.

Poor old Eric Dier has never been the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just being honest... about it being a fantasy. This isn't something I'd offer as I know it'd blatantly blur the lines of ethics (as I'm conscious it would be a fantasy).

But at the same time, I'm also genuinely curious about how impactful a coaching session would be if, with the clients permission and comfort, this would be part of the process.

Also exploring natural walk and talks for the same reason. "

I didn't mind the other part about being naked and feeling vulnerable etc because it's an interesting point. But it doesn't sit well with me that you'd be thinking about potential future clients as a fantasy in such a sensitive and vulnerable role.

But maybe I'm reading too much into it.

smh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get what you mean. I'm taking my training seriously and again, wouldn't ever overstep that mark.

That being said, I do fantasise about lots of situations that I wouldn't take action on.

Never been attracted to someone you shouldn't have? Or fantasized about something that wouldn't play out in real life?

I respect your opinion though as it's very valid.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

There used to be a show that did something like this for people with body issues. It seemed to really help them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I get what you mean. I'm taking my training seriously and again, wouldn't ever overstep that mark.

That being said, I do fantasise about lots of situations that I wouldn't take action on.

Never been attracted to someone you shouldn't have? Or fantasized about something that wouldn't play out in real life?

I respect your opinion though as it's very valid. "

I think people can have fantasies without overstepping bounds.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have experience with therapy rather than coaching, although I imagine there's a level of overlap.

In order to get me to a place where I could heal appropriately, I had to work past my reticence and all the barriers that life had forced me to put up. And then dealing with the thing itself was fucking painful and exhausting and I donwanna. (In my specific instance - it's easiest to say PTSD. It's not technically accurate but it's close enough for what I'm trying to say)

One of the things my therapist always emphasised was only going as far as was safe, and knowing that I was tethered to a safe space and a safe relationship. Going too far, being too vulnerable, would retraumatise me.

(And I know there's this image of therapy as a nice cup of tea for the worried well. I'd sometimes have an afternoon appointment, go home, curl up in a ball for the rest of the day and only get up to deal with the physical reaction to what had happened. Often violent shits. TMI sorry not sorry)

Given all the difficulty getting me to that place, which I needed - being naked would add a barrier. I'd be distracted by my conditioning around modesty, about my worries about what my body looks like, etc. Getting me to where I needed to be was quite hard enough without an additional distraction.

I can maybe see a point if we lived in a world where nakedness was more the default and for some reason I needed to embrace my nakedness. But we don't live in that world.

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By *lippy1Man
over a year ago

Fife

Old fashioned phone coaching is your way forward. You and the client can wear whatever you like!

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Besides my day job, I'm training to be a coach - both business and personal.

I love finding out more about people and helping them become more aware of their potential and any negative behaviours or beliefs that are getting in their way.

I often think how things would pan out if this was done naked. On one hand, there's pure fantasy there. On the other hand, perhaps there may be a genuine case for openess, honesty and vulnerability when naked?

Just my general thought for the day.

"
Hey good luck with that thought

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Besides my day job, I'm training to be a coach - both business and personal.

I love finding out more about people and helping them become more aware of their potential and any negative behaviours or beliefs that are getting in their way.

I often think how things would pan out if this was done naked. On one hand, there's pure fantasy there. On the other hand, perhaps there may be a genuine case for openess, honesty and vulnerability when naked?

Just my general thought for the day.

"

What makes you think you’d be a good coach , sounds like you completely misunderstand what it is or how it works.

I’ve been much ti have one of the best coaches in the world for over 20 years, he says it’s like great art and what you’re doing is learning to paint by numbers from a second rate art teacher

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"You lost me when you mentioned it as a fantasy.

Men. "

Nothing wrong with a fantasy. Very interesting profile by the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you immensely for this insight. There is certainly overlap, but also an understanding of boundaries and not to provide help beyond capabilities. That being said, many therapist train as coaches and vice versa. But there is a distinct difference.

My post wasn't intended for any other reason than to get thoughts on whether being naked can help or hinder the process, so your comments really help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You make some big assumptions here.

I never said I was a good coach. I'm training... and with that, a large part of any coach training is curiosity.

Also, you have no idea at what level I'm training with or who is coaching me.

With that, I feel free to completely disregard your comment and suggest you speak with your coach about assumptions..

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

More balls please!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Thank you immensely for this insight. There is certainly overlap, but also an understanding of boundaries and not to provide help beyond capabilities. That being said, many therapist train as coaches and vice versa. But there is a distinct difference.

My post wasn't intended for any other reason than to get thoughts on whether being naked can help or hinder the process, so your comments really help. "

Happy to help. It's part of the reason why training exists - to iron this stuff out. Obviously my comment may not be entirely applicable, but it might be worth considering. How many boundaries and hangups really need to be removed, and why?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

[shit], New balls please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get what you mean. I'm taking my training seriously and again, wouldn't ever overstep that mark.

That being said, I do fantasise about lots of situations that I wouldn't take action on.

Never been attracted to someone you shouldn't have? Or fantasized about something that wouldn't play out in real life?

I respect your opinion though as it's very valid. "

Spent 25yrs working with people and can hand on heart say I never had inappropriate thoughts about anyone I saw, it's just a no.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"You make some big assumptions here.

I never said I was a good coach. I'm training... and with that, a large part of any coach training is curiosity.

Also, you have no idea at what level I'm training with or who is coaching me.

With that, I feel free to completely disregard your comment and suggest you speak with your coach about assumptions..

"

If you use reply and quote we will know who you are replying to here though I think I can guess.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP I think you have a potential point about being naked and vulnerable but if it is a professional setting then fantasies have to be totally banished from your mind.

By way of example: I life model for art groups - which is obviously done totally naked - but that is for artists to focus on form and it doesn’t occur to me that it would be anything other than professional in that setting.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Besides my day job, I'm training to be a coach - both business and personal.

I love finding out more about people and helping them become more aware of their potential and any negative behaviours or beliefs that are getting in their way.

I often think how things would pan out if this was done naked. On one hand, there's pure fantasy there. On the other hand, perhaps there may be a genuine case for openess, honesty and vulnerability when naked?

Just my general thought for the day.

"

Here's another thought for the day, BOUNDARIES

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You make some big assumptions here.

I never said I was a good coach. I'm training... and with that, a large part of any coach training is curiosity.

Also, you have no idea at what level I'm training with or who is coaching me.

With that, I feel free to completely disregard your comment and suggest you speak with your coach about assumptions..

If you use reply and quote we will know who you are replying to here though I think I can guess. "

Ah, that makes sense. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you immensely for this insight. There is certainly overlap, but also an understanding of boundaries and not to provide help beyond capabilities. That being said, many therapist train as coaches and vice versa. But there is a distinct difference.

My post wasn't intended for any other reason than to get thoughts on whether being naked can help or hinder the process, so your comments really help.

Happy to help. It's part of the reason why training exists - to iron this stuff out. Obviously my comment may not be entirely applicable, but it might be worth considering. How many boundaries and hangups really need to be removed, and why?"

Very true. But would depend on the individual client. I suspect most would feel uncomfortable with it. For the record, I don't think this is ever something I'd do. It's just a question I'm putting out there.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Well I'm experienced and mcfn therapy is something i specialize in .

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By *avid 50Man
over a year ago

kendal

Nakedness in some situations would iron out some class differences, I have interviewed many people over the years for jobs and their appearance when they walk in to the room has such an effect. If they’re smart, well-dressed and walk with a purposeful step , smell nice and speak well they have such an advantage over somebody who may not be quite so fortunate , although looking clean and hair looking good and they may be in their best clothes and their best shoes, but still not looking great even though they’ve done their best

So perhaps a naked interview would give a more level playing field to all applicants but the way my body looks it would probably be a big disadvantage to me

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