FabSwingers.com forum: Can you be

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Can you be "too nice"????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently yes!

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By *cotsman2020Man
over a year ago

Yes I would say you can be some cpls or fems profile says send a nice message I do that and they either delete or block or ignore you can't under some people or is that just me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Most definitely

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Too nice = fake

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Too nice = fake "

Not always .

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

No. Never. But you can be too forgiving, too soft and too easy to take advantage of.

The trick is to not lose your niceness, but at the same time be discerning with whom you choose to be nice too.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Too nice = fake

Not always . "

Always

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

So I've been told

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No but you can think you're being nice when actually you're pursuing an agenda or trying to conceal poor traits

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Yes, sadly and some people take advantage of it.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

If it's genuine then no. Often niceness has an ulterior motive or is a lack of ability to put yourself first.

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By *litpleaserMan
over a year ago

Oldham

I am nice.

I always will be

I will never change to suit anyone else's idea of nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you be "too nice"????"

Normally I’m suspicious of those that are too nice to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilty. I'm always to nice but now attending evening classes on how to be a more desirable b'stard.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Dunno never been known for being too nice before

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Too nice for one’s own good certainly.

Sadly, many folk seem to perceive ‘niceness’ as a form of weakness and will exploit it fully to their own ends, confident that said soft characteristic will prevent the bearer from implementing any form of retaliation.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Orthers decide if I'm nice or not x

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Guilty. I'm always to nice but now attending evening classes on how to be a more desirable b'stard.

I need those classes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

In my opinion you can be nice without being a pushover. Nice is one characteristic and allowing people to take advantage of you is another.

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

Nice Vs empathy…

Be empathetic, be polite.. be humble, be inquisitive, be curious and be confident about the things you’re passionate about..

Non of the above are weak, all are perfectly beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guilty. I'm always to nice but now attending evening classes on how to be a more desirable b'stard.

I need those classes

Before my first lesson I would have shared the deets. But after only my second lesson. I'm now a complete and total utter b'stard and not going to!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Nice can be nice. But also often used in poor attempts to conceal agendas or almost attempted to be used as a trading unit to get something from someone else.

It's also not really anything by itself. I can be civil and nice to anybody, but that doesn't mean that they're going to find me interesting or engaging or attractive or compatible, or that they owe me something just because I followed the social protocol.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

Im nice until ive bummed you then your yesterdays chip papers to me… although Im friends with all the people ive met still.. even years after … if you form a connection with someone … well I keep in touch as long as they want to aswell. They seem to.. so I must be nice!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sometimes it's annoying.

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

I mean it depends on what you mean by nice. General social interaction...yeah I can be nice.

If I like you ...I'm more likely to insult you

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"In my opinion you can be nice without being a pushover. Nice is one characteristic and allowing people to take advantage of you is another."

Definitely. The latter will just lead to resentment because it's not actually being nice.

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

"Nice can be nice. But also often used in poor attempts to conceal agendas or almost attempted to be used as a trading unit to get something from someone else.

It can be seen as altruistic, for sure… but that’s looking at life through a lense..

Being pleasant and nice isn’t a social protocol, for some it’s a way of life. It’s about taking care of others without asking for anything back in return. Don’t look at it as something that other perceive, look at it as the best version of yourself…

For me it give me a sense of well being.. (enormous) PARKLIFE!!

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By *ifeIsntSeriousMan
over a year ago

Rugby

"Can you be "too nice"????"

You were always VERY nice to me when I was here before x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely and also be thought of that it’s an act…

I just don’t have time for drama and like being nice. Doesn’t mean I’m a pushover or does it mean it’s an act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on the number of people who stopped talking to once I stopped being useful to them, I would say yes.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

No I don’t think you can be “too nice”.

Even when other people act like cunts it’s really important to me not to lower myself to their level.

Namaste

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"No I don’t think you can be “too nice”.

Even when other people act like cunts it’s really important to me not to lower myself to their level.

Namaste

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