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By *ove2pleaseseuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Hastings

Went to a property today to do a job and the mum was vial to the daughter verbally abusive so have reported it. But dose that bring more harm to the daughter. But felt I had to do something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Duty of care, report and let the investigators do the rest. Its brave to speak up. More people should.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You did the right thing, there might well be a history of it.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You haven't really given enough info for me to have an opinion

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"Went to a property today to do a job and the mum was vial to the daughter verbally abusive so have reported it. But dose that bring more harm to the daughter. But felt I had to do something."

I work with vulnerable young people & we're taught that safeguarding is everyone's responsibility.

if what you witnessed worried you then you've absolutely done the right thing. If it was a one-off & there haven't been any other issues, she may be spoken to & will hopefully learn from her mistake. If this has been reported by others too, you may have just saved the daughter from a life of abuse. It's always best to trust your gut

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Went to a property today to do a job and the mum was vial to the daughter verbally abusive so have reported it. But dose that bring more harm to the daughter. But felt I had to do something.

I work with vulnerable young people & we're taught that safeguarding is everyone's responsibility.

if what you witnessed worried you then you've absolutely done the right thing. If it was a one-off & there haven't been any other issues, she may be spoken to & will hopefully learn from her mistake. If this has been reported by others too, you may have just saved the daughter from a life of abuse. It's always best to trust your gut "

Exactly. Well said.

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By *rBeejayMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Duty of care, report and let the investigators do the rest. Its brave to speak up. More people should. "

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Better to speak up and be wrong than to ignore it and someone gets hurt.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Don't doubt yourself O.P. You did the right thing.

It cannot make things worse for the child. Only the mother can do that.

I can't say if I 100% would have found something vile or abusive as you haven't explained what was said but never doubt yourself. Always report.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's always best to report these things. I wouldn't be sure who to or where in the situation you describe. When I was working we had clear guidelines on what to look out for and a dedicated person to report to who said they'd rather have a hundred 'not sure if it's anything' reports than miss one who really needed help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went to a property today to do a job and the mum was vial to the daughter verbally abusive so have reported it. But dose that bring more harm to the daughter. But felt I had to do something."

You absolutely did the right thing!

When it comes to safeguarding children EVERYONE has a duty of care

Even if it was a one off, you didn't know the context or you thought the situation was worse than it actually was it's always better to be safe than sorry!

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Duty of care, report and let the investigators do the rest. Its brave to speak up. More people should. "

100%

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"You haven't really given enough info for me to have an opinion "

He doesn't need to as an adult we know a child's mind is more fragile than us as adults.

People are too hung up on feeling the need to voice their own opinion and he was the witness not us

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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Better to speak up and be wrong than to ignore it and someone gets hurt. "

This.

Also, by the time someone feels they can speak up, it's generally waaaaay past the 'supposed to' point because we're all afraid of speaking out of turn as society has it that we're damned if we do, damned if we don't.

Just be on the right side of your soul, of history xx

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By *ove2pleaseseuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Hastings

For the people who have said there is not enough information I apologise. But I can say I was not prepared to enter the property on my own as an adult man and only left once the girl had got out and got in to another flat so in my mind was safe at that point in time.

This is now logged so hopefully something can be addressed.

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