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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel so…old

Mentally, I’m so tired

I feel like I’ve lived a thousand lives already

I feel like I’m too old to be living right now

I don’t know why I feel like this; I’m young, I know I’m young, I know I have all the time in the world, and yet it feels like my time is running out, and that I don’t have long left before my dreams go stale and will never be achieved.

All I’ve ever wanted to be was an author. Even as a child it’s all I’ve ever spoke about.

And I feel like it’s rapidly slipping away from me. I know 22 is young, I know there’s still time for me, but it feels like there isn’t. It feels like if I don’t get published soon, I’ll never be anybody, and my biggest fear is dying a nobody.

I just feel so old. Just so worn down by it all that it’s aging me.

Anyone else feel/felt like this? Am I going through a quarter life crisis? Is this genuinely just what my 20s are?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I feel so…old

Mentally, I’m so tired

I feel like I’ve lived a thousand lives already

I feel like I’m too old to be living right now

I don’t know why I feel like this; I’m young, I know I’m young, I know I have all the time in the world, and yet it feels like my time is running out, and that I don’t have long left before my dreams go stale and will never be achieved.

All I’ve ever wanted to be was an author. Even as a child it’s all I’ve ever spoke about.

And I feel like it’s rapidly slipping away from me. I know 22 is young, I know there’s still time for me, but it feels like there isn’t. It feels like if I don’t get published soon, I’ll never be anybody, and my biggest fear is dying a nobody.

I just feel so old. Just so worn down by it all that it’s aging me.

Anyone else feel/felt like this? Am I going through a quarter life crisis? Is this genuinely just what my 20s are?"
Don't waste your life live it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Just keep writing, reading, and learning. Growing.

As someone else who dreamed of being an author.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"Just keep writing, reading, and learning. Growing.

As someone else who dreamed of being an author."

I agree. From someone else who wanted to be an author.

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By *hesadistbullMan
over a year ago

India(bengaluru)

20 and feel the same thing, i believe surround yourself with a purpose! This is the best way to deal with things

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I know she's not the best person, but as an example.... JK Rowling was 32 when the first Harry Potter book was published.

And look how well she did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op never feel like that keep your chin up and please don’t ever give up on your dreams lots

Amazon Do a good affiliate thing for short story and such if you think that isn’t going to make even

Then you could start a blog or something keep trying keep pushing release your dreams never give up hope op

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

One thing I've learnt and I'm bloody ancient now that I wish I knew at your age. And that is don't put all your self worth on a job, there's more to you than what you do to earn money. No matter how much you've wanted to do it. I'm doing my childhood dream job and it's not all its cracked up to be.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"One thing I've learnt and I'm bloody ancient now that I wish I knew at your age. And that is don't put all your self worth on a job, there's more to you than what you do to earn money. No matter how much you've wanted to do it. I'm doing my childhood dream job and it's not all its cracked up to be. "

I am a writer, and yes, this.

Writing won't always love you back

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"One thing I've learnt and I'm bloody ancient now that I wish I knew at your age. And that is don't put all your self worth on a job, there's more to you than what you do to earn money. No matter how much you've wanted to do it. I'm doing my childhood dream job and it's not all its cracked up to be.

I am a writer, and yes, this.

Writing won't always love you back "

Definitely at the stage where I think why didn't I want to do something just a bit more easy lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"One thing I've learnt and I'm bloody ancient now that I wish I knew at your age. And that is don't put all your self worth on a job, there's more to you than what you do to earn money. No matter how much you've wanted to do it. I'm doing my childhood dream job and it's not all its cracked up to be.

I am a writer, and yes, this.

Writing won't always love you back

Definitely at the stage where I think why didn't I want to do something just a bit more easy lol "

Ain't that the truth

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex

In times when I felt how you're feeling, activity has been very helpful. Do some yoga breathing and stretching, go for a walk in nature,- by the sea, in a wood.

Help your body to detox. Keep yourself well hydrated, eat lots of fresh fruit and veg. Cut down on tobacco, alcohol and refined sugars.

Get good sleep. Go to bed at a set time. Turn off the telly and electronic devices about an hour before bed. Get up at the same time each day too.

After a month of that routine, if you're still feeling low, then see your doctor and follow their advice.

Best wishes Maren. Let us know how you're getting on.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

Its a lot of luck to get noticed In the arts - as a Professional musician for 25 years. It’s often completely thankless, frustrating, infuriating but ultimately rewarding more on an emotional and spiritual level to do what you love - but don’t let it be your only option… have something else that pays the bills because nothing kills creativity like stress does. If you achieve success then the ‘dayjob’ can get binned.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I would go talk to your gp about your mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel so…old

Mentally, I’m so tired

I feel like I’ve lived a thousand lives already

I feel like I’m too old to be living right now

I don’t know why I feel like this; I’m young, I know I’m young, I know I have all the time in the world, and yet it feels like my time is running out, and that I don’t have long left before my dreams go stale and will never be achieved.

All I’ve ever wanted to be was an author. Even as a child it’s all I’ve ever spoke about.

And I feel like it’s rapidly slipping away from me. I know 22 is young, I know there’s still time for me, but it feels like there isn’t. It feels like if I don’t get published soon, I’ll never be anybody, and my biggest fear is dying a nobody.

I just feel so old. Just so worn down by it all that it’s aging me.

Anyone else feel/felt like this? Am I going through a quarter life crisis? Is this genuinely just what my 20s are?"

Look at am a son self publishing. I put some of my work out there.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP I don’t wish to be harsh but you have only just started life. You will wake up in a few years and suddenly wonder where it all went.

If you want to be an author then write. It’s doesn’t matter what you write, or even if it is any good, but sit down and write a thousand words a day. Every day.

Eventually some of those thousand words will start to resonate and someone will like them. Until that moment happens you have to just keep writing.

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

Speak to your doctor,sounds to me like you are suffering some form of depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

heard this story about a fish.

He swims up to an older fish and says, “I’m trying to find this thing they call ‘the ocean.'”

“The ocean? the older fish says, “That’s what you’re in right now.”

“This?” says the young fish. “This is water. What I want is the ocean!”

Everything is mundane, even the most exciting thing will eventually just become normal if you do it enough times, for some people life is a battle, some people don’t make it, some are scarred, the life you want is the one you have, the things you seek are the short term adrenaline and dopamine fix’s your brain has tricked you into perceiving as worthy of the chase, life doesn’t have to be that, it could be learning the ability to change and not for good or bad just the ability to change, that’s growth, animals and nature react to seasons, we as humans just put a coat on when it gets cold but what we don’t see is the opportunity to challenge ourselves, nature sees the weathers and adapts, we don’t change we just keep going, go out there and change, change is growth, learn something, read something, do something but most of all don’t settle, keep going, you got this …….

These mushrooms are strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel so…old

Mentally, I’m so tired

I feel like I’ve lived a thousand lives already

I feel like I’m too old to be living right now

I don’t know why I feel like this; I’m young, I know I’m young, I know I have all the time in the world, and yet it feels like my time is running out, and that I don’t have long left before my dreams go stale and will never be achieved.

All I’ve ever wanted to be was an author. Even as a child it’s all I’ve ever spoke about.

And I feel like it’s rapidly slipping away from me. I know 22 is young, I know there’s still time for me, but it feels like there isn’t. It feels like if I don’t get published soon, I’ll never be anybody, and my biggest fear is dying a nobody.

I just feel so old. Just so worn down by it all that it’s aging me.

Anyone else feel/felt like this? Am I going through a quarter life crisis? Is this genuinely just what my 20s are?"

My 'advice' is seldom appreciated but here goes...

Depressed? Lol, you sound like pretty much every 20 year old I speak to nowadays!

If you write you are already an author. Why do you need money for it or fame or any kind of recognition or approval? Real success isn't measured in money or anything material. Honour, love, trust, respect etc (spiritual values) can only be earned. People who are famous generally get their because of who they are (bloodlines), not because of talent or any substance they have. (That should be pretty obvious).

Write for yourself and in time; for the people who will come to value your work.

It's all about attitude and you have the wrong one right now and the wrong motives. You have to believe in yourself. If a lion barks at a small dog, the small dog might run away. But some small dog might bark back and the lion will run instead. You have to present yourself boldly to the world if you want to overcome... Take the world by the balls so to speak. You sound like a beaten dog right now.

Just believe in yourself. I believe in you. People can achieve anything if they put their mind to it and work hard. Anything. And you're not depressed and anyone who is depressed is a mere 'thought' away from not being depressed anyway. Send me some of your work sometime because I write too.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"In times when I felt how you're feeling, activity has been very helpful. Do some yoga breathing and stretching, go for a walk in nature,- by the sea, in a wood.

Help your body to detox. Keep yourself well hydrated, eat lots of fresh fruit and veg. Cut down on tobacco, alcohol and refined sugars.

Get good sleep. Go to bed at a set time. Turn off the telly and electronic devices about an hour before bed. Get up at the same time each day too.

After a month of that routine, if you're still feeling low, then see your doctor and follow their advice.

Best wishes Maren. Let us know how you're getting on.

"

This is an excellent advice.

Hope you will get to find your joy again OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you were to write stories on here... If you get enough positive feedback; that could lead somewhere. It might just get noticed by the right person.

If you try you have a chance and things happen.

If you don't try you don't have any chance... And life will just pass you by and you'll waste time and nothing will happen.

You are a bit young to throw in the towel.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Even if you were to write stories on here... If you get enough positive feedback; that could lead somewhere. It might just get noticed by the right person.

If you try you have a chance and things happen.

If you don't try you don't have any chance... And life will just pass you by and you'll waste time and nothing will happen.

You are a bit young to throw in the towel."

100% this.

Writers write. That is what they do.

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By *cholar 321Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

I'm now in my 70's & looking back on my life I realise that my 20s were the hardest part because I had no idea which direction to take or even what my true interests were.Somehow events have a way of unrolling before you eyes & I have had a happy life despite never feeling that I was ever in charge of my destiny.Please keep working to achieve your ambition but keep all options open so you can respond to other openings that will arise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if you were to write stories on here... If you get enough positive feedback; that could lead somewhere. It might just get noticed by the right person.

If you try you have a chance and things happen.

If you don't try you don't have any chance... And life will just pass you by and you'll waste time and nothing will happen.

You are a bit young to throw in the towel.

100% this.

Writers write. That is what they do. "

I don't think I have spent even a minute in self pity for say... the last 20 years... It's just a waste of time. We all have so much in our lives that goes underappreciated and if we do we should be ashamed of that and fix it right away... I hope the OP learns that lesson and jumps back up everytime a fall occurs because it's very possible... All this 'depressed' shit. Fuck that. Get up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just keep writing, reading, and learning. Growing.

As someone else who dreamed of being an author."

Seconded.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sorry about this op. If you want to be a writer maybe start with short stories. Try and approach a local publisher. Good luck!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep writing OP.

Could be quarter life crisis. Could just be existential crisis. Completely normal.

I wanted to be a teacher from 15/16. And when I got my PGCE place and decided to reject it I had a major existential crisis. What was I meant for? What good could *I even do now etc!

I read some Satre and that helped. But always remember, there’s no meaning to life or purpose of our lives. It’s up to us to give life meaning. And that means you can do whatever the fuck You want and you might be loved for it in life and/or beyond. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep writing OP.

Could be quarter life crisis. Could just be existential crisis. Completely normal.

I wanted to be a teacher from 15/16. And when I got my PGCE place and decided to reject it I had a major existential crisis. What was I meant for? What good could *I even do now etc!

I read some Satre and that helped. But always remember, there’s no meaning to life or purpose of our lives. It’s up to us to give life meaning. And that means you can do whatever the fuck You want and you might be loved for it in life and/or beyond. *"

That's so true.

When people ask:

'What is the meaning of life?' they show that they are totally missing the point.

The question is: 'What gives your life meaning'.

Like when Pilate asks Christ 'what is truth'? Christ doesn't answer him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep writing OP.

Could be quarter life crisis. Could just be existential crisis. Completely normal.

I wanted to be a teacher from 15/16. And when I got my PGCE place and decided to reject it I had a major existential crisis. What was I meant for? What good could *I even do now etc!

I read some Satre and that helped. But always remember, there’s no meaning to life or purpose of our lives. It’s up to us to give life meaning. And that means you can do whatever the fuck You want and you might be loved for it in life and/or beyond. *

That's so true.

When people ask:

'What is the meaning of life?' they show that they are totally missing the point.

The question is: 'What gives your life meaning'.

Like when Pilate asks Christ 'what is truth'? Christ doesn't answer him."

YES!

What gives your life meaning is a perfect way of putting it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got t like this recently but I think it's because life has got monotonous and become a trap (Thanks government in COVID nonsense)

I personally find travel opens the mind back up.

The beauty of being an author is there is no age limit. Not like physical sports or even jobs. Also your constantly improving your mind so you'll like always be getting better.

22 is really young btw

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Which social media accounts do you use?

What do you want to write about?

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