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By *ornyfriendlygentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

Mid-Sussex

I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you offer a meet instead of waiting for someone to come to you?

Or set up a "meet" thing and see if anyone sees it and gete back to you.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

There's so many single guys on here your one of many, it's not easy unfortunately.

Try local social events or clubs maybe.

Good luck

Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Meets don't get offered out. They don't materialise out of the Fab ether, OP.

What is your approach? What endeavours have you undertaken so far?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x

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By *rGoodbar77Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Don't waste your time. Go to a club. If you was a single woman meeting a total stranger in this day and age. Would you meet without a friend as backup. Nope, could be a psycho!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - The little green arrow shows you have started many threads on this topic.

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By *ingerielover100Man
over a year ago

Redruth


"Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x"
well put try to engage with people , chat it might lead to a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a site full of women wanting sex and you've not had an offer of a meet?

Give the women a chance, they're working their way through the rest that joined before you.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Maybe there is nobody in your local area have you try widening your search a little just to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so difficult to get a meet on here so be prepared for quite a lot of disappointment

I've been trying to get a meet off here for maybe a year or so and sending lots of polite messages to couples and single women to no avail,I post on the forums quite a bit, but still don't have any luck

I've even started going to clubs and unfortunately it's pretty much the same as here in my experience

It must be I'm just but ugly and no ones cup of tea

Believe me it's not for trying and being realistic on who I could possibly have a chance with, there are some seriously, seriously hot women and couples on here that are well out of my league so obviously I would never message them but the one's I think I have a possibility of meeting I do message and the messages either just get read or deleted

So I don't know the answer unfortunately

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x"

I beg to differ on the forum thing - I don’t think being active on the forums has any impact on whether you will get a meet or not. Most people on the site have no idea the forums even exist and most forumites don’t tend to meet. The forums are not really representative of the site.

I will agree on the shop window thing - what does work is being a normal human being and making the best of what ever attributes you want to display. Just be you and people will find what they want.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Effort has to be a two way thing! Bless you OP hope you get a meet soon. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

boo hooo.

been here for years and not had one yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x

I beg to differ on the forum thing - I don’t think being active on the forums has any impact on whether you will get a meet or not. Most people on the site have no idea the forums even exist and most forumites don’t tend to meet. The forums are not really representative of the site.

I will agree on the shop window thing - what does work is being a normal human being and making the best of what ever attributes you want to display. Just be you and people will find what they want."

This^ plus there's way hotter people on the site that don't use the forums.

Also, I actively avoid "forumites" as you can guarantee everyone will find out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and socials op

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Do you jump head first for a meeting or get to know them a little to see if their is a spark...

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By *R PIPES 23Man
over a year ago

manchester

Been on here about 3 years and only had a few meets myself but your probably better off going to a club getting your face seen around and socialising first get known but I’m happy with who I’ve seen and happy to wait to meet more ppl in time

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x

I beg to differ on the forum thing - I don’t think being active on the forums has any impact on whether you will get a meet or not. Most people on the site have no idea the forums even exist and most forumites don’t tend to meet. The forums are not really representative of the site.

I will agree on the shop window thing - what does work is being a normal human being and making the best of what ever attributes you want to display. Just be you and people will find what they want.

This^ plus there's way hotter people on the site that don't use the forums.

Also, I actively avoid "forumites" as you can guarantee everyone will find out!

"

2 good points. Agree 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no secret formula to getting meets on here.

Some will say take better pictures, some will say go to a club or social.

The bottom line is if they are not attracted to you they will not meet you.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but that’s the reality of it.

Good luck on your journey though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will only meet if they find you attractive

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "

Numbers game. 100s of guys in your area and dozens of women.

Age. Your age, date I say it is closer to Dignitas than Club 18-30, so again the small pool of ladies to fish from of equal (ish) age gets smaller.

Looks. There are 100s of guys on here and they are simply better looking than you, me and Eros himself.

Profile. Average. Again look around at others. What do you bring to the party?

Put yourself in the shoes of who you are trying to attract. Would you go for...you?

Not every woman wants a Brad Pitt or both Hemsworth's or 6 pack. But they have to like something.

I guess I have been fortunate and had a few meets but it really is hard work and I have a face like a bag of smashed crabs.

I wish you the best of luck. Keep plugging away, put the effort in, adapt and overcome or copy and paste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will only meet if they find you attractive "

Simple init

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will only meet if they find you attractive "

This is not the place for logic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will only meet if they find you attractive

This is not the place for logic. "

Sorry.

Hang in there op, there’s someone for everyone

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Just keep telling the forums instead of taking active steps to improve the situation yourself and I'm sure someone will hop on that dick eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "

Welcome to fab.

How are you supposed to know if people who you don’t meet or speak to have a reason why they won’t meet you? It baffles your noodle doesn’t it? Think about the wasted energy thinking about people you may never meet……

Concentrate on those who you do know.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Dig in for the long haul mate - You're in the majority looking for the minority.

Accept that people have preferences that you may not meet.

Your expectations of this site and the scene may require adjusting.

You can't accommodate, which has a suspicion to some that you are married and they don't want to meet on that basis.

Get out to organised socials and clubs, so you can meet people face to face and get some verifications.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "

You will only get interest from women who find you attractive & FYI, you're unlikely to get a meet handed to you on a plate!

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"People will only meet if they find you attractive

This is not the place for logic.

Sorry.

Hang in there op, there’s someone for everyone "

Well saved Fluffy, hope has been instilled I'm out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will only meet if they find you attractive

This is not the place for logic.

Sorry.

Hang in there op, there’s someone for everyone

Well saved Fluffy, hope has been instilled I'm out "

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Bless him it must be hard being forever horny.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "
maybe you're just another guy in amongst many guys and you have age against you, maybe your messages aren't what they are looking for, you have good honest pics and an ok profile so guess its the first part of my reply that applies

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's important to have expectations that are as equal to reality as possible.

Most men here don't sell themselves very well, so potentially miss out. Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people either, so it's a tough one to crack, when there's an much choice amongst single men, we can find close fits to our preferences.

Ideally, review many of the posts from struggling single men and take on board the relevant feedback given to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will only meet if they find you attractive "

So that's where I'm going wrong

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Do you jump head first for a meeting or get to know them a little to see if their is a spark..."

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"Bless him it must be hard being forever horny.

"

Behave

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I agree with a lot of the above but just another couple of points - if I was an 18yr old I wouldn't be looking for a 64yr old, and if someone messaged me that they were 'always horny' then I would assume that they're not really fussed about who they meet and are just looking for a cum dump.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"boo hooo.

been here for years and not had one yet

"

Didn't think that you wanted one. Unless it was with the manager of the jaffa cake factory

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By *ornyfriendlygentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

Mid-Sussex


"boo hooo.

been here for years and not had one yet

Didn't think that you wanted one. Unless it was with the manager of the jaffa cake factory "
If the manager of jaffa cake factory is a bit of alright I wouldn't say no.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

your to old op,,, like me

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Could do what i do and send a few helicopter vids out soon you would be swimming in a sea of minges

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Is this instashag? Thought not. Persistence dear boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could do what i do and send a few helicopter vids out soon you would be swimming in a sea of minges"

Or stick on some killer heels and lippy?

Did me no harm!

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By *ornyfriendlygentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

Mid-Sussex


"your to old op,,, like me"
your never to old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x

I beg to differ on the forum thing - I don’t think being active on the forums has any impact on whether you will get a meet or not. Most people on the site have no idea the forums even exist and most forumites don’t tend to meet. The forums are not really representative of the site.

I will agree on the shop window thing - what does work is being a normal human being and making the best of what ever attributes you want to display. Just be you and people will find what they want."

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By *tlasBenMan
over a year ago

A

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By *ance_With_MeMan
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "

I’ve been here three years and not had many “meets” it’s really hard here as a single guy. Stay respectful the women on here get 100s of messages a day. Try and get along to socials and chat. Check meet ups. Good luck buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get out into the scene in person. On here you're just one of thousands of single guys. Get along to social events and clubs and socialise in person and hopefully you'll reap the reward's for your efforts.

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts


"boo hooo.

been here for years and not had one yet

"

Yep, need to lower your expectations.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "

64

Can't accommodate

One amongst many thousands of men.

Have you written to the national lottery as well?

Good luck, you have to be in it to win it.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is. "

I would suggest changing your profile username (you can ask admin to change this once only, so choose wisely), as ‘Foreverhornyman’ makes you sound like a sex pest, and it’s literally the first thing a woman sees on your profile…..

You’ve only been in here 6 months, this isn’t ‘Instashag’, give it time.

Your profile could use a bit of tweaking. Look at other guys profiles, those who have verifications, see how theirs compare to yours. Read your profile, and ask yourself honestly; would you be interested in wanting to get to know you?

Fab Rule No.1; women don’t send opening messages! YOU have to put the effort in. At all times! Plenty of pebbles on the beach in Fab. But they are just lying there, you have to search them out, and pick them up….

People will tell you that clubs are the Valhalla of the swinging scene. Having been to several clubs as a single guy, I can tell you that clubs are Fab condensed in to one building; too many men, not enough women. Enter at your peril….

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

You can change your username 4 times a year and you don't need to ask admin to do it, you can change it yourself

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You can change your username 4 times a year and you don't need to ask admin to do it, you can change it yourself "

I stand corrected. Thank you

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"your to old op,,, like meyour never to old"

I disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Also, I actively avoid "forumites" as you can guarantee everyone will find out!

"
This I’ve met one forumite, they regaled me with tales of the various forum WhatsApp groups…I couldn’t think of anything sadder irony is, very few of these people seem to have actual sex

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Its a numbers game mainly. Ladies are outnumbered by a factor of about 100 to 1. This makes it hard for a single guy to stand out from the crowd.

Your profile is your shop window, so spend some time making sure its readable, interesting and shows what you have to offer. Interesting and tasteful profile photos are essentisl too.

Engaging on the forums can help you get noticed... Just make sure you are getting noticed for the right reasons!

Good luck x

I beg to differ on the forum thing - I don’t think being active on the forums has any impact on whether you will get a meet or not. Most people on the site have no idea the forums even exist and most forumites don’t tend to meet. The forums are not really representative of the site.

I will agree on the shop window thing - what does work is being a normal human being and making the best of what ever attributes you want to display. Just be you and people will find what they want."

Agree with the forums bit wholeheartedly. I’ve never met anyone from the forums. As you say, what’s said and normalised on the forums seems to be way off the mark regarding the rest of the site and it’s users.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

People from the forums are great, I can sneak out the door when I have finished and they are doing the old “squirt - it’s just piss right?” thread.

Saves that old “soooo I’ve erm cum and that was nice, can I go now?” conversation

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I have been on Fab for 6 months and so far I have had no offer of a meet from anybody and I'm scratching my head and wondering what the problem is,can someone honestly enlighten me what maybe the problem is.

I would suggest changing your profile username (you can ask admin to change this once only, so choose wisely), as ‘Foreverhornyman’ makes you sound like a sex pest, and it’s literally the first thing a woman sees on your profile…..

You’ve only been in here 6 months, this isn’t ‘Instashag’, give it time.

Your profile could use a bit of tweaking. Look at other guys profiles, those who have verifications, see how theirs compare to yours. Read your profile, and ask yourself honestly; would you be interested in wanting to get to know you?

Fab Rule No.1; women don’t send opening messages! YOU have to put the effort in. At all times! Plenty of pebbles on the beach in Fab. But they are just lying there, you have to search them out, and pick them up….

People will tell you that clubs are the Valhalla of the swinging scene. Having been to several clubs as a single guy, I can tell you that clubs are Fab condensed in to one building; too many men, not enough women. Enter at your peril…."

I send opening messages to those I am interested in meeting.

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