FabSwingers.com forum: The Site Itself !!!

By *host1100 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Falkirk

Honest opinion people, has the site gone rapidly downhill in the last 6 months or do you find it the same ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the same as always. It was probably a bit busier during lockdown but other than that it hasn’t changed in the 5-6 years we’ve been on here.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's the same as it ever was

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't know. I do know this complaint has been made pretty consistently the whole time I've been here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on/off here for years, it doesn't seem to have changed that much.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Not for me. I don't get this barrage of flaky cock sending men, couples are friendly and non pushy and single women can be incredibly supportive and even hot. Ridiculously hot. And flirty. And cute.

Anyway, no. If anything it's improving for me. I think that's because I'm more open to finding people and using it as a tool not the solution. I do think more people are being messed around, well going off threads they are. Not sure why that is.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Don't know. I do know this complaint has been made pretty consistently the whole time I've been here"

Yep pretty much this. The thing that sometimes changes is an individual's attitude to the site, how much effort they put in, how much they get fed up with the crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The software and features on this site are about ten years out of date -- and some of the search options are reflective of attitudes even older.

So, every year that passes without an update adds to the lack.

The people, however, are essentially the same as they were when I first joined many years ago.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Don't know. I do know this complaint has been made pretty consistently the whole time I've been here"

Yep

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Definitely less entertaining than when I joined initially late last year but I think it's natural for things to get less exciting topic wise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"The software and features on this site are about ten years out of date -- and some of the search options are reflective of attitudes even older.

So, every year that passes without an update adds to the lack.

The people, however, are essentially the same as they were when I first joined many years ago.

Get on a dating site and pay £100 membership to access extra features. You will find the extras are no more than you get on here for free.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh. "

Modesty was never your strong point

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I find my opinion of the site corresponds with how I'm feeling. Sometimes I have a great outlook and find that fab works very well. When I'm more down, I tend to find it's worse. It correlates with my mood and how I'm using it at that time.

But I mainly use it to contact people I've met in clubs now because to me, that's one of the main purposes of the site.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

We've been on for 6 months so that explains things OP! Sorry!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

It's never gone downhill. It's always remained at base camp. For me I'm still on the pinnacle of success and my inbox is the zenith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s changed much in the few years we’ve been here. I can’t comment on the forums because we haven’t been posting in here for very long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on and off over 12 years it’s still the same people come and go that’s about the only difference

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"The software and features on this site are about ten years out of date -- and some of the search options are reflective of attitudes even older.

So, every year that passes without an update adds to the lack.

The people, however, are essentially the same as they were when I first joined many years ago.

Out of date maybe but endearing…

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It’s the same as always. It was probably a bit busier during lockdown but other than that it hasn’t changed in the 5-6 years we’ve been on here."

That

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

At times such as these OP I think of what Kipling would have said:

If you can keep your erection when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can take disbelief and sarcasm when all forumites doubt you,

But make allowance for their sense of humour too;

If you can fuck and not be tired by fucking,

Or being blocked, don’t deal in blocks,

Or being fabbed, don’t give way to fabbing,

And yet don’t look too close, nor talk too much rot:

If you can wank—and not make wanking your master;

If you can think (whilst wanking) —and direct your splurting aim;

If you can meet with size-queens and those that yell “faster”

And treat those two fabsters just the same;

If you can bear to read the truth about your profile being written

Twisted by the forum and told you break the rule,

Or watch posts descend into chaos, or see tongues firmly bitten

And cum and repeat without rubbing out your tool

If you can make one heap of all your verifications

And risk it on one pic in lingerie,

And UNLOS and start again at blank, full of consternation

And never breathe a word about sucking cock being gay

If you can force your cock in anus, but say you are not bi

To keep posting long after the initial point of thread is gone,

And so hold on when the cum is ready to fly

And scream to your meet: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with people in clubs with dubious virtue,

Or fuck with queens and princesses — with golden pussy to touch,

If neither deleted message or blocks can hurt you,

If all men are competitors against you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving profile

With sixty words worth of sexy fun,

Yours is fab and everyone that’s on it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a swinger my son!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"At times such as these OP I think of what Kipling would have said:

If you can keep your erection when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can take disbelief and sarcasm when all forumites doubt you,

But make allowance for their sense of humour too;

If you can fuck and not be tired by fucking,

Or being blocked, don’t deal in blocks,

Or being fabbed, don’t give way to fabbing,

And yet don’t look too close, nor talk too much rot:

If you can wank—and not make wanking your master;

If you can think (whilst wanking) —and direct your splurting aim;

If you can meet with size-queens and those that yell “faster”

And treat those two fabsters just the same;

If you can bear to read the truth about your profile being written

Twisted by the forum and told you break the rule,

Or watch posts descend into chaos, or see tongues firmly bitten

And cum and repeat without rubbing out your tool

If you can make one heap of all your verifications

And risk it on one pic in lingerie,

And UNLOS and start again at blank, full of consternation

And never breathe a word about sucking cock being gay

If you can force your cock in anus, but say you are not bi

To keep posting long after the initial point of thread is gone,

And so hold on when the cum is ready to fly

And scream to your meet: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with people in clubs with dubious virtue,

Or fuck with queens and princesses — with golden pussy to touch,

If neither deleted message or blocks can hurt you,

If all men are competitors against you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving profile

With sixty words worth of sexy fun,

Yours is fab and everyone that’s on it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a swinger my son!"

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Seems pretty much the same after almost 4 years away.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh. "

I'm still here. Sorry about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh.

Modesty was never your strong point

I tried it but it didn’t make any less people dislike me so I abandoned it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh.

I'm still here. Sorry about that."

Can’t have it all I suppose

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

Seems same as few years ago...

It is how you take it and make out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just put it on another post. For me now I’m enjoying it. Especially being in the forums

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I think some people may feel this from time to time maybe it's the repetitiveness, maybe lack of correspondences with other users or just lack of potential meets.

From my perspective as part of a couple it's been much the same for the four years I've been using the site.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Decadent Devon that is amazing

(applause)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh.

Modesty was never your strong point

I tried it but it didn’t make any less people dislike me so I abandoned it

if you can't have popularity, strive for infamy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh.

Modesty was never your strong point

I tried it but it didn’t make any less people dislike me so I abandoned it

if you can't have popularity, strive for infamy."
and do you know what, infamy has been pretty easy to achieve

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

All that changes are the faces… and the cocks and tits obviously

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Well I returned so I think it’s gone up hill again tbh.

Modesty was never your strong point

I tried it but it didn’t make any less people dislike me so I abandoned it

if you can't have popularity, strive for infamy. and do you know what, infamy has been pretty easy to achieve"

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By *host1100 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Falkirk

Thanks for all the comments, seems the general consensus is that it’s not getting any worse !!

I was actually part of a Couples profile until last year so maybe it’s the difference in that I’m seeing, but it has been over a year now and quite a dry spell lol

Anyway, Happy Fabbing to all, thanks again

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I can't say from the man's pov but from mine it's bau.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"...Yours is fab and everyone that’s on it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a swinger my son!"

This is truly incredible Decadent, x

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Well I came back on so probably has yeah

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

15 years here and it's similar. It always goes through peaks and troughs, with seasons affecting it.

We each have to take responsibility for our results, learning and adapting as we get experience

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"...Yours is fab and everyone that’s on it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a swinger my son!

This is truly incredible Decadent, x"

Nah you take a poem/song and make it rude. Not incredible, just a worrying insight into my mind, I did one for the Hotel California some years back, can never find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get on a dating site and pay £100 membership to access extra features. You will find the extras are no more than you get on here for free."

There is free open-source forum software that, for example, allows users to attach images to forum posts, add parsable links, edit posts and format text. Actually, these kind of features have been around for over 20 years.

There are also free, dating, hookup and fetish websites that give people more filtering and profile search options.

Sure, you can still enjoy this website, but it's at least a decade out of date in every area, and that's most obvious in terms of sexual-preference and gender expression.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don’t think it has changed massively over the years but I do think it has got busier - which suits me fine

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Find it no different to when I first joined many years ago.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Get on a dating site and pay £100 membership to access extra features. You will find the extras are no more than you get on here for free.

There are also free, dating, hookup and fetish websites that give people more filtering and profile search options.

Sure, you can still enjoy this website, but it's at least a decade out of date in every area, and that's most obvious in terms of sexual-preference and gender expression.

I don't think any fancy features would increase anyone's chances of meeting

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By *esi_in_brusselsMan
over a year ago

Brussels, Belgium

I don't think any fancy features would increase anyone's chances of meeting "

Lol.. so true it hurts .. the site look and feel is old but it's incredibly fast. So pages loads up fast without any scripts running behind. I like it. Although many from my hotlist have left the site over time, so that's sad.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

The site is the same.

Same blend of amazing people and complete twats..

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"Honest opinion people, has the site gone rapidly downhill in the last 6 months or do you find it the same ??"

I have not seen any changes

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"At times such as these OP I think of what Kipling would have said:

If you can keep your erection when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can take disbelief and sarcasm when all forumites doubt you,

But make allowance for their sense of humour too;

If you can fuck and not be tired by fucking,

Or being blocked, don’t deal in blocks,

Or being fabbed, don’t give way to fabbing,

And yet don’t look too close, nor talk too much rot:

If you can wank—and not make wanking your master;

If you can think (whilst wanking) —and direct your splurting aim;

If you can meet with size-queens and those that yell “faster”

And treat those two fabsters just the same;

If you can bear to read the truth about your profile being written

Twisted by the forum and told you break the rule,

Or watch posts descend into chaos, or see tongues firmly bitten

And cum and repeat without rubbing out your tool

If you can make one heap of all your verifications

And risk it on one pic in lingerie,

And UNLOS and start again at blank, full of consternation

And never breathe a word about sucking cock being gay

If you can force your cock in anus, but say you are not bi

To keep posting long after the initial point of thread is gone,

And so hold on when the cum is ready to fly

And scream to your meet: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with people in clubs with dubious virtue,

Or fuck with queens and princesses — with golden pussy to touch,

If neither deleted message or blocks can hurt you,

If all men are competitors against you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving profile

With sixty words worth of sexy fun,

Yours is fab and everyone that’s on it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a swinger my son!"

Now is the time for me to leave. The internet has been won.

(Applause)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think any fancy features would increase anyone's chances of meeting "

You have to be really behind with your Web knowledge to see these as 'fancy features' but yes you're right. Although I personally have little interest is meeting anyone from this website anymore.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not noticed any difference, same old threads, same old minging cocks in the inbox, same great people we've become fond of, nothing much has changed.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The developers don't really go for all the gimmicks and gadgets, few years back they had cottaging and was the exact same style site.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

"Get on a dating site and pay £100 membership to access extra features. You will find the extras are no more than you get on here for free.

There are also free, dating, hookup and fetish websites that give people more filtering and profile search options.

Sure, you can still enjoy this website, but it's at least a decade out of date in every area, and that's most obvious in terms of sexual-preference and gender expression.

A better forum with those features would be great.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If you’re talking specifically about the forum OP then the standard of thread is definitely slipping and therefore going downhill

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

It's dependant on the length of time a person has been on it.

When I first joined it was a whirlwind of exciting times I was thinking wow they move fast on here

Now 3 years into swinging loosening touch or fallen out with the unreasonable it feels like starting from scratch

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Honest opinion people, has the site gone rapidly downhill in the last 6 months or do you find it the same ??"
Its plummeted to depths that i can't even imagine

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No I’m loving life. Gash galore.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know. I do know this complaint has been made pretty consistently the whole time I've been here

Yep pretty much this. The thing that sometimes changes is an individual's attitude to the site, how much effort they put in, how much they get fed up with the crap. "

In agreement with this comment op.

Right attitude towards each other is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site hasn’t changed in 6 months.

Still has a forum. Still has status updates. Still lets you post vids/photos. Still lets you DM. The site support is the same cost. …

What are you saying up? It’s not changed one bit.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Same. Feel like I’ve now met everyone from here that I’m ever going to, and the rest is just circular conversations that never go anywhere.

Having better luck elsewhere now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off here since around 2008. Nothing is any better or worse, even a lot of the same usernames are still here.

Someone alluded earlier to mindset. If you're feeling shitty then your experience here will be the same. If your on a high, your experience will be positive. The site isnt responsible for your experience, that's down to you and your approach.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Honest opinion people, has the site gone rapidly downhill in the last 6 months or do you find it the same ??"

Nope. Same as when I joined in 2008.

*except there's now videos and a mobile site.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Nope. No changes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, it's since we've joined. We will take the hint and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many guys want sex with me now, it's bloody annoying. So yes, it's definitely gone down hill, I liked it before when I had to put effort in.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Too many guys want sex with me now, it's bloody annoying. So yes, it's definitely gone down hill, I liked it before when I had to put effort in.

I can role play not wanting sex with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Op

The platform itself not changed. People have as some leave some stay some get married or divorce. I first found here in 2014 and left for a few years came back 2019. Left for lockdown and came back 3 weeks ago.

Attitude changes not Fab.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Noo the site has always been active, just people coming and going. Noticed many I've chatted with disappeared for many months then come back. For me obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found it really hard to arrange any sort of meet if I'm honest since I joined

I started to go to clubs but finding that just as bad unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same. Feel like I’ve now met everyone from here that I’m ever going to, and the rest is just circular conversations that never go anywhere.

Having better luck elsewhere now x"

Yep. There is that feeling.

Either too far, too busy or just here for the forums.

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