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By *ommyTigh OP   Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think three chances is reasonable. I know some people will think one and done but I don't know. I'm soft.

Any more than three and I'd say it's not meant to happen because, with all the best will in the world, I'm a strong believer of if someone really wanted to, they would. It's very much up to you though OP - we can't see your interactions. What are your thoughts on it? If someone asked you directly, 'what do you want to do?'. Well, that's your reply.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

3 strikes and I'm out.

Tbh I probably would be after the 2nd but if the excuses seem reasonable I'd try again

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually two and done but it totally depends on the interaction, if it seems legit then maybe a third

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I can’t say as it totally depends on the “relationship” you have with them.

Are you only talking on here?

Do you talk daily?

What’s there and your personal situations and availability’s?

Do you or they have kids or family they look after?

Do you feel it’s just friendship?

Do they see it as just friendship?

Have you both agreed to meet no one else before you meet?

So many variables.

Go with your gut feel. If you feel they are messing you around then move on, if you feel they are genuine reasons then try again, but there does have to be an end point for your own sanity.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm a 3 strikes and you're out person...

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I think you’re being very fair. If it feels genuine, and you like her, give her that third chance. But if this one doesn’t work out? Someone is trying to tell you something.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I always give them 2 chances.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Trust your gut OP

My special friends have as many as they need as we are already in ltr's.

Cuppa social newbies is a one strike, move to the back of the queue.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

On here, one unless there are mitigating circumstances.

Off fab unlimited for family and loved ones.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?"
no give her nine chances thats fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 strikes and I'm out.

Tbh I probably would be after the 2nd but if the excuses seem reasonable I'd try again

Mrs "

Pretty much this, side note you two are on strike 2

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

If a stranger normally 2 if someone i know more than that was my rule in the days of dick dipping

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I wouldn’t of given a second chance TBH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 3 chances I think I’d give up.

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By *ommyTigh OP   Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Thank you all - I’m thinking 3 too, so it’s good to hear that’s a common opinion

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If they give warning I would give up to 3 chances. Last minute maybe one at most. In the end if they're lives are so hectic there's not much chance of any future.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends on how much notice etc. If it's last minute and seems like I'm being messed about, I'm done with them.

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By *evon1Man
over a year ago

north devon

I give two chances, three if I like them

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

I would say depends on the feel you have with this person and how much you build up?

If excuse is reasonable then probably 3 times

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Depends how much you like her and how believable the excuses are in your eyes.

We’ve given up on people here at the first sign of flakiness but then we’ve also taken years to give up on another as she occasionally turned up when she said she would but was the crumbliest flakiest friend we’ve ever had.

Ultimately, if it makes you feel shit it’s time to get rid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone new, I’m sure after the 2nd time I’d have left all reasonable expectations of a chance to meet up as sailed off.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If it's someone I haven't met previously, probably only 1 chance.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I think three is fair…. hopefully this time will be the one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?"

Do you do sex chat with her?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?

Do you do sex chat with her?"

Ah, my cynical twin, I think you're thinking what I am thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?"

After 3 of they can't arrange then they are not swingers.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If someone let us down twice ,they wouldn't get a third chance .

I hope it comes off for you,if it doesn't I'd be blocking them op as I'd feel they had no intention of ever meeting.

Miss

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

On fab, 2 chances. Real world friends get unlimited chances as I already know then and how their life works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?

Do you do sex chat with her?

Ah, my cynical twin, I think you're thinking what I am thinking."

Probably.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Plenty posts about this but thought I’d ask anyway.

I’ve been chatting to a lovely lady for a while and we’ve arranged 2 meets - both times family issues have arisen, which is fair enough. Due to meet again soon. If we fail to meet should I give up tryong to meet and simply stay as chat friends? Or what?

Do you do sex chat with her?

Ah, my cynical twin, I think you're thinking what I am thinking."

Hadn’t thought about this!

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