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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems really difficult for guys like me to find genuine girls in to pegging on the site.

I understand how many messages girls get off of guys on here but I struggle to even get a response to anyone that shows interest in pegging on there profile.

I always send a decent message being polite, saying a little about myself and I always attach a face photo.

Any advice on where I'm going wrong?

Thanks all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women I have met were into pegging, I never mentioned it beforehand. Just the conversation got there on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't attach the face picture and don't talk about pegging in a 1st message.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Perhaps you should attend a Fem Dom event

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

If you are focusing on a particular interest, women may possibly feel that they are just wanted to tick a box off your list. Even worse, they may feel fetishised. Imho.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Pegging provides the female part with next to no physical stimulation, the only joy I find in it is sharing in a partners joy at the experience.

Anyone I don't know who mentions it in a first message is immediately considered a selfish prick and deleted.

But I have thoroughly enjoyed it with the right people and intend to do so again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn to use the site functions. You've wrote your looking for an age but your settings don't reflect this

You've nothing in your profile that says specifically what your looking for with pegging. 2 pics you have look painful

. It's just my opinion but there would have to be a connection and trust built as its a delicate area.

(B4 anyone moans, I'm hidden as very unwell right now)

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To be honest I don't say anything about pegging in the first message.

No face photo?? Really how comes?

I thought that would help people know I'm genuine.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I don't understand why you don't even mention it on your profile if you are focused on it ? If a man messages me and asks if I would let him do things to my feet as he worships feet, I would check his profile. If he didn't have anything specific in his bio, I would wonder why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok kool. To be fair I don't mention anything about pegging in the first message and I would mention it until we had had a good few messages. Just not got that far, I really struggle getting a response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand what you mean but to be fair I don't mention pegging in my first message and wouldn't mention it until we had spoke a bit first. I struggle even getting a response from the first message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I said to the others I never mention it in my first message, I just say hello, introduce myself and compliment on there profile. I also send a face photo.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"As I said to the others I never mention it in my first message, I just say hello, introduce myself and compliment on there profile. I also send a face photo."

I'm not talking about your first message, I'm talking about including what you seek on your profile, that is the whole point of a profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't attach the face picture and don't talk about pegging in a 1st message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why you don't even mention it on your profile if you are focused on it ? If a man messages me and asks if I would let him do things to my feet as he worships feet, I would check his profile. If he didn't have anything specific in his bio, I would wonder why."

But people might be into or up for many things so don't necessarily write specifics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But people might be into or up for many things so don't necessarily write specifics. "

Pegging isn't on the interests list but as it's something the op wants he should mention it on his profile

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

So your first issue OP is getting no responses. And the second is how to communicate/advertise your specific interest. I'm with advice above, make some noise about it (preferably on your profile and updates rather than in people's inboxes). And also with the advice above, that it's hard work and there's plenty of butts on offer so what could make yours appealing? Good luck, hope you crack it!

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

But people might be into or up for many things so don't necessarily write specifics. "

But if you specifically want pegging, why not mention it on your profile, the profile that is supposed to reflect what you offer and seek ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's for all the help and advice people, really appreciate it.

I've made a few changes to my profile, hopefully it's a bit more informative.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"That's for all the help and advice people, really appreciate it.

I've made a few changes to my profile, hopefully it's a bit more informative."

Better, but why could you not add a line that says that you woul love to find someone who was open to helping you explore pegging ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

So the problem is just that you're not getting a positive response from the women you're messaging?

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By *agusMan
over a year ago

Near by

A W if you want a specific kinky experience.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"A W if you want a specific kinky experience. "

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By *agusMan
over a year ago

Near by

"A W if you want a specific kinky experience.

??"

Another site

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"A W if you want a specific kinky experience.

Another site "

Ah right

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Pegging provides the female part with next to no physical stimulation, the only joy I find in it is sharing in a partners joy at the experience.

Anyone I don't know who mentions it in a first message is immediately considered a selfish prick and deleted.

But I have thoroughly enjoyed it with the right people and intend to do so again

Unless you are using a duel vibrator strapless strapon. We both get off using mine but they are quite expensive.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So the problem is just that you're not getting a positive response from the women you're messaging?"

Mostly no response or a reply to my first message then no response after the 2nd or 3rd.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"So the problem is just that you're not getting a positive response from the women you're messaging?

Mostly no response or a reply to my first message then no response after the 2nd or 3rd."

So what does that have to do with pegging problems?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So the problem is just that you're not getting a positive response from the women you're messaging?

Mostly no response or a reply to my first message then no response after the 2nd or 3rd.

So what does that have to do with pegging problems?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So the problem is just that you're not getting a positive response from the women you're messaging?

Mostly no response or a reply to my first message then no response after the 2nd or 3rd.

So what does that have to do with pegging problems?"

Because I'd like to get to the subject of pegging when in the talking stage

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Because I'd like to get to the subject of pegging when in the talking stage

But you're not getting that far?

Feels like calling it plumbing problems because the shower doesn't work while living in a cardboard box is more of the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the triangular pegs.

They feel weird

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Hi, how are you?

I love pegging and scat

I'm a nice man.

Hope to hear from you soon!

John. (beee ba ba bada ba)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because I'd like to get to the subject of pegging when in the talking stage

But you're not getting that far?

Feels like calling it plumbing problems because the shower doesn't work while living in a cardboard box is more of the problem."

You know what you're right in hindsight I should of worded this whole post differently as its kind of a two part problem.

What I should of posted is...

Im having an issue with getting responses from people from my initial message.

I normally message people that show an interest in sub/dom play that also includes pegging/strap-on play.

Any tips or advice on 1# my profile and 2# what's the best way about constructing my first message to someone so i stand out and sound genuine.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

A genuine guy who wants pegging? Honestly mate no idea where to start.

See a pro?

I can only imagine that ladies who have pegging down as a 'like' don't have it at the top of their list. It's not really a jumping off point for 99%.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"You know what you're right in hindsight I should of worded this whole post differently as its kind of a two part problem.

What I should of posted is...

Im having an issue with getting responses from people from my initial message.

I normally message people that show an interest in sub/dom play that also includes pegging/strap-on play.

Any tips or advice on 1# my profile and 2# what's the best way about constructing my first message to someone so i stand out and sound genuine."

Being genuine is usually a good way to sound genuine.

There's no perfect one size fits all message. If you can send it to any available orifice, it's not going to feel like an honest attempt to connect with the whole human on the other side.

If you feel your profile is a reflection of yourself and what you want, that's what matters, more than what's commonly liked.

Although, as has been suggested, there are much more effective routes to get what you want, most pros I know offer it. But the people I know who do it entirely for their own pleasure, do so with people they really connect with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit my pegging fantasy has developed a bot of an odd twist recently due to a forumite

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

"You know what you're right in hindsight I should of worded this whole post differently as its kind of a two part problem.

What I should of posted is...

Im having an issue with getting responses from people from my initial message.

I normally message people that show an interest in sub/dom play that also includes pegging/strap-on play.

Any tips or advice on 1# my profile and 2# what's the best way about constructing my first message to someone so i stand out and sound genuine.

Being genuine is usually a good way to sound genuine.

There's no perfect one size fits all message. If you can send it to any available orifice, it's not going to feel like an honest attempt to connect with the whole human on the other side.

If you feel your profile is a reflection of yourself and what you want, that's what matters, more than what's commonly liked.

I think your last paragraph hits the nail on the head (no pun intended). It seems like an evolution of trust and connection and not a transaction, in a fab/relationship sense

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"Because I'd like to get to the subject of pegging when in the talking stage

But you're not getting that far?

Feels like calling it plumbing problems because the shower doesn't work while living in a cardboard box is more of the problem.

You know what you're right in hindsight I should of worded this whole post differently as its kind of a two part problem.

What I should of posted is...

Im having an issue with getting responses from people from my initial message.

I normally message people that show an interest in sub/dom play that also includes pegging/strap-on play.

Any tips or advice on 1# my profile and 2# what's the best way about constructing my first message to someone so i stand out and sound genuine."

So in this case even in your intro message you'd mention that it was exciting to read on their profile that they were into this and that it's something you are keen to explore (ie. reference what made you get in touch, no need to wait till you are deep in convo to establish you have a common interest). Still, I agree with the few that mentioned you'd have to charm them or attract them in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems really difficult for guys like me to find genuine girls in to pegging on the site.

I understand how many messages girls get off of guys on here but I struggle to even get a response to anyone that shows interest in pegging on there profile.

I always send a decent message being polite, saying a little about myself and I always attach a face photo.

Any advice on where I'm going wrong?

Thanks all

Does it have to be pegging or would a cock do the trick?

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I've pegged a number of men over the years, for a variety of different scenes and play, whether sexual.or in a BDSM role, and for me, they are very different styles.

In a BDSM play, it's about control, power exchange, playing with gender norms etc. It's unlikely there would be any other sexual contact / touching etc, and the guy may or may not cum, depending on the way the scene is structured.

Pegging someone in a strictly sexual play is very different. It's about connection, trust, sharing an intimate act. There is a strong chance we would be fucking each other. Many guys find they have a very powerful orgasm from anal sex, which is mostly the point. This is something I only really share with close partners.

Then, you have the guys I peg who have expressed an interest in trying it for a first time. This isn't BDSM, or intimately sexual. It's simply introducing someone to anal play. I'm not going to dominate them. They aren't going to fuck me. It's just 2 people trying something together. Of course, there needs to be a connection, and I have to want to play. I'm a person, not a kink dispensing machine.

However, it seems that pegging is the 'in' thing these days. Of the 14 guys I've offered to meet for this play, only 3 actually commited to turning up.

1 loved it, 1 didn't really enjoy and the 3rd was told to leave when he failed to acknowledge he wouldn't be fucking me.

Herein lies the issue. In my experience, it's mostly a fantasy for a lot of guys, that they actually don't want to put into reality.

In reference to the OP. If I'm approached with a 'please peg me' message, I'm going to check the profile. No mention of that in the profile, I'm not going to respond. Treat me like a kink dispenser, not a person, I'm not going to respond. Any indication you haven't read my profile, I'm not going to respond.

So, give an indication you are into pegging in your profile. Ensure you read the woman's profile. Engage with them as a person. Be prepared to have to travel.

Or just hire a pro.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Oh, and I don't want DMs asking to be pegged either.

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