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Delete my message thread, please?

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By *ome a little bit closer OP   Man
over a year ago

Out 'n' About

So I do send a few messages to women and couples, I generally ask that if they aren't interested, could they just delete my thread and I'll get the hint.

I feel this is easier for them, than to reply to say nope, but if they are read and not deleted I have this faint glimmer of hope that maybe they've put me on the hotlist, and might come back one day.

So, could you just delete my message thread so I can have some closure?

Or a courtesy 'nope' reply?

Probably silly of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who are you talking to?

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

If someone doesn't reply (in a timely fashion) why don't you just block them?

#plentymorefish

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I think most of the posts you get on this thread will tell you it's not up to you and they can do what they like. Personally I tjink it's odd keeping messages showing unread for ever if they have quite obviously read them. But, each to their own. Just don't let it bother you. It's not from people you really know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See if someone tells me to do something, I don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone loves hope. Imagine a life without it?

Don’t worry op. Pull up a chair.

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By *ome a little bit closer OP   Man
over a year ago

Out 'n' About


"See if someone tells me to do something, I don't do it. "

That's a fair point! Thanks

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

OP, you can delete your sent messages. That'll solve the issue.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I suggest you delete your sent messages. Then a reply is a pleasant surprise.

I never honour the "please do this with my message to you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men here face the same issues as you. As a couple, we get messages every time we appear online but we aren’t necessarily looking at them at that time. Our messages are managed by Tones because I simply don’t look at them. Sometimes, we just pop in to the Forum for some light relief and the messages go unchecked for a few weeks.

Don’t take it to heart that you aren’t getting responses just yet.

You might want to attend some organised socials.

Miles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t message people. Gets me around this problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you can delete your sent messages. That'll solve the issue."

You know if you message yourself and read it, it stays unread.

*please don’t ask how I know that.

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By *ome a little bit closer OP   Man
over a year ago

Out 'n' About


"I suggest you delete your sent messages. Then a reply is a pleasant surprise.

I never honour the "please do this with my message to you""

Yeah, this is a good idea, think I'll do this

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By *ome a little bit closer OP   Man
over a year ago

Out 'n' About


"If someone doesn't reply (in a timely fashion) why don't you just block them?

#plentymorefish "

I don't like to burn my bridges!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you can delete your sent messages. That'll solve the issue.

You know if you message yourself and read it, it stays unread.

*please don’t ask how I know that. "

I know. My message to get into my own knickers was successful. And here I am.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"OP, you can delete your sent messages. That'll solve the issue.

You know if you message yourself and read it, it stays unread.

*please don’t ask how I know that. "

You’re the font of all knowledge Woody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure expecting others to take responsibility for your messages is the right path. As suggested, delete your sent box and you'll have no further worries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"See if someone tells me to do something, I don't do it. "

Would you be a contrarian lilith.? Tell me.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I don’t message people. Gets me around this problem. "

There is wisdom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See if someone tells me to do something, I don't do it. "

Don’t snog Woody!

*nobody tried this yet? Guys…. Come on!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is woke as fuck

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello op, welcome to the forum.

The best way to preserve your sanity is to not worry about what people do with the messages you send.

Good luck on fab

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails. "

Omg. I’ve killed a puppy

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails.

Omg. I’ve killed a puppy "

I thought better of you LittleBird.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails.

Omg. I’ve killed a puppy

I thought better of you LittleBird. "

I’m so sorry little puppy. And Woody obvs

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"OP, you can delete your sent messages. That'll solve the issue.

You know if you message yourself and read it, it stays unread.

*please don’t ask how I know that. "

That's because you broke the matrix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails. "

Guaranteed to ensure you get no reply from the Cruella de Vil's of this world.

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By *ome a little bit closer OP   Man
over a year ago

Out 'n' About

You guys are great! Thank you community

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By *XZRMan
over a year ago

Highland

Add in the other torturous element of people reading your message and then marking it as 'unread'

Either way, as someone else said, if it bothers you that much give em a week and then block+delete the sent mail at your end and move on.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Honestly OP, your best bet is to just delete your sent messages. It doesn't delete them from the recipients inbox, but will stop you obsessing over the what ifs.

Women on here can easily get upwards of 100 messages a day, there is not the time to read each one's specific instructions on how they'd like you to respond, if there's even the time or inclination to read it at all. Send a message, delete your outbox, and let it fall from your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails. "

Too many puppies in this world anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See if someone tells me to do something, I don't do it.

Would you be a contrarian lilith.? Tell me. "

No

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails.

Too many puppies in this world anyway."

Even grumpy puppy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always put this as my last line.

If you reply to this message in 5 hrs you will receive good luck in the form of a lottery win, and if you don’t a puppy will die.

It never fails.

Too many puppies in this world anyway.

Even grumpy puppy? "

He can live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You guys are great! Thank you community"

Not bad for a newbie first post....it's going OK so far.....

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