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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How are you all feeling? I get burnt out and depressed a lot due to the job market being vicious. I wanna make sure if anyone gets beaten down that there’s a thread here for people to feel completely free to just vent or complain about absolutely ANYTHING! Much love to you all xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look after yourself

Considering how vicious this place can be at times am often pleasantly surprised how helpful people can be on threads like this

Esp as most are complete strangers

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Im diagnosed neuro divergent and it leads to some highs and some lows but theres already some threads about that running so I won't post too much about that here and now.

What I will say is look after yourselves and seek help and support when times get rough, keeping it to yourself is not the best way to deal with it.

When I was at my lowest, I told no body and it led to events putting me in hospital.

Dont leave it that late to seek help.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Booby hugs to everyone who is struggling.

It's OK not to be okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an awful lot going on and my mental health is best described as fragile at the moment. I am, however, proactive at trying to manage it...but it is draining at times constantly trying to pull yourself out the hole. I'm thankful for having the support I do.

Our inbox is always open to anyone who is needing someone to talk to, and sending big hugs to anyone who needs it right now

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine's the best it's been in almost a year.

I'm just hoping I stay like this for a little while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine's the best it's been in almost a year.

I'm just hoping I stay like this for a little while.

"

Well done to you and keep it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have an awful lot going on and my mental health is best described as fragile at the moment. I am, however, proactive at trying to manage it...but it is draining at times constantly trying to pull yourself out the hole. I'm thankful for having the support I do.

Our inbox is always open to anyone who is needing someone to talk to, and sending big hugs to anyone who needs it right now

Mrs"

Sending hugs back

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Honestly?

Kind of all over the place.

But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.

A

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Right now? I’m at a complete loss and don’t know what to do.

Recently I got told that I shouldn’t buy a new car cause it’ll depreciate (like all things), but that on my money I should be living in poverty.

It’s made me feel like total sh*t and now it’s going over and over in my mind like everything I’ve worked towards doesn’t count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly?

Kind of all over the place.

But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.

A"

Give it time. Glad you're still about and looking forward.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Honestly?

Kind of all over the place.

But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.

A

Give it time. Glad you're still about and looking forward. "

Thanks Lib.

I'll get there. I'm working on it.

A

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly. "

I feel your pain. You'll get there eventually.

That's what I tell myself each morning.

Good luck.

A

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly.

I feel your pain. You'll get there eventually.

That's what I tell myself each morning.

Good luck.

A"

Absolutely. Even when it’s right and a relief, it’s not always easy. And the admin nightmare of separating your lives… this should be outsourceable

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

I'm here, inbox or a coffee and a huge snug. I'm here!! Suffering myself, so know the downfalls and the pits, but a friend in need, I'll be the arsehole that holds your hair and rubs your back , when you feel a 'fuck-it-night' is in order. Just don't do it without me, I'll stay sober to make sure you're 100% safe be my total pleasure. #the driver, not the bottle diver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much."

So sorry for your loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much."

That's terrible.

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.

Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.

My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.

Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.

My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health. "

Hope it does pass. Are you watching the all Ireland tomorrow

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.

Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.

My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health.

Hope it does pass. Are you watching the all Ireland tomorrow "

It will, these points will pass for everyone.

I'm not no, Gaelic sports isn't really my thing. Give me a Ireland Rugby game any day of the week mind.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is. "

Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time

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By *Jblue321Man
over a year ago

Chester

I’d say my MH is fragile in terms of i’m not at my lowest but i’m definitely low, I’ve had a couple of cries this week but I'm back to work next week so bit more routine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right now? I’m at a complete loss and don’t know what to do.

Recently I got told that I shouldn’t buy a new car cause it’ll depreciate (like all things), but that on my money I should be living in poverty.

It’s made me feel like total sh*t and now it’s going over and over in my mind like everything I’ve worked towards doesn’t count. "

Buy the car if you want to! Of course it counts, what do they know. It's your decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"

a lot of people feel like that sometimes.

Have you sought medical advise or therapy?

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.

Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time "

True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.

I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

a lot of people feel like that sometimes.

Have you sought medical advise or therapy?"

Been there and done it and never again, actually made me worse and screwed one of the best things in my life

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.

Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time

True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.

I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it. "

Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

Having od'd in january and nearly dying I'm in a much better place now mentally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.

Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time

True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.

I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.

Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without "

CBT isn't for everyone, and medication helps... but I'm not a fan.

I mean like actual therapy.

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

On the list for DBT myself

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I’ve been better. Thought I was going downhill but turns out I’d run out of my HRT & not noticed - scary! Hopefully be ok in a couple of weeks.

Hugs to anyone who needs them xx

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"

I get this. While I would be devastated I want to be told I have a life ending physical condition as would give me an acceptable end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having od'd in january and nearly dying I'm in a much better place now mentally "

Well done and glad you are still fighting on

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

I get this. While I would be devastated I want to be told I have a life ending physical condition as would give me an acceptable end. "

I have serious lung conditions, I don't like the look of my future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.

Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.

My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health.

Hope it does pass. Are you watching the all Ireland tomorrow

It will, these points will pass for everyone.

I'm not no, Gaelic sports isn't really my thing. Give me a Ireland Rugby game any day of the week mind. "

Would be the same but taking advantage of bbc showing it tomorrow to tune in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ex missus and kids are finally moving out this wkd, it’s been a year, she’s had house purchase fall through one after the other, we have lived separate lives in the same space it’s been horrific, there’s light at the end of the tunnel, my philosophy is keep going it gets better which it will, much love to all and you OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

I get this. While I would be devastated I want to be told I have a life ending physical condition as would give me an acceptable end.

I have serious lung conditions, I don't like the look of my future "

Sorry to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm tired, I know that. Some days I just want to be left alone and other days I want to be the life and soul of the party. I think I'm just a bit lonely sometimes, funny how you can be surrounded by people but not actually feel connected to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always shocking sometimes to read just how bad things have gotten for others. And that if we don't talk to someone - that might be us. So please talk if nothing else - I know the feeling that everything you say is negative. But it seems that everyone on this thread understands that perspective.

I've no filters on if anyone here wants to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm tired, I know that. Some days I just want to be left alone and other days I want to be the life and soul of the party. I think I'm just a bit lonely sometimes, funny how you can be surrounded by people but not actually feel connected to anyone. "

That's a feeling think many know all too well

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Honestly?

Kind of all over the place.

But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.

A"

Good man ... might I throw a notion at you that has helped me ...

Stop trying to get back to yourself ,,, we never go back and what you gain from your struggles add to the version of you going forward. You are all your days good and bad and thats a positive

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Right now? I’m at a complete loss and don’t know what to do.

Recently I got told that I shouldn’t buy a new car cause it’ll depreciate (like all things), but that on my money I should be living in poverty.

It’s made me feel like total sh*t and now it’s going over and over in my mind like everything I’ve worked towards doesn’t count. "

Look for what need wasn't met that is stimulating these feelings ?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much."

Unfortunately sometimes it can be too much ... thats tough for you !

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"

That can't be easy to feel as if you don't want to wake anymore ?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much."

How sad to hear.

It's not always having someone to talk to.

When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.

I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.

Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.

I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.

People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.

I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.

My condolences to you.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.

Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time

True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.

I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.

Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without "

Have you tried diet? Eat yourself better kind of thing.

I know my stomach problems play a big part in my panic and anxiety issues, and possibly the clinical depression.

There's a lot to digest *pun intended* when researching as there are so many different experts, but I think it's worth looking at.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

That can't be easy to feel as if you don't want to wake anymore ? "

Can't remember the last time I looked forward to waking the next day

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.

Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.

Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.

Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time

True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.

I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.

Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without

Have you tried diet? Eat yourself better kind of thing.

I know my stomach problems play a big part in my panic and anxiety issues, and possibly the clinical depression.

There's a lot to digest *pun intended* when researching as there are so many different experts, but I think it's worth looking at.

"

I just eat what I fancy when I'm hungry, I don't do diets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly?

Kind of all over the place.

But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.

A

Good man ... might I throw a notion at you that has helped me ...

Stop trying to get back to yourself ,,, we never go back and what you gain from your struggles add to the version of you going forward. You are all your days good and bad and thats a positive "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly. "

One day, soon I hope, your whole body will sigh in relief.

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.

How sad to hear.

It's not always having someone to talk to.

When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.

I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.

Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.

I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.

People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.

I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.

My condolences to you. "

I have to agree with this.

I got found one night about 10 years ago ready to take that last step so to speak.

10 years on I went on meds back in January for the first time and honestly the best thing I've done.

It isn't right for everyone but I'd recommend just trying everything that is offered to you and finding what works for you, your situation and you're brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know where to start.

I'm lost,I'm tired,I don't know who I am anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know where to start.

I'm lost,I'm tired,I don't know who I am anymore."

You wanna talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know where to start.

I'm lost,I'm tired,I don't know who I am anymore.

You wanna talk about it "

I wouldn't know where to start,but thank you for the offer.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dreampt of the past was wonderful at the time but its filled my brain with what ifs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dreampt of the past was wonderful at the time but its filled my brain with what ifs"

I get this a lot

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By *uffolk_bigguyMan
over a year ago

Tractor Town

Just wanted a place to log that my depression has taken a downward turn of late. Feeling lonely and disconnected with a mind that feels like it's getting into a darker place. Have enough to keep afloat at the moment, but bloody hell it's tough. x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.

How sad to hear.

It's not always having someone to talk to.

When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.

I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.

Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.

I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.

People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.

I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.

My condolences to you.

I have to agree with this.

I got found one night about 10 years ago ready to take that last step so to speak.

10 years on I went on meds back in January for the first time and honestly the best thing I've done.

It isn't right for everyone but I'd recommend just trying everything that is offered to you and finding what works for you, your situation and you're brain. "

For some it's a stepping stone to recovery.

Some need them to gain the strength to deal with the life stresses at the time.

As the stress becomes less the need for them wanes.

My issues aren't because of life problems. I've always had terrible nerves and becoming physically ill made them worse.

Depression was a side effect of my nerve problems.

If something comes up that is mentally challenging I live inside my head for a while battling it there, keeping myself strong enough to deal with it.

There's an answer for every problem.

Don't be afraid to take the medication if offered.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I dreampt of the past was wonderful at the time but its filled my brain with what ifs"

I have a lot of what if moments that make my whole body burn with panic.

Replace them with something that had a positive outcome.

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By *carlett 44Woman
over a year ago

bootle

My mental health is very up n down at the minute. I hav fybromyalgia and it's bin flaring up all the time. Which makes my mood low which makes the pain worse. Vicious circle. At the end of the day all I want is to snuggle up in someone's arms n forget all about it

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate

That can't be easy to feel as if you don't want to wake anymore ?

Can't remember the last time I looked forward to waking the next day "

It sound exhausting mate ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just heard on the local news about a charity match to raise awareness about men's mental health and how it's a major factor for men under 50.

This may be true but still annoys me as mental health and suicide thoughts don't have barriers regarding sex or age. It can hit anyone at any time.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Just heard on the local news about a charity match to raise awareness about men's mental health and how it's a major factor for men under 50.

This may be true but still annoys me as mental health and suicide thoughts don't have barriers regarding sex or age. It can hit anyone at any time. "

Your not wrong . Thankfully there are supports out there now for all ages ...

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Just heard on the local news about a charity match to raise awareness about men's mental health and how it's a major factor for men under 50.

This may be true but still annoys me as mental health and suicide thoughts don't have barriers regarding sex or age. It can hit anyone at any time. "

Of course,but men have been conditioned for far too long to not talk about their feelings so getting the message across that it's OK to not be OK..

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Struggling today unusual for me! Had couple sad bits of news! Will bounce back !xx

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door


"I dreampt of the past was wonderful at the time but its filled my brain with what ifs

I have a lot of what if moments that make my whole body burn with panic.

Replace them with something that had a positive outcome.

"
its a fair call iv found shutting off my brain with mind occupying things helps i think ooops i thought damn it

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,


"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.

How sad to hear.

It's not always having someone to talk to.

When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.

I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.

Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.

I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.

People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.

I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.

My condolences to you. "

Thank you.He had been at odds with the world for over twenty years,(he was 75).Found some peace now.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

So many of us struggling in the same way. It's hard but don't suffer in silence. You are not alone. Happy to chat if anyone wants to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello all. I know there's a few threads about on cynicism and positivity - if your mental health is low it can be hard to be a ray of sunshine. Some days it's just keeping your head above water - and that's an achievement!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.

The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.

So that's a positive.

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.

The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.

So that's a positive."

Exactly how I felt in January, hope days become easier for you soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

"

This is one of the main reasons I am still here, though I really don't want to be.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

Not great but it could be worse. Anxiety is a bitch that has decided to rear its ugly head and bring its old friend insomnia with it. I'm exhausted, grumpy and probably need a good cry.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.

The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.

So that's a positive."

So sorry to hear that posh, you always seem upbeat and very popular in the forums. I won't be giving you any unsolicited advice, just know that you are not alone and you have friends. Always happy to chat to anyone struggling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.

The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.

So that's a positive."

You make me smile regularly with your bants and your threads, Posh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bump

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Hello all. I know there's a few threads about on cynicism and positivity - if your mental health is low it can be hard to be a ray of sunshine. Some days it's just keeping your head above water - and that's an achievement! "

Yes definitely ??

Keep moving some days is all we can hope for ... and that's ok . Don't beat yourself up for falling down ... remember its takes far more strength to keep getting up and thar strength is truly honorable

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By *lmondhammerMan
over a year ago

royal hertfordshire

Real bad, self inflicted but I have been scared of help as in therapies I can admit I've been toxic due to my MH but no excuse, I will be seeing my GP, seeking out charities to help and the friendships I've pushed away I hope to rebuild.

To anyone going through it, you've made it through your darkest days thus far so you can do this.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been away for some time, fixing some issues.

Following a recent restart I feel some issues have been resolved.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months "
Are you okay? hugs

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now "
Aww bless you! I have known the feelings but not personally tried no judgement from me. Honestly things can get better! My dad and a friend died to suicide and i understand some just can't live with life. Some suffer in silence and don't always open up and show emotions, Which is healthy and human. It's good people are more open now and talking! Hugs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.

The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.

So that's a positive."

NSP please please find some help. You shouldn't be living with so much pain.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months "

It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months

It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen. "

I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something

I hate myself for it

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By *lmondhammerMan
over a year ago

royal hertfordshire


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months

It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.

I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something

I hate myself for it "

Hey mate

Sorry to butt in but you are on a healing path, you will have things that still trigger you and make you feel down. Just try and change how you see the critiques.

Someone recommended a book to me called self coaching 101 that shows how to do that, let me know if you want me to send you a link to it mate.

Also hope you don't suffer alone, reach out

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.

The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.

If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.

But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.

So that's a positive."
Are you okay lovely? You are a lovely person definitely one of the nice ones on here. We have chatted privately before! If you need a chat I'm only a message away. Big hugs XOX

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months

It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.

I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something

I hate myself for it "

Words are so powerful but they are just words. Look for something good to hang onto. Feel free to talk to me.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months

It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.

I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something

I hate myself for it

Words are so powerful but they are just words. Look for something good to hang onto. Feel free to talk to me. "

Thank you

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Men’s mental health will never be accepted in this world and if there is that’ll be a minority of people who might understand what us men go through

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Apologies if this pisses y’all off

I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work

I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months "

Why do you feel you need to apologize for saying how you've had to struggle?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now "

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over? "

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything "

Ok ... so you feel like you deserve less in life because you arnt working ?

It can't be easy to feel like you don't deserve any joy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men’s mental health will never be accepted in this world and if there is that’ll be a minority of people who might understand what us men go through "

Coming in late here but very sorry to hear you've been having such a hard time.

It's SO much tougher for men to gain empathy, support, help. But there are people here and in real life who do get it. Do you struggle with gaining acceptance in real life?

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Thank you all for your supportive comments

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By *ecretSilverlinkMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I feel you i’m currently on a downwards slope but i will get back up stronger. i’m good at giving advice out but can’t take it myself haha but look after yourself everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything "

Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything

Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!"

Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that

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By *carlett 44Woman
over a year ago

bootle

Isn't it scary how many of us are struggling at the minute. Life is meant to be easier these days. But I feel it's getting worse. Be it money job relationship or medical reasons. I think the good thing is that we can talk on here to complete strangers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything

Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!

Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that "

It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything

Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!

Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that

It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so. "

Fair play to you for trying so hard and sending out so many CVS. I'm going to play devil's advocate a little and I hope it helps.

If you have sent out hundreds of CVS in a couple of weeks chances are you are applying to many jobs that don't suit you and that you are not suited. I also noticed that you said it only takes a couple of minutes which gives me the indication you aren't researching each company and providing them with a personalized informed open letter.

I would advise that you spend some time looking at some interview and application tips online and personalize each job application to each job genuinely.

In terms of the deflating factor of trying for so many jobs. Give yourself a break

you're doing an awful lot of work and frankly it is far harder to keep trying for jobs then it is to coast through life.

Put somebody you care about in your shoes and tell me what advice would you give them right now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything

Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!

Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that

It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so.

Fair play to you for trying so hard and sending out so many CVS. I'm going to play devil's advocate a little and I hope it helps.

If you have sent out hundreds of CVS in a couple of weeks chances are you are applying to many jobs that don't suit you and that you are not suited. I also noticed that you said it only takes a couple of minutes which gives me the indication you aren't researching each company and providing them with a personalized informed open letter.

I would advise that you spend some time looking at some interview and application tips online and personalize each job application to each job genuinely.

In terms of the deflating factor of trying for so many jobs. Give yourself a break

you're doing an awful lot of work and frankly it is far harder to keep trying for jobs then it is to coast through life.

Put somebody you care about in your shoes and tell me what advice would you give them right now?"

I’m not good at advice. I can’t say that I’m in any position to give any advice haha. I can write cover letters but they’re not often massively effective.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

One thing to get off my chest is I have a friend that's sweet kind and very pretty yet she's appearing like she's stuck with this narcassist controlling stalker guy when she's not.

She doesn't live with him, she lives with her mum and he lives outside London they just happen to share her car.

She told me when she was younger she was nearly sectioned for trying to end her life, we went to watch a bit of karaoke and he turns up 1am when it finished calling her to ask where she is but all along he was behind us on the phone.

He tells me to go home and I just asked him take her home safely. She calls my phone crying that he doesn't love her and she felt as though he was trying to make her reach breaking point so she was going to the hospital

As a friend I want to inform police she's said no its between her and him so in other words mind my business is what she's saying but she's not doing anything about it.

A partner is someone to uplift you and grow with not tear you down. I decided I will visit her at her mum's but I won't go out anywhere with her its fucked up he shows up everywhere she goes to enjoy herself and doesn't go anywhere with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid

I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now

Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?

I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything

Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!

Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that

It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so.

Fair play to you for trying so hard and sending out so many CVS. I'm going to play devil's advocate a little and I hope it helps.

If you have sent out hundreds of CVS in a couple of weeks chances are you are applying to many jobs that don't suit you and that you are not suited. I also noticed that you said it only takes a couple of minutes which gives me the indication you aren't researching each company and providing them with a personalized informed open letter.

I would advise that you spend some time looking at some interview and application tips online and personalize each job application to each job genuinely.

In terms of the deflating factor of trying for so many jobs. Give yourself a break

you're doing an awful lot of work and frankly it is far harder to keep trying for jobs then it is to coast through life.

Put somebody you care about in your shoes and tell me what advice would you give them right now?

I’m not good at advice. I can’t say that I’m in any position to give any advice haha. I can write cover letters but they’re not often massively effective. "

I think you're deep into applying for jobs and it's hard to recognise that it does affect your self-esteem hugely. Every time you don't get a reply. Every time you get a negative reply. Every time the interview is unsuccessful. If you also don't allow yourself "time off" you're punishing yourself for the situation. Instead of nourishing your battered ego doing things that make you feel better. Because you deserve that.

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