FabSwingers.com forum: Approaching people…

By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

I was reading the self-confidence thread started by Lilith and it got me thinking..

How many people find it easier to approach people on fab than in the real world.

I struggle in person due to shyness and anxiety issues and always end up making a fool of myself. When I’m on here or other sites I find it easier and tend to be myself.

Anyone else feel the same?

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"I was reading the self-confidence thread started by Lilith and it got me thinking..

How many people find it easier to approach people on fab than in the real world.

I struggle in person due to shyness and anxiety issues and always end up making a fool of myself. When I’m on here or other sites I find it easier and tend to be myself.

Anyone else feel the same?"

I have as mush self-confidence in the real world as I do on fab. If you want anything in like being shy will only hinder you.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Much easier in real life and I'm an introvert.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It depends on the people around you. I was at Kestrels last week and found it easy to chat to people as they were very open. But I can be shy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never approach someone in the real world.

I'm actually pretty shy

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By *ick1111Man
over a year ago

Near Spalding

I find it easier and more natural in the real world than sending a new message on here to someone that I don’t know.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It really depends on my mood. Generally I don't approach people in public unless to give them a one off compliment - the whole wearing a ring thing can make it complicated. :D

If I'm at a social and feeling more confident I don't have any qualms about approaching people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never do it in the real world as guys don't even look at me.

I don't need that level of rejection.

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By *antric_lover77Woman
over a year ago

south east

I never been approached or approach people. I meet new people but rarely anyone I find physically attractive, if I do, they're usually married and not interested lol

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By *antric_lover77Woman
over a year ago

south east

"I would never do it in the real world as guys don't even look at me.

I don't need that level of rejection.

I tend to notice guys always looking at my friends. Just don't think guys approach or flirt with women these days unless they know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never do it in the real world as guys don't even look at me.

I don't need that level of rejection.

I tend to notice guys always looking at my friends. Just don't think guys approach or flirt with women these days unless they know them"

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It's always easier on forums etc

I need some Dutch courage to approach someone if I'm out out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it fairly easy in a busy bar after a few drinks. It's just making light conversation/jokes to gauge interest before you actually make a move.

In a normal setting (work, supermarket, etc.) I wouldn't bother as people are going about there business, but I will try and make eye contact and smile if I think they're hot.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie. "

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a shameful flirt and definitely not a "classic beauty"

If it leads anywhere - yay me!!!

If it doesn't then I had a bit of a chat, some banter and smiles. I find it harder on here as a lot of profiles have no photos and sparse text. I don't want to start something only to find out I'm not attracted physically or intellectually to the person a few messages down the line.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

People DON'T APPROACH people anymore. Yes to some it happens but the vast majority since internet age has really settled, they don't.

Women usually expect men to approach first still, and men these days don't want to get 'cancelled' or come across as creeps approaching women.

Let alone that has to mostly happen in bars for dutch courage and many women in bars are with their 'gal pals' having a wonderful time and giving off a vibe that any man can swiftly fuck the fuck off.

So please don't worry about not getting approached in public. It's not cause you're not hot. Which is the only reason they would by the way, they don't know your wonderful personalities then.

Me - I chat to people for a living and so am more sure of myself and while I wouldn't approach in public, I can easily find myself commenting on a situation or ending up chatting to whatever stranger, hot Anna 25 or local Steve 56.

I have more success out of fab than here though for sure. This place fascinates me. I definitely think, whether it's insecurities or whatever, there's a lot of people on here with the most specific specific of standards and the slightest comment they see from someone can make them think they're a complete asshole. Which is not how dating used to be back in the golden days I hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not. "

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

"In a normal setting (work, supermarket, etc.) I wouldn't bother as people are going about there business, but I will try and make eye contact and smile if I think they're hot."

I’ve had more luck in supermarkets than in pubs. Always get asked by the smaller ladies to get stuff off the top shelf. Has led to a few good conversations and a couple of dates, but I didn’t do the asking.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"I would never do it in the real world as guys don't even look at me.

I don't need that level of rejection.

Maybe guys are intimidated by you giving the reason why they won't approach you.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I take what i want and give nothing back

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Just waggle your willy about

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"Just waggle your willy about"
get you a couple of lovely wrist bands that would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I speak more openly here. I am reclusive, awkward and guarded in person. I am ill at ease being in the company of only one other person except my partner. I think I come across as aloof and stuffy to begin with. Only those who have the patience to get through my exterior will see the softer side of me, albeit it would still take a while to get through my barriers.

For that reason, I don’t tend to approach people, especially offline. Tones is my rock for putting up with it and my buttress for getting me out to face the World.

Miles

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women. "

I agree that most typical guys do but it also depends on your definition of hot.

For me it’s varies from person to person. I don’t have a type and if a woman gets me laughing and I enjoy the interaction, well anything can happen

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I speak more openly here. I am reclusive, awkward and guarded in person. I am ill at ease being in the company of only one other person except my partner. I think I come across as aloof and stuffy to begin with. Only those who have the patience to get through my exterior will see the softer side of me, albeit it would still take a while to get through my barriers.

For that reason, I don’t tend to approach people, especially offline. Tones is my rock for putting up with it and my buttress for getting me out to face the World.

Miles"

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He does have a fine butt(ress).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

I agree that most typical guys do but it also depends on your definition of hot.

For me it’s varies from person to person. I don’t have a type and if a woman gets me laughing and I enjoy the interaction, well anything can happen "

It's astonishing the amount of non typical men on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it difficult on both as the first assessment is always a physical one and I'm not the most photogenic (read ugly) of people.

Once I get into conversation it's mostly good

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women. "

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Way better IRL than internet. Both in approaches and success. Some 95+% on attempts on the internet goes nowhere, maybe higher than 95. When I say goes nowhere, I mean nothing back in reply. Maybe it's harder to say nothing IRL.

But IRL I can have an exchange with someone, no sexual intent just human interaction. Maybe it will be over in a minute or the conversation might go further.

There's a back to front thing here though. I think there's a perception that approaching someone IRL is harassment and this deters people. But I think there's a greater chance of harassment on the internet. People will say things from the comfort of anonymity that they wouldn't dream of saying in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there."

Only on the 6'2, hulk, horse cock and teeth things to be fair, the rest is good

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By *antric_lover77Woman
over a year ago

south east

"In a normal setting (work, supermarket, etc.) I wouldn't bother as people are going about there business, but I will try and make eye contact and smile if I think they're hot.

To me that standard art of flirtation. A lady invites a man to help her to show if he's interested. I always remember the lady dropping her handkerchief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never do it in the real world as guys don't even look at me.

I don't need that level of rejection.

It's the biggest drawback for me thb...rejection..you could totally nuts about a person and then they don't think of you the same as you do them .. rejection...I understand what you say .

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

The rejection is fine. It always sucks but we all do it to others.

I don't notice an attention on me when out. Nobody approaches

The problem is, some people can simply be mean. Laugh at you with the rejection. Be hostile with the rejection. That kind of rejection is the problem that holds me back out there in the people world.

How do you just approach somebody randomly day to day going about their life, without it feeling overly inappropriate - by doing so and disrupting them, have you just sealed your fate of blowing any chance?

You see somebody "perfect" (subjective ofc) while shopping, and just don't approach. A smile maybe but what does that achieve if neither is going to make the move for the same issue. Chance you won't see this person again if you don't make contact and all is lost. But if you do try to strike something up, how weird does that seem to them these days. People just don't do it.

The rejection is fine. The method not so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For that reason, I don’t tend to approach people, especially offline. Tones is my rock for putting up with it and my buttress for getting me out to face the World.

Miles

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He does have a fine butt(ress)."

Why, Nero, I’ve gone all shy now.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

"It's astonishing the amount of non typical men on here. "

I’ve keep getting told that I’m not typical and I like it. It’s good being a little weird and wacky. Has taken me years to get to this point and I suppose once I’m totally happy with myself I’d probably have the confidence to go out into the real world and speak to people.

I must say the few socials and meets I’ve had on here have boosted my confidence.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

"To me that standard art of flirtation. A lady invites a man to help her to show if he's interested. I always remember the lady dropping her handkerchief"

I think I must be blind to some of the flirting then. I’d love for dropped handkerchiefs to come back, I’d always pick it u. I suppose if I get a smile upon returning it that’s the cue to strike up a conversation.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

Would I approach a couple for a threesome, proposition someone 20 years younger/older, explicitly flirt with someone my own gender in the wild ... No, for fear of offending and coming off as a creep. Much easier to approach people for these purposes when there is clear indication that may be receptive to it. Can be cos it's on their profile or cos you're in the right place.

I am sincerely in awe with people who have such strong social skill they can pick up swinging partners in the wild.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

As a married couple we don’t have experience in real life of approaching people for a number of years. On Fab we tend to wait for people to approach us to show interest. Maybe it’s a confidence thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it depends on the realship or do I see the person a lot

As if it’s a stranger or someone I don’t see a lot I try as if I get knocked back then it’s no big deal we never see them again or little off them

If it’s someone I bump in to regular or have a friends realship with or that I tend to not as I knock back would be awkward moments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was reading the self-confidence thread started by Lilith and it got me thinking..

How many people find it easier to approach people on fab than in the real world.

I struggle in person due to shyness and anxiety issues and always end up making a fool of myself. When I’m on here or other sites I find it easier and tend to be myself.

Anyone else feel the same?

I have as mush self-confidence in the real world as I do on fab. If you want anything in like being shy will only hinder you."

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not. "

Why wouldnt they want someone who is attractive to them? That doesnt mean 6ft, built and a big bank balance as has been mentioned. Personality does matter of course but there has to be something to attract a person.

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

"In a normal setting (work, supermarket, etc.) I wouldn't bother as people are going about there business, but I will try and make eye contact and smile if I think they're hot.

To me that standard art of flirtation. A lady invites a man to help her to show if he's interested. I always remember the lady dropping her handkerchief"

A girl flirted with me a long time ago

(Last century) she was a riding instructor, and myself and three pals were having a lesson. She fell off her horse in front of me. I carried on !

Well. I didn't know where the brake was

Later , another female instructor told us it's her way of flirting with guys she fancies.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"The rejection is fine. It always sucks but we all do it to others.

I don't notice an attention on me when out. Nobody approaches

The problem is, some people can simply be mean. Laugh at you with the rejection. Be hostile with the rejection. That kind of rejection is the problem that holds me back out there in the people world.

The rejection is fine. The method not so much. "

On fab or a dating app the assumption is already made as to why the approach is being made. IRL, it's not. It always starts as human interaction and it will probably just end like that. But if someone indicates they're open to continuing the interaction, you can usually tell. I've had women say to me that it took balls to approach them and that's why they agreed to see me again.

I've had way more people be horrible over the internet than IRL. RL horribleness has happened, particularly when someone has been drinking.

Yes, you have to gauge how an approach is perceived and it can be nerving

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

I don’t remember the amount of profiles I’ve seen where the text has put me off even though the person looks ‘hot’.

Your profile is an example of what I think is a great profile, good photos and text. If I was closer I’d be messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Juicey Bruicey hit the nail on the head!

The world has changed massively. I am a fairly confident person but approaching a woman in public, unless it’s a night out etc is a massive no no. I feel there’s a stigma around men that do that, and they’re basically viewed as creeps. On a night out it’s viewed differently (probably due to the alcohol involved) where everyone is socialising. It’s easy to approach someone on fab just like it is on most dating apps, it’s essentially no different to real life though, the person you approach is either going to welcome it or reject it.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

That's what most women put as a requirement, then wonder why she is sharing the 5% of men the majority of women want. You can't see personality.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

I randomly bumped into a lady while going for a walk, ended up walking together for a couple of hours. She offered me her number and we chatted that evening. I thought there was a spark but when I messaged the next day she ghosted me.

In the past that would have really knocked me but also in the past I would never have had approached her in the first place.

I’m realising the sometimes rejection might not be personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t remember the amount of profiles I’ve seen where the text has put me off even though the person looks ‘hot’.

Your profile is an example of what I think is a great profile, good photos and text. If I was closer I’d be messaging."

You just illustrated my point though. Yes, personality, how they present themselves is important but that isnt what attracts you initially....their appearance draws you in to finding out what kind of person they are.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we do get a bit nervous meeting new folks, but we seem to muddle through somehow when it happens.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

In my defence I did read your profile first and then looked at your photos.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there."

Guys not lying. Fancy a body swap for the day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my defence I did read your profile first and then looked at your photos.

Yes, because I responded on here. You know what I mean, I know you do.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

"I was reading the self-confidence thread started by Lilith and it got me thinking..

How many people find it easier to approach people on fab than in the real world.

I struggle in person due to shyness and anxiety issues and always end up making a fool of myself. When I’m on here or other sites I find it easier and tend to be myself.

Anyone else feel the same?"

Interesting, I am fairly confident in myself and don't particularly fear rejection. But I still find it easier to approach here (when I have the time and energy to deal with fab beyond the forums).

I think it is because I don't feel so much like I am invading their space. Approaching in pubic risks using thier energy and time for something they may not want.

Online someone can just choose to ignore you or they can wait till they are in the right place to engage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there."

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

Yes, because I responded on here. You know what I mean, I know you do."

Yes I do and you are right though I’ll message as many profiles without pics as with pics.

Something always has to grab your interest, be it profile or photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, because I responded on here. You know what I mean, I know you do.

Yes I do and you are right though I’ll message as many profiles without pics as with pics.

Something always has to grab your interest, be it profile or photos. "

We will have to agree to differ then. I appreciate your experience though if I have no photos up, I get zero messages.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

"Interesting, I am fairly confident in myself and don't particularly fear rejection. But I still find it easier to approach here (when I have the time and energy to deal with fab beyond the forums).

I think it is because I don't feel so much like I am invading their space. Approaching in pubic risks using thier energy and time for something they may not want.

Online someone can just choose to ignore you or they can wait till they are in the right place to engage. "

Totally understand the point around invading space and taking up someone’s time and energy.

I know I’ve previously messaged you and I didn’t pique your interest but I didn’t feel like I was taking time or energy away from you or feel any rejection. It might have felt different in person

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By *eird_With_a_BeardMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Interesting thread, I’ve loved reading through the answers as I find nothing more interesting than peoples opinions and experiences.

I personally have never had the confidence to approach anyone in the real world. Mainly due to a severe lack of confidence in myself both physically and mentally. I’m big enough to admit that I realise I’m not stereotypically “good looking” and especially now, I look a bit different to the norm. In saying that though, it’s taken me until the age I am now to be comfortable in who I am as a person and the way I look. Although, that then contradicts my previous statement about confidence, although that kinda still stands too…g figure

I do find the approaching in real life thing difficult, especially if not in a social situation like a bar, club or whatever. Only yesterday, I was in one of my local Tesco’s (other supermarkets are available) and as I was wandering through looking for the person I was with, I saw a woman walking towards me who I found very attractive. I’m not always comfortable with eye contact, as I never want to look like a creep

but as we were about to pass each other, I noticed her side glancing me. Although then, I wonder if she’s looking because she thinks I look okay, or because she thinks I look strange? I do stand out a bit from the crowd through the way I look and the way I dress. Back to the woman though, I would always be too nervous to say anything in that situation. I’d worry if she didn’t like me, or if she was attached, or if she’d think approaching her in a supermarket was creepy. I wouldn’t even know what to say

I think trying to approach people on here is different due to the degree of anonymity in messaging. There’s not the eye to eye contact and awkward body language to think about. Also, as has been said already, people kinda know why we’re all here, so it almost lets you do things on reverse order so to speak.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I tend to notice guys always looking at my friends. Just don't think guys approach or flirt with women these days unless they know them"

I find it easier for me to approach in real life than here. If someone catch my eye physically or mentally I’ll definitely say hi and small compliment and gauge the response.

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By *vilslugg OP Man
over a year ago

We will have to agree to differ then. I appreciate your experience though if I have no photos up, I get zero messages.

If everyone agreed about everything the world would be a boring place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends.

It’s easier for me to gauge and get a general sense of where the conversation is going when approaching in person.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit."

The women on here are by far better than the non forum users to be fair - especially in London. Searching London nearby age range say 20 - 40 and most profiles are very adamant they need as they put it...

BBC or BWC and 6 packs etc. Even the ones who are physically very unfit themselves. I had one woman recently (she's fucking funny to be fair) message me about my latest pic to say it's good to see my tits have grown

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over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

Are you in a c cup yet?

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over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

Blind internally!!

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over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

Fair comment but....saying most women in my area or most womens profiles I look at would be more accurate. Sorry, I'm being picky, I know but it just p's me off to be lumped in with 'most women'.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

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Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

Are you in a c cup yet?"

They're definitely still As and it's from CHEST PRESSES damn it. Where's that violin emoji.

And I just came back from me 'olidays! Hahaha

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

Fair comment but....saying most women in my area or most womens profiles I look at would be more accurate. Sorry, I'm being picky, I know but it just p's me off to be lumped in with 'most women'."

Oh this happens to us men all the time you get used to it!

All men are pigs

All men only want one thing

All men are sexist

Not by all women again obviously, but you hear it alot

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm not afraid to talk to people however I struggle in clubs to strike a conversation

Most folk are in groups chating away and I always feel like I would be intruding

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over a year ago

"I was reading the self-confidence thread started by Lilith and it got me thinking..

How many people find it easier to approach people on fab than in the real world.

I struggle in person due to shyness and anxiety issues and always end up making a fool of myself. When I’m on here or other sites I find it easier and tend to be myself.

Anyone else feel the same?

I have as mush self-confidence in the real world as I do on fab. If you want anything in like being shy will only hinder you."

It takes confidence to join a swing site like fab. Do I run out in public, no. I talk to people in shops does that count as cinfidence

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

As a somewhat quiet person I find it hard that meet and talk to people in 'real' life

I can have a chat on here as it's with like-minded people who are here for the same agenda

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over a year ago

I’m actually quite shy so approaching someone in real life is nerve wracking to me. I struggle a little in clubs to feel confident enough to walk up to people and start a conversation, especially groups.

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over a year ago

Men look at women they find hot.

Last time a guy approached me was around 2006. No lie.

I think that applies to a lot of women as well. If the guy isn’t hot they aren’t interested. At least on here you get a hint of their personality based on their profile or forum posts.

Personality has a big impact on if I find someone attractive or not.

Let's be honest though, guys want the hot women.

Most women want guys 6'2" built like the hulk with a horse cock, has a good income and all his teeth. And under 40. That's 95% of men excluded right there.

Of the women responding here, the 'most women' doesnt fit.

Fair comment but....saying most women in my area or most womens profiles I look at would be more accurate. Sorry, I'm being picky, I know but it just p's me off to be lumped in with 'most women'.

Oh this happens to us men all the time you get used to it!

All men are pigs

All men only want one thing

All men are sexist

Not by all women again obviously, but you hear it alot

All the time or most of the time

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"I was reading the self-confidence thread started by Lilith and it got me thinking..

How many people find it easier to approach people on fab than in the real world.

I struggle in person due to shyness and anxiety issues and always end up making a fool of myself. When I’m on here or other sites I find it easier and tend to be myself.

Anyone else feel the same?"

I personally struggle with the whole on-line thing. Mr has done online dating and been on Fab before, and it doesn't bother him, but I much prefer chatting in person. I'm shy and introverted, unless it's someone I feel comfortable around. It's hard to get a measure of someone online

Mrs

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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I read body language so much better than online language, its very hard to gauge a person's intentions online, but face to face it's easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my real friends would say .. gosh stop talking to strangers when we are out and about. I guess that answers it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here people are just a tick box sex menu so it doesn't matter what they think. If they have porn pics they're up for fucking.

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