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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() It helps to have friends around you that can help. X | |||
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"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone ![]() Seriously???? Please, someone stop me before I get myself fucking banned! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone ![]() ![]() ![]() Totally agree here. Op chat with your gp, if you’re a veteran go to your reg association or knock on the door at SSAFA. There’s lots of help online, just remember mate you will have better days. | |||
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"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone ![]() ![]() ![]() Think nice thoughts, think of cats xx | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() Mate own your error and apologise to the OP, don’t try to justify by making excuses. Not an attack btw, more an observation. | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() It is, hope you have ppl that you can talk to about it, amd use them as an outlet | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that... | |||
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"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone ![]() ![]() ![]() I contained mine.*Alexa play people equal shit by Slipknot.* | |||
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"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously? Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Do you have a RAFA club nearby? Call in they will really support you. Per Ardua Ad Astra X | |||
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"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously? Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm a fucking marvel ![]() | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() Totally agree | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() Right | |||
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"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously? Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Per Ardua ![]() | |||
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"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously? Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Always happy to help a fellow family member. | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() For those of us that know, we know we've lived through worse than a stupid comment. Lets own our triggers and not let a fab forum trigger us all over again. . We are all better than that. . I love each and every one of you. (and if that knowledge doesnt trigger the fuck out of you, then you are stronger than you reslised) | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() Love you too! | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). I can sometimes help him by massaging his scalp, but his usual coping method is to go to his mental safe space. I'm sorry I have no advice to offer that would be of any help to your own personal situation, but best of luck to you. Bess x" I want to hug you both so much xxx The most hugest of love from me to you xxx | |||
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"Primark today sadly depressing? ![]() She's an angel, I can say that xx | |||
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"Not everyday is a good day! But remember tomorrow is a new day. Big hugs OP Xox" Probably as rainy as today has been lol. But the world's biggest snugs to you, sweet gem xxxx | |||
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"If any help, if any intrusive memories coming into your mind, rather than trying to block them, label them.. e.g think "hat old thought again" the bad memory thought may come back but keep labelling them .. 'that old thought again " Works for me and trust me . Alcohol is the last thing you need to counter it. I've been down that road " Calico, my beaut. It can happen, I've seen it and it's ao hard to come back from that ![]() | |||
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"Hugs op hopefully you feel better soon and just remember your wonderful your special and your beautiful " You're so gorgeous xxx thank you xxx | |||
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"I too have PTSD, OP take each day as it comes look for positives where you can in life " I'm sending the world's biggest hug to you. You're a winner, my beautiful xx | |||
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"I too have PTSD, OP take each day as it comes look for positives where you can in life I'm sending the world's biggest hug to you. You're a winner, my beautiful xx" Thank you appreciate that you too | |||
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"Hugs op hopefully you feel better soon and just remember your wonderful your special and your beautiful You're so gorgeous xxx thank you xxx" Your welcome and thank you as well x | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ..." I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues. | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() It helps massively. I'm there with you, albeit in spirit. Raise a port for me and me to you xx | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() I'm so sorry you're suffering & also sorry that a stupid, thoughtless comment made light of what you're going through. Having seen a friend suffer, I have so much admiration & respect for you- having the strength to tackle your emotions & talk about it. I don't feel at all qualified to offer advice, but I'm sending the biggest hug & hope this dark spell passes quickly x | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() Hug back at you, sweetgem xxx | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() Big hugs to you, it'll pass and I hope you feel at ease again soon | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() You're very fortunate to have people close by to turn to who have a shared experience of your particular situation. Dick is not so lucky, there is nobody in this country, except me to an extent, who can offer succour. There are even those who actively avoid helping. It makes me weep sometimes, but he's a strong man. Bess x | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() That's just it. He doesn't have to be strong. I had the suck it up and drive on mentality. Constantly said I can handle it. I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people. | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() I hear you on thr dark humour, me n my friends in recovery we share some twisted shit about using n some dark jokes about ot amongst ourselves, it's ok cuz we've all walked the same path so we can, but if anyone did it I'd be outraged | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.” one of my favorite quotes. | |||
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"“One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.” one of my favorite quotes." Omg, this 100% xxxxx such true words. I will truly adopt this, never a truer word spoken! It's strength in survival. The most utmost respect for you all xxx | |||
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"... I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people." Yet I know exactly what you mean. | |||
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"... I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people. Yet I know exactly what you mean. " Some counsellors have a dark sense of humour too. They do because they've been through the experiences. | |||
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"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). ... I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point. Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others. OP ![]() Love that and stealing it for my share tonight at a meeting, true words | |||
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"I'm honestly trying to keep up with thanking each and every one of you, but finding it hard to reply. You and I mean all of you are amazing examples of why we're all here. The inboxes, the comments and rhe calls have been so heartfelt appreciated, I cannot begin to tell you all how grateful I truly am. I suffer, yes, I suffer massively, but please, all of you? I suffer, I understand! I'm here for everyone, no matter if its something big or something many would find trivial, we all have our triggers and our limits and coping mechanisms..... a problem shared? Such a true saying. Dropped my mail restrictions for the fordeeable, so if any of you need to air a gripe, or a problem (there are no problems, only solutions.... I have many, so you're not alone) please just drop me a mail and I'll happily give you my number, to chew the fat over. One special Chunky Gent on here, is my utmost fo-to, when I'm low. He's a fountain of knowledge and ears!¡ he will 100% vouch thst we all need to talk sometimes, so I'm here, no matter what it is, please take thst with you? You've all got someone xxxx" Don't overwhelm yourself by replying. Noone is going to get their knickers in a twist. | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() It really is OP. But only on certain days. Don’t beat yourself up about those ones and I hope you’re getting the help and support you need with it ![]() | |||
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"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge. It operates as a veteran friendly safe space. I thought it is a great idea. They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. " Love this. ![]() | |||
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"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge. It operates as a veteran friendly safe space. I thought it is a great idea. They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. " That’s great I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people. He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() I hear you! Yes PTSD is hard to battle. I suffer too... badly. Sending you hugs !! | |||
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"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge. It operates as a veteran friendly safe space. I thought it is a great idea. They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. That’s great I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people. He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday " We do take care of our own . ![]() | |||
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"What a fucking bummer it is... ![]() Had a pretty bad bout of it for a good 6-8 months after my motorbike accident in November 2018, very nearly topped myself and to this day I don’t know what stopped me. Pretty much all gone now thankfully but please do reach out and drop me a message if you’re ever properly struggling or just need to hear a very boring message about what I went through and hopefully you can gain some hope through that. Keep going though, it really does get easier ![]() | |||
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"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge. It operates as a veteran friendly safe space. I thought it is a great idea. They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. That’s great I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people. He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday We do take care of our own . ![]() We do however I’ve been to several Funerals in as many years of brothers who wouldn’t reach out for whatever reason ![]() | |||
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"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge. It operates as a veteran friendly safe space. I thought it is a great idea. They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. That’s great I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people. He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday We do take care of our own . ![]() ![]() I know ... So have I and my husband. All you can do is try. | |||
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