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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

What a fucking bummer it is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

It helps to have friends around you that can help. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op hopefully you feel better soon and just remember your wonderful your special and your beautiful

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

tamworth

It truly is.

But the bad days don't always last.

Do one thing that you feel is productive today. That's enough and helps to have a little boost up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I get uncontrollable outbursts.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Primark today sadly depressing?

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Primark today sadly depressing? "

???

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone "

Seriously????

Please, someone stop me before I get myself fucking banned!

Sweetpea, if you've no idea, why comment?

((*containing my urge here....*))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone

Seriously????

Please, someone stop me before I get myself fucking banned!

Sweetpea, if you've no idea, why comment?

((*containing my urge here....*))"

Contain it.

Breathe x

Macky, its Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Its a horrible thing to live with

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone

Seriously????

Please, someone stop me before I get myself fucking banned!

Sweetpea, if you've no idea, why comment?

((*containing my urge here....*))"

Totally agree here.

Op chat with your gp, if you’re a veteran go to your reg association or knock on the door at SSAFA.

There’s lots of help online, just remember mate you will have better days.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone

Seriously????

Please, someone stop me before I get myself fucking banned!

Sweetpea, if you've no idea, why comment?

((*containing my urge here....*))"

Think nice thoughts, think of cats xx

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Primark today sadly depressing? "

Mate own your error and apologise to the OP, don’t try to justify by making excuses.

Not an attack btw, more an observation.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

It is, hope you have ppl that you can talk to about it, amd use them as an outlet

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

PTSD is an evil thing. Try and find something grounding. And talk through as much as you can with a person you trust.

And ignore the insensitivity, step back.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Oh yeah.

Especially, when you can't take that shit anymore so you do what everyone says you are supposed to do and reach out.

And all of a sudden they are too busy. They'll be back next week though.

How have you been?

Thinks (in a nightmarish, horrorshow, inescapable hell repeatedly re-experiencing the sensations of the worst moments of my life.

To the point of mental, physical and emotional exhaustion, yet still not being able to sleep).

Says 'oh ya know ups and downs... How are you?'

Oh your dog has a cold that's terrible. Come in - tell me all about it, I'll put the kettle on.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Primark today sadly depressing? "

Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry not a clue what it stands for and googles broken on my phone

Seriously????

Please, someone stop me before I get myself fucking banned!

Sweetpea, if you've no idea, why comment?

((*containing my urge here....*))"

I contained mine.*Alexa play people equal shit by Slipknot.*

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously?

Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently....

Love you all and Jennie.... you're amazing xx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Yes we are.

Well, most of us.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously?

Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently....

Love you all and Jennie.... you're amazing xx"

Do you have a RAFA club nearby? Call in they will really support you.

Per Ardua Ad Astra

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously?

Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently....

Love you all and Jennie.... you're amazing xx"

I'm a fucking marvel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Primark today sadly depressing?

Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that..."

Totally agree

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester


"Primark today sadly depressing?

Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that..."

Right

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By *ixFoot2nFun4UMan
over a year ago

gosport

PTSD is horrid, as a someone who feels they have gone through the worst, i can honestky say i feel stronger for having been in the grips of the dark beast.

Take each moment as it comes, find your support network, it sounds stupidly hard and easy to say but talk about it. There are organisations out there that can help.

Stay strong OP it can only get better

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously?

Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently....

Love you all and Jennie.... you're amazing xx

Do you have a RAFA club nearby? Call in they will really support you.

Per Ardua Ad Astra

X"

Per Ardua

Ty ty xxxx xx

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Thank you guys and girls. Am under SSAFA and RAFBF. double bad day today, well, triple if you want to call it. Thought light relief was innorder, Cue the forum for a read and giggle and then Primark?? Jebus, I'm one for a laugh, but seriously?

Hey ho, nowt as strange as folk and a broken Google, apparently....

Love you all and Jennie.... you're amazing xx

Do you have a RAFA club nearby? Call in they will really support you.

Per Ardua Ad Astra

X

Per Ardua

Ty ty xxxx xx"

Always happy to help a fellow family member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Primark today sadly depressing?

Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that...

Totally agree "

For those of us that know, we know we've lived through worse than a stupid comment.

Lets own our triggers and not let a fab forum trigger us all over again.

.

We are all better than that.

.

I love each and every one of you.

(and if that knowledge doesnt trigger the fuck out of you, then you are stronger than you reslised)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's very individual, which can result in others not grasping it, unless they take the time to do so, especially for the people that they may be fortunate enough to have this shared from, with them.

Hope your day and weekend goes well OP. Lots here care for others, including you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). I can sometimes help him by massaging his scalp, but his usual coping method is to go to his mental safe space.

I'm sorry I have no advice to offer that would be of any help to your own personal situation, but best of luck to you.

Bess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Primark today sadly depressing?

Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that...

Totally agree

For those of us that know, we know we've lived through worse than a stupid comment.

Lets own our triggers and not let a fab forum trigger us all over again.

.

We are all better than that.

.

I love each and every one of you.

(and if that knowledge doesnt trigger the fuck out of you, then you are stronger than you reslised) "

Love you too!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Not everyday is a good day! But remember tomorrow is a new day. Big hugs OP Xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If any help, if any intrusive memories coming into your mind, rather than trying to block them, label them.. e.g think "hat old thought again" the bad memory thought may come back but keep labelling them .. 'that old thought again "

Works for me and trust me . Alcohol is the last thing you need to counter it. I've been down that road

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words). I can sometimes help him by massaging his scalp, but his usual coping method is to go to his mental safe space.

I'm sorry I have no advice to offer that would be of any help to your own personal situation, but best of luck to you.

Bess x"

I want to hug you both so much xxx

The most hugest of love from me to you xxx

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Primark today sadly depressing?

Is this really necessary, other threads to be so flippant on...PTSD is a killer plz don't make light of that...

Totally agree

For those of us that know, we know we've lived through worse than a stupid comment.

Lets own our triggers and not let a fab forum trigger us all over again.

.

We are all better than that.

.

I love each and every one of you.

(and if that knowledge doesnt trigger the fuck out of you, then you are stronger than you reslised) Love you too!"

She's an angel, I can say that xx

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


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I love you, Rock xxxx

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Not everyday is a good day! But remember tomorrow is a new day. Big hugs OP Xox"

Probably as rainy as today has been lol. But the world's biggest snugs to you, sweet gem xxxx

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"If any help, if any intrusive memories coming into your mind, rather than trying to block them, label them.. e.g think "hat old thought again" the bad memory thought may come back but keep labelling them .. 'that old thought again "

Works for me and trust me . Alcohol is the last thing you need to counter it. I've been down that road "

Calico, my beaut. It can happen, I've seen it and it's ao hard to come back from that

I send my love, hugs and whatever strength I have to you, you're a beautiful soul xxx

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Hugs op hopefully you feel better soon and just remember your wonderful your special and your beautiful "

You're so gorgeous xxx thank you xxx

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

I too have PTSD, OP take each day as it comes look for positives where you can in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.

I think the thread has worked.

Look at the way you are engaging with the rest of us.

.

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"I too have PTSD, OP take each day as it comes look for positives where you can in life "

I'm sending the world's biggest hug to you. You're a winner, my beautiful xx

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"I too have PTSD, OP take each day as it comes look for positives where you can in life

I'm sending the world's biggest hug to you. You're a winner, my beautiful xx"

Thank you appreciate that you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hugs op hopefully you feel better soon and just remember your wonderful your special and your beautiful

You're so gorgeous xxx thank you xxx"

Your welcome and thank you as well x

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

..."

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"

I love you, Rock xxxx"

You know I love you too, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help?"

You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues.

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues."

It helps massively. I'm there with you, albeit in spirit. Raise a port for me and me to you xx

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

I'm so sorry you're suffering & also sorry that a stupid, thoughtless comment made light of what you're going through.

Having seen a friend suffer, I have so much admiration & respect for you- having the strength to tackle your emotions & talk about it.

I don't feel at all qualified to offer advice, but I'm sending the biggest hug & hope this dark spell passes quickly x

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"What a fucking bummer it is...

I'm so sorry you're suffering & also sorry that a stupid, thoughtless comment made light of what you're going through.

Having seen a friend suffer, I have so much admiration & respect for you- having the strength to tackle your emotions & talk about it.

I don't feel at all qualified to offer advice, but I'm sending the biggest hug & hope this dark spell passes quickly x"

Hug back at you, sweetgem xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately I don't have ptsd so cannot say I understand what you are going through, but I wish you well and hope you look after yourself and the days get a bit easier

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

Big hugs to you, it'll pass and I hope you feel at ease again soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues."

You're very fortunate to have people close by to turn to who have a shared experience of your particular situation. Dick is not so lucky, there is nobody in this country, except me to an extent, who can offer succour. There are even those who actively avoid helping. It makes me weep sometimes, but he's a strong man.

Bess x

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

I'm honestly trying to keep up with thanking each and every one of you, but finding it hard to reply.

You and I mean all of you are amazing examples of why we're all here. The inboxes, the comments and rhe calls have been so heartfelt appreciated, I cannot begin to tell you all how grateful I truly am.

I suffer, yes, I suffer massively, but please, all of you? I suffer, I understand! I'm here for everyone, no matter if its something big or something many would find trivial, we all have our triggers and our limits and coping mechanisms..... a problem shared? Such a true saying.

Dropped my mail restrictions for the fordeeable, so if any of you need to air a gripe, or a problem (there are no problems, only solutions.... I have many, so you're not alone) please just drop me a mail and I'll happily give you my number, to chew the fat over.

One special Chunky Gent on here, is my utmost fo-to, when I'm low. He's a fountain of knowledge and ears!¡ he will 100% vouch thst we all need to talk sometimes, so I'm here, no matter what it is, please take thst with you? You've all got someone xxxx

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would also recommend All Call Signs, amazing charity (I know one of the guys who set it up) I can msg him directly if you want any particular advice/help.

And I'm just down the road from you if you a day out by the coast as a little escape x

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues."

I have had many an evening with comrades going over experiences. You need a knowledgeable ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues.

You're very fortunate to have people close by to turn to who have a shared experience of your particular situation. Dick is not so lucky, there is nobody in this country, except me to an extent, who can offer succour. There are even those who actively avoid helping. It makes me weep sometimes, but he's a strong man.

Bess x"

That's just it. He doesn't have to be strong. I had the suck it up and drive on mentality. Constantly said I can handle it. I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues.

You're very fortunate to have people close by to turn to who have a shared experience of your particular situation. Dick is not so lucky, there is nobody in this country, except me to an extent, who can offer succour. There are even those who actively avoid helping. It makes me weep sometimes, but he's a strong man.

Bess x That's just it. He doesn't have to be strong. I had the suck it up and drive on mentality. Constantly said I can handle it. I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people."

I hear you on thr dark humour, me n my friends in recovery we share some twisted shit about using n some dark jokes about ot amongst ourselves, it's ok cuz we've all walked the same path so we can, but if anyone did it I'd be outraged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues.

You're very fortunate to have people close by to turn to who have a shared experience of your particular situation. Dick is not so lucky, there is nobody in this country, except me to an extent, who can offer succour. There are even those who actively avoid helping. It makes me weep sometimes, but he's a strong man.

Bess x That's just it. He doesn't have to be strong. I had the suck it up and drive on mentality. Constantly said I can handle it. I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people.

I hear you on thr dark humour, me n my friends in recovery we share some twisted shit about using n some dark jokes about ot amongst ourselves, it's ok cuz we've all walked the same path so we can, but if anyone did it I'd be outraged "

“One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.” one of my favorite quotes.

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By *he Kat 666 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"“One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.” one of my favorite quotes."

Omg, this 100% xxxxx such true words.

I will truly adopt this, never a truer word spoken! It's strength in survival.

The most utmost respect for you all xxx

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London


"... I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people."

Yet I know exactly what you mean.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"... I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people.

Yet I know exactly what you mean. "

Some counsellors have a dark sense of humour too. They do because they've been through the experiences.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I feel your pain. Dick has suffered from PTSD for many years, the nightmares he gets are terrifying on the rare occasions he shares them with me. He finds counsellors absolutely bloody useless (his words).

...

I have seen quite a bit of this over the years. Counsellors struggle because they have not shared the experience, so are not talking from the same start point.

Even within the veterans community people with different service will have very different experiences. Secomd world war, Vietnam, Falklands, Gulf war 1, Iraq, Afghanistan vets will all be different and don't always find it easy to relate their experiences to others.

OP . Anything I can do to help? You are correct. I and my husband have better counseling just sitting by the fire with with our veteran friends. It helps everyone there. Cry laugh work out anger issues.

You're very fortunate to have people close by to turn to who have a shared experience of your particular situation. Dick is not so lucky, there is nobody in this country, except me to an extent, who can offer succour. There are even those who actively avoid helping. It makes me weep sometimes, but he's a strong man.

Bess x That's just it. He doesn't have to be strong. I had the suck it up and drive on mentality. Constantly said I can handle it. I had to find a outlet the thing is to me counselors have too much empathy sometimes. I get better counseling from others that have had the same experiences because we tend to involve dark humor alot. It's a coping mechanism. Having that mechanism with the same mindset people is calming. It's weird to some people.

I hear you on thr dark humour, me n my friends in recovery we share some twisted shit about using n some dark jokes about ot amongst ourselves, it's ok cuz we've all walked the same path so we can, but if anyone did it I'd be outraged “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.” one of my favorite quotes."

Love that and stealing it for my share tonight at a meeting, true words

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

EfT really helped me and they have been using it with success with US vets.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I'm honestly trying to keep up with thanking each and every one of you, but finding it hard to reply.

You and I mean all of you are amazing examples of why we're all here. The inboxes, the comments and rhe calls have been so heartfelt appreciated, I cannot begin to tell you all how grateful I truly am.

I suffer, yes, I suffer massively, but please, all of you? I suffer, I understand! I'm here for everyone, no matter if its something big or something many would find trivial, we all have our triggers and our limits and coping mechanisms..... a problem shared? Such a true saying.

Dropped my mail restrictions for the fordeeable, so if any of you need to air a gripe, or a problem (there are no problems, only solutions.... I have many, so you're not alone) please just drop me a mail and I'll happily give you my number, to chew the fat over.

One special Chunky Gent on here, is my utmost fo-to, when I'm low. He's a fountain of knowledge and ears!¡ he will 100% vouch thst we all need to talk sometimes, so I'm here, no matter what it is, please take thst with you? You've all got someone xxxx"

Don't overwhelm yourself by replying. Noone is going to get their knickers in a twist.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It helps if we all look after each other rather than ridicule.

Just a thought

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

It really is OP. But only on certain days. Don’t beat yourself up about those ones and I hope you’re getting the help and support you need with it

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I shall send you a Calèche, drawn by the most handsomest of stallions, to take you around the serenity of the countryside, and which will give you some respite from the ills of the world.

I hope you are ok, kitty-Kåt?

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

I don’t pretend to know much about ptsd apart from what I can read or anybody that i directly know that freely talks about it… all I can offer are my thoughts in thinking about you and hope you have a good network of friends to talk to. Lots of virtual hugs.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge.

It operates as a veteran friendly safe space.

I thought it is a great idea.

They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge.

It operates as a veteran friendly safe space.

I thought it is a great idea.

They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. "

Love this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge.

It operates as a veteran friendly safe space.

I thought it is a great idea.

They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee. "

That’s great

I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more

It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people.

He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

I hear you!

Yes PTSD is hard to battle. I suffer too... badly.

Sending you hugs !!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge.

It operates as a veteran friendly safe space.

I thought it is a great idea.

They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee.

That’s great

I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more

It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people.

He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday "

We do take care of our own .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a real sod to deal with... all I can say is hold in there ! It does get easier with time.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those of us that suffer will relate positively to others that also do and be more understanding ! Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a fucking bummer it is...

"

Had a pretty bad bout of it for a good 6-8 months after my motorbike accident in November 2018, very nearly topped myself and to this day I don’t know what stopped me.

Pretty much all gone now thankfully but please do reach out and drop me a message if you’re ever properly struggling or just need to hear a very boring message about what I went through and hopefully you can gain some hope through that.

Keep going though, it really does get easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge.

It operates as a veteran friendly safe space.

I thought it is a great idea.

They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee.

That’s great

I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more

It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people.

He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday We do take care of our own . "

We do however I’ve been to several

Funerals in as many years of brothers who wouldn’t reach out for whatever reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Driving home tonight, there was a piece on the radio about a veteran's cafe in Huddersfield called Tommy's lounge.

It operates as a veteran friendly safe space.

I thought it is a great idea.

They have a scheme where people can donate a coffee.

That’s great

I’ve a friend that runs a similar type of thing local to me it’s a veterans Allotment. They built everything there from the sheds to the chairs they have brew breaks on. There’s always a couple up there and weekends there’s more

It’s banter, a place to talk and a place to be with like minded people.

He also runs a veterans breakfast club that meets once a month on a Saturday We do take care of our own .

We do however I’ve been to several

Funerals in as many years of brothers who wouldn’t reach out for whatever reason "

I know ... So have I and my husband. All you can do is try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely reach out! It really helps.. took me years to reach out, was quite suicidal for a while but others helped me and I'd like to think I've been of some use too

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By *_J111Woman
over a year ago

home

Ptsd sufferer here too, would recommend that people look into EMDR therapy. Totally changed me. Went from not being able to think about my trauma without crying or dissociating to being able to talk about what happened relatively calmly.

Happy to talk more about my experiences if people are interested.

MJ x

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Ptsd is horrible and never leaves you . I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy

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