FabSwingers.com forum: Are single Dad's less appealing?

By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Infact sometimes it makes them more likely to understand my lack of time.

However some people might be put off because they want someone at evenings and weekends and I guess for some parents that's hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could speculate about so many reasons; it's an overthinking tunnel and waste of time. Maybe just try and see it as a positive early exit rather than disappointment later.

Kudos to you for sticking around for your kid(s).

Tones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your on here for fun don’t have to tell them everything about your life

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Not at all.

If anything, people will use any excuse if they just simply don’t want to meet.

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Not at all. Infact sometimes it makes them more likely to understand my lack of time.

However some people might be put off because they want someone at evenings and weekends and I guess for some parents that's hard. "

Thank you for replying, that makes total sense. Keep being a fab Mum!

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Hi OP,

I am in the same boat. It doesn’t effect meets on here and some finds it a bit attraction however on normal dating scene it’s a huge disadvantage as most single women in my age range for dating aren’t ready to be shared with my kids and wants their own kids as well. Single mums are hard to get due to extra complexity to sync dairies for meets. I realised I am staying single till kids leave home

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"You could speculate about so many reasons; it's an overthinking tunnel and waste of time. Maybe just try and see it as a positive early exit rather than disappointment later.

Kudos to you for sticking around for your kid(s).

Tones"

I never thought of it like that, but that makes sense Thank you x

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Not at all.

If anything, people will use any excuse if they just simply don’t want to meet. "

Very, very true. Thank you x

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Your on here for fun don’t have to tell them everything about your life "

Too honest for my own good, I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt say so at all, im a single mum there is no difference

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

It's more to do with knowing you will have less free time to juggle with.

Those with out children would have more free time to juggle between friends away from swinging to playing time.

Don't see it as it being you being a dad its more about your free time is a little unpredictable unless you have schedules when you have free time its down to you to voice that across to others so they know xx

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It didn't put me off the other half. But what I would say it can make life more complicated. Trying to arrange things as two single parents is hard. Then there is the fact you're always attached to their ex via the child. My ex is generally fine my other half has not been and has tried to be destructive. So I guess if someone had a bad experience it could put them off, but I think it'll depend on the person.

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Hi OP,

I feel your pain about syncing diaries mate, very true

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"It didn't put me off the other half. But what I would say it can make life more complicated. Trying to arrange things as two single parents is hard. Then there is the fact you're always attached to their ex via the child. My ex is generally fine my other half has not been and has tried to be destructive. So I guess if someone had a bad experience it could put them off, but I think it'll depend on the person.

Thank you. It definitely makes life more complicated, as we'll always put our kids before our own needs. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing, I guess

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"It's more to do with knowing you will have less free time to juggle with.

Those with out children would have more free time to juggle between friends away from swinging to playing time.

Absolutely true, thank you for this. They live with me too, so Mon-Fri is pretty much out of the equation. I'll keep plugging away though, Dad's need a life too

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "

That's a shame. To be honest, I think it's a positive trait, because it shows that you're a good human being!

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"I wouldnt say so at all, im a single mum there is no difference "

That's good to hear...

Easy to wonder what you're doing wrong, but life circumstances can't change x

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

There's no difference, unless they are looking for a relationship and seeing that you have children is something that puts them off.

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

That's a shame. To be honest, I think it's a positive trait, because it shows that you're a good human being!"

Thank you

Easy to judge yourself and ask 'what am I doing wrong?' X

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"There's no difference, unless they are looking for a relationship and seeing that you have children is something that puts them off."

Very true... surely this site is all about fun? Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all, I'm a single parent so I would never judge someone else solely on that reason.

I'm surprised this is a factor on fab. Hope your luck turns.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"There's no difference, unless they are looking for a relationship and seeing that you have children is something that puts them off.

Very true... surely this site is all about fun? Ha ha "

Definitely for us, but there are some looking for more than fun.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. Might minimise opportunities for meets but no problem for someone you like, we all have lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single mum, Tallman and I don't live together, but we are a couple. I have to arrange things around my children, so I completely understand single dads and the difficulties they face. It would not put me off in the slightest.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

As long as he met all my criteria and was able to meet more than once every 3 months it wouldn't be a problem.

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"No not at all, I'm a single parent so I would never judge someone else solely on that reason.

I'm surprised this is a factor on fab. Hope your luck turns.

Thank you, here's hoping

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Not less appealing at all. I'm guessing some just know that it can make arranging meets more difficult.

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. Might minimise opportunities for meets but no problem for someone you like, we all have lives. "

Very true, thank you x

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

Doesn't bother me, I'm a single mum so understand the issues it can create x

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

Thank you for all of your replies, struggling to keep up. I guess there's a number of things I'd not considered. It's easy to critique yourself, I guess. On we go though, happy fabbing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not less appealing at all. I'm guessing some just know that it can make arranging meets more difficult. "

Hi Op

I am with this poster.

Have a lovely day

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Well done OP.

You have managed to post a thread which seems to bring only positivity and sympathy for your situation.

The ladies are loving you.

I wonder would there be the same level of sympathy and understanding for attached dads playing solo who have similar difficulties in syncing diaries due to family commitments.

Asking for a friend.....

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

At what point does a single dad become just single & a dad, or in my case a housing association

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

The biggest issue for me is if it means they also cannot accommodate. Also it may make it hard to schedule anything.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Well done OP.

You have managed to post a thread which seems to bring only positivity and sympathy for your situation.

The ladies are loving you.

I wonder would there be the same level of sympathy and understanding for attached dads playing solo who have similar difficulties in syncing diaries due to family commitments.

Asking for a friend.....

If the person playing solo is doing it without their partner's knowledge, then the answer will be no. But I suspect you know that already, and aren't really wondering.

Mrs TMN

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Absolutely not off putting. Only issue is arranging meets, same as a single mum. I always tell people I can not do midweek evenings and not many been put off.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Depends.

Are they unattractive dad's? Then yes.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If it was just for fun no it wouldn't put me off ,

Like others have said maybe it's the logistics of meeting,if they're a single parent too.ie neither can accom and would need childcare.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they’re gonna walk round my house turning lights off and moaning about the leccy bill

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

Depends if they’re gonna walk round my house turning lights off and moaning about the leccy bill

Best answer yet... made me properly chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a very handsome fuckable forumite who's a single dad. If he didn't live so far away I'd be all over him! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your on here for fun don’t have to tell them everything about your life "

True ..not everything...but being a single Dad is gonna crop up at some stage in the conversation..no ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a very handsome fuckable forumite who's a single dad. If he didn't live so far away I'd be all over him! Lol x"

Ahhh shucks..l don't know what to say .....but l didn't put the lrish sea there

PS..l know you didn't mean me but a guy can dream

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not at all. Least other single parents (or sole parents in my case) can understand and empathise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong in single dads

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"There's a very handsome fuckable forumite who's a single dad. If he didn't live so far away I'd be all over him! Lol x"

Ha ha... a very lucky forumite (or not) lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a very handsome fuckable forumite who's a single dad. If he didn't live so far away I'd be all over him! Lol x

Ahhh shucks..l don't know what to say .....but l didn't put the lrish sea there

PS..l know you didn't mean me but a guy can dream

Haha OK, ok, I can include you too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, no.

But in real life? Yes

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Yes , they piss their pants after 2 pints , and fall asleep after they shoot their load , what else you wanna know ?

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

I thought a daddy was popular! DILFS

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Yes , they piss their pants after 2 pints , and fall asleep after they shoot their load , what else you wanna know ?"

Ha ha... not selling yourself here

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"I thought a daddy was popular! DILFS

Ha ha... if only that were true

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Depends if they’re gonna walk round my house turning lights off and moaning about the leccy bill

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

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Let the conversation fade. They are not worth pursuing. Focus on those rare gems who aren't fussed or constrained by your wonderful circumstances.

Good luck, Sirrah.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I thought a daddy was popular! DILFS

Ha ha... if only that were true

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Aww bless! You must be looking in the wrong area lol

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Single dad here too (reprazent! reprazent!)

I reckon it will make a difference yes. It's hardly himbo studmuffin dreamboat stuff is it... but I'd rather be a dad and accept those compromises.

Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Single dad here too (reprazent! reprazent!)

I reckon it will make a difference yes. It's hardly himbo studmuffin dreamboat stuff is it... but I'd rather be a dad and accept those compromises.

Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.

"Hey hot stuff, just been looking at those bags under your eyes and awwww baby yeahhh I really wanna see you on your back in a big grubby sweatshirt, snoring like a rock tumbler. I've got eight inches of rock hard madeira cake and I'd love to cone round there and pop it in your microwave to see if it might be edible after 30 seconds on the defrost setting'

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Not at all.

Finding time when we are both available can be more tricky though!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I can't say I've noticed that on here.

In terms of relationships, it's been an issue in the past and why I gave up on all that.

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"I thought a daddy was popular! DILFS

Ha ha... if only that were true

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I can’t speak from experience but I’d imagine it makes no difference if both parties just looking for. Meet

I do reckon it puts us at a disadvantage if looking for a relationship though the bloke with no ties and more free time would be more appealing than us single dads I reckon

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I thought a daddy was popular! DILFS

Ha ha... if only that were true

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I replied above!

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Both of my favourite people are DILFs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Single dads are amazing

. Had some great meets with them and a big lover of them

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By *aughtynice78 OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

Single dad here too (reprazent! reprazent!)

I reckon it will make a difference yes. It's hardly himbo studmuffin dreamboat stuff is it... but I'd rather be a dad and accept those compromises.

Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.

Love this idea!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Generally speaking: yes.

Of all the men to pick, why pick the one who is busy with a child?

Same with women really. If they have a child, they're less attractive.

This never means unattractive by default, just less.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Full or part time? Being a full time single parent is always going to be a disadvantage. You can't meet at spontaneously, you can't always accommodate, you don't have much free time.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Single dads seem to be quite appealing in the world of romantical dating though. You know, those places where people tell you they are Capricorn and deeply empathic and they do watercolour painting and they just want to find somebody called Mister Wonderful to snuggle up to, FOR EVER.

LITERALLY FOR EVER.

And you meet them and fusion occurs and then you're slowly absorbed into their molecular structure and assimilated into a massive boob of comfort, FOR EVER.

LIKE... PERMANENTLY FOR EVER

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.

Love this idea!

Great Idea. Especially with option what you are looking for as ‘nap together’

I’ll join for sure

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Single dads seem to be quite appealing in the world of romantical dating though. You know, those places where people tell you they are Capricorn and deeply empathic and they do watercolour painting and they just want to find somebody called Mister Wonderful to snuggle up to, FOR EVER.

LITERALLY FOR EVER.

And you meet them and fusion occurs and then you're slowly absorbed into their molecular structure and assimilated into a massive boob of comfort, FOR EVER.

LIKE... PERMANENTLY FOR EVER

And your mates ring the doorbell to ask you if you want to go and play skateboards in the underpass, and you're all like "nah I can't lads, I'm a massive boob now" so they abduct you in Morrisons one day and reverse the fusion process, and it's successful except you used to be 6'3" and now you're only 4'8" and they say "you can't afford to do that again mate" but you keep clicking the app anyway.

Those places do love a single dad.

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By *eanorWoman
over a year ago

Not at all , i have a fab friend who’s a single dad , great guy

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