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Mixed emotions re hospital tests

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know if I am alone feeling this way. Down through the years I have had to go through various hospital tests. Most things turn out to be what I call niggles things that happen but the reason or trigger is never discovered. Often it's just put down to stress and it can affect my self confidence, especially around others.

Now most people would be happy if they are told there is nothing seriously wrong but I often have mixed emotions. While I know there is not always an answer some answer would be nice as to try and avoid triggering the complaint.

However there are times I want them to find something serious even though I probably wouldn't deal with it very well. It's as if I am looking for a physical reason to feel as meh and hopeless as I do about life. Or even something that would give me an acceptable way out.

And then this adds to the stress as I feel guilty when I think of everyone who is going through such physical issues and the strength and drive they have to deal with them.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Understand this.

I’ve got various issues health wise, culminating in my quad bypass. Before anyone says,I was a good level sportsman still taking part in my fifties. I’ve never smoked. It did explain why I was so exhausted all the time and I’ve been much better since.

So finding something was wrong at least meant I wasn’t putting it on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Understand this.

I’ve got various issues health wise, culminating in my quad bypass. Before anyone says,I was a good level sportsman still taking part in my fifties. I’ve never smoked. It did explain why I was so exhausted all the time and I’ve been much better since.

So finding something was wrong at least meant I wasn’t putting it on.

"

Continued good recovery to you

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"Understand this.

I’ve got various issues health wise, culminating in my quad bypass. Before anyone says,I was a good level sportsman still taking part in my fifties. I’ve never smoked. It did explain why I was so exhausted all the time and I’ve been much better since.

So finding something was wrong at least meant I wasn’t putting it on.

Continued good recovery to you "

Thanks, I wish there was an answer for my big toe joints. Both fused to the foot. Arthritis, very painful but can’t take anti inflammatory as it’s bad for your heart. You can have joint replacement but the doctor actually said don’t as they hurt just as bad!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm trying to put together a coherent reply but my brain fog is terrible today.

Don't minimilise your own problems because you think others have it worse.

It's hard, but try to focus on anything but your aches, pains etc.

Do you sleep well?

I find a good sleep helps me a lot.

Do you exercise, eat well and hydrate?

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I kind of understand how you feel op. I have the same frustrations but in the opposite way. I've been given a diagnosis of something that is meant to come from exclusion, the problem is I was never tested for the things that were meant to be excluded before reaching the diagnosis. It does feel like stress and anxiety are easy get out clauses for medical professionals these days, if you feel like it's something more than that causing your problems then all you can do is find out as much as you can yourself about what could be the causes/triggers and ask if those can be investigated for you. I know for a from my own experience that when you get clear tests from something it tends make them double down on their first diagnosis, but until you've exhausted every option of investigation then you'll never know. Just try and be persistent in asking for help. Whilst I do appreciate those in the medical professions and their knowledge, there are some out there who forget to actually listen to their patients and take an I know your body better than you attitude to things, make sure you are perfectly clear in telling them what you would like them to try and do for you. I hope you can eventually find the answers you are looking for and that they are something can can be dealt with to make things better for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was. "

I honestly get it. You are not alone.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was. "

Have you thought about trying to find a professional to talk about this, or a support group, if there is one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes being in a constant state of survival mode can feel like there's something seriously wrong with you, and no hospital test will pick that up. You can feel it, you know it's there but can't quite put your finger in it.

And if you've been in it for a long time your body and mind will be stuck there.

Try finding ways to come out of a survival mode and see if you feel any better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was.

Have you thought about trying to find a professional to talk about this, or a support group, if there is one?

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Being down that path and it helped a bit but does not stop the thoughts and mixed feelings.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was.

Have you thought about trying to find a professional to talk about this, or a support group, if there is one?

Being down that path and it helped a bit but does not stop the thoughts and mixed feelings. "

Does talking about it help?

How much does it affect your daily life?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Have you been diagnosed with illness anxiety disorder?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Now this I get totally...

I've had every test under the fucking sun in the last few months and apparently I'm the picture of health... I know I'm not so I want fucking answers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was.

Have you thought about trying to find a professional to talk about this, or a support group, if there is one?

Being down that path and it helped a bit but does not stop the thoughts and mixed feelings.

Does talking about it help?

How much does it affect your daily life? "

In some ways talking helps as am still here though not sure want to be. Most people who see me on a day to day basis would have no idea how often I think of not being here but I try and stick to my routine and deal with it though makes me feel am wasting my life.

At times thoughts like this can impact on physical ailments as I may not get them checked out as quickly as I should or I battle about regular dental visits esp as have to go private. I know I need to do them but at times they feel like waste of time and money.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was. "

Wait, a heart condition wasn't serious enough?

I'd suggest you book to see your GP about your mental health! It sounds like your long-term medical ordeals have taken a toll on your mood and the way you feel about yourself and life in general... This is connected to your illnesses but is also a separate issue and needs direct attention! I know kind of a vicious circle when you just wrote you find it hard to keep up with health checkups, but you can survive with fewer teeth, can't survive if you're convinced you should be dying prioritise this x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was.

Wait, a heart condition wasn't serious enough?

I'd suggest you book to see your GP about your mental health! It sounds like your long-term medical ordeals have taken a toll on your mood and the way you feel about yourself and life in general... This is connected to your illnesses but is also a separate issue and needs direct attention! I know kind of a vicious circle when you just wrote you find it hard to keep up with health checkups, but you can survive with fewer teeth, can't survive if you're convinced you should be dying prioritise this x"

As I can get through the day and currently don't have plans to act on my thoughts, my gps are unable to help. They referred me on but the team they referred me to decided I was not at risk and not in need of their help.

I know my thought process is twisted and defys logic

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"Sometimes it's about finding answers. Other times it's about the weird feeling when told its nothing serious. Like when I was diagnosed with a heart condition, part of me wanted it to be more serious than it was.

Wait, a heart condition wasn't serious enough?

I'd suggest you book to see your GP about your mental health! It sounds like your long-term medical ordeals have taken a toll on your mood and the way you feel about yourself and life in general... This is connected to your illnesses but is also a separate issue and needs direct attention! I know kind of a vicious circle when you just wrote you find it hard to keep up with health checkups, but you can survive with fewer teeth, can't survive if you're convinced you should be dying prioritise this x

As I can get through the day and currently don't have plans to act on my thoughts, my gps are unable to help. They referred me on but the team they referred me to decided I was not at risk and not in need of their help.

I know my thought process is twisted and defys logic "

Wait, there is a difference between being clinical and needing a little talk therapy! If the GP can't offer some (counselling, not sectioning!) could have some sessions privately? If money is an issue there should many therapists that offer discounted rate if you check your area.

Speaking form experience logic is little use when having psychosomatic issues. Sure I can clearly think of how things are logically and see the deviations, but can't reel back what I feel - cos sometimes the body controls thoughts and reactions way more than thoughts can control the body, especially when pain is involved. Don't beat yourself over that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Wait, there is a difference between being clinical and needing a little talk therapy! If the GP can't offer some (counselling, not sectioning!) could have some sessions privately? If money is an issue there should many therapists that offer discounted rate if you check your area.

Speaking form experience logic is little use when having psychosomatic issues. Sure I can clearly think of how things are logically and see the deviations, but can't reel back what I feel - cos sometimes the body controls thoughts and reactions way more than thoughts can control the body, especially when pain is involved. Don't beat yourself over that."

Have tried various talking therapies and still have one I see now and then. Problem is while it helps understanding why I feel like I do, it doesn't help with changing my mindset about my future or sometimes thinking an illness would be a more acceptable way out so I am kinda stuck in a catch 22 situation

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

"Most people who see me on a day to day basis would have no idea how often I think of not being here..."

I think you know yourself that thoughts into this area, on a recurring basis, are reason enough to speak to your GP. Whether you go though further therapy, or therapy with medication, it's better than going in the other direction.

Stay strong

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It can be really frustrating when you feel absolutely awful, but tests come back normal... I learnt to do my own research and challenge the medical "professionals" I was often right. You have to advocate for yourself or find alternative methods of treatment x

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