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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable?

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Neither, just somewhere in between.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither, just somewhere in between."
please play the game

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Theory versus reality. Face it, they're looking at your physical attributes

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I'd just be happy to be desirable

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable? "

Id like a utility belt that lets you switch between... Say brad pitt and a giant todger and ronnie corbett depending on which one is needed...to get laid.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

You saying I've got to drop one instead of just staying as I am?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable? "

Mentally desirable man. He could have model looks and an amazing body but with no moral and no capacity to make conversation and my pussy will dry up quicker than the water on washed hands

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable? "

Physically. Because that matters alot and lovely Shrek still ain't getting laid

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable?

Mentally desirable man. He could have model looks and an amazing body but with no moral and no capacity to make conversation and my pussy will dry up quicker than the water on washed hands "

Oh did OP mean no personality? That makes it a toughie

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As long as I appeal to the people that appeal to me I don't really mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here? The most physically desirable please.

Not that it would happen in a zillion years, what with me being in my 50s with a Dad bod and all that, but let’s be honest despite what everyone *says* it’s always the aesthetically pleasing people that are *really* lusted over isn’t it? #truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what the person is

Woman connection over looks

Couples bit off both need

Men looks as they just play toys for me I use them they use me thanks till next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I refuse to play your games!

Perfect as I am!

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F"

Tough cause here it comessss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F

Tough cause here it comessss "

I'm nauseous at the thought.

F

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I'm quite happy being me.

Taken me years to work out I'm fine just the way I am, faults and all.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Mentally desirable. I'd be happier if I was that kind of person on the inside.

I don't give a shit what people think about me anyway and maybe one day I'll grow actual snakes out of my scalp. hiss

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F

Tough cause here it comessss

I'm nauseous at the thought.

F"

Your crazy mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable?

Mentally desirable man. He could have model looks and an amazing body but with no moral and no capacity to make conversation and my pussy will dry up quicker than the water on washed hands

Oh did OP mean no personality? That makes it a toughie"

I think this question is directed at men haha! Which would you rather be, the most physically desirable or mentally desirable. I personally would go for the more mentally desirable.

Physically desirable and mentally desirable, he would be locked between my legs.

Just physically but not mentally- wouldn't bother

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F"

I'll put my cock away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd just be happy to be desirable "

It would be a good start.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Physically...

Lots of people have fantastic minds.

But not everyone is hottest piece of ass on fab.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable?

Mentally desirable man. He could have model looks and an amazing body but with no moral and no capacity to make conversation and my pussy will dry up quicker than the water on washed hands

Oh did OP mean no personality? That makes it a toughie

I think this question is directed at men haha! Which would you rather be, the most physically desirable or mentally desirable. I personally would go for the more mentally desirable.

Physically desirable and mentally desirable, he would be locked between my legs.

Just physically but not mentally- wouldn't bother "

Hi from someone who's both - no don't listen to the others I pinky swear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would have to be physical for here as let's be honest in the main thats the kicker.

Meets, greets and more has to be mentally but to get there the physical is the initial attraction so yeah

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan


"Mentally desirable. I'd be happier if I was that kind of person on the inside.

I don't give a shit what people think about me anyway and maybe one day I'll grow actual snakes out of my scalp. hiss"

Try to grow water snakes if you can, a head full of dead snakes after a long bath wouldn't be a good look

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Physically desirable. It opens way more doors than personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually happy being both.

I'm fucking awesome and pretty.

Right, one either or thread down. Let me smash out the other 5 on the front page.

2 ticks.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Can we just stick or is it the kind of thread that requires the contributors to twist?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Mentally desirable. I'd be happier if I was that kind of person on the inside.

I don't give a shit what people think about me anyway and maybe one day I'll grow actual snakes out of my scalp. hiss

Try to grow water snakes if you can, a head full of dead snakes after a long bath wouldn't be a good look "

Obviously looks isn't my priority

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Physically desirable. It opens way more doors than personality "

Probably true.

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By *varMan
over a year ago

Barnet

Of course looks do matter. You need time to assess someone's internal, psychological, emotional, intellectual, pursuits, interests, mindset and worldview and let's face it, on a site like this most people are only here for one thing, a bit of nookie! Health, and ones physical state can also be an instant put off. It often seems that people who haven't invested time in physical appearances use this as a line to get off from sorting themselves out. I'll look like a slob if I want and you need to put up with it because if you don't there's something wrong with you attitude. Sex is primarily a physical act. In long term relationships we get to engage in more interesting intellectual activities and get to twist it around to our sexual opportunity advantage. There is a reason why fashion magazines and models exist, they feed our fantasies. My suggestion, get a pic of someone you like, model, movie star etc and aim to transform yourself to be as desirable as them. Then starve on long multiple day fasts, do intermittent fasting, go on some keto diet, go do some abs workout, build your biceps, triceps, sort out your hair and wardrobe. Do some reading, learn some jokes, watch comedians, learn some lines, watch the news, Form opinions, become informed, get some interest in your life. Then declare 'I'm here, I'm here, let the bells toll and festoons fly!' to the entire world in your pursuit of getting laid!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Can we just stick or is it the kind of thread that requires the contributors to twist?"

I can do the Mashed Potato too

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Mentally, but I think that's my default setting on what I rely on to attract people. Plus looks fade quicker than the brain I think

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan


"Mentally desirable. I'd be happier if I was that kind of person on the inside.

I don't give a shit what people think about me anyway and maybe one day I'll grow actual snakes out of my scalp. hiss

Try to grow water snakes if you can, a head full of dead snakes after a long bath wouldn't be a good look

Obviously looks isn't my priority "

I'll skip over the fact that snakes as hair could be desirable looks wise to some people. I was thinking someone who lets their head snakes drown in the bath might not come across as mentally desirable, although now I'm writing this I realise that there are some people who would see drowning snakes as a good thing. Either way, good luck with your snakes if you do decide to grow them one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point in being physically desirable if that's as interesting as it gets?

I always worry I'm fucking boring as fuck and wish I had more to offer in that sense.

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"I'd just be happy to be desirable "

Me too

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan


"I'd just be happy to be desirable

Me too "

Hey, just because I sold myself short in my post doesn't mean you should do too. I see some desirability in your profile, so no talking yourself down please! Yes, there's a bit of double standards in what I'm saying, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take in what I say!

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"I'd just be happy to be desirable

Me too

Hey, just because I sold myself short in my post doesn't mean you should do too. I see some desirability in your profile, so no talking yourself down please! Yes, there's a bit of double standards in what I'm saying, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take in what I say! "

Thanks I'm my own worst enemy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a straight choice between the two, I'll go with the latter. Is suspect, however, that looks count for more than most people want to acknowledge

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable? "

I’m neither but I do know that the capital of Finland is Helsinki

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Definitely the latter but I would never get on hot picks.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable? "

Looks do count… they just count less than some people think.

If I had to be one it would be the latter

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"What's the point in being physically desirable if that's as interesting as it gets?

I always worry I'm fucking boring as fuck and wish I had more to offer in that sense. "

Probably because it's an easier sell and opens doors easier for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F

I'll put my cock away "

I'll look at it first though.

F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just here for the minge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In a straight choice between the two, I'll go with the latter. Is suspect, however, that looks count for more than most people want to acknowledge "
of course they bloody do. If you turned ugly I’d stop replying to your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just here cos there’s nothing on tv (right now literally)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m just here cos there’s nothing on tv (right now literally) "

Love island in an hour babe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a straight choice between the two, I'll go with the latter. Is suspect, however, that looks count for more than most people want to acknowledge of course they bloody do. If you turned ugly I’d stop replying to your messages. "

If you turned gorgeous, I'd check to see if you did reply!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In a straight choice between the two, I'll go with the latter. Is suspect, however, that looks count for more than most people want to acknowledge of course they bloody do. If you turned ugly I’d stop replying to your messages.

If you turned gorgeous, I'd check to see if you did reply!

"

Is this another roast off?

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

But what if you're already both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just here cos there’s nothing on tv (right now literally)

Love island in an hour babe"

(Looks around in a slightly over emphasised way, adding to the drama of someone missing a perfectly reasonable joke)

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But what if you're already both? "

I know I am but what are you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what if you're already both? "

Know you of such a person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m just here cos there’s nothing on tv (right now literally)

Love island in an hour babe

(Looks around in a slightly over emphasised way, adding to the drama of someone missing a perfectly reasonable joke)

Yes "

Hahaha. Good one.

*looks at camera*

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"But what if you're already both?

Know you of such a person? "

Have I not introduced you to my husband?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what if you're already both?

Know you of such a person?

Have I not introduced you to my husband? "

Not physically

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"None. I don't want to be desired by anyone right now

F

I'll put my cock away

I'll look at it first though.

F"

I might let you have a quick look, like that ending in Fight club

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I would only want sex with a guy who found me physically attractive, however I am fully aware that many guys on here want to get their dicks wet regardless of who the pussy is attached to or how clever the pussy's owner is.

I don't really do spontaneous meets, so the intelligence and personality of the person I'm talking to is a factor, but if I'm not physically attracted to them then it won't happen, and I can only hope the guy i'm talking to thinks the same way as not having eye contact during sex would be pretty depressing .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I just counted ten threads around looks or physical attributes in swingers chat and zero on personality. As far as forum contributors are concerned it seems it's looks for the win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as personality when it comes to sex on here, would you rather be the most physically desirable on here or the most mentally/emotionally desirable? "

It's mainly the personalities for us as we are looking for people that can fill specific kinks, not for us to fall in love with

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't want to be the "most" anything. I happy in my little corner of fab just being me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love that in fab you all a would you rather question and people don’t just choose one

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