FabSwingers.com forum: Are you easily swayed?

By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

... by others' opinion? By gossip?

Or are you a "take as you find kind of person?

If you were told something about someone that was in complete opposition to what you thought... would you believe it? Would you ignore it? Would you dig deeper? Would you tell the person? Would you allow that to colour your view of them?

I'm just curious...

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Depends what into. Gossip? No. A night out after a few beers while my parents have the kids? Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% take as i find x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TLDR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll take everyone at face value. I am not really interested in other peoples opinions on someone especially negative

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I make my own decisions on who’s a C£&@ or not

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Others proples opinions of others are that there's, not mine I take ppl as I find them. Based on how they are with me.

People who push there opinion of others on to me, can frankly fook off

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"If you were told something about someone that was in complete opposition to what you thought... would you believe it? Would you ignore it? Would you dig deeper? Would you tell the person? Would you allow that to colour your view of them?"

I’d probably dig deeper. Sometimes a warning sign can be handy, but I don’t want to be fooled by someone else’s agenda.

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By *ax19862002Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Yes

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If I knew them well I would call bs. If I didn't know them well I would find it fascinating.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

I judge people as i find! Some people try to turn people against someone out of jealousy usually. It's perfectly fine not to click with someone not everyone clicks! But don't try to turn others against them.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Why what have you heard??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can have a pre-disposition to an opinion based on what others tell me because I tend to hang out with like-minded people. I'll always form my own opinion once I've had that experience though and won't look for confirmation bias.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think the vast majority will say they're not swayed by gossip. But in reality I think they are to greater or lesser extent.

On here I tend to keep myself to myself. Think it's easier in the long run

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

It’s easy to get caught up in the “fab” or other moment and to lose your individuality, your own perspective and to start thinking channel groupthink or to behave the way others (who may or may not have an ulterior motive), want you to think. What I’ve learnt is that by falling into this trap, I’ve wasted an awful lot of time.

Hopefully in the future I will remember that my opinion of someone (through experience and meeting) is the only one that truly counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to take people as I find them.

And I know far to well that many on here lie about others leave out the truth and can get people into all sorts of shit in the process. I know that because I'm likely to be in the middle of a volcano eruption just because I did the right thing but it wasn't what someone wanted. I have the proof though.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I make my own mind up about folks on here

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By *uggy 555Man
over a year ago

Swansea Valley

I take as I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a bit difficult to judge boobs, bums, vaginas and cocks.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Depends what into. Gossip? No. A night out after a few beers while my parents have the kids? Absolutely. "

I'm a little confused...

Could you clarify?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"100% take as i find x"

Would you ask the person if you had heard something negative?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"TLDR"

Tart

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’ll take everyone at face value. I am not really interested in other peoples opinions on someone especially negative "

Would you ask?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I make my own decisions on who’s a C£&@ or not

Jeez Rex... it's taken you this long?

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"I judge people as i find! Some people try to turn people against someone out of jealousy usually. It's perfectly fine not to click with someone not everyone clicks! But don't try to turn others against them.

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,,, this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn't me

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Others proples opinions of others are that there's, not mine I take ppl as I find them. Based on how they are with me.

People who push there opinion of others on to me, can frankly fook off "

Would you try to find out why?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I’d probably dig deeper. Sometimes a warning sign can be handy, but I don’t want to be fooled by someone else’s agenda."

That's what I'd probably do...

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I make my own decisions on who’s a C£&@ or not

How do you decide if they are?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes"

Cool!

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Others proples opinions of others are that there's, not mine I take ppl as I find them. Based on how they are with me.

People who push there opinion of others on to me, can frankly fook off

Would you try to find out why? "

No as its none of my business, drama begets drama generally Posh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend how well I knew both parties.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's all the drama Mick.

I just love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to make my own opinion on folks and takes what others say with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all the drama Mick.

I just love it!"

I understood this reference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make up my own mind.

Usually pretty quickly.

Much to others chagrin.

That's the funny thing about being a prick, we recognise our own.

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I’m not interested in gossip at all. Take people as I see them and make my own judgements on what I consider important characteristics

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

,,, this"
Thank you! x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

,,, this Thank you! x "
,,, your welcome x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion of people is based on my experience with them mostly. If a good friend tells me about their experience with someone I do consider it though. It’s in my mind. If I’ve seen them being horrible or not nice though, then I make a mental note. And I likely won’t fuck with that person like that anymore.

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I guess it depends on who is saying what about someone. If its someone I trust implicitly then I'm more likely to listen to what they say, but I'll still make my own mind up whether to find out more or not. I try to keep an open mind about anyone simply because some people can't help themselves and have to try and create division between others or monopolise a friendship by keeping others at bay with rumours or gossip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the things I really really don't like is gossip. It's routed in toxicity and I'd wonder why someone was telling me this thing...and their reasons behind their need to gossip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of the things I really really don't like is gossip. It's routed in toxicity and I'd wonder why someone was telling me this thing...and their reasons behind their need to gossip "

*rooted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of the things I really really don't like is gossip. It's routed in toxicity and I'd wonder why someone was telling me this thing...and their reasons behind their need to gossip "

If it’s a friend and they’re venting about someone I don’t mind. If it’s someone gossiping I usually love the drama but do question their motives for sure

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Only by boobs. And a death stare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to put too much stock in gossip. It usually comes from the wrong place and is very rarely representative of the whole truth, so I would take it with a fair pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only by boobs. And a death stare"

1000 yard

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Yes, not to brag, but got the breaking strain of a kitkat

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"Only by boobs. And a death stare

1000 yard

That's the one!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"One of the things I really really don't like is gossip. It's routed in toxicity and I'd wonder why someone was telling me this thing...and their reasons behind their need to gossip "

I don't think gossip (the sharing of information about others) is necessarily rooted in toxicity. If someone tells you something about someone else, that's gossip. And I think we all do that to an extent

Sure, if it's just made up nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make my own mind up, no matter what is said. Gets me in trouble with others hough lol. Their problem

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I think the vast majority will say they're not swayed by gossip. But in reality I think they are to greater or lesser extent.

On here I tend to keep myself to myself. Think it's easier in the long run "

I tend to be wary and listen to my inner feelings.

I someone told me something I would perhaps go about my getting to know them in a different way/more focused until I had either validated or dismissed the said comments and was happy with things myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gossip is typically 'guess what I heard about so and so'...its usually not based on facts.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I knew them well I would call bs. If I didn't know them well I would find it fascinating."

Fascinating in what way?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'd agree with that lovely

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Why what have you heard??"

This thread isn't actually fab based at all

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I can have a pre-disposition to an opinion based on what others tell me because I tend to hang out with like-minded people. I'll always form my own opinion once I've had that experience though and won't look for confirmation bias."

I think I get that. And I tend towards the same. I'd be interested as to where the "information" given came from though, and whether it is true. But I'd go to the person concerned.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I think the vast majority will say they're not swayed by gossip. But in reality I think they are to greater or lesser extent.

On here I tend to keep myself to myself. Think it's easier in the long run "

I actually think you're probably right. And I think we all take it in, no matter what we do with it.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It’s easy to get caught up in the “fab” or other moment and to lose your individuality, your own perspective and to start thinking channel groupthink or to behave the way others (who may or may not have an ulterior motive), want you to think. What I’ve learnt is that by falling into this trap, I’ve wasted an awful lot of time.

Hopefully in the future I will remember that my opinion of someone (through experience and meeting) is the only one that truly counts "

I think there can be a lot of that kind of group thinking... or guiding of opinion by one or a few, in sections of society.

I'm glad you're not going to waste any more time though

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I prefer to take people as I find them.

I mean... I wasn't talking about fab...

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

As someone who’s been on the sharp end of other peoples bullshit, both on here and in the real world, I have learned through bitter experience not to trust anything anyone says about another person. There is usually an agenda, and its rarely an honourable one. How a person acts is usually far more revealing than what they say. I watch, and I listen, and I make up my own mind.

For perspective, on here I’ve found myself ghosted and blocked by people I thought were friends, probably on the strength of what other people have said about me. It hurt at the time, but it’s only fab. Out in the real world, however, someone attempted to destroy my professional reputation, extort a percentage of my future earnings, and other things that were even worse. I had to get a lawyer and a cease and desist order. But the damage done to some relationships was permanent.

So I would say, think very carefully before falling down the rabbit hole of other people’s gossip. Some people are very manipulative, and willing to cause enormous damage, but they need other people to go on the ride with them, otherwise there is no legitimacy to what they say. Watch, listen, and make up your own mind.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I make my own mind up about folks on here"

That doesn't surprise me

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I take as I find

Always?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Its a bit difficult to judge boobs, bums, vaginas and cocks."

I'm quoting this on every "best *insert body part* on fab" thread.

(Unlikely to happen... but I think it)

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By *hitney NeilWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in a marmite jar near you.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

That's a lot of Woulds but I'm take me as you see me in my Profile what you see is what you get

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

The question is, would it get me laid?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

,,, this"

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did anyone say take away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My opinion of people is based on my experience with them mostly. If a good friend tells me about their experience with someone I do consider it though. It’s in my mind. If I’ve seen them being horrible or not nice though, then I make a mental note. And I likely won’t fuck with that person like that anymore. "

Absolutely this. I'm not going to ignore what very close and trusted friends tell me if they've had a terrible experience with someone. That'll make me wary.

Third, fourth, fifth hand gossip etc won't affect my opinion of someone though.

Nell

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It wasn't me

It wasn't anyone here!

Is hypothetical, based on an off fab conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easily swayed by F (especially with her new pic that she sent whilst I'm a work

), not swayed by any thing or one else

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Posh tried to turn me against Drama! But I told her NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely this. I'm not going to ignore what very close and trusted friends tell me if they've had a terrible experience with someone. That'll make me wary.

Third, fourth, fifth hand gossip etc won't affect my opinion of someone though.

Nell"

No certainly not. But it would be funny. Gossip is usually quite ridiculous

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I tend to make my own mind up about people, other people's opinions don't really sway me I trust my own judgement more than someone else's if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... by others' opinion? By gossip?

Or are you a "take as you find kind of person?

I'm just curious...

Hi NSP

I believe that I take the view as thanks muchly for the view, comments, gossip but I have a view of my own. Always form my own view because I am me not others. I will listen but doesnt mean my view is the same. Idle gossip not got a good ear for. Its in one ear out the other.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I take people how I find them and i think im usually a good judge of character.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If I was told something about someone that was in complete opposition to what I thought. Hmmmm.

It's unlikely to sway me. In fact I can recall being warned off a woman by at least 4 friends profusely. It didn't stop me, hang on shit example: I was young, she was hot I was totally thinking with my dick. That was good advice to be honest.

Highly situational. I have some friends who I trust deeply, but then they aren't the type of people to try and sway me to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't sway me blindly but it would make me curious.

Well it would depend on how well I knew the person telling me this gossip I suppose. I like to find people out for myself, in time people usually show you who they are. Admittedly sometimes a bit late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I'll make my mind up for myself about someone, but I will listen if someone tells me something that the person in question may have done to someone else which wasn't very nice, bit like a pre warning!

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Easily swayed.

Got told once not to buy a new car but instead I should be, and I quote, “living in poverty on your money”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. I try to observe instead of soaking it all up.

I also reckon is e that lots are people’s opinions and not necessarily the truth.

I’ve heard alsorts about people, but I like to form my own views on people. And if I consider them a friend, it probably wouldn’t sway me either way..

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I think the vast majority will say they're not swayed by gossip. But in reality I think they are to greater or lesser extent.

On here I tend to keep myself to myself. Think it's easier in the long run

I actually think you're probably right. And I think we all take it in, no matter what we do with it.

I just don't think if you're told something about someone, you don't think about it or have a niggle about it. Or that you go out to prove that the information you've been given is wrong. Your actions have been dictated by the information so you've been swayed one way or another. Think it's only human to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so easily swayed they call me seesaw.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Yep, I'll take someone as I find them, obvs. But if someone I know, like and trust offers me an opinion, I will listen to it. It won't sway me necessarily, but I do value my friends' opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually a good judge of character so take people as I find them. I do like to see the best in people though and I value the advice of my friends who know me well. I don't always listen though!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

*sing-song playground voice*

Posh has got some goss-ip, Posh has got some goss-ip …

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

No.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm easily swayed when it comes to distracting me from thr things I need to be focusing on and instead letting myself be a wound up needy puddle begging to be allowed to suck dick.

If everyone else in the entire world says something is one way, I will probably accept that thats the way things are unless shown otherwise, but wouldn't refuse to be shown otherwise.

If someone I don't know tells me something about someone, it's going to have little to no bearing on my opinion in general. However, if it's a particularly severe statement against them, I will probably hold that in mind and be slightly more guarded until I can hear their side of the story.

All varies. All is in flux. Always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... by others' opinion? By gossip?

Or are you a "take as you find kind of person?

I'm just curious...

Nope , what others think or say doesn't change how l think or feel about issues .

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I'm easily swayed when it comes to distracting me from thr things I need to be focusing on..."

That kind of swayed - YES! He types, instead of focusing on the presentation he's supposed to be writing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So. Has anyone got any gossip?……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not good at reading people or their intentions. So if one of my trusted friends told me something at odds with my own take - I'd look at it seriously. I don't think that is being easily swayed tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So. Has anyone got any gossip?……

Two of my ex colleagues like each other. I think they might bang. One of them is married!!

It’s juicy stuff

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No I’d think the person that told me is somehow likely to have that experience of them but not me. I’d dig deeper on them & their motives, there’s often a pattern.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I think the vast majority will say they're not swayed by gossip. But in reality I think they are to greater or lesser extent.

On here I tend to keep myself to myself. Think it's easier in the long run

I actually think you're probably right. And I think we all take it in, no matter what we do with it.

I had a very good teacher who taught me the only valid time to say negative things about people is in private to the person concerned.

It’d not human - it’s gossip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get told something I may look at both people a little closer to see whats going on but ultimately no I would still make up my own mind and most likely try and step away from it.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Yep, I'll take someone as I find them, obvs. But if someone I know, like and trust offers me an opinion, I will listen to it. It won't sway me necessarily, but I do value my friends' opinions.

I can't really see it on here given I don't really know anyone *that* well, but if, for example, I was told to be wary of someone at work by a friend, I would keep that in mind when dealing with that person. "
Your friends may just not like that person! If you like them that's what matters. You just become a bit sheep like if you follow the crowd, In llfe not everyone clicks or vibes.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"So. Has anyone got any gossip?……

Sounds like Posh has.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I make my own friends in life and hate gossip. True friends are there to stay and also will always be defended by me against anyone talking shit about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone who’s been on the sharp end of other peoples bullshit, both on here and in the real world, I have learned through bitter experience not to trust anything anyone says about another person. There is usually an agenda, and its rarely an honourable one. How a person acts is usually far more revealing than what they say. I watch, and I listen, and I make up my own mind.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I make my own impression of people allways x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

For perspective, on here I’ve found myself ghosted and blocked by people I thought were friends, probably on the strength of what other people have said about me. "

You actually believe that ? I was blocked by someone once and just assumed they didn’t like me for what I’d said , I would never in a million years believe someone would block based on gossip , and if they do , they are doing you a huge favour !

I’ve been warned of people here and found them to be the most genuine, loyal people I’ve ever known. If other women don’t get on with them it doesn’t concern me , it’s none of my business and I don’t even care to know the reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what worries us. We see a lot of posts on here, including on this thread, saying “they’re like this” and “they’re like that” and I just don’t see a point!

We’ve been told before that someone had told a couple some pretty unfair and untrue things about us. I really don’t see why people feel the need to do that. We’ve always viewed fab and swinging in general to be very inclusive but b*tching, gossiping and point scoring seems to be a massive part of it now

Just to balance it out, we’ve spoken to and met some amazing people through fab! Some we’d probably consider friends in “real life”.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

For perspective, on here I’ve found myself ghosted and blocked by people I thought were friends, probably on the strength of what other people have said about me.

I make it clear in conversation that I have no interest in gossip and yet people have messaged or approached me at socials by saying "I know you don't like gossip, but...." .

They proceed to tell me something they feel I need to know.

Quite often about fabbers I have never heard of, never mind have an opinion of.

I make my own judgements on people especially on here because of all the childish games that some people like to play but I know for a fact that people I've never chatted to have blocked me based on what they have been told by people I have turned down or pulled for shitty behaviour.

I have always found it ironic that people I've chatted to who claim they don't let others influence them devote so much time and effort to influencing others.

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