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Sex is over rated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Inspired by another thread.

So sex as in the act (no feelings or emotion) is over rated.

It's your wanton needs over someone else's. Why are we all here? Isn't it just to boost our egos. When we get a messaged for a fab from someone we're attracted to physically it gives us that dopamine release we all crave!

We don't know enough about each other to claim the best sex ever. Most of us can only be recognised by our private parts.

I'm beginning to lean more and more towards limiting my interactions. After all this has become an amazingly good procrastination. The genuine interactions and banter is few and far between. A bit like standing naked in a bar and everyone screaming for attention.

I need a long serious think about how I want my direction to go.

Don't get me wrong your all beautiful souls with some impressive assets but I'm beginning to think this could be all a bit too much.

Those of you who know and have seen my face, will know, I'm actually a jacket potato and those that haven't will know, I have a "nice" body (subjective) but and here is the but. Very very few 2 (I think) know anything else about me.

So rather than standing in the bar naked and shouting for attention. I'm going to lurk!

And when it all get a bit too much. I'll whip out the lube turn to my favourite actress and have the best 2 minutes of my life.

Peace

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

TL:DR please!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't think it has to be one against another.

Why can't two people meet and try to fulfil the wanton desires of each other, together? That's the way I've always looked at it.

I like the person I'm with (that's a very basic requirement for me, being vaguely friendly), I want to give them pleasure, and hopefully they want to give me pleasure too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can have sex and encounters here with feelings and emotions. Infact I wouldn't want to without them.

Otherwise it's just a bit clinical, take a number and wait your turn. Doesn't do it for me at all.

As a hopeless romantic and a big softy, it's taken me a long time (many years infact) to figure out what I want and how to do fab my way. It can all be a bit much until you get to that point.

Its all just strangers on the Internet until some become friends on the Internet and some of them even move into real life and become more.

You have to do whatever works for you and that doesn't mean doing what's expected...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op if needing to step away for yourself and the benefits off you then do so

This place can be hard on all woman men tv/ts couple

And everyone is here for different things op

Some are here just for mindless sex

Some are here to keep in touch with those they meet at clubs and socials and stuff

Some are only here to show off pictures

Some are looking for relationships

I will say op it really doesn’t matter if it’s here or other places or real life

Doesn’t all realships and stuff pritty much start out mindless sex to a degree

Yes they maybe a connection yes or things shared in common but no one really has those deep feelings in like 2-3 weeks off knowing someone

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Maybe mediocre sex is overrated, if it's just a pole and wet hole, then yeah, meh. But when the desire, vulnerability and lust is there, it can elevate it to a life affirming experience

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We're prepared to have some overrated sex with you OP

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

As jacket potatoes go, you're rather cool.

It does feel like jumping up and down topless shouting "look at me" sometimes. And I'm more than willing to admit I seek attention, and not always in a healthy way.

Well darn it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe mediocre sex is overrated, if it's just a pole and wet hole, then yeah, meh. But when the desire, vulnerability and lust is there, it can elevate it to a life affirming experience"

Well said!

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Use fab however is best for you, it can get a bit much on here at times, and it takes time to build connections with people. Happy lurking!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sex without a connection for me is a no go and one reason we rarely meet from fab alone, it's just not hot.

I prefer to meet at the organised socials, there's amazing people we've met in person who's profile I wouldn't have looked twice at and ones I thought the profile was perfect & we'd be a great match but I'm person that just wasn't the case.

Don't get me wrong there's people here we chat to we just don't actively seek to meet from here, well it's very rare and usually it's someone we've noticed in the forums and had a hint of their personality and liked them as a person.

Maybe take a break op, hide your profile for a little while.

Mrs

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Inspired by another thread.

So sex as in the act (no feelings or emotion) is over rated.

It's your wanton needs over someone else's. Why are we all here? Isn't it just to boost our egos. When we get a messaged for a fab from someone we're attracted to physically it gives us that dopamine release we all crave!

We don't know enough about each other to claim the best sex ever. Most of us can only be recognised by our private parts.

I'm beginning to lean more and more towards limiting my interactions. After all this has become an amazingly good procrastination. The genuine interactions and banter is few and far between. A bit like standing naked in a bar and everyone screaming for attention.

I need a long serious think about how I want my direction to go.

Don't get me wrong your all beautiful souls with some impressive assets but I'm beginning to think this could be all a bit too much.

Those of you who know and have seen my face, will know, I'm actually a jacket potato and those that haven't will know, I have a "nice" body (subjective) but and here is the but. Very very few 2 (I think) know anything else about me.

So rather than standing in the bar naked and shouting for attention. I'm going to lurk!

And when it all get a bit too much. I'll whip out the lube turn to my favourite actress and have the best 2 minutes of my life.

Peace "
Exactly we don't know enough about each other or whats gone before, sex is as good as it makes you feel their is no " before i came here my sex was vanilla" because sex is sex just that a good feeling for however long it lasts, vanilla is a useless term it means nothing because sex isn't greater since you came here, it can be more varied and therefore more enjoyable but thats it

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

You do you, OP.

Literally.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

All my sex has been awesome OP

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think it would be easy to burnout quickly and realise that interactions are most likely superficial if you take a high energy approach on here

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"All my sex has been awesome OP"

And look at the common denominator! Coincidence?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

There are a couple of people from fab though not forum posters who know me very well. They are friends for life.

Others I enjoy both in and out of bed.

Some I enjoy getting my flirt on with.

But if you are finding this place a bit soul less it probably is time to step back.

I enjoy the forums and the different levels of interaction that I have.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

...I'm kinda yeah and nah about this one pal, but I do appreciate the way you've expressed yourself.

And for what its worth, I don't or even can't disgree with you because you're talking about your experience, y'know? Which I'd bet is way different from mine in the simple sense of... well, I don't stay on Fab, especially the forums, for sex. I stay here for friendships.

But that scratches my specific itch only and... dunno, it's a huge minority view.

Tl;dr, you do you boo?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"All my sex has been awesome OP

And look at the common denominator! Coincidence? "

I know right, I guess it's all about who's doing the sex

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I look at it our profiles are the precursor, and you get out of it what you want.

Ie, if you show a bit of your personality through the forums, and your profile, and message people you are attracted to, then you might find someone you click with.

I think you are experiencing a bit of what it is to be objectified on here, and you don't like it.

You know, kind of what its like to be a single woman!

Anyway, I am waffling.

So, succinctly, be selective, be choosy.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I've always limited my hands on experiences on Fab just because I don't think one off sex is as satisfying. I much prefer a more regular person in my life so I can learn all the little tricks that make you tick

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I agree apart from the last bit about lube.

That’s why I stoped swinging , it was great lots of sex but eventually I just wanted something a little more , I want to know the person I’m having sex with , enough to know I actually like them as a person, and feel something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite honestly, I enjoy the kink more than actual sex*. And that needs trust and connection. Those things are in short supply here, I've found. Or maybe I'm bad at finding them.

*I do also enjoy the sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Darling you're doing it all wrong.

I like THOSE that fit a certain criteria...coded in my profile annoyingly, to most.

But THOSE that fit what I'm looking for...they know me, they know lots about me, we don't just fuck. We go do stuff together too. A 4 hour walk round a gorgeous park, the cinema, meals out and I don't mean posh dining, drinks together, exploring different cities and towns. The list goes on. They are friends first and foremost. And there may be weeks in between seeing each other but it's just as good as where we left off. With contact in between of course, though in some cases not every single day and others we do.

I'm not looking for an ego boost at all. Far from it.

I like THOSE that enjoy a fix of company, affection, human interaction including touch, getting out and living life, and the sex that comes with it. The feel good factor doesn't come from orgasms, though they most certainly play a part. But smiles for both are most rewarding and achieved in and out of the bed! You clearly aren't happy with just the mechanical act so seek out friends that tick some boxes and don't just want you as their dildo or performer.

And I don't think you're a potato face for the record.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Inspired by another thread.

So sex as in the act (no feelings or emotion) is over rated.

It's your wanton needs over someone else's. Why are we all here? Isn't it just to boost our egos. When we get a messaged for a fab from someone we're attracted to physically it gives us that dopamine release we all crave!

We don't know enough about each other to claim the best sex ever. Most of us can only be recognised by our private parts.

I'm beginning to lean more and more towards limiting my interactions. After all this has become an amazingly good procrastination. The genuine interactions and banter is few and far between. A bit like standing naked in a bar and everyone screaming for attention.

I need a long serious think about how I want my direction to go.

Don't get me wrong your all beautiful souls with some impressive assets but I'm beginning to think this could be all a bit too much.

Those of you who know and have seen my face, will know, I'm actually a jacket potato and those that haven't will know, I have a "nice" body (subjective) but and here is the but. Very very few 2 (I think) know anything else about me.

So rather than standing in the bar naked and shouting for attention. I'm going to lurk!

And when it all get a bit too much. I'll whip out the lube turn to my favourite actress and have the best 2 minutes of my life.

Peace Exactly we don't know enough about each other or whats gone before, sex is as good as it makes you feel their is no " before i came here my sex was vanilla" because sex is sex just that a good feeling for however long it lasts, vanilla is a useless term it means nothing because sex isn't greater since you came here, it can be more varied and therefore more enjoyable but thats it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say be honest to yourself and others, if you be invisible then no one will find you.

Put yourself everywhere and be true to you... then eventually you will find someone you connect too

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