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By *earlfire OP   Man
over a year ago

Margate

Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

It is when you want it to block half the people on the site

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Are you ticking the ' I'm the age they're looking for ' box when you're searching op? That filters out anyone whose upper age limit excludes you and will give you a more positive experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

If you don't want to meet people over 50 then surely age filters are an exceptionally good function?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The work for me, if i wanted to meet anyone older than my age range then ad up it a year..

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

It is frustrating when you go over a round number. I've had it recently too with 55 which is another key level for many. No point in worrying. Just embrace it. On the plus side some wonderful people out there a touch older who are as much/more fun than people younger. You could try organised socials, parties. clubs etc where people are not focused on a number and just judge you in person.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

And of course age filters are a good function and many people want to filter by age and set limits!

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I have my age filters set about 13 years either side of my age partly for the unlucky number of it being amusing to me and partly because then I'm not uncomfortable with the age difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 55 - but let's face facts, the majority of people over 50 look like garden gnomes.

I mean, I wouldn't wanna touch half them either.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

They're great if you want to filter out those people tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 55 - but let's face facts, the majority of people over 50 look like garden gnomes.

I mean, I wouldn't wanna touch half them either. "

So, that’s how you explain your paradoxical popularity lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

I disagree...

Age filters mean that we are unlikely to be contacted by those young enough to be our children or old enough to be our parents, as we are unlikely to be comfortable with that sort of age gap.

The same case with other filters. Helps people to find those looking for similar things.

Nita

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Are people who moan about age limits also the same people who moan about unread messages / not having any luck on Fab etc etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont want to meet anyone over 50 so I use the age filter.

For me it's a good function.

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By *earlfire OP   Man
over a year ago

Margate

Thanks for your comments. I can see the reasons here so I can understand more. I do think the site needs a redesign also, it seems old in it's functionality, some features are not used. It seems boiled down to me. The age comment is I guess I'm much open to age differences whereas some are clearly not. Being 50 and then 51 there really isn't much difference.. but does by the way people think in tens. I guess that to me doesn't make sense.

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Thanks for your comments. I can see the reasons here so I can understand more. I do think the site needs a redesign also, it seems old in it's functionality, some features are not used. It seems boiled down to me. The age comment is I guess I'm much open to age differences whereas some are clearly not. Being 50 and then 51 there really isn't much difference.. but does by the way people think in tens. I guess that to me doesn't make sense."

Whats to understand ? There's always going to be a limit to peoples upper age allowance. If it was 51 you'd be okay with it. Then, next year, knickers in a twist again.

Yours is 20 lowest. 99 highest.

So , you'd really be looking to meet a 99 Yr old woman ?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Thanks for your comments. I can see the reasons here so I can understand more. I do think the site needs a redesign also, it seems old in it's functionality, some features are not used. It seems boiled down to me. The age comment is I guess I'm much open to age differences whereas some are clearly not. Being 50 and then 51 there really isn't much difference.. but does by the way people think in tens. I guess that to me doesn't make sense."

Somebody could say the same on your age limit. Why 20 and not 19? Not much difference really. I guess we have to draw the line somewhere. If somebody who has a rough limit of 50 put 53 then somebody who is 54 would be saying not much different

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some people will extend their set age limits a little beyond their ideal, so 50 may have already been pushing it for them.

People are free to like who and what they like. If someone doesn't like 51 years old men, what's the point of them having their time wasted through looking at them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your comments. I can see the reasons here so I can understand more. I do think the site needs a redesign also, it seems old in it's functionality, some features are not used. It seems boiled down to me. The age comment is I guess I'm much open to age differences whereas some are clearly not. Being 50 and then 51 there really isn't much difference.. but does by the way people think in tens. I guess that to me doesn't make sense."

Some people lie about their age. They may filter at 50 to cut out the lying 60 year olds.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

OP, what would be your solution then? No matter filters or not, people still will have age preferences, so is it just to bypass the filters?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Age is the first thing I look at in every profile so it's an important part of how I choose to use the site.

My lower filter will always be 10 years above the age of my eldest child so I change it every year.

I don't care how mature or friendly or "hot" anyone who falls outside that filter is because it's all about how comfortable I feel and therefore I will exclude everyone who doesn't fit my preference without a second thought.

If someone was inside my filters last year they will still be inside them this year because obviously they will be one year older just as my filters will also be so it's never been an issue or a topic for discussion.

It's not my loss if they weren't what I was looking for in the first place and it can't be their loss for the same reason.

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By *nioantMan
over a year ago

miami

I agree

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

Rather than get frustrated by people's age limits I use them as a very helpful indicator that I'm more than likely not who they're looking for.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Some people will extend their set age limits a little beyond their ideal, so 50 may have already been pushing it for them. "

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

Wait till your 65 like me

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site.

Wait till your 65 like me"

It gets better when you reach 68.............just joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have different preferences, I accept that, yes I'm above the age most want but it doesn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your comments. I can see the reasons here so I can understand more. I do think the site needs a redesign also, it seems old in it's functionality, some features are not used. It seems boiled down to me. The age comment is I guess I'm much open to age differences whereas some are clearly not. Being 50 and then 51 there really isn't much difference.. but does by the way people think in tens. I guess that to me doesn't make sense."

If you are feeling hard done by because people have filters then go to a club or a big social event because generally people don't ask your age.

Just be happy with your age and let people be happy with an age they feel comfortable with especially online where it makes a difference

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

Everyone knows their limits. Just because you don't like them doesn't mean they're bad.

C

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I just checked but you use the filters yourself...

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all downhill from 50 apparently!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"It all downhill from 50 apparently! "

I think the best five year period I've had on Fab has been 50-55 and that included covid years.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Op if you see the filters as making it difficult their is always the clubs which doesn't have a filter that you'll struggle to fit in.....

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"It all downhill from 50 apparently! "

Only if you act your age

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Op if you see the filters as making it difficult their is always the clubs which doesn't have a filter that you'll struggle to fit in....."

I go to cougars and cubs and look for the 70 year olds.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

I like the age restrictions if I'm honest, before we actually set them, we got alot of messages from men who I certainly wouldn't meet due to the age gap, we have recently been considering lowering ours again as we're struggling to find much in common with the older side of ours so for conversations, it's hard work and I find it's causing me to find I'm not attracted to said people on an intellectual level whoch is a deal breaker for me

Mrs x

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."
wait till you get to 60 and older its both feet in the grave on here if you want a lady or couple,,

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

carshalton

I'm in my prime now, so it's their loss. Maybe consider that people who are so fussy as to only meet certain ages or races are not the type of people you want to be with?

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By *olarMan
over a year ago

woking

I’m happy with being 53. I choose to meet people who have no issue with my age. TBH it all comes down to personal choice as with all things in the world. Just deal with it and move on. Be happy !!

Having said that there is a hell of a lot of manipulation when it comes to ages on here

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’m 55 and yes messages did dwindle when I reached 50 but people have age filters for a reason. I’d rather meet fewer people who want to meet older people rather than be inundated with frivolous messages.

I do host socials which helps. It’s what you make of it.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"I'm in my prime now, so it's their loss. Maybe consider that people who are so fussy as to only meet certain ages or races are not the type of people you want to be with?"

It's not fussy to only meet people you're attracted to

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

I am 61.

Stuff still happens and I am forever grateful when it does.

Like anything in life, you only get back what you put in.

For those Fabbers gracious enough to acknowledge us older members, bless you all.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's great if you don't think about your age and Carry on as normal. Never think about it if you feel old stop thinking about it via the age be active you'll feel a lot younger by your own accomplishments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in my prime now, so it's their loss. Maybe consider that people who are so fussy as to only meet certain ages or races are not the type of people you want to be with?"

It's really not their loss though is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone here has their preferences,when a person reaches a certain age some will meet ...others won't..Sex is like Music to a certain extent.. everybody has their preferences or like a certain type of music and what they like won't be what you like or like to listen to..it really is that simple..turn on or listen to the music you like ..same here tbh only message those that you fit into their filters...What's the point in sending messages to those that have no interest in you in the 1st place .?..its a complete waste of time .. for everyone..time is moving for everyone..those that are younger now will someday find themselves in the same boat you are ..it's just life ..but please don't worry about what you wish could still be the way ...instead be thankful for everything you have ..who knows you could meet a person that you are within her filters and have mind-blowing sex with that person..who knows ..yes as a person gets older the pool might be getting smaller but that pool just might contain the gem you're looking for..

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Age is not just a number as some people will say, it is a reality so deal with it accordingly and adjust your expectations and aspirations.

No matter what happens in life your age will increase every year and there is nothing you can do about it, tough I know but that is the way it is.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I get your frustration but there has to be a cut off somewhere unless you are a man and still have 18-99 up. Even that what about those horny 100 year olds?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 55 - but let's face facts, the majority of people over 50 look like garden gnomes.

I mean, I wouldn't wanna touch half them either. "

This is the stereotype, and it's not worth the effort for the women to spend time trying to find those that don't. Cock is a cheap commodity on fab.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I must be one of only a few people who raise their maximum age by one year each time I have a birthday myself.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site.

It is frustrating when you go over a round number. I've had it recently too with 55 which is another key level for many. No point in worrying. Just embrace it. On the plus side some wonderful people out there a touch older who are as much/more fun than people younger. You could try organised socials, parties. clubs etc where people are not focused on a number and just judge you in person. "

Age filters save us from ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a comment but what has changed in me when half the profiles was accepting me at 50 but 51 it's like a desert.

I'm sure it's something to suck up but age filters are not a particularly good function if it blocks half of the people on site."

I'll be 56 on Saturday so more doors close in fab, I can't change that but fab is only 1 avenue, I still have options in the vanilla world and still go to organised socials when I can.

Don't worry mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old is Gold

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