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What makes a person kinky?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have nothing against a person being kinky or have a fetish as long as it's between consenting adults and legal.

I have been called kinky many times and I have argued that I have not, so my question is what makes a person kinky in your mind?

Is it the way they talk, dress, act or the things they have done or is it something more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being weirdly provocative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not shour to be honest as one person kinky could be another person vinnila

Ie someone could find 3 somewhere kinky as they not had that meny or never at all

But another person could find them vinilla ie they had loads or a frequent atendet / atndee at gangbangs

If I get called kinky I normally just take it how it is that person finds it kinky even though it just maybe the norm or vinnila to me

I just play along when they do and I don’t think it is

It’s about both parties injoyment so if they find something kinky whare it’s just norm for me I play along and yes oooyes I very kinky

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Good question Cherry , I think we all have different views on what is kink, some are extreme some not. It’s what works for you I think.

Having spoken with you before, I share some of your preferences but are they kinks?

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
over a year ago

London

I've always considered kinky as someone whose into something sexual that they might feel people would be judgy, or is not common sexual behaviour - unconventional ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess, being adventurous maybe the answer...!

...since I believe we all have a bit of kink in us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good question Cherry , I think we all have different views on what is kink, some are extreme some not. It’s what works for you I think.

Having spoken with you before, I share some of your preferences but are they kinks? "

I know we share some of the same preferences having spoken before, that is what I am debating with someone are they kinky or just preferences.

I will say that I am not for want of a better word vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, someone who’s kinky is someone that enjoys exploring new sexual activities and fantasies that fall outside of the “traditional norm”. Traditional norm to me means just normal sex in the house where a change of position is as adventurous as it gets.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess, being adventurous maybe the answer...!

...since I believe we all have a bit of kink in us."

I think a lot of people have sexuals desires/fantasies which is perfectly normal, is it the act of living them out that makes a person kinky or just more liberated. X

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

When you wash them but don’t iron them before putting them in the cupboard

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Everything makes a person kinky as there's no such thing as normal. Whatever you are into is your kink, ergo it's your thing. Even those who are puritanical and say, you must do this, you can't do that, that's their kink although they wouldn't use those words.

Everyone is a pervert, whether you fuck everyone or no one. If it's what you are into, it's your kink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing against a person being kinky or have a fetish as long as it's between consenting adults and legal.

I have been called kinky many times and I have argued that I have not, so my question is what makes a person kinky in your mind?

Is it the way they talk, dress, act or the things they have done or is it something more? "

I have been called kinky in the past for wanting more than "lights off, missionary position sex" haha. That was before I met Mr. Where we live, simply being swingers is considered outrageously kinky...whereas its just normal for us. So I guess its just subjective

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinky is where you tickle your partner all over with a feather…. Perverted is when you use the whole chicken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My serious answer would be kink is anything that deviates from ‘norms’ of sex. So anything beyond standard oral, penetration, positions can be argued to be kinky. In terms of a person- someone that is interested in sex outside of ‘norms’ and *maybe* someone that is expressive about their sexual deviance in dress, personality etc.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Putting the handle of dustpan brush in your arse is a bit kinky.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"My serious answer would be kink is anything that deviates from ‘norms’ of sex. So anything beyond standard oral, penetration, positions can be argued to be kinky. In terms of a person- someone that is interested in sex outside of ‘norms’ and *maybe* someone that is expressive about their sexual deviance in dress, personality etc. "

Like a lemon in your butt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Putting the handle of dustpan brush in your arse is a bit kinky. "

I told you that and you swore you wouldn’t tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My serious answer would be kink is anything that deviates from ‘norms’ of sex. So anything beyond standard oral, penetration, positions can be argued to be kinky. In terms of a person- someone that is interested in sex outside of ‘norms’ and *maybe* someone that is expressive about their sexual deviance in dress, personality etc.

Like a lemon in your butt?"

I’d argue yes

But a penis or a finger in the butt is completely normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess, being adventurous maybe the answer...!

...since I believe we all have a bit of kink in us.

I think a lot of people have sexuals desires/fantasies which is perfectly normal, is it the act of living them out that makes a person kinky or just more liberated. X"

I'd say both since the thought process in itself could be regarded as a kink with the act an indulgence.

Have fun whatever your kink happens to be, between consenting adults it's all good...

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everything makes a person kinky as there's no such thing as normal. Whatever you are into is your kink, ergo it's your thing. Even those who are puritanical and say, you must do this, you can't do that, that's their kink although they wouldn't use those words.

Everyone is a pervert, whether you fuck everyone or no one. If it's what you are into, it's your kink "

Is that kinky or preferences of what you may or may not like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My serious answer would be kink is anything that deviates from ‘norms’ of sex. So anything beyond standard oral, penetration, positions can be argued to be kinky. In terms of a person- someone that is interested in sex outside of ‘norms’ and *maybe* someone that is expressive about their sexual deviance in dress, personality etc.

Like a lemon in your butt?

I’d argue yes

But a penis or a finger in the butt is completely normal "

What about a Butt plug or ginger is one normal and the other kinky?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refuse to admit I'm kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I refuse to admit I'm kinky "

Eyes think you might be a bit kinky. X

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

In order for it to be kink it has to be something that you take some form of sexual pleasure from that goes beyond two people having vanilla sex.

This is incredibly broad and will change from person to person.

But for the most part it can be seen as any non normal sexual practice.

Now you just have to define what a normal sexual practice is...

For some, anal is normal... for others it's wild.

For some threesomes are normal... for others it's in the realms of fantasy.

Is watching porn kinky? does it depend on what sort of porn you're watching?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My serious answer would be kink is anything that deviates from ‘norms’ of sex. So anything beyond standard oral, penetration, positions can be argued to be kinky. In terms of a person- someone that is interested in sex outside of ‘norms’ and *maybe* someone that is expressive about their sexual deviance in dress, personality etc.

Like a lemon in your butt?

I’d argue yes

But a penis or a finger in the butt is completely normal

What about a Butt plug or ginger is one normal and the other kinky? "

Butt plug totally normal. I wouldn’t say anal is kinky personally. But playing with food? Lil bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I refuse to admit I'm kinky

Eyes think you might be a bit kinky. X"

Who's eyes? I'll cut them out with a blunt spork!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In order for it to be kink it has to be something that you take some form of sexual pleasure from that goes beyond two people having vanilla sex.

This is incredibly broad and will change from person to person.

But for the most part it can be seen as any non normal sexual practice.

Now you just have to define what a normal sexual practice is...

For some, anal is normal... for others it's wild.

For some threesomes are normal... for others it's in the realms of fantasy.

Is watching porn kinky? does it depend on what sort of porn you're watching?

"

I the person I was debating this with said it does depend on the baseline of the other people. What I enjoy I see as normal to me so there go I don't see myself as being kinky, but from another person point of view it seems kinky.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken "

Or a peacock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken "

I prefer the wet end of a fish

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken

Or a peacock. "

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken

I prefer the wet end of a fish"

Sounds like a load of pollocks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken

I prefer the wet end of a fish

Sounds like a load of pollocks... "

Flounder is better

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

I suppose it’s all subjective upon your own interpretation of what’s kinky. One person’s kinky is another’s vanilla and vice a versa.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"In order for it to be kink it has to be something that you take some form of sexual pleasure from that goes beyond two people having vanilla sex.

This is incredibly broad and will change from person to person.

But for the most part it can be seen as any non normal sexual practice.

Now you just have to define what a normal sexual practice is...

For some, anal is normal... for others it's wild.

For some threesomes are normal... for others it's in the realms of fantasy.

Is watching porn kinky? does it depend on what sort of porn you're watching?

I the person I was debating this with said it does depend on the baseline of the other people. What I enjoy I see as normal to me so there go I don't see myself as being kinky, but from another person point of view it seems kinky. "

You have to see it from the wider perspective, although it may be normal to you that doesn't mean it's not kinky anymore.

Me getting dressed up, chained up, whipped and fucked up the arse is normal to me and I don't consider myself a kinky person at all.

But I do understand that it is actually a bit kinky especially when viewed from a "normal persons" perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's subjective. I'm incredibly vanilla when being intimate with men but not so much with women.

So I would probably call anyone who is more adventurous than me "kinky"

(Although I'm not very adventurous at all)

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Whether they use a feather or the whole chicken

I prefer the wet end of a fish

Sounds like a load of pollocks...

Flounder is better "

Oh do stop carping on.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So on conclusion there is in particular that makes a person kinky. It just depends on what the baseline is. X

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"So on conclusion there is in particular that makes a person kinky. It just depends on what the baseline is. X"

This!

I still want to be kinky with you , just need to be in your area !!!

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